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Why do we “adopt” certain traits from people? Like we start laughing like our friends or celebrities or people from youtube, or we start to behave like them in certain situations
As a child I felt myself to be alone, and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part do not want to know. Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.
The thing is that Deran loves Adrian so much, like sooo much. You can see it when he talks about going to Belize again, when he’s watching him as he surfs, when he says “Not guys, just you.”, and especially with him saying “I just want us to be okay.” And “Please, please”. Deran Cody loves Adrian so fucking much and he hates himself for it. He’s scared of how much he loves Adrian. I don’t know if he hates that he likes men (I bet it’s partially that), I don’t know if it’s about Smurf and worrying that he would lose her love if she ever found out (I also bet that it’s partially that), but I know that Deran is in love with Adrian and the reason he’s so shitty with Adrian is because he’s in such a state of fear and self-hatred.
I also think that the way he treats Adrian like shit is a lot to do with his learned fight or flight. To him, for most of his life, being scared meant real danger, like being on a heist and getting caught, getting shot, stabbed, strangled. Any time he’s been scared it was for a physical reason and it needed a physical response of aggression and strength. So with this whole Adrian thing he gets scared, absolutely terrified, feels as if he’s in danger and whilst the enemy is a mental one he still has the same old response to fear of aggression and fighting. So that’s what he does.
In his life he’s been taught two things about fear. If you feel like you’re in danger 1. Tell momma, and 2. Fight it out. He can’t do the first, so second it is.
Psychoanalysis of Horror Icons:
What happens if we analyze the psyches of fictional characters as if
they were real? What is it about horror icons Michael Myers of the Halloween film franchise and John “Jigsaw” Kramer of the Saw series
that captures our attention and fires our imaginations? Forensic
psychologist Dr. Clarissa Cole pries open the lids and pokes around for
Horror Icon Michael Myers—Halloween Film Series
A young white male, named Michael was born into a comfortable
middle-class family on October 19th of 1957 to Ron and Edith. He had one
older sister, Judith (11 years his elder) and eventually one younger
sister named Laurie. His upbringing was supposedly very quiet and normal
in the suburban town of Haddonfield, Illinois. However, by Michael’s 6th birthday, it was obvious that he was having
some adjustment problems. From around April of that year (1963), the
young Michael had stopped communicating verbally (selective mutism).
This worried his parents and his teachers, but they hadn’t yet referred
him for psychological treatment, preferring to think of it as “a phase.”
Then, on the evening of October 31st (Halloween), after participating in
his school’s costume contest, Michael went out trick-or-treating with
his friends. This proceeded without incident until Michael came to his
own house to receive candy from his older sister, who was handing out
goodies at the door. Upon seeing that Judith was not alone–as she was
intended to be, while babysitting their younger sister, Laurie–Michael
experienced a very strong negative reaction. He was infuriated that
Judith was spending time with her boyfriend and ignoring the needs of
their sister, so shortly after Judith’s boyfriend vacated the residence,
Michael went to the kitchen and retrieved a large kitchen knife. He
proceeded to stab Judith viciously until she was deceased while wearing
the clown mask from his school Halloween costume.
Michael was subsequently admitted to Smith’s Grove Mental Hospital,
where he spent the next 15 years. Unfortunately, after a decade and a
half, the 21-year-old Michael Myers escaped the sanatorium on the day
before Halloween to continue his murderous spree.
Beginning in Mr. Myers childhood, he was showing signs of trauma,
most prominently evidenced by selective mutism. This disorder (usually
seen in early childhood) is often the result of the child feeling
overwhelming anxiety upon speaking. This can occur because of an
expressive language deficit (like a lisp), but can also result in
response to trauma. Given that Mr. Myers did not experience a language
problem prior to age six, it stands to reason that his selective mutism
occurred in response to a stressor of some kind. This stressor was
significant enough to render him mute in most situations for the better
part of six months. Whether or not the stressor was internal (burgeoning
psychosis) or external (abuse) is not known.
What is known is that Mr. Myers seemed to develop a strong and
overtly violent reaction when confronted with anything sexual in nature.
Upon seeing his sister kissing her boyfriend, he felt extreme rage.
This pattern reproduced itself in several instances (victims who had
been engaged in the act of intimacy). Mr. Myers also appeared to be
fixated on eliminating members of his family, stopping at nothing to
eradicate his bloodline.
In conclusion, it his hypothesized that Mr. Myers experienced some
severe form of sexual abuse in his childhood, either inside the home, or
at the hands of a person close to his family. His helplessness and
anger eventually escalated to a breaking point that pushed him over the
edge into psychosis. He was subsequently unable–or unwilling–to cease
his activities, favoring instead to give in to his delusional and
violent mindset regarding the Myers clan.
(Source: This is (loosely) based on situations I’ve seen around me. Please don’t take anything personally, this is solely done with the purpose of being fun. Nothing scientific. ;).) But if you relate to any of this or want to share your own experience please Repost and share it. I’m very interested in hearing more about it.
