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INFPs: Processing or Emotional Delay?

INFPs are known to be fluffy and very cinnamon roll types. But what many don’t know is that we can be analytical as all get out. Some tread that very fine line that can almost make us come across a T rather than an F type. We are contradictions of course but to say we are guided solely on emotions, is not true, not for many. 

A couple asks prior was questioning that and honestly, I can’t say as it didn’t make me think and totally relate. I do analyze everything. Sometimes is seeps into my emotions and decisions which I know is not a good thing because it can cause me to seem kind of cool towards a subject, or make me take my heart out of a matter. BUT this happens mostly due to stress or just shock of a situatiuon that has been presented to me. Many of times it may make me look like I just don’t care. My biggest thing that gets me is that I will sit there, feel emotions about something, basically want to cry yet know what the logical answer is and say that, then after a few hours or even a few days go by, think about it and have all of the emotions that I really felt come out and hit me HARD. Especially if the issue put on the spot and I am not one to really cry in front of people so I have no choice but to act like the stable one, no matter how much it hurt me.
It takes me that long sometimes and I guess it is more of a defense mechanism than anything. I have always been this way. Sure it makes for a good business mind, but man, does it cause issues and can actually get you pretty stuck. Plus you think to yourself “where was that comeback then?” 

Just a personal observation. INFPs feel like they have to be strong and hold such high morals and values, that sometimes it can be a great thing but other times it can work against us. So the question remains, Processing, Emotional Delay or a little bit of both?

Can Anyone Relate?  

types with a crush

intj - looks at you often, as if studying you, but avoids eye-contact. often ignores you, though not on purpose, and can seem uncaring. very quiet around you.

intp - compliment you, or occasionally say things that are very odd and irrelevant in order to start a conversation. smiles at you in passing.

entj - says things that are deliberately controversial or that they know you don’t agree with in order to start a debate. if they see you they will immediately give you their full attention. often protective over you.

entp - straight out flirts with you. calls you pet names sarcastically. establishes an ‘us against them’ connection with you. teases you, but like entj, often protective over you and will not allow anyone else to.

infj - sits by you and occasionally starts a conversation. laughs at your jokes, and smiles at you when they see you. shy around you.

infp - usually shy, but can talk to you for hours. replies to messages very quickly. can ask you for help with projects or ideas in order to spend more time with you.

enfj - your best friend, always there for you and wants you to be happy whatever the cost. they only get attached to people they know very well.

enfp - invites you to every event. tells you about their plans and ideas, discusses things with you and cares about your opinion. you trust this person a great deal.

istj - avoids you, and denies they like you if asked, though will converse with you for a while before abruptly stopping. they won’t make any advances unless they are sure you like them back.

isfj - always asks for your input and cares about what you say. generally a nice person to everyone, though can be quiet around you.

estj - can seem very cold and uncaring towards most people, but will occasionally laugh at something you say or smile at you before composing themselves. they’re the type to ‘see’ a message but not reply for minutes or even hours, just to keep you waiting.

esfj - jokes around with you and playfully teases you. finds an excuse to hug you like 2746 times a day. you’ve probably been friends for a long time, and everyone you know ships you guys.

istp - asks you about everything, and makes sure you’re okay. the type to send a ‘good morning’ text. cares about how you feel. they want to be sure they like you, so will talk to you a lot about seemingly irrelevant things.

isfp - spontaneous, they will surprise you with compliments and often even gifts. singles you out to chat with. like intj, they will sometimes accidentally ignore your messages or be a bit awkward around you.

estp - they’ll talk to you every so often, but you don’t know them that well. will occasionally do something purposely cheesy, like wink at you. if they accomplish something or are praised, they’ll always make sure you see and try to impress you.

esfp - they make it clear they like you, and aren’t afraid to let you know. they’ll make jokes all the time and try to make you laugh.

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9 May 2017 // 3:30 pm

Took my analytical chemistry final this morning and I’m pretty sure I landed a high B in the class! I also received my special project grade back and I’m really proud of the 94 (A) I made on it. Though, it’s time to settle down and study for my last final on Thursday. After that I’m free and I can get ready for summer!

