It’s 9:55pm on a Tuesday night

A group of 10 teenage girls come into the restaurant.

“What time do you guys close?”

I say, “We close at 10:00pm”

She replies, “table for ten please”

A little frustrated (because I’m not a fucking hostess/server) I seat them and inform them that a server will be with them shortly.
I have to go to the back and retrieve a server who just got her tips from the day and is packing up to go home.

“_____, we have a table of ten for you..”

She started to cry because she had been there since we OPENED that morning and hadn’t seen her babies that day.

Obviously she’s angry too, and it shows.
But she’s still attentive to the young ladies.

They don’t get up from the table until almost 11:00 and come to the front to pay.

“Our server was a bitch”
“Our server was mean”
“Our server didn’t like us”

“Your server just wanted to go home an hour ago,” I say.

“It’s her job, she’s getting paid, so what?”

I let them know that she’s worked hard today and wanted to be able to see her kids before her husband tucks them in bed.

They pay, leave no tip for her, and leave the building.

The moral of the story is that it’s not “cute” or “cool” to go to restaurants late at night right before they close.
Workers want to go home.
Workers want to see their families.
Workers want to get sleep so they can do it all over again tomorrow.

It doesn’t matter if you’re rude or polite.

When we say that we close at 10:00pm, we would really like to ACTUALLY close at 10:00pm. And even if you leave RIGHT AT closing, that server still has to clean up after you.
Make sure the table is clean, make sure the floor is clean, make sure the dishes are clean and put away, make sure they have their tips, and get a manager to walk them to their car.

We don’t care about your $3 tip.
We want to go home.

A warning to Americans...

For those of you who think there’s no way Trump could get into power:

My country just voted to leave the European union. An idiotic decision which is already seeing the currency fall and a country divided by fear, lies and racism.

For the first time ever, I am ashamed of my country. I am so tired of old, angry, white people deciding my future. I already didnt have much of one! I already was sure I was never going to own a house. I am already sure that I was never going to have a lifelong career or a golden pension or anything like that. I’m already aware that things are worse and the more I type, the angrier I become.

I cannot believe we let the Brexiters win. The Brexiters who literally evoked NAZI PROPAGANDA in their campaign. I cannot belive what we’ve done. I am physically ill.

I am ill, I am tired, and I am moving. Fuck this shit. I’m out. Let this country burn with its ignorance. I’m done.

Never underestimate angry, old racists. They voted for the Nazis and now they’ve voted away the rights of a generation.
Stop acting like Alan Rickman is Snape 2k16

I’m sorry, I just have to say that Alan Rickman’s life and career are so much more than just the Harry Potter films. Alan Rickman is not Snape. I’ve seen far too many “Farewell, Professor” posts and it’s driving me nuts. Why are you saying goodbye to Snape? He isn’t a real person who actually died from cancer. A real person who had a long and meaningful career. Do you think his family and friends are missing Snape right now? Absolutely not. They’re missing a real and actual person. Whew. Just had to get that off my chest.

Alan Rickman is not Snape. REBLOG IF YOU AGREE.

You hate suicide squad but...

(Spoliers:) You people forget that this is the first super hero movie with a black “hero”, Japanese FEMALE hero, a Hispanic “hero” 4 girls -which none of which died- and a black bad ass female. The Antagonist was a girl! Why has it taken this long for their to be hero movies like this? I am siting here waiting for my black widow movie marvel. :/ >:0 yes it was cheesy but come on you people should be all over this shit.

Enough is enough

We cannot continue to raise our generation with the ideals of “Black people don’t do that.” Because that’s destroying the what ifs in us black girls. Countless times I’ve thought about taking my piercings out, covering my tattoos and taming my hair in hopes they’ll stop talking about me… That I’ll be accepted.

We gotta stop telling black girls who are alternative that they’re trying to be white or make assumptions of their sexuality because of their stretched ears and piercings. We gotta stop telling black girls with natural hair that their hair is too nappy or they don’t know how to do their hair and need a perm. We gotta stop telling the black girls with a sleeve of tattoos that they’re trying to be white and no man would want them covered in ink. We gotta stop sexualizing young black girls and telling them not to dress comfortably because of men around them, stop demonizing black children and start questioning the male family members and friends that stare inappropriately. Your child isn’t grown the person staring is a pervert and needs to stay from your kids.

Its honestly frustrating when other races tries to keep black people is a status quo beneath them, but it breaks my fucking heart… It brings tears in my eyes as I’m writing this that my own people would rather put me in a box and tell me I’m not worthy of my own race than let me flourish and be myself but and would rather tear me down to their “normalcy” to make them comfortable.

We cannot continue to raise our generation with the ideals of “Black people don’t do that.” BECAUSE BLACK PEOPLE CAN DO WHATEVER THE FUCK THEY WANT.

It’s generalised as “man pain” on the show because of all the men grieving their loss in a respectable time manner all while these powerful women who clearly carries the show on their backs take no time in grieving because no one lets them. Don’t even get me started with arguments that proves my point. You don’t want to drown in them. I am not making fun of mental illness. I’m not making fun of anything at all for that matter. “Man pain” is described not to belittle the mental illness, but to show how unequal the pain is felt by men and women differ in this show. Women are strong, yes. No doubt that these female characters are stronger than men. But to see these guys slouch, cry, and pout and drown in their own sorrow and create a mass genocide for example, and when a female character tries to redeem their people’s actions, who gets the blame? Women.

The Ace Discourse is Absolute Bull

We are 3 days into pride week and I have seen my dash flooded with lots of positive representation for the LGBT+ community, and it has been awesome. However, I’ve also seen a surge in people trying to discredit the legitimacy of other’s inclusion in the community. Especially asexuals.

