my-heart-beats-only-for-you-god asked:

Hi Pastor J.S, so my question is: How can I accept myself being introvert? That's my personality, but sometimes inside and outside the church, people seem to make jokes about it, saying that I'm to shy or I've never talked and so on. Sometimes I feel sad about that and it really affects me emotionally. I know I have to adapt in those kind of situations, but how can I accomplish that?

Hey dear friend and fellow introvert! Alas, we have found one another. Please allow me the grace to share some posts, which you may totally skip or browse:

- 14 Ways To Handle A Christian Introvert

- I Feel Bad For Being An Introvert

- Insecure Introverts Finding Confidence and Calling

I’ve learned two things over time about being introverted:


1) I love being an introvert. Really. I’m happy to be who I am.

2) I don’t have let the label “introvert” wholly define me or to make decisions for me.

I think no matter where you go, whether you’re an introvert or Christian or irreligious or you’re part of twelve fandoms, someone out there won’t understand it. Maybe a lot of people won’t get you, at all. That’s a part of life, a part of who people have unfortunately decided to be (and we still need to have grace there). If they did get to know you, I’m sure they’d discover the great quirky wonderful person you are. But even if they don’t, you can still be the great quirky wonderful person you are. That’s not decided by how they think about you or how you think about you.

I used to think if I could adapt myself to be more “extroverted,” I would blend in better with the crowds. I was told this is important for business and ministry. But soon I found that simply being a better person and confident in Christ and myself was more important than trying to fit a dichotomous, dubious label that was concocted by Myers and Briggs.

There are people I get along with and I can be loud with, and there are people that I can’t. There are people I can open up to, and others I’m polite with. It’s as simple as that. You don’t have to please everyone’s expectations or to be friends with every person in the room. I’m extroverted with the right people, and introverted when there’s too many. You can let yourself out to play, or remain on the sidelines if you’re not comfortable. I’m okay with that. If someone isn’t, I very much understand, but it still won’t change those parts about me.

I’m making it sound easy but I know it’s not. I deal with constant anxiety about large crowds and especially with people that I already know. I’ve thrown up five minutes before having to preach or lead praise, and I get light-headed the second I think about how people think about me. The only thing I can do is march forward anyway. What God wants do through me cannot be interrupted by me. It can’t be held down by labels or by the talk of the town.

Each time, it gets easier – but more than that, there’s a joy to be had when you can see how God wired you both for things you like to do and for the things you’re afraid to do. Do them. If others accept you, that’s a bonus. But God has already loved you before you even walked in the room, and He’s the one who’s with you when you leave it. In His acceptance, you can accept yourself too.

– J.S.

There’s this one girl that called my oc a Mary Sue because she struggled with anxiety and abuse. But her character is this immortal being with all the power in the world and everyone loves her and her muses personality changed depending on the thread. It pisses me off how many hypocrites there are in the roleplay community

My Personality Breakdown

Name: Rimmy

Zodiac Sign: Aries | Taurus | Gemini | Cancer | Leo | Virgo | Libra | Scorpio | Sagittarius | Capricorn | Aquarius | Pisces |

Myers-Briggs: ESFP | ISFP | ESTP | ISTP | ESTJ | ISTJ | ESFJ | ISFJ | ENFJ | INFJ | ENFP | INFP | ENTP | INTP | ENTJ | INTJ|

Four Temperaments: Sanguine | Melancholic | Choleric | Phlegmatic

Celtic Zodiac: Birch (The Achiever) | Rowan (The Thinker) | Ash (The Enchanter) | Alder (The Trailblazer) | Willow (The Observer) | Hawthrone (The Illusionist) | Oak (The Stabilizer) | Holly (The Ruler) | Hazel (The Knower) | Vine (The Equalizer) | Ivy (The Survivor) | Reed (The Inquisitor) |Elder (The Seeker) |

Soul Type (one test): Hunter | Caregiver | Creator | Thinker | Helper | Educator | Performer | Leader | Spiritualist |

Hogwarts House: Gryffindor | Hufflepuff | Ravenclaw | Slytherin |

Alignment: Lawful Good | Neutral Good | Chaotic Good | Lawful Neutral | True Neutral | Chaotic Neutral | Lawful Evil | Neutral Evil | Chaotic Evil |

