personal listening history

One of the most liberating feelings in the world is realizing you don’t owe anyone shit

You don’t have to be friends with someone who treats you like crap even if you’ve known them your whole life. You don’t even owe them an explanation either. You get to choose who gets to be in your life. It’s a privilege, not a birth given right. 

If someone is hurting you or just flat out annoying, you don’t have to give them the time of day. Please cut the shitty people out of your life and surround yourself with awesome ones who make you happy. You deserve nothing but happiness and anyone who brings you down doesn’t deserve to be in it. 

bellonasolocarr  asked:

favorite ronan/adam fics?? x)

oh wow okay let’s do this (also my fic tag has a lot of tumblr fic in it as well!)

let’s start wildfires

He felt rooted there, anchored to this moment, to this version of Ronan, this boy with a knife in his smile and a look in his eyes that could melt Adam’s skin off.

Monsters Calling Home / Delicate / Six of Pentacles

“Stop fighting me,” he said.
You wanted to laugh, albeit bitterly. You almost did, because Ronan lived to fight, and those words fitted him like a poorly-tailored three piece suit. You were about to say something, probably sarcastic, but then your eyes met his.

“Yes,” you heard him say.
When his eyelids fluttered open, there wasn’t a language that existed in this world which could describe what you saw written on his face.
“It’ll always be yes.”

You knew that the boy from all those years ago would have been furious. That Adam Parrish would choose his ambition over and over again, because it was the only way he was ever going to make something of himself and be his own person. That was all he wanted. All he ever wanted.
But Ronan Lynch happened.

Good Times, For A Change

The year is 1986.
The place is Charleston, West Virginia.
One night can change everything.

Safe With Me

Ronan requests a unique birthday present. Adam delivers. They can’t be sexy without being losers about it.

Drive It Like You Stole It

“He wants you,” Gansey said bluntly. Adam sucked in a breath, feeling the words in his whole body. “I’m not saying Cabeswater can do anything about that. But I think it’s important to wonder if it might.”

burning away from the inside

Adam and Ronan get snowed in at the Barns for a few days and it’s pretty much as disgustingly cheesy as you can imagine.

it won’t ever get old, not in my soul

It was honestly an accident, just pure divine intervention, wrong place wrong time type shit. Or right time, depending on how you looked at it. And because of Ronan’s impeccable timing and lack of manners, he was looking at everything Adam had to offer.
Or basically, Ronan walks in on Adam naked. A character study of sorts.

when our eyes close

It was weird, though. To fear the thing you loved. To teeter around the edges of the pool instead of diving right in. The fear lay in the uncertainty. The fact that he couldn’t control the outcome of whatever was going to happen here.

Out for Re-henge

Blue has a favor to ask of Ronan while Gansey and Adam are away. She ends up receiving much more than she expected. (Or, that one where Ronan teaches Blue to drive stick and they have adventures.) Post-BLLB.

might have thought that we were one

Adam is going to want to know why he’s here, and Ronan won’t have an answer. He’s got four minutes to figure one out, but before his racing, stupid, hateful mind can come up with something that’s not a lie, that’ll still work, the back entrance of the factory opens and Adam strides out.

Yet & Not Yet

The magicians, working their way over well-worn grooves from a place made for leaving to a place made for staying, one first kiss at a time. Because for people who reuse time close and far is like already happened and not happened yet, and eventually they’ll get it right.

Evolution, Extinction

Ronan’s brain caught on that few seconds when he thought Noah might be interested in Adam. He examined it. Did he want to touch Noah? Did he want to touch Adam? No. It didn’t seem so. Not that he’d gone digging that deep to find out. If his dreams had taught him anything it was that there were some wells you just didn’t uncap.

anonymous asked:

hi I recently saw someone discourage aces from using allo as it was a term stolen from the autistic community, is this true and if it is have we come up with an alternative to allo yet?

Oh believe me, Anon, the day when I light in to all the misinformation surrounding allosexual? That day is coming.

Soon.

But not quite yet, because I’ve gotta be in the right frame of mind to get into that. That’s the discourse that was happening when I took my baby steps into the Tumblr ace community, so I have to work myself up to digging back through all that nonsense while simultaneously not losing my cool. Like, I cannot start going back through those old posts without instantly being young(er), terrified, and highly insecure in my identity again.

Short, mostly unsourced version (for now, y’all are just gonna have to trust my memory, and the couple posts I have on hand because I wrote them):

The English word “allosexual” has existed since some time in the 1800s. It was a word in sexology before we laid claim to it. If we appropriated it from the autistic community (which is a claim I really really fucking hate considering the sheer number of autistic/otherwise neurodivergent aces, including the ace person who suggested allo as a replacement for the terminology we’d used previously, how the shit are they appropriating from themself??) then this is conclusive proof that somewhere out there, there is a time-traveling ace who is holding out on me.

1) I’m betting that the only reason they’re trying “you’re appropriating from the autistic community” with this one is because both words use that allo- prefix, in which case, and following that logic (where words can be appropriative of words they existed before) I’ve got some bad news for biologists about the word allele, and 2) if autistic people are the only people in existence that are allowed to have a word to describe “people that are not like us” then I’ve got some bad news for…well, just about everybody.

