personal space or the lack of it

Amy March - Little Women (specifically as played by Kirsten Dunst in the 1994 version)
  • Has an unusually large and romantic vocabulary 
  • Mispronounces words in said vocabulary 
  • Lacks a sense of personal space/social boundaries
  • Lacks same-aged friends, preferring to hang out with her older sisters and (then) older brother-like Laurie 
  • Socially awkward and gawky despite being extroverted and trying her best to appear elegant  
  • SI in painting and pretty things
  • Plays by her own rules and lives in a world of her own, preferring everything in it to be aesthetically pleasing 
  • No filter between her brain and her mouth, says things that can be seen as brash or inappropriate without thinking it so 
  • Can be seen as both “too mature” and “too immature” for her age
  • Infodumps 
  • This is a small thing and it might have more to do with her family being poor and not being able to afford it often, but “Isn’t butter a divinity?” makes me headcanon that’s one of her sensory foods (or rather, condiment). :)  

I just got a job as a writing tutor, and it inspired me to start a series of writing masterposts! From teaching college composition for two years at grad school and from working as a consultant at my university’s Writing Center, I’ve come to learn a few things about writing I’d like to share. Some of these tips may sound basic, and some may be fresh to you. Some may meet you exactly where you are. Regardless, these are some of the foundational aspects of good college writing.

I. Content & Style: Avoid Fluffy Language

Perhaps this is a symptom of trying to meet page minimums, but some students tend to inflate sentences with unnecessary adjectives. Similarly, they may puff up an essay with a useless statement, like, “Depression affects people in various ways.” What follows a sentence like this is usually a cataloging of the various/numerous/diverse ways in which depression affects people. Kill the middleman: that useless sentence. Be assured that most readers are astute enough to infer that depression affects people in many ways when you list said ways.

Language that sounds like that of a motivational speaker is maddening to most college instructors. “If you are true to yourself, you will be happy in life.” “Friends and family are the most important way to get the emotional support you need.” These are platitudes and overly generalize. Broad claims make for unoriginal writing; be specific and back up your claims with a logical argument, providing evidence for your opinion. Broad generalizations like, “Since the dawn of time, people have loved art” are just padding and detract from more interesting ideas you may have. 

II. Description: Be Concrete and Concise

An easy way to avoid vague fluff is to use concrete images and concise language. First, if you can say something in five words instead of ten, that’s great! Go with the five. Second, concrete details provide a more refined image in the reader’s mind (car vs. Ford Taurus, for example) without the use of adjectives and adverbs. And try to avoid adverbs when you can. Show how a person is running “quickly” instead of telling the reader the person is running quickly. Is there sweat? Is this person bumping into others? Are the legs pumping like pistons? Specificity makes for much more interesting writing.

III. Organization: Make a Backwards Outline!

The best thing about outlines is that you ultimately do not have to follow them. Many people use the drafting process to think and come up with their best idea in the middle of the paper. But often the papers that are turned in are first drafts, so that great idea—around which you ought to have centered your paper—remains in the middle, not standing front and center and lacking enough space to develop further. If you’ve allowed yourself enough time to make a second/final draft, post-organize your paper. Map out the flow of your ideas and ask yourself if this is the best order and arrangement possible. Yes, revision is more work, but it is worth it. It is so, so, obvious to professors when a paper has not been properly organized.

IV. Grammar: Comma Splices

The most common grammatical error students make is the comma splice. A comma splice is the attachment of two sentences with only a comma. For example: “Harvey and Tim built a raft, they took it out on the river later.” ARGH. “Harvey and Tim built a raft” is a complete sentence, as is “they took it out on the river later.” How do you fix a comma splice? Well, there are three ways:

  • Use two separate sentences: “Harvey and Tim built a raft. They took it out on the river later.”
  • Add a conjunction after the comma: “Harvey and Tim built a raft, and they took it out on the river later.”
  • Use a semicolon: “Harvey and Tim built a raft; they took it out on the river later.

Standard/Edited (American) English grammar is the grammar of (American) academia and will be for a while. Also, simply, spelling and grammar mistakes only work to undermine your writing. If you have brilliant ideas, you shouldn’t obfuscate them with lousy grammar.

V. Language: Build Your Vocabulary

What does “obfuscate” mean? Well, when you encounter unfamiliar words, look them up and commit their meaning to memory. Practice using them, when appropriate. Of course don’t bloat your language so that your prose reads like a thesaurus. Your writing should sound intelligent/formal (with the help of new words), yet not awkward and stiff with the clumsy handling of “big” words.