Day 9/31 of the May Study Challenge
How do you keep yourself motivated to study for a class when the teacher or professor is bad (i.e. mean or doesn’t teach effectively)?

That’s a tough one because personally I just put my headphones in and take notes on whatever the professor writes down. Though for anyone else here are some tips:

  • Ask other students who had the same professor/teacher what they did the stay motivated.
  • Read the assigned textbook chapters to get more information if you feel like lecture didn’t provide enough.
    • Write stars on things the professor didn’t make clear and go back to them!
    • Make extra notes from the textbook if needed or annotate (in a colored pen) your notes with what the textbook said.
  • Form a study group because you’ll probably need more help from outside resources with a poor professor/teacher.
  • Remember a poor professor/teacher doesn’t mean they aren’t a good resource. They just haven’t found the best way to teach the material yet, so go to their office hours and ask questions. 
Why the types are dangerous: ENFP edition
  • They can come up with a vast number of creative and new ideas at the tip of hat, you just have to try to keep up
  • They’re not afraid to tear down or cut people out of their life
  • ENFPs have strong, absolute morals that they don’t want to cross, and if you cross these, say goodbye to your happy ENFP
  • Because of their bubbly personality, people underestimate what analytical and deep thinkers ENFPs are
  • They make unexpected great leaders with their charisma and persuasive charms… or is that subtle manipulation?
  • Because of their vivacious personalities, they can quickly befriend anyone and everyone, even the people you hate
  • ENFPs bring such light into people’s lives, leaving a black hole when they leave 
Bughead in this episode

- Their sweet smiles on the red couch, Betty beaming at him happily when Ronnie calls him her boyfriend. Juggie trying to act cool, but internally proud to be called her boyfriend. Both comfortable with their new found relationship status and not at all awkward at it being discussed publicly.

- Adorable banter at Pop’s, Juggie’s sass shows up again “His name is Moose”, Betty literally snuggling up to him. Betty being very cool when asking him why he didn’t tell her the Serpents beat up Moose - no judgment, no anger, just plain curiosity - you go, girlfriend!

- Juggie playing supportive boyfriend to the hilt at the shower even though its not his “scene” and Betty acknowledging that! This is so so important to a relationship, they don’t take each other for granted, they’re willing to compromise to make the other happy - Juggie is there for her even though he could’ve easily begged off, it wouldn’t have mattered, but he wanted to be there for Betty. He was there because this was important to her. And she noticed that and commented on it! I loved their banter in this scene and Juggie’s sarcasm again when he talks about this being on his bucket list - that was so Juggie! Its great that they can be themselves around each other and not feel the need to change themselves to please the other!

- His worst fears being realized when Archie tells her about his dad being a Serpent. That looks she gives him, he feels pretty sure he’s lost respect in her eyes, that it could be all over for him with her, he’s afraid of what she thinks of his family and him now. That look of shock and complete fear says it all - he’s terrified of losing her!

- He waits. He waits until they’ve all gone and Betty’s sorted things over with her family and made sure Polly has calmed down and gone to bed. He must’ve waited a long time! And to face what? For all he knew, Betty could have come at him angry at the secret he had kept, could have accused him of lying to her, could’ve even broken it all off. But yet he waited. Because he wanted to tell her why. And that is why Bughead wins because of this complete honesty and trust they have between them. They are willing to bare their hearts out to the other, willing to put themselves completely in the others’ power, knowing the risks of doing that could cause them to get hurt, but still trusting the other above anyone else.  

- He opens himself up. He tells her he was ashamed. He immediately accepts he should’ve told her when he had the chance. He thinks it could be over. But he still wants to come clean now. And she deals with it so maturely! No anger, no admonishing, no judgment - just simply - Why didn’t you? And he comes back with a  simple - I was ashamed. See, its so simple when you tell the truth. These kids can teach us more about relationships than experienced adults can! And this is the first serious relationship for both of them! WOW! Its like they wrote the Handbook on successful relationships!