ENFP: ENFP’s will smile even more than normally around you and seem starstruck and even shy when they are near you. They seem to pop up everywhere you go. Warning: Do not confuse this with them just being nice or talkative to you. Sometimes them being overly chilled around you is not a good sign. That may mean that they like you as a friend. They are nice to everyone and like pretty much everyone (as a friend) so think twice before you decide they’re actually flirting. ENFP guys might be a little more forward than the females (societies fault). Conclusion: if an ENFP finds you interesting enough to focus on you doing your thing - you’ve caught their interest. They love someone who can stimulate them and feed up their extroverted intuition. There should be no doubt when you’re interesting them for real.
ESFP: The ESFP will be very quick to figure out they like you and will be quick to make a move and they will know exactly how to turn on their irresistible charms. They will most likely not talk about their feelings to anyone even though they will think about them non-stop. Beware that the ESFP might get bored after a while and may change their mind and see someone else who gets their attention. But if you’re the one they might just be able to focus only on your sexy ass. ;)
INFP: The INFP will idealize the crap out of you and have probably talked to their best friends about how wonderful and perfect you are (only very close ones). They might even have imagined whole scenarios where you might or might not have been giving them signs - like looking intensively into their eyes (read: soul). They will probably remember every word you’ve said and studied you to the inner core and will take everything about you and fit them to their own personal world. Let’s say you hate cats but like to read sometimes and the INFP loves cat’s and loves to read. The INFP will throw the cat thing out of the window and imagine you reading all the time. The INFP will that way come to the conclusion that you fit perfectly together. Look at their Facebook page. They might be posting quotes or stuff that fit perfectly what you were talking about yesterday. Also if you keep getting anonymous poems sent to your phone, you know where they came from.
ISFP: The ISFP will probably not make any move. You will need to make a move on them. Most ISFP’s like being chased - at least that is what frequently happens. It’s very hard to see whether they actually like you or not until you’ve chased them for a while. Then they might open them self up. Or not. They might have a great crush on you but still reject you a few times. You never know.
INFJ: The INFJ will seem to be completely unaware that you exist until a friend (Who has probably figured out that you’re having a crush on the INFJ) talks them into making a awkward move. Beware of adorable bad puns. When you’re alone they will tell you that they’ve liked you long before you noticed them. They were just too awkward to do anything about it. If they’re spiritual it’s very likely that they have prayed a lot to get to know you. Remember that on the inside the INFJ can be very logically thinking. Even though they like you they might hesitate to do anything at all until they’re sure they’re doing the right thing. Relationships are serious business for them and they want to be sure they’re not going to hurt anyone. Breaking up is not something they’re planning on doing. It’s also a good sign if they take time to talk with you and even counsel you or teach you about things that interest them.
ISFJ: ISFJ’s are going to be very awkward and shy around you and can barely talk about their crush to anyone. They will at most act like their usual sweet helpful self around you and might offer to do something helpful for you. They might even give you something sweet. But don’t expect them to make a move.
ISTJ: The ISTJ will basically find you attractive, choose you and then professionally flirt with you. They will probably do this on Facebook and/or face to face. They will also most likely dress irresistibly. When you’ve been “chosen” by the ISTJ they will not stop until they’ve either gotten what they want or you’ve rejected them. In that case they’re quick to move on to the next target.
INTJ: The INTJ will basically notice your existence. That’s a big step of knowing whether a INTJ likes you. They will also listen to you without constantly interrupting you. You feel like they are actually interested in YOU (talking about things that interest you or apply to you.) It’s a plus sign if they take time to explain intellectual concepts to you. Also try to keep your ears open. If they seem to know things you’ve not told told them they might have googled you. If that’s obvious - then that’s a very good sign that they are actually interested in you.
ENTJ: Figure out you like them. Kiss you. Figure out they rushed into things and take four weeks to make a rational decision about whether to keep pursuing a relationship or not. Decide that it’s a good decision and invite your confused ass to dinner. Ask you too marry them in 3 months.
ESTJ: ESTJ’s are, like ISTJ’s, very direct. If they like you they will probably talk to you a lot and actually show their interest. ESTJ men will most likely be more direct than the women (again, society’s fault). If you’ve read the book “He’s not that into you” - that might fit an ESTJ very well. The women are also most likely direct but not as much as men. But they will show that they like you - flirting and bossing you around a bit. ESTJ’s are very rarely scared to just do it. It either works or it doesn’t. That’s life. ESTJ’s are also often very service oriented and if they have feelings for someone they will often show love through service. “Actions speak louder than words” is a definition that fit the ESTJ very well when it comes to love.
ESFJ: ESFJ’s can take a long time to figure their own feelings out. They are great understanding other people’s feelings (Srong extraverted feeling) but it can take them a while to figure their own feelings out. In the meantime they will probably act very motherly/fatherly around you. They will worry a lot about you and become very jealous if you’re hanging with someone of the opposite sex (assuming that you’re heterosexual). After they finally figure out that they like you they will probably panic and be very emotional nervous wrecks around you and finally just talk to you about it. Then you know for sure. Hopefully you’ve not given up on the wait by then.