VI. Scoring: Read What You Wrote Out Loud

This is pretty basic. Listening to your own writing will help you determine if it sounds stiff and/or unnatural or just awkward as hell. You can read your writing aloud to yourself, but it is best to hear another person read it. I refer to this section as “scoring” because writing has a musical aspect, too. Your use of language should be pleasing, made so by choosing the right word for the right moment, by opting for combinations of words that sound harmonious, and so that your delivery of ideas is arranged to have the most powerful impact. Choose a tone suited to your subject, and know thy audience. What will sound good to you may not sound so good for your intended audience. Adjust the score accordingly.

VII. Research: Do More of It Than You Think You Need To

Often you will be assigned a minimum number of sources for a research paper. Let’s say five, for example. Go for eight or nine. Of course you should avoid using redundant sources (a book on Samuel Beckett’s stage directions and journal article about Samuel Beckett’s stage directions). Find as many perspectives as possible; it’ll only make your arguments stronger. Plus the more academic writing you read, the more naturally it’ll come when you have to do your own.

VIII. Go Weird or Go Home

Another reason more using sources than required can help: finding unique perspectives/approaches to a subject. You may encounter some ideas that counter popular assumptions (peer pressure has some positive impacts; depression can sometimes benefit cognitive function; anti-drug education actually increases drug use). Another interesting tack to take is to go with a subject that often makes people uncomfortable, such as child sexuality, masochism, and alternatives to capitalism.

Strange, uncommon arguments are more interesting than broader overly researched topics, such as nature vs. nurture. A paper on the deliberate use of plot holes, in Mary Shelley’s Frankenstein, and their effect on narrator reliability would be far more interesting than the representation of capitalism in Animal Farm by George Orwell. The more complex and difficult the argument you choose the more critical thinking/writing skills you demonstrate. Weirdness is rewarded in academia, by getting your professor’s attention, by getting published in critical journals, etc. In this case, the axiom of “Be unique, and stand out in the crowd” stands true.

I hope this was helpful! Message me or send me an ask if you have any questions.

Normal Horoscope:

Aries: The future brings bees. Bees and honey. Sort of a double edged sword.

Taurus: If we could make friends out of clay they wouldn’t necessarily be worth less than normal friends, but please come outside. We miss you.

Gemini: You can hide from a lack of something. Fear of empty spaces is unfortunately common.

Cancer: People who say that neon colored things are artificial has never tried eating flowers.

Leo: Improperly formed curses can go haywire, bounding off and smacking into things with no real rhyme or reason. Its not your fault.

Virgo: There is the person you pretend you are and the person you pretend you are not. Bash their heads together to knock them out simultaneously.

Libra: The cartoon dogs in the walls are curious things. They have not seen a person in a long long time.

Scorpio: The elastic of your underwear can make an excellent slingshot in an emergency.

Ophiuchus: The stars and I are sorry to say, your intense desire to hunt and kill the seventh president of the united states is doomed. He is dead.

Sagittarius: It cares little if you ignore it. Its not looking for attention.

Capricorn: Build so many bridges it becomes impossible to see the sun. You are the spider to this web of infrastructure.

Aquarius: Try something new. Don’t break the skin.

Pisces: As long as golf continues to exist you will be plagued with nightmares.

Meltdown vs Shutdown

In autistic people, meltdowns and shutdowns may occur. Here’s what they are, how to identify them, and what to do if someone you know is experiencing one.

MELTDOWN:
A meltdown is a period of explosive anger/sadness/rage/fear which may manifest itself through screaming, crying, yelling, and can occasionally include violent outbursts. In younger children, meltdowns are often confused with tantrums. A tantrum is a tactic used by children to achieve a goal, such as getting a toy they want from the store. A meltdown is not a power play, it is an intense emotional point at which the person can no longer cope with what is happening around them. Meltdowns can occur at ANY AGE. This is an important distinction from tantrums, which tend to subside around ages 5-6. For me, meltdowns are triggered when I feel misunderstood, or feel that something in the environment is unfair or illogical.
Signs that an autistic person is having a meltdown include:
- arguing
- screaming/yelling
- crying
- retreating to a space they feel safer in
- if the person is angry during a meltdown, they may insult the people around them
- curling up into a ball/ fetal position
- going under blankets/ a dark quiet place
- sometimes the person may hit/ kick/ scratch anyone who tries to go near them
- if the person had a goal in mind which was impeded by others, they might perseverate and continue attempting to achieve that goal