- She wants to know all about him if they’re going to be together. *SCREAMS*. The way she takes his hand and that gesture is meant to be reassuring to him - to trust her, to tell her, to trust that she wouldn’t break at his darkness and that she would stay by his side no matter what. To trust in her strength and the strength of them together. That simple gesture of her taking his hand and saying those words? That sealed something so important between these two. And the relief in Jughead’s “Okay” and the affirmation is Betty’s echo. They are exemplary!!  It may seem like she was asking for too much, and that they’ve been together for only a couple of episodes, but they’ve been friends longer than that! That’s what makes navigating their new status so easy for them!

- That hand on her back, when she suggests talking to his dad, him agreeing immediately, ready to expose all his skeletons to her, lay them bare, because he’s now confident enough in her love for him. They are truly an inspiring couple.

- The meeting with his dad and then her asking him if he believed him. Jughead immediately looking for her opinion after speaking his mind. And this is again so important! He wants to know what she thinks because he respects her and values her thoughts as a rational, intelligent, analytical person. And when she says, “I believe YOU, Jughead”-  My God, I’ve already written paeans about this moment (X), but I don’t think we’re meant to think that she thought FP was shady and she didn’t totally trust him. I think she meant what she said. It didn’t matter what she thought. Jughead believed his dad and that was enough for her. She believed what Jughead believed. And she would support him in that belief. What a defining moment this was for Bughead! 

- The kiss that followed. He is so overwhelmed by her complete trust, her complete faith in him even after he’s exposed all of skeletons to her, she doesn’t judge him, just takes his word for it and completely and totally surrenders to her immense faith in him. What else could he do but kiss her? Words would be inadequate to express how he feels! 

The kiss itself was the most open and passionate we’ve had with them so far. And I could feel the love that was brimming between them, it was spilling over them in that kiss and they were bathed in light, it was almost like they were blessed with a divine love, and in all the shit around them, they are each other’s hope, sanity, anchor, light, reason. 

You know, when Archie said later “Pray for a miracle”, I wanted to say, “We already have one, Archie- in Bughead”

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Can I Create Emotionally Complex Characters if I Don't "Get" People?

Hey there, community.  Recently we received an anon message asking an extremely important question: could they, a person who is terrible at understanding people, still create emotional depth in characters?  The more I thought about it, the more I realized this anon couldn’t be the only person worrying the same thing: is the development of my story dependent on my interpersonal skills?  If I don’t understand people, am I bound to create shallow characters?  With that on my mind, I decided to answer by speaking to you all in article form, since this is a widely-applicable concern.  Anon, I hope this is helpful to you.

I’ll be speaking from the perspective of my own autism and the struggles I sometimes have with empathy.  Bear in mind, followers, that there are many, many reasons people might struggle with interpersonal empathy and that everyone’s experience is vastly different, so take what you will from this and run with it.  I mean to speak to as broad an audience as possible.

Character Development as a Codependent Process

So:  Is it possible to improve your own understanding of people to improve your character development, and does the development of characters depend on this?  Or is characterization a separate process entirely?  The answer to both of those questions is yes.  It is possible to improve interpersonal skills and learn how to understand people; there are a variety of ways to go about it.  Often, you can use your character development as an exercise in teaching yourself how to understand people in real life.  For me, a highly analytical person, that process has involved lots of reading, lots of thinking about why I love the characters I love, lots of character meta from other people talking about the characters they love (thanks, Tumblr), and a lot of long dinner conversations with my writing partner about how our characters respond to the environments we put them in.  You’ll notice that most of those things have highly constructive elements.  For me, the key to deepening my understanding of my characters - and therefore to creating emotional landscapes inside and between them - lies in treating them as complex, 3-D puzzles where every piece affects several other pieces and chain reactions are part of the norm. 

It may seem contradictory, but the more I treat them objectively in terms of cause and effect - in other words, the more I think of them as intricate machines - the more organic my understanding becomes of how they think and feel, and why it matters.

So on one hand: yes, you can improve those skills, and you can even use your craft to help yourself do that.  On the other hand, the mindset of using character development as a tool in that way necessitates a pre-existing mindset that character development, like our anon suggested, is its own process entirely. 

