It’s like watching porn.

Here’s an article I wrote for XXXCHURCH, called “3 Ways to Move Past Sexual Regret.”

It’s about how to overcome sexual regrets, especially in a viral culture of public shaming and hyper social media. I go over some heavy stuff, from suicides caused by leaking photos to Monica Lewinsky’s recent confession. I also go over three ways that we as a community can help each other move forward from our past.

Here’s an excerpt:

We each need a safe place to talk about our regrets, no matter how sordid they may be. A person who regrets their past has already been shamed by their own guilt for long enough. They already walk into their home and their church and their workplace with a storm-cloud of remorse chasing after them. We can either be a voice that someone must overcome, or a voice that helps someone overcome.

The post is here!

– J.S.

Fighting Cyberbullying

“I wanted to share with you a topic that is incredibly close to my heart: fighting bullying. I was bullied when I was younger, it got so bad that I ended up leaving school because of it and the effects of that traumatizing time are still with me to this day.

Bullying can take many forms, and one of the most common ones today is cyberbullying. This is such a huge problem, and despite the fact that everyone is aware of it, things seems to be getting worse instead of better. One story that really sticks with me involves the tragic death of Phoebe Prince, which could so easily have been avoided.

When will people understand that verbal abuse is just as serious as physical abuse? How many precious lives will it take to put an end to the hurt caused by cyber abuse?

I think that some people use bullying as a way to fit in, and I’ve noticed it’s not just the "cool” kids doing it anymore. Sitting behind a computer gives people a sense of anonymity, but everyone needs to realize that words—even the ones they write online—have a strong power to hurt people.

It’s not okay to bully anyone—ever. I hope to encourage everyone to take a stand and put a stop to this horrible epidemic. If you are being bullied or if you know someone who is, please visit Teens Against Bullying for more info. Together we can make a difference—together we can save lives.“

Stay Strong! Love,

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One of Phoebe Prince's Bullies Speaks ....

….this person is an idiot. “I was trying to help a friend”

so….. you’re telling me that you say horrible things to someone to help a friend? I truly wish all of them had harsher punishments. “Oh I wouldn’t have said those things to her had I known she had problems”

Aww….wow…life sucks, you can’t be a model anymore. OH WAIT….it’s because you bullied someone to the point of suicide. -.-

And now she’s all “I just want it to stop, I just want people to stop judging me”

….Oh shit. Ever think that’s maybe how Phoebe felt? -.-

You were “helping a friend”? The things you say in attempt to defend yourself and make it okay are absolutely wrong and ridiculous. How dare you say you didn’t bully her or that you aren’t a bully? How dare you deny the proof of the things that you did to her?

You know why people judge you and make you feel crappy now? Because you refuse to acknowledge what you did to the whole Prince family.  You only cry in this video when it’s about you. You show zero emotion in regards to Phoebe killing herself. You and your mom even seem to smile and almost laugh about the situation. But then when it’s aboutyou again, and how tough your life is now…. you are in tears.

Think about how hard you made Phoebe’s life and the fact that Phoebe killed herself because of the horrible things you and your friends did to her. Shame on you.


I love Kylie Morgan! She’s such a good singer! R.I.P. Phoebe Prince! I pray you’re in a better place.

I was reading People magazine and one topic caught my eye. Inside, I was reading a short, one page article about Phoebe Prince. The five teenagers who were responsible of Phoebe Prince, the high schooler who committed suicide due to vicious bullying, stood before a judge to admit their roles in her death. In the court was Anne O'Brien, the mother of Phoebe Prince, as she listened to them talk about their participation in her bullying. It was only when she went up infront of the court and voiced her pain and her compassion. She doesn’t want them to be sentenced; only to apologize for their actions face-to-face.

[Trigger warning for discussions of bullying and suicide]

So a major topic of discussion here in Massachusetts has been poor Phoebe Prince, the Irish girl from South Hadley who committed suicide after relentless bullying that those in positions of authority at her school did nothing to stop. This hit a nerve with me both because I’m from a town nearly South Hadley and because bullying is an issue I dealt with as a young adult that still affects me as an adult, in particular the actions of the school staff, or rather the lack thereof, and none of the adults suffered any consequences for what happened.

The trials of the kids who hurt her are over, and I thought the story could not get any worse.

It does.

Turns out a teacher was punished after all. Her name is Deb Caldieri, and she has been driven from the school as surely as Phoebe was hounded to the grave. Her career and her health have been ruined.

This being South Hadley High, she has suffered all this mostly because she had the temerity to question the way her superiors handled the whole mess.

She didn’t follow the party line at South Hadley High, which from the beginning was to blame Phoebe and excuse the bullies. Phoebe was the outsider, the clueless blow-in from overseas who brought all her troubles on herself. That was the party line.

Caldieri never bought it.

“Phoebe was a very vulnerable child, who should have been protected,’’ Caldieri said. “You weren’t supposed to talk about what happened. I did, and … I’ve become a non-person there.’’

That non-person stuff isn’t hyperbole. Caldieri is the Winston Smith of South Hadley High. The cards her students have left at school for her since she went on medical leave last December were never delivered. Her photo is not in the new yearbook. Like the protagonist of George Orwell’s “1984,’’ she’s officially a non-person at South Hadley High. She doesn’t exist anymore.

Holy shit. Fuck you, South Hadley High. Fuck you for not only being complicit in Phoebe’s death, but for doing this to this woman and not even letting her go to Phoebe’s fucking funeral and pushing her so her health has gotten even worse. Is it any wonder that the kids in South Hadley thought they could do this to Phoebe when this is how the fucking administration, the adults who are supposed to protect children, respond to the one person who tried to help?!

so i was watching a clip on youtube for a new movie called cyberbully and its by abcfamily and seventeen magazine in their campaign to "Delete Digital Drama" some girl/guy commented saying that cyberbullying isnt real and you can get away from it. my reply? tell that to Phoebe Prince. I'm pretty sure it was real to her
R.I.P Phoebe Prince, you will never be forgotten.

This beautiful 15 year old Girl’s name is Phoebe Prince. She was an immagrant from Ireland, and went to South Hadley High School in Massachusetts. She got lots of verbal bullying from older students, Phoebe delt with cyberbullying. On it said “Prince’s bullying was the result of a romantic relationship she had with one of the male suspects that ended weeks prior to her suicide.” Her bullies were around the age of 17, Phoebe was dating an older football player at the school and it said the girls resented her for this. After about three months of being bullied Phoebe had hung herself, left there dead for her little sister to find her in the stairwell. Let us learn from these bullies mistakes, and help stop bullying! you will never be forgotten Miss. Phoebe Prince. R.I.P

to read more on Pheobe Prince, go to the link above.

add Phoebe Prince’s Memorial page on facebook.

Never again will she ask me to read a short story … or poem she has written. Phoebe was a beautiful, intelligent and gregarious daughter with a kind heart able to show compassion for others.
—  Phoebe Prince’s mother, Anne O'Brien • Describing the pain she’s had to deal with since her daughter committed suicide as a result of sustained bullying. O'Brien read from a victim impact statement in front of a judge, who handed down year-long probation sentences to Sean Mulveyhill and Kayla Narey, both 18. Both took part in the bullying which started after Prince briefly dated Mulveyhill, Narey’s former boyfriend. The bullying took place both online and offline. Prince hanged herself in 2010, a story which made national news. A reminder to all that the “It Gets Better” campaign isn’t necessarily for gay students, but every student. source (viafollow)