What you should and shouldn’t do during a meltdown:
- Allow the person go where they want to/ stay where they want to, unless the place they’re going/ staying presents an immediate safety threat
- do not try to rationalize with them or continue any previous argument
- bring them a blanket and a water bottle with water in it
- if the person has a comfort object bring it to them and let them have it
- do not physically restrain or interact with the person unless they CLEARLY indicate a desire for physical touch
- only touch or restrain the person if they are in immediate danger and you need to get them away from the situation
- stay with the person until the meltdown is over (this may be 15 minutes to 3+ hours so you might want something to occupy yourself while you wait for them to calm down)
- however if the person tells you to go away, respect them and leave the room. However you should stay in the general area in case they become self destructive or violent
- tell the person that you love and care for them and that you will be with them/ there for them until the meltdown passes

SHUTDOWN:
A period of intense emotional/ sensory distress which manifests itself through a period of mental paralyzation. Someone experiencing a shutdown may become partially or entirely unresponsive to outside stimuli or interaction. Internally, the person may be experiencing extreme turmoil and anxiety, so it is important not to ask the person questions, which will make them more anxious and overwhelmed.
Signs that an autistic person is having a shutdown:
- staring blankly into space/ at one specific thing with fixed, unmoving eyes
- a stiff, rigid, unmoving posture
- lack of verbal communication

- breathing may be shallow and rapid or suppressed and slow, could be abnormally loud or abnormally quiet
- lack of response to outside stimuli ex. waving hands in front of their face (please don’t do that), speaking to them, asking them what’s wrong
- sensitivity to loud noise and bright lights (person may cover their eyes or ears)

During a shutdown, here is what you can do to help:
- you can quietly and calmly ask the person if they are having a shutdown. The person might not be able to respond, but if they don’t then it’s safe to assume that they are indeed having a shutdown.
- if the person normally likes physical affection and touch, you can hold them/ hug them/ stroke them/ physically comfort them
- if the person normally dislikes physical affection and touch, don’t touch them
- if the person has a comfort object and you have access to it, bring it to them (if the comfort object is more than 10- 15 minutes away from you then it’s probably not worth getting because it might not arrive in time to help)
- bring the person a water bottle with water in it
- stop talking about/ discussing any emotionally stressful topics
- if the situation is immediately dangerous, seeing as the person may be unable to move, remove them from the situation as soon as physically possible. You can do this by carrying the person or any other safe method.
- try to remove any sources of sensory information. If the room is bright, turn off the majority of the lights. If the room is loud, make it quiet. If the room is too cold or too hot, make it comfortable. In the case of cold, you can do this by covering the person in a non-itchy, soft blanket.
- reassure the person that you are there for them. Walk them through what you’re doing as you do it. For example, if you’re going to get the person water, tell them. If you’re going to get them out of the situation, tell them. If you’re going to turn off bright lights, tell them. Remember, even if we can’t communicate, we can still hear. It’s comforting to know what’s going on around us.

I think that’s just about it, if anyone has anything to add please let me know. I hope that everyone finds this helpful!

The types and what I think of them based on what I've seen from my friends(and probably a little insulting)

~as an INTJ

INTP
- quiet
- can make a bitch face that makes you cry
- probably thinks u stupid
- says that MBTI is shit
- fashionista
- has an ENFP friend(“ENFP no!”)
- savage
- that friend who has ultra weird ideas when drunk
- probably most adorable smile on earth
- smart
- most of the time just rising eyebrows and blinking

ENTJ
- bossy af
- prima ballerina
- she is beauty she is grace
- she will punch you in da face
- always in warm socks
- also an actress
- knows how to build things
- basically good at everything
- will shout at you if you do something wrong
- probably slept with almost all male friends

ENTP
- a n n o y i n g AF
- never shuts up
- meme queen
- so loud
- not funny jokes
- make up queen
- at least smart
- thinks she’s better than you(and maybe she is)
- if you take a sip from her mug u die
- has an ENFP slave
- kinda selfish
- another fashionista
- if she laughs the whole room laughs with her
- soooo much self confidence wow

INFP
- THAT SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE
- garbage lord
- writer buddy
- has ton of OC’s AND GAY SHIPS
- cannot into decisions
- junky food
- understands(really)
- don’t like loud people
- constant lala land
- savage without even noticing
- 4w5
- has 8 minute long video of herself eating french fries on her phone
- impressive self control
- cute laugh
- cute
- the best person to rant with

ENFP
- can’t stay in one place for a minute
- suddenly disappears in a middle of a party
- daydreaming a lot
- cheerful
- likes to drink A LOT
- too many friends
- nice for everyone ugh
- that laugh which sounds like a puppy riding a pink bicycle in a tuxedo
- can bring ENTP back to earth

ENFJ
- mom friend
- has too many friends HOW IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE
- gonna steal your friends without even noticing
- likes fancy drinks and kitschy things
- obsessed with doggos
- sudden outbursts of anger
- hypochondriac
- really anxious when driving
- doesn’t understand a concept of a personal space