ENFJ: When the ENFJ figures out they like you they will actively seek you out. They will invite you to every event they’ve planned on going to, along with other friends. Like the ESFJ they are better at understanding other peoples feelings than their own (Strong Fe) so it might take a while for them to actually do figure out they’re crushing on you. Like the ESFJ they will most likely panic when they figure it out and might even figure it out too late or after you have moved on with your life and given up. Let’s hope that doesn’t happen.
ESTP: There won’t be any doubt that they’re after you. The only thing you have to worry about is whether they’re after ONLY you. ESTP’s are very adventurous and they like looking around. This doesn’t mean that they do this all the time. But before anything serious has started be sure not to take anything too seriously until the ESTP makes it clear it’s ONLY you he/she wants. If you’re the one the ESTP will make that clear to you and do all he/she can to keep you.
ENTP: To an ENTP love is a game. If you catch their interest they are going to go all over you really fast trying to win your heart.They might be cautious at first (until they know the person likes them back) and will make moves that are not that obvious but might win you over. They can be very flamboyant but not as much as the ESTP. Sometimes they might even pass as introverts. But they will not easily give up on a “game” they’ve started. They have to win! If an ENTP gets what he/she want’s he/she will keep it.
ISTP: If an ISTP is not withholding information about themselves from you it’s a sign they might actually like you - but being as mysterious as they are it’s hard to tell. But it’s a really positive sign f they actually care enough to tell you about their day and life. If they miraculously share ANY of their feelings with you then you can at least be sure that they like you in some way. How serious it is is another matter. Also don’t take it too personally if they don’t seem as interested in you as in the new Cadillac their friend purchased. Even if they forget that they’re on a date and leave you without letting you know to try the car out out (true story).
INTP: Similar to the ISTP the sign of an INTP taking the initiative to talk to you is a very positive sign. Especially with deeper, more complex, and probing conversation, he or she likes you and wants to get to know you better. And if he/she seems to be actively seeking you out for these beyond-small-talk conversations, then he or she probably already has a crush on you. If he/she is getting really nervous around you it’s very likely that his/her feelings are getting stronger. INTP’s along with ISTP’s have a hard time handling strong emotions and sometimes don’t know what to do about them.
I think Beatrice, from Much Ado About Nothing, is the Great Hope of Shakespeare’s female characters even though she ceases speaking after they publicly declare their love for one another because you know if Benedict ever fucks up she will tear him apart.
actually yall, a large number of women (young teens with no experience or asexual people excluded) saying they’re bisexual arent actually bisexual, they are straight. excluding youngins for obvious reasons and those not interested in sex or being in a relationship, bisexual people desire and seek out sex/relationahips with both sexes. someone saying they are bisexual but only dating and fucking people of the opposite sex are…. straight (gasp).
any actual bisexual person could tell you myriad differences between sex with men and sex with women. any actual bisexual person will tell you what genitals you are interacting with does matter. any feminist bisexual woman like myself should be able to analyze the differences in phsychological reactions between PIV “impalation”/“possesion” (male genitalia and sexuality) and female-female sex where no impalation is necessary, and mutuality is achieved easily.
and the glaring differences between RELATIONSHIPS with men and women.
no bisexual person would state that there is no difference in sex/intimacy with males and sex/intimacy with females. if they do then they just dont know what theyre talking about, either due to inexperience or the fact that they are straight :)
How the rut develops: When sensing that a problem is developing, the ENFP’s first reaction will be to exercise their extroverted intuition. They will examine all the opportunities that are available to them and may become enthused about many at once. They will likely try many new ideas out or begin multiple new projects in hopes that one of them will stick. If this does not save them from their negative spiral, the ENFP will incorporate their introverted feeling more actively. At this point, they may withdraw from others and spend an exhaustive amount of time analyzing their own emotions and trying to sort through what they are feeling at their core. If this too does not help them, the ENFP will take to their extroverted thinking – by this point they will understand that they are under a significant amount of stress and will try to impose as much order as possible into their lives in order to get themselves back on track with where they’d like to be. If this too fails, the ENFP may fall prey to their inferior function.
What the rut looks like: An ENFP in a bad state of mind reverts to their introverted sensing. This usually bubbly type becomes guarded, defensive and routine-oriented. They shut out others and fail to entertain new ideas. They will appear to have lost their usual ‘sparkle’ and their cynicism about the future will diminish their usual sense of optimism.
How to get out of it: To break out of a rut, the ENFP needs to get back in touch with their extroverted intuiton. They predominantly need something to get excited about – a unique opportunity for the future or a new adventure to take on. They need to remember that the world is still varied and wide – that they will not be stuck where they are forever and that there are still infinite opportunities for them to explore.
What their return to health will look like: As their mindset improves, the ENFP will become steadily more social – picking back up with their social circle and feeding off the ideas of those around them. They will begin exploring new opportunities in their immediate environment as well as for the long-term. They may leave a bad job or relationship that has been making them feel stuck and take on new projects to distance themselves from the past. In time, they will return to their bubbly, idea-oriented selves.