The main argument of ace discourse is that we are “basically straight” because we do not experience homophobia or transphobia. While it may “sound” like a good argument, this is why this not only hurts those of us in the ace community but also everyone else in the LGBT+ community:

1. You’ve immediately claimed that every single person that isn’t gay or lesbian faces no hardships because of their orientation. This is an /insult/ to everyone who experiences attraction to people of other genders, to those who live years of their life believing they are broken and useless because they don’t want/ crave certain types of intimacy, and every person who has had someone in their life try to “fix” them.

2. You’ve just excluded every single closeted person, no matter their orientation.

3. The entirety of the multisexual community has just been shamed as well. And you’re even using the same excuses for kicking us out as you did for them a few years back.

4. This is a fantastic way to reinforce heteronormativity. You’re argument is that anyone that doesn’t experience attraction to the same sex is straight. Which erases not only the asexuality spectrum, but the gender spectrum and the sexuality spectrum as well.

5. This whole thing just turns into a way to hate on others who you don’t understand and aren’t willing to listen to. You are trying to turn the hatred and oppression you face and forcing it onto others to bear. There’s a word for that, and it’s /bullying/. The same bullying you face all the time for your orientation. The bullying that made you want to create and join this community in the first place.

6. You say that we should just build our own community and pull away from the LGBT+ community. Except we can’t. Every single “safe ace space” I’ve ever been apart of has been bombarded by this hatred and negativity. You can’t hate us and put us in a corner and then fill that corner with spiders and expect us to feel loved and appreciated and safe.

7. By saying that “only aces with a non-heterosexual romantic orientation are valid”, you’ve just said that the only thing that matters is the attraction we /do/ feel. That it’s not enough that we feel broken and hated for not feeling sexual attraction. That it’s not enough that so many aces have had people they know and trust try to “fix” them. That it isn’t enough that most of us in a romantic relationship live in fear of our loved ones leaving us because we can’t satisfy them. Nope. You’ve basically said that you’re the only ones that matter. Only your experiences are valid. That we’re making it up for attention. That it’s wrong and makes us broken.

So yes. I do think that the ace discourse is wrong. I do believe that aces belong in the LGBT+ community. All of them. And honestly, the fact that this has gone on so long makes me question how loving and accepting your community is. I hope you prove me wrong.

The lie of privacy rant

My mother would gossip to the other parents about my stomach pains, the rashes, my bowel movements and bed wetting when i was a child.

I begged her to not share these things but she would insist maybe one of those catty women would know a way to help.

My grandmother laments my strict diet and shelves of medication to her bible group and I simmer when they make jokes at dinners.

My father complains about the medical bills to his buddies, I hear him on the phone telling a man I’ve never met about the anxiety attacks I have always hidden from my friends.

My sister explains to the people ar the grocery store why I walk so slowly, why I limp, why my breathing is so loud even when i ask her to stop.

My grandfather asks people to pray for my crooked spine, my failing lungs, the way my joints have begun to give up.

They do it because they need to explain why I’m not normal, they do it to vent about the burden.

They say it’s public information since anyone could see.

But that woman in the store didn’t need to know about my bowel movement when i was 13 and burning red with embarrassment.

The church ladies didn’t need to know the amount of pills i take in a day.

I deserved an increment of privacy.

But if you’re disabled in any way you are seen as a small child. Private information is nonexistent, they speak like you can’t hear them, like it doesn’t matter how embarrassed you may be.

And that sucks.

we are young, we play our music loud,drink until we can’t stand, we sneak out, get grounded, fail tests, run wild, we make friendships that only last a month, lie about where we are, cry in the bathroom, try new things, sleep for hours, binge eat, go through lovers like we go through our expensive clothes. we are young,we are the corrupted youth.
we are the hated generation,but they forget who raised us.
—  diaryofasocialintrovert

Sometimes I hate seeing the bombshells blogs of black women. Yeah these are very beautiful women, and I understand you wanna show the world that black is beautiful (because it is). But you must understand that ALL black is beautiful. This means the ones with little butt, and the ones with small boobs. The ones who don’t know how to do that perfect eyeliner and those perfect eyebrows. The ones who don’t have those voluptuous curves. The ones who have type 4 hair and those who have type 5 hair (And yes it does exist.) Bottom line us as a whole ARE BOMBSHELLS and to only view one side of it, what’s deemed as beautiful by society is kind of irritating to other black girls and women like me that can’t relate because I look nothing like them.

Stop Kirk-shaming Reboot!Kirk.

Just stop.

He is not TOS!Kirk.


There’s a reason they aren’t the same. And they made it really easy why both can exist and be loved. Like, stupid easy.

Say it with me now.

Deep breath.


Originally posted by giference

If someone comes to you and tells you they are *insert label here*, you don’t get to tell them otherwise.

I don’t care if asexuality, bisexuality, pansexuality, homosexuality, etc (and the full array of complimentary -romantic identities) doesn’t fit into your personal philosophy. I don’t care if you don’t agree with that identity or don’t understand it, you do not get to take the label that someone has finally found to feel comfortable in and tell them that it is wrong because it doesn’t work for you.


I’m really into fantasy, fairytales, mythology and the like, but I feel like women of color are so underrepresented in fantasy. All I see is white “fairy/Elven princesses/warriors” with pale skin and long, flowing, straight/wavy hair. Fuck that, I’m a fairy too. Melanin-rich skin, curly hair, big lips and all.

idc what jk rowling says about draco malfoy i’ll always love him tbh and not because “we girls like to romanticize bad characters” as rowling said but just because. i don’t want him to become harry’s bestfriend or stop being the little sassy shit that he is, i’m not romanticizing a flying fuck i just love him for who he is and it’s actually sad when an author can’t come to appreciate fully one of his/her characters