ISTJ
- another bitch face
- can rise one eyebrow HOW U DO DIS?????
- doesn’t understand memes
- smart
- lack of self confidence
- secretly hates u
- wears comfy clothes but looks so good
- has a lot of savings but hardly ever uses them
- they knows better ok? don’t even try to tell them that they are wrong
- don’t particularly like pets
- perfect teeth
- so so so smart once again
- sometimes are rather calm but sometimes… don’t ask

ESTJ
- that kid who asks too many questions during your presentation
- constant bitch face
- hot
- stingy
- falls asleep during parties
- a rant person
- bossy
- hard working
- teachers like her

ESFJ
- will help you EVEN WHEN YOU HAVENT ASKED FOR HELP
- has a lot of friends
- drinks a lot
- hard-working
- daddy’s little princess/mama’s boy
- assertive
- smoking a lot
- tells everyone what to do

ISTP
- white Kanye West
- would kill u if u did something with his shoes
- likes weird electronic genres of music I can’t even name
- on 9gag all the time
- knows all memes
- League of Legends pro player
- can make funny faces
- looks like he was angry
- black humor(especially likes jokes about Jews)
- awkward silence gains a whole new meaning

ESFP
- the whitest person I know
- “what do u meat it was sexist?? it was funny!!!!”
- only wears yellow pants
- likes PE teacher probably a little too much
- can’t find a girlfriend
- will massage your feet if u don’t watch them properly
- has stupid ideas
- likes basically every person
- drinks wine at parties even though he says that true man should drink only vodka
- don’t know when someone is mean to him

ESTP
- loud
- hey lets go to the another city and get drunk!!! because why not
- class clown
- talks about her life too much like seriously
- and also about various secretions of her body
- probably gonna end up in jail
- smart and stupid at the same time
- lazy
- has problems with concentration
- talkative
- has problems with self-esteem which she covers acting out like a douche

Don’t take this personally lol
WHAT MAKES THE SIGNS UPSET?
  • Aries: Passive-aggression, beating around the bush, being helpless, having things not meet your expectations, having to wait for things to happen, wasting time, being ignored, being left out, being underestimated, assuming you know how they feel, admitting defeat or failure, giving up.
  • Taurus: Disrespecting boundaries, obnoxious and rude people, being placed in an aggravating situation, too much pressure, too much stress, being convinced to change their minds, fast-paced environments, being unable to think through things themselves, having their steadiness and deliberateness interpreted as a weakness, "fakeness", artificiality.
  • Gemini: Always doing things by the book, inflexibility, anything too conventional, anything too repressive, mental inactivity, dullness, feeling bored, feeling "stuck", feeling inhibited, too many regulations, bureaucratic nonsense, menial work, taking things too seriously, not having a sense of humor, having to slow down for someone, possessiveness, feeling suffocated.
  • Cancer: Insensitivity, being taken for granted, being manipulated, having their kindness being taken as a weakness, lack of depth, lack of loyalty, shallow people, disrespecting privacy, disrespecting personal space, forgetful people, people who don't remember the past, people who aren't connected with their emotions, excessive criticism, too much conflict, instability, insecurity.
  • Leo: Pettiness, cruelty, mean-spiritedness, the mundane, menial tasks, penny-pinching, lack of excitement, put-downs, deceit, lying, being forced to be dependent on others, not being respected, not being admired, lack of attention or admiration, forced to take orders, being taken as a joke, being laughed at or seen as "lesser".
  • Virgo: Condescension, being treated as inferior, being treated as incompetent, being unprepared, being disorganized, being surprised, having their helpfulness mistaken for subservience, being underestimated, not having their intelligence appreciated, vulgar behavior, carelessness, crudeness, uncertainty, people who don't put any effort, insincerity.
  • Libra: Rudeness, hyper-aggressiveness, people who can't appreciate the finer things in life, uptight people, people who don't know how to relax, violence, injustice, unfairness, being misled, being misinformed, admitting they're wrong, harshness, stressful situations, being pressured to make a decision, conflicts, people who can't apologize, confusion.
  • Scorpio: Betrayal, superficiality, shallowness, arrogance, bragging, pretentiousness, people who put themselves on a pedestal, hypocrisy, disloyalty, manipulation, two-faced people, distrustful people, harming their loved ones, being taken advantage of, people who make a joke out of everything, compromising, unemotional people, aloof people.
  • Sagittarius: Lying, deception, being kept secrets from, being restricted, hypo-criticism, disrespecting their philosophies, disrespecting their beliefs, constraint in their freedom, having too many restrictions- too many rules, too much regulation, too many obligations, being judged or disapproved by others.
  • Capricorn: Pettiness, wastefulness- wasting time, wasting energy, wasting money, wasting emotions on people who don't matter, being ridiculed, being publicly humiliated, having their private thoughts shown in public, making a big scene, losing control, unreliability, encroaching on their personal time.
  • Aquarius: Disrespecting their ideas, ignorance, narrow-mindedness, being too straight-laced, overly rigid people, attempting to control or manipulate them, dishonesty, being forced to conform, being forced to pick a choice, subservience to anyone, having an excessive ego, hyper-aggressiveness, rudeness, not keeping promises.
  • Pisces: People who can't read between the lines, know-it-all's, lacking creativity, lacking imagination, lacking intuition, having things not meet their expectations, being forced to face reality, being unable to make their dreams a reality, negativity, nitpicking, people who are unable to see the bigger picture.

