There is a time in your life when you will realize your selfsh abilities wane and selflessness takes over. And for some time, you're happy making others happy. That is until you see how untidy your own house is, your own body, spirit. That when you learn two things: 1.) If it doesn't make you happy, don't do it; and 2.) If it makes you happy, do it. Soon you find yourself conflicted; which do I want to be? Selfless or selfish? And here you learn two other things. First, when you're selfless, you find yourself alone. Second, if fish are perfectly happy in the water, then why can't your self be a fish from time to time. Towards the end of the day, the week, the month, the year, whichever it may be for your soul, you learn the biggest lesson of all. You'll be perfectly happy being stuck in the middle of selflessness and selfishness; making other people's day and making yourself happy. Whichever comes first is up to you. Just remember to have a back bone, just like the fishies.