Dark Triad: Psychopathy | Machiavellianism | Narcissism |

The Animal in You: Lion | Tiger | Dolphin | Bear | Wild Cat | Fox | Weasel | Badger | Dog | Otter | Wolf | Sea Lion | Wild Dog | Walrus | Gorilla | Deer | Rhinoceros | Hippo | Sable | Horse | Sheep | Mountain Goat | Warthog | Zebra | Baboon | Elephant | Bison | Giraffe | Cottontail | Mole | Bat | Porcupine | Beaver | Prairie Dog | Shrew | Mouse | Eagle | Rooster | Owl | Swan | Peacock | Vulture | Penguin | Crocodile | Snake |

Life Path Number: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 11 | 22 |

Rosenberg Self Esteem Scale: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 16 | 17 | 18 | 19 | 20 | 21 | 22 | 23 | 24 | 25 | 26 | 27 | 28 | 29 | 30 |

Brain Lateralization Test: Left | Right |

Holland’s Theory Horoscopes

Of all the career theories out there, I think Holland’s is my favourite. Many of you are probably familiar with his RIASEC codes, which stand for Realistic, Investigative, Artistic, Social, Enterprising, and Conventional, describing interests/personality. There are several assessments out there that use these codes to help you in your career decision-making. Some give you a three letter code, while others may give you two or just one. For the purposes of this week’s horoscopes, I’ve given each sign two just because.

Aries – Realistic and Enterprising. I always refer to Aries as the sign of the actor, so you would think I’d give it Artistic, but NO! Aries is a hands-on, DIY type. Think Ron Swanson. If you have a significant amount of Aries in you, it gives you the energy and the means to take the lead on things, usually on your own.

Taurus – Conventional and Realistic. Taurus loves knowing what is expected and learning by trying. When they become experts in something, it often has to do with at least one of their senses. Taurus may appear to come off as romantic and unconventional, but there are rules of romance to abide by.

Gemini – Investigative and Realistic. I did not knowingly give the first three signs Realistic, but it makes sense in the progression of the signs, so yay. It worked out. Gemini’s ruler is Mercury, so Investigative is a given. If the question, “How does it work?” could be embodied by a sign, it would be Gemini, and they will continue to take apart whatever it is in question to find the answer.

Cancer – Conventional and Social. Social is a bit of a misnomer. It would be better labeled as “helper”. Social careers include teacher and nurse. Even baking falls under this category if Cancer can see their product cheer someone up.

Leo – Enterprising and Artistic. Leo needs to express itself and with an audience. Leo is a charismatic and highly ambitious sign. I have met many Leos who seemingly shy away from the limelight, but I know what they do and what they are about because somehow they’ve repeatedly told me.

Virgo – Social and Investigative. While Gemini, Virgo’s Mercurial sibling, seeks knowledge for the sake of having knowledge, Virgo wants to know things to help people. Virgo is the sign that embodies how mothers can dish out weird medical advice that works.

Libra – Artistic and Investigative. Libra is the lover of beauty and justice. It wants to get to the heart of the issue and find a creative solution and bring magical harmony to the world. Some Libras swing the pendulum too far to the dreamer side, while others swing it too far to the cynical side (after all, knowing how terrible the world is can be debilitating).

Scorpio – Realistic and Artistic. Scorpio is all about living art. They may not have invented installation or performance art, but they are the ones who took the idea, ran with it, and then rolled around on the ground naked with it hoping to become it by osmosis. Scorpios are so silly.

Sagittarius – Investigative and Conventional. Surprising probably, but think about it. Sagittarius is the sign of the philosopher. They value knowledge. I dare to say the modern day equivalent would be the scientist. Also, Sags have a surprising desire for routine since it is not in their nature to have it.

Capricorn – Enterprising and Conventional. Capricorn is the sign of business, and you all would do yourself a favour now by accepting that everything is business. Capricorn can pretty much do whatever the hell it wants to, but throw a wrench into this well-oiled machine, and all hell breaks loose. [insert one more overused phrase here]

Aquarius – Social and Enterprising. Aquarius rules the world by making a business of helping others. Look at Oprah. Ellen. Paul Newman, whose proceeds all go to charity. Fucking powerhouses. Focus on others and build your empire on that. It also helps if you’re entertaining.