All littles are valid.

Underage

Any gender

Any regression age

Any skin color

Any body type

Any interests.


It doesn’t matter if you like skulls and listening to Slipknot or soft things and K-pop.

It doesn’t matter if you’re 16, or 35.

It doesn’t matter if you’re fair-skinned or a melanin prince(ss).

It doesnt matter if you have chub or a lack thereof.

It doesn’t matter if you like pacis, or coloring, or diapers, or cartoons, or bottles.

It doesn’t matter if you call your caregiver mommy, daddy, miss, sir, mistress or master.

It doesn’t matter if you’re six feet tall with a beard and tattoos or five foot three with fluttering lashes.


Don’t let places like Tumblr, which is supposed to be a safe place, manipulate your age regression/little space into some cookie-cutter shape.


Different is beautiful.


Your regression is personal.


Make it your own.

In several Humans are Space Orc stories, it tends to be the aliens that point out something odd about humans, followed by the humans describing an extremely similar trait of the aliens they found no need to discuss
like in the story about naming sounds by @authorbettyadams the human beings up the naming of light waves.
Perhaps humans have not only a greater acceptance for physical differences, but those in capability and processing as well
This example’s a bit trivial but gets the gist across

“Human Hannah, why do you use those plastic bristles on your ‘hair’ every day? What is the purpose?”

“It’s to untangle the hair. If you don’t do it daily with straight hair, it gets to be a real pain.”

“But if it requires so much effort, why keep it and allow it to reach such lengths?”

“Lemme ask you this, Kurlaqk; what is that sanding device for?”

“To sharpen my talons, of course.”

“And, if these talons continue their growth and require such work to maintain, why do you keep them?”

“Well, for defense and to show my skill in crafting their point, as all talons are kept.”

“Human hair is grown to maintain the temperature of ones head. Scissors, brushes, clips, pins, elastics, sprays, and heating devices are used to turn this useful creation into a form of art expressing personality, exactly as your species talons do. I have noticed the similarities in process and care, with dyes and decorations, cleaners and strengtheners, for months. Pointing it out however, seemed rude as I am unsure if they bear drastic cultural significance. It seems you lack this tact, and therefore I see it fit to discuss your practice which is similar.”

For my Apartment Dwelling witches

*some of these also can apply to tiny houses or underage witchlings who only have a bedroom*

For many of us making our living space feel “witchy” can be a challenge, (I should know, my apartment is literally a one room studio that was once just a bedroom in an old house) so I wanted to point out some simple and easy things you can do in your small space! Please feel free to add more if you think of them! ~starborn-badwitch

·Don’t have room for an altar? DIY an old jewelry box (or a wooden box from a craft store) and make a small altar that’s easily put up or moved when you need it to!

·Or use an altoid tin for super small ones that fit in a backpack, purse, pocket, etc.

·No yard or personal space outside? Try window boxes for your herbs and plants, or even one of those small indoor herb gardens.

·Lacking space for witchy decor? Make small seasonal wreaths for the holidays you observe and put them on your apartment door

·Or do themed garland for the aforementioned windowboxes!

·So your bathroom is small, meaning you only have a shower and no tub. Same here. No ritual baths or bathbombs for us! However you can take a ritual shower, get some shower scrub with natural oils, and flowers/herbs for relaxation and meditation. Meditate as if you were under a waterfall!

·Tealights and votives don’t last as long, but in small spaces they’re your friends! Plus since they burn quickly you won’t have to store a bunch of leftover stuff, keeping your smaller space more tidy.

Masterpost: Sensory differences

If you know a bit about autism, or have been following this blog for some time, you must be aware that one of the autistic traits which has the most consequences on our daily lives is our sensory differences. They have an impact on all spheres of our lives: on what we can and cannot do, on where we can and cannot go, on what we can eat, wear, listen to, on our ways to feel good and on what makes us feel bad.