There were a variety of other terms passed around at the time that were discarded for a variety of reasons. I accidentally wrote a series about my recollections of those terms, with as many sources as I could find, on AsexualsAnonymous a while back. Here are those posts: original post, clarification, follow-up ask, another follow-up ask. Please ignore deadname, I wrote these posts before I came out.

There is some recent push to use zedsexual instead of allosexual. I don’t like it, and because of that bias, I’m not going to suggest you use it. There’s a brief mention of why I don’t like it in one of those posts I linked you to before.

There is some recent push to use “non-asexual” instead of allosexual. I really don’t like that, because it is othering, and it is pretty much the only term that was conclusively rejected by everyone involved in developing this language the first time around. I can’t remember if I dove into the specifics of why I despise “non-asexual” in any of those posts, but I think I did. If I didn’t, I know I have somewhere.

It’s about gotten to the point where I’m ready to bring back OTJs (orange twizzled jumpers, an option posed last time out of sheer frustration - as in “we’ll call you whatever you want, hell, we’ll call you orange twizzled jumpers if that’s what you want, just give us something to work with here!”).

And yes. This is the short version of this post.

There’s a lot more swearing and frustration in the long version. There might even be crying, because I am so goddamn exhausted with this debate that we’ve been having for literally the entirety of my life as an out asexual person. And I wasn’t even daring to do more than avidly follow the conversation when it first started, because I was watching adult aces get ripped to shreds and had no idea how I, a baby ace, could survive what they were surviving. I can’t imagine how the aces that were there when this all started are surviving now. (Actually, I can. Most of them have fled, or are refusing to comment, that’s how.)

And that’s why I haven’t written the long version of this post yet.

Edit: I thought, after a couple seconds of cooling down time, I should open this post back up and clarify that I’m in no way upset about you asking this, Anon. I’m not mad at you. I’m absolutely goddamn pissed at the people that bring these same old tired arguments around, and around, and around, and refuse to listen.

Just got back from the listening party…

‘If I Could Fly’ is a fucking tear jerker. They played footage from 2012 and so much Larry. It’s a really emotional song.

'Temporary Fix’ is about a one night stand and Niall blushed the entire time talking about it.

'Hey Angel’ is nothing we expected it to be. Alexa says it sounds like a Coldplay track.

'History’ is a song for the fans. That one is going to be great live.

'Love You Goodbye’ is a song about breaking up and basically fucking them before you leave. Actual lyrics are like, “I know it’s over but can you give it to me one more time”

'Olivia’ is dumb, Harry is dumber lol. He just talks and talks and goes on and on without going anywhere lmao. He said it’s like, not necessarily about a girl it’s like personifying a feeling (paraphrasing, obviously, cause he talks such shit lmao)

'Never Enough’ is that one that leaked and it’s a total jam. 'Wolves’ is weird, but I like it. 'AM’ is a song I’m going to quote forever.

Long story short, the album is fucking amazing. This is the first album that I loved almost every song instantly. They sound amazing and are really going in a different direction - no pun intended. Louis has some NOTES!!!!! Great great notes. The footage was also really fucking sweet and a lot of fetus memories and there was some crying idk if you wanna talk more message me I need to gush

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Carnac! One of the coolest places I went while in France!

So the legend goes that this was a Roman legion that Merlin turned to stone… (But the menhirs actually date back about 6,000 years, so that might not be the most logically sound explanation… Although archaeologists still don’t know exactly what purpose they served.)

I befriended the security guard at work, I think he’s around my age or maybe a few years older, and he’s a really nice person, always friendly, so when I have time I always stop by for a quick chat. On Friday, he told me he was feeling sick - which was strange for him because he never gets sick he told me. 

So, in an effort to be helpful, I said: drink orange juice, or some vitamin C. He was like, no, no I never get sick seriously, and I don’t like orange juice. I said: if you don’t like OJ, drink some tea: add some lemon, jam or honey, and ginger (or at least lemon) and you’ll be good as new after you get some sleep. He said he didn’t like tea. I was like, omg you whinny baby, just drink warm liquids. Eat some garlic if you like that (that’s a Russian remedy). I said: you just need a good boost of vitamins, your immune system needs a boost, and you need liquids because your body needs liquids because it’ll be sweating out the sickness. 

Guess what? He didn’t listen to me. He thought he was going to be fine. He ended up passing out for a day and then got so dehydrated that he could barely move and his roommate had to call an ambulance! He had to spend a day in ER hooked up to IVs. Over a cold!!! And he told me that the nurses and the doctors basically told him the exact same thing I did: vitamin C, or tea, and lots of liquid. And he was like omg I was picturing you while the nurse was talking, I should have listened to you. 

I was like god damn right you should have listened to me. He said: I will from now on, lol. And since he’s still not a hundred percent I told him to keep drinking lots of warm liquids, tea, and try to get vitamin C.

And this is why men need to listen to women when it comes to this stuff, we know what we’re talking about. Or at least listen to Marina, cause even if I don’t know, I’ll find out - cause I’m good like that.