Pisces – Artistic and Social. Pisces is the old soul of the zodiac and knows that nothing and everything matters. What better way to deal with this knowledge than helping people and channeling it into creative endeavors? Pisces can make a huge impact in the subtlest of ways.

When the Signs are Mad...
  • Aries:Ice will turn to gas... quickly
  • Taurus:Their tongue will start to burn
  • Gemini:A lightning storm is coming
  • Cancer:Everything becomes a punching bag
  • Leo:Hades runs away
  • Virgo:They will become the "God of Destruction"
  • Libra:THE WORLD MIGHT AS WELL END
  • Scorpio:They get scared of themselves
  • Sagittarius:It's like watching a meteor strike the Earth
  • Capricorn:Bad luck happens to their enemies
  • Aquarius:Everything melts in their hand
  • Pisces:They're destined to be on the "Most Wanted" list
What Your Favorite Classical Painting Says About Your Personality

Let’s admit it, we are a culture obsessed with defining ourselves and our interests. Although the general notion perceived is that labels limit us, we wear them proudly. We claim our astrological sign as a badge of honor: the passionate Sagittarius or the fiery Leo. In addition to relating to our cosmic presence, we enjoy taking exams, which value our introversion and extroversion. 

We crave to know more about us. The music we listen to, the books we read, our favorite drink and even our favorite sport are glimpses into our souls. So if our favorite music tells the world that we are an introvert at heart, why can’t our favorite art piece shine light to our heart’s deepest secrets?

Take a look below at what some of your favorite classical paintings say about you. 

Gustav Klimt: “The Kiss”

You are a true romantic and art lover. You dream of traveling the world and enjoy its luxuries. You love the finer things in life and will probably fall in love with an artist or wine maker. Or, maybe you just really love pretty things. 

Vincent van Gogh: “Starry Night”

You’re a true intellectual with an introverted streak, who loves to daydream. You love nature and you love too many things to pick one interest. 

Edvard Munch: “The Scream”

You are a person of extremities. You are passionate and think at a faster rate than most people. You love to do twenty things at one time and the only rest you take is when you sleep. Your brain is always working. You are a mad genius.

Frida Kahlo: The Many Self Portraits of Kahlo

You are an unconventional thinker. You follow your own rules and see beauty in the things most people overlook or deem unattractive. 

Leonardo da Vinci: “Mona Lisa

You’re a purist with a twist. Although you are a fan or art history, you are a curious thinker of life’s greatest mysteries. You live in your head and you like to voice your funny, wicked or amazingly clever ideas.

Jean-Michel Basquiat: “Dustheads”

You are definitely the cool kid. You are an artsy soul who discovered today’s new indie band months ago. 

Georgia O'Keeffe: “Pink Tulip”

You have simple needs. You want the person you love next to you, along with some good music and wine. Plus you love to look a beautiful things, which take you to a different realm. 

Jackson Pollock: “Number 19”

You run all over the place. You’re messy and you’re always the friend who forgets to text back. Either way your chaotic system works!

Salvador Dali: “The Persistence of Memory”

You are definitely a whimsical thinker. You have an inclination for things, which are unorthodox and chimerical. 

Hieronymus Bosch: “The Garden of Earthly Delights”

You are definitely a weirdo. But a lovable weirdo! 

Marcel Duchamp: “Fountain”

You are sophisticated and slightly odd. You have a wide variety of favorite art pieces for different reasons or maybe for all the same reasons. 

Katsushika Hokusai: “The Great Wave off Kanagawa"

You sure do love pretty things and you appreciate classical art. 

Cindy Sherman: Self Portraits

You are a true art lover at the core. You love contemporary pieces and classic pieces. You appreciate every genre of art and your dream job is to be a curator at a small online gallery. 

Banksy’s “Riot Green”

Why not? We all love Banksy.

This article was originally published at the Huffington post.