Such a wide subject definitely warrants a masterpost. So, here we go!

First, let’s take a look at the human sensory system, to understand the different areas in which there can be differences. It’s actually more complicated than the traditional five senses! Our sensory system is divided into three parts:

  • Exteroception : sensing what comes from the environment outside your body.
  • Interoception : sensing the internal physiological condition of your body
  • Proprioception : sensing the position your limbs and body are in

These three main areas encompass different senses (note that this is one model and others exist):

  • Exteroception: sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch, but also thermoception (sensation of heat/cold) and nociception (sensation of pain)
  • Interoception: nociception (internal pain), feelings of hunger, lack of oxygen, thirst, need to pee, as well as monitoring of the respiratory rate and heart rate.
  • Proprioception: the kinesthetic sense (knowledge of the movement and relative positions of your body parts) and the vestibular sense (knowledge of body movement, direction and acceleration)


For all of these senses, autistic people can have them work typically, be hyposensitive (less sensitive than most people), be hypersensitive (more sensitive than most people) or have sensory processing differences which do not fall under the hypo/hyper system.

The clinical term which encompasses these differences is “Sensory Processing Disorder”. One can have SPD without being autistic, but all or almost all autistic people have SPD.

It should be noted, however, that some autistic people don’t like to think of it as a disorder and prefer simply talking about sensory processing differences.

Something very important to understand is that hypersensitivity and hyposensitivity CAN coexist in any one person’s sensory system. For example, they might be hypersensitive to smell and hyposensitive to touch. They can also be hyper/hypo sensitive to only one aspect of one sense (for instance, pressure or texture or bright lights or sweet tastes). They can also be sometimes hyposensitive to something, and sometimes hypersensitive to it.

Being hypersensitive to a stimulus and being exposed to it can cause what is called “sensory overload”, which usually translates to pain, discomfort, and impaired cognitive functions (in other words, trouble thinking properly). If pushed further (very intense stimuli or very long exposition), it can lead to a shutdown or meltdown.

Being hyposensitive to something and lacking stimulation can translate to restlessness, discomfort, and even pain, as well as an intense craving for the stimuli.


Here are some examples of what hypersensitivity to different senses can translate to, on a behavioral and subjective level:

  • Sight: The person wears sunglasses, maybe even indoors. They avoid places with fluorescent lightning, blinking lightning or too bright lightning. They dislike looking at brightly colored surfaces. They may have trouble with visually cluttered spaces, such as crowds and supermarkets. They may find any kind of flickering or movement around them painful to see.

  • Hearing: They may hear sounds no one else can hear (and some have been tested to hear outside the normal human range). They may have to wear headphones/ear defenders in noisy places. They may avoid crowds and events with lots of people/loud music/shouting. They may have difficulty with the noise of the vacuum, of the construction work on the other side of the street, of the clock ticking in the next room. They may develop tinnitus eventually.

  • Smell: They’ll probably dislike places with strong smells such as perfume shops, farms, or crowded public transportation. They may need to wash themselves, their clothes and their sheet very often to keep body odors to a minimum. They may not tolerate scented soap, shampoo or deodorant (and it’s sometimes difficult to find an unscented one!). They may struggle with the smell of food in general, or with particular smells.

  • Taste: They may be very picky eaters, only tolerating a couple of very bland-tasting food such as mashed potatoes or pasta. They may have difficulty having diverse enough diets with all the nutrients they need. They may always eat the exact same thing.

  • Touch: They may have trouble finding clothing with a texture that they can tolerate. They may need to cut all the tags off their clothing. They may absolutely hate anyone touching them. They may be ok with firm touch, but find light brushy touches painful. They may have trouble wearing specific items of clothing, such as socks/shoes, headphones or hats. They may hate people touching their hair, or find brushing their hair very difficult. They may find brushing their teeth nearly impossible because of the scratching sensation. They may have trouble with the texture of many foods, and be a picky eater because of that.

  • Thermoception: They may be very sensitive to cold, and always wearing loads of clothing and turning the heating up even when other people don’t think it’s that cold. They may be very sensitive to heat, finding summer very hard to cope with, especially if they don’t have access to AC. They may be hyper-aware of tiny changes in temperature, feeling cold when it is dropping and hot when it is rising regardless of the actual temperature.

  • Nociception: They may be more sensitive to pain than most people, and find very painful what most people would shrug off. (They’re not being a drama queen! They really do feel more pain!)

  • Vestibular sense: They may get motion sickness very easily.


And here are some examples for hyposensitivity:

  • Sight: The person may have trouble finding things in visually crowded environments. They may enjoy looking at bright colored lights or at objects in motion (spinning top/twirling fingers…)

  • Hearing: They may not notice being called or being talked to, especially when focused. They may enjoy listening to very loud music, singing, or making lots of noises.

  • Smell: They may not notice smells which other people do. They may enjoy strong smells such as perfume, essential oils or body odor. They may enjoy sniffing a favorite blanket, a significant other, a pet, or anything they like.

  • Taste: They may be able to ingest an impressive amount of spicy food, and may crave strong tasting food (pepper, lemon, salt, sugar…).

  • Touch: They may love rubbing/touching favorite textures, rubbing their hands together… They may love and crave deep pressure, such as having heavy weights on top of them.

  • Thermoception: They may be outside in winter with just a T-shirt, or not be bothered by the heat in summer and even wear a sweater. They may enjoy touching very hot things such as radiators or very hot water, or very cold things like ice cubes or snow.

  • Nociception: They may be less sensitive to pain than most people and not notice it when they’ve been hurt.

  • Vestibular sense: They may love roller coasters, boat rides when there’s a lot of waves… They may never get motion sickness of any sort. They may spend time rocking or like to chill upside down.

  • Kinesthetic sense: They may be very clumsy since they have a poor sense of the position of their body in space. They may stumble a lot and be generally bad at sports. They may have trouble with fine motor skills such as handwriting or sewing. They may enjoy doing repetitive motions such as hand flapping.

  • Interoception: They may have trouble noticing  when they are hungry, thirsty, tired, or when they need to go to the bathroom. They may need to set alarms or to have self-care at set times as part of their routine.


These are of course only examples and hyper or hyposensitivity can express themselves in as many ways are there are people who experience them.

Here are some examples of other sensory differences autistic people can experience:

  • Synesthesia seems more frequent among autistic people than in the general population. It is defined as a transfer from one sensory modality to another: for example, seeing sounds or hearing tastes. It can also mean associating colors or personalities to numbers/letters. In autistic people specifically, it can be a very positive thing (you can now stim with two senses at the same time!) or something painful (these bright lights are awful, well now they’re harsh noises too).

  • We often struggle with processing sensory information, especially speech, which can mean we can have a lot of trouble understanding what people say, might take a lot of time to process speech (which results in conversations such as” “Hey, will you get me this thing please?” “What?” “I said, will-” “Oh yeah, sure”), and might need subtitles to be able to understand movies. Processing information from two different senses at a time can also be difficult, which often translates as “I can either look at the images or understand what’s being said”. This is one of the causes of our struggle with eye contact.

That’s all for today. We hope this helped. We are currently preparing a masterpost on stimming which will be quite related to this one. Happy writing!

Me: I’m not obsessed with YOI. And I have things to do.

Also me: scrutinizes and tries to ‘analyze’ Yuuri and Victor’s handwriting

YUURI

  • handwriting is neat, clear, even: he is sweet, cautious, and considerate, makes writing legible in consideration to readers 
  • the ending middle stroke of the last E is long and protrudes: he’s overly excited and he’s pressing too hard
  • bilingual and amazing
  • letters are rounded and cute like him
  • carries around marker because he is #1 superstar in Hasetsu and is always being asked for autographs
  • prints in all caps for legibility and/or to express his internal screaming
  • Dancer’s Block
  • writes on tree pulp, uses mechanical pencil with ergonomic grip that he’s had since the 90s
  • characters are again soft and round like him
  • very neat and straight writing: organized, likes to keep his life ordered and under control with minimum drama
  • prefers pen-and-paper over digital in his creative planning process, lets his thoughts flow then mulls things over
  • writes in pencil and not pen: sign of lack of self-confidence? fear of commitment???
  • eraser is well-used: he has made many mistakes in life, or so his self-doubt convinces him
  • but he’s X-ed out his ideas instead of erasing them: he may have low confidence but still knows the value of his creativity
  • Red pen present: strict on himself, is his own toughest critic, or was doodling little YK❤️VNs

VICTOR

  • penmanship extremely uniform, neat, aligned and evenly spaced: good control and spatial awareness. Highly disciplined person. Concerned with how he is perceived by others and maintaining a visage of perfection. May be dead inside. Or, is just trying to impress Yuuri.
  • pen with ergonomic grip (only the softest for world-class athletes) borrowed from Yuuri because Victor Nikiforov™ only ever needs to carry markers for autographs. (Yuuri’s never getting his pen back.) (but that’s ok, because they are soulmates and share everything).
  • is that a autograph pad he’s writing on
  • crosses his Zs. A nerd.
  • 7 has a downward blip on the top stroke. why are you like this, Nikiforov
  • can count to 12. excellent smart boy
  • Squiggly underline: is very cute and super excited for his boyfriend’s quad toe loop
  • I obviously don’t know what I’m doing
Over the course of 10 years and thousands of training sessions working specifically with obese clients, I can say this: I have witnessed incredible feats in fitness by obese clients. I have trained both healthy obese clients with sound athletic disposition and immobile clients who couldn’t stand on two feet who were not metabolically healthy. Over time, I had them running up hills, boxing, lifting weights and making fitness a sustainable part of their life. During this time, their risks of disease greatly decreased without significant weight loss. Medications were lowered, cardiovascular health, physical mobility and quality of life were greatly improved.