Don’t confuse my personality with my attitude. My personality is who I am. My attitude depends on who you are.
—  Frank Ocean
The Two Sides of the Signs...
  • Aries:Thoughtful yet Sensitive
  • Taurus:Intelligent yet Unreliable
  • Gemini:Strong-willed yet Possessive
  • Cancer:Imaginative yet Clumsy
  • Leo:Highly Skilled yet Traditional
  • Virgo:Playful yet Forgetful
  • Libra:Humorous yet Demanding
  • Scorpio:Active yet Fearful
  • Sagittarius:Loving yet Narrow-minded
  • Capricorn:Advanced yet Timid
  • Aquarius:Expressive yet "Hard to approach"
  • Pisces:Wild yet Strict
The Opinions of an INTJ:

Thoughts of other types, by an INTJ:

ESTP - You’re all over the place please stop flirting with everyone, are you even aware you’re doing that? I can’t tell if you’re genuinely that shallow or if it’s act. I’m going to go with an act because I know you’re not an idiot.

ESTJ - For the love of god please stop micro managing. You are not in control of the fate of the world. Stop inflicting your personal opinions on everybody else. Have some fun in your life and break a rule or four.

ESFP - Feelings feelings everywhere. Stop trying to rationalize your feelings into facts. Life is not a competition to prove you’re the best at everything.

ESFJ - You probably cry too much about things you cannot control. Stop caring about what other people think, and stop letting it effect your personal decisions.

ENTP - You’re terrifying. The conviction you have for the randomest little things is so intense how do you even do that. I think you like seeing how far you can push other people and I can respect that. Are you just passionate or intense, I can’t tell if you genuinely care about anything. You just like arguring, and are scary good at it.

ENTJ - Probably the best public speakers. Maybe because youre speaking to a collective group and not to individuals (which youre a bit worse at). You belittle people unintentionally but it’s like a contest trying to get your respect and that’s fun.

ENFP - Please calm down and stop jumping or flailing for like ten seconds. You’re such great deep thinkers but most people don’t see that side of you because they only see how distracted you get by small animals and random trinkets. You’re probably the best at bringing out feelings in INTJs who like to pretend they have none. Also dark ENFPs are great. Its a tiny bit disconcerning how you can go from the actual personification of bubbles to bitter and snide and mean in like ten seconds.

ENFJ - You’re so nice and thus friends with everyone and while I like ENFJ’s I will probably hate all of your friends and still avoid you. Also, are you aware you’re constantly flirting? You’re too nice not to be.

ISTP - Probably the reason I’ll end up in jail. Stop encouraging me to have fun, because your idea of fun is usually tresspassing or vandalism. Are all ISTPs a bit sociopathic? yes. Probably yes. Is there anything you care about? Probably not. You’ll end up selling your things and being homeless for fun.

ISTJ - So similar and yet so boring. Good minions. Great at filing things mindlessly without questioning anything. I admire the way you can make your enemies lives a living hell.

ISFP - Such hipsters. Your blog is probably not all that original, stop trying to write poetry. You are not “tragically misunderstood”.

ISFJ - So maternal. You could be maternal to a fullgrown liger. (And yes I know that, scientifically, ligers are never full grown as they lack the genes to stop them from growing.) Of all the feeling types you’re amongst the best at compartmentalizing.

INTP - You bother me with your P-ness. Your'e so organised in your mind. Like a cyborg. A friendly cyborg, usually. The actual best liars. You might be so good at lying because you don’t see it as lying, just telling the truth from an incorrect perspective.

INTJ - Actual line of thoughts whilst meeting an INTJ: Another me? Hopefully not. Or hopefully yes? Will we be friends? I wouldn’t be friends with myself. Maybe I can use them, but maybe they’re thinking that of me. I should probably stay on their good side. Damn they probably already thought that. Maybe I should avoid them. I might need them though? Or not. What if they’re more INTJ. We should be frenemies and play chess while schemeing against eachother. Like moriarty and sherlock, or Xavier and Magneto, or L and Light.

INFP - Youre all so cute and sweet and awhh. I will bet like ten dollars you have a random sketchbook/notebook filled with either: song lyrics/music, drawings/designs, poetry/stories etc. Youve proably invented a secret code/language at some point. I bet as a kid you created weird imaginary worlds (you probably still do).

INFJ - YOU’RE SO SIMILAR BUT SO DIFFERENT HOW. Your feelings are too much, please stop for your own sake. NOT EVERYTHING IS PERSONAL AND EVERYBODY IS NOT OUT TO GET YOU. Youre pretty special but youre not alone at all. You emit feelings like a weird radio frequency.