I’ve seen first-hand the difference physical exercise can make if offered in a safe and inclusive environment. Regrettably, such spaces for fat people are sorely lacking. That’s a big part of the problem. Our fitness culture is an elite club where only slim, ripped, young people have the privilege of being represented in fitness media, advertising and gym culture. The rest of us pretty much don’t exist. How can we be what we cannot see?
Moon in the Venus Persona Chart

Moon in Aries: You are most comfortable in relationships when you are able to bring up issues directly, have the independence to be yourself, and have a partner who understands your restless side. It’s important for relationships to be stimulating. It’s uncomfortable for you to lack the freedom you need, or when relationships become boring and no longer bring excitement/passion. You instinctively seek new experiences to share with your partner.

Moon in Taurus: You are most comfortable in relationships when you are able to express your sensual and romantic side, follow your instincts, and have a partner who brings stability, comfort, and familiarity to the relationship. It’s important for relationships to be reliable. It’s uncomfortable for you to have to rely on someone without knowing if they’ll follow through, or feel like you can’t fully express your romantic side. You instinctively take your relationships seriously and have a lot of love and romance to offer once you feel comfortable.

Moon in Gemini: You are most comfortable in relationships when you are able to share and exchange ideas with your partner, play around and have fun with one another, and have a partner who enjoys being very open with you. It’s important for relationships to be interesting (but never overly complicated). It’s uncomfortable for you to not understand your partner, or to feel like you have something to hide from them.  You instinctively seek for interesting things to share with your partner.

Moon in Cancer: You are most comfortable in relationships when you are able to be your loving self and care for your partner, feel secure and appreciated, and have a partner who is very stable, understanding, and thoughtful. It’s important for relationships to be compassionate. It’s uncomfortable for you to feel like your love/care isn’t fully appreciated, or worry that you are being taken advantage of. You instinctively associate your love with providing protection and security.

Moon in Leo: You are most comfortable in relationships when you are able to fully express yourself, give and receive plenty of love and attention, and have a partner who appreciates what makes you unique. It’s important for relationships to be outwardly loving. It’s uncomfortable for you to feel like your partner doesn’t give you the admiration you deserve, or to feel like your self-expression is being blocked in some way. You instinctively put your partner on a pedestal.

Moon in Virgo: You are most comfortable in relationships when you feel useful and needed, when you are able to freely voice your concerns or worries, and when you have a partner who is reliable and can help ease any insecurities. It’s important for relationships to be understanding. It’s uncomfortable for you to feel like you could be replaced, or to fear that you can’t always rely on your partner. You instinctively show your love by helping your partner with their day-to-day routines. 

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Tony Stark and ADHD

So while researching about the disorder, I started seeing quite a few correlations between A Certain Fave™ of mine and the symptoms that were shown on some of the websites I visited. For Example:

  • Coffee/ caffeine works to actually help calm down and regulate the mood, helping focus and productivity
  • Two settings- hyperfixation or complete lack of focus. A person with ADHD can completely lose themselves to a task they are engaged in/ worried about, forgetting to eat, sleep or generally perform basic human functions until it is completed. And then, on the other end of the spectrum- they will also find it difficult to focus AT ALL on things they are not interested in, choosing instead to zone out and lose concentration very easily.
  • Constant fidgeting, with anything and everything.
  • Conversations moving faster than anyone else can keep up with, hopping from point A to Z in the space of 0.3 seconds
  • Forgetfulness and general memory imbalances. Either perfect or not there at all. 
  • Reckless behaviour and lack of sense of danger.
  • Can also manifest itself in forms of anxiety
  • Difficulty with socialising- often talking very loudly and jumping in or interrupting because they lack impulse control

And listen. Listen, okay- we know canononically that these are all Very Much Tony Stark Things;  hyperfocusing on some tasks and then completely losing interest in others, reckless and impulsive behaviours and using coffee as a tool to focus or help productivity are just some of the FEW common examples. So, y’know, I’m headcanoning this.

Tony Stark has ADHD.