Character Development as an Independent Phenomenon

Here’s what I mean:  I spend a lot of time thinking about character development, psychology and interaction.  I spend a lot of time talking about it.  I’ve learned a lot about how to piece those things together to a) understand what makes my favorite characters tick and b) create realistic human impressions when I write about my own.  In theory, I have emotional connections to those characters and an intimate understanding of how they work.  Yet at the same time, I do not understand people in real life.  I struggle to find empathy for people around me unless they’re already very, very close to me.  My first reaction to other people is usually a negative one - I see only the very shallow, the very obvious, and the very stereotypical assumptions that are often made during flash judgements, and for me that’s usually as far as I get.  That says nothing about my desire to get to know people or to show compassion for them; it just means that in day-to-day life, I don’t really understand them.

Does that affect my ability to create sympathetic, relatable, fascinating characters?  Not really.  The reason is because there is a fundamental difference between the spontaneity of our own human interactions and the scenarios we create for ourselves as we work.  The first environment is real life: unplanned and uncontrolled, with lots of different wills bumping up against one another and no time for analysis.  The second environment is where we hold all the strings.  When we write, we enter a laboratory where every variable can be analyzed, understood, duplicated, altered and controlled by us and only us.  Nothing happens that we don’t authorize.  No character acts outside the bounds of our own understanding.  In short, it’s a safe environment to explore in, and there’s no opposing consciousness to take control from us.  That means replicating human empathy is a far easier, more foolproof, less time-sensitive endeavor.

And Here’s a Reminder:

You will gain points of emotional reference as you go about your life.  Just as you develop an understanding of what types of things affect your characters emotionally, things will come along to affect you.  To illustrate my point, here’s a personal example: six months ago, I learned what it meant to loathe someone so much it made you want to rip out fistfuls of their hair, claw their faces with your fingernails, and throw them out into the snow.  From the same incident, I learned that I am far more easily angered when my friends are hurt than when I myself am hurt, and that my aggressive streak is the most dangerous when it comes to protecting people I love.  Previously, I just thought I was an aggressive, vengeful prick who obsessed over people I didn’t like for far too long.  The more you know, huh?

Most importantly, that incident gave me firsthand knowledge about how those emotions feel.  The next time I sit down to write about an angry character, I know I’ll have new material to draw from.  I’ll have better words to use and a more realistic end goal in mind.  I’ll have an emotional experience I can manipulate to fit the needs and circumstances of whichever character is angry.  And that’s the heart of what character development is, when you get down to it: it’s taking what you know of the human condition and pulling it apart to see what works (or what doesn’t).  And just like we writers are always looking for new ideas, we should be keeping our eyes out for our emotional experiences, as well. 

To summarize:

Yes, improving your empathy towards other people is possible.  It takes practice and exercise, like any muscle, but for most people it is possible.  And yes, it is also possible to experience the emotional development of your characters in a completely independent context.  You can even have both happening at the exact same time, as I tried to illustrate above.  How these processes manifest depends entirely on your experiences as a person and the methods you’ve developed so far as a writer.

Don’t forget, you’re still living.  Experiences will come to you that will shape and deepen your understanding of people.  You still have a lot to live and learn from - we all do.

So good luck to all of you writers out there, especially those of you who, like me, struggle with empathy.  I have every confidence that with time and practice, you’ll come to your own understandings and find ways to think about these ideas that work for you.  Now go out there and get developing!

–Senga

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MBTI AESTHETIC: INTJ (6/16)

One of the rarest and most strategically capable personality types, INTJs are analytical problem-solvers, eager to improve systems and processes with their innovative ideas. They are often perfectionists with extremely high standards of performance for themselves and others and may become cynical and ruthless when these standards are not met. INTJs are not overly demonstrative of their emotions, and are not likely to give much praise or positive support to others. That doesn’t mean that they don’t have affection for others, they simply do not feel the need to express it.

Adventures in Odyssey Characters as Things my older sister has said:

Whit: “Okay kids, stop talking, now.”

Eugene: “Math is enjoyable”

Connie: “Wait a second, you thought you could do this without telling me?”

Bernard: “You’re acting like idiots.”

Wooton: “I’m just going to have one peep right now.” *eats four*

Jason: “I’m an adult.”

Tom: “Excuse you, I still like horses.”

Penny: “I love pancakes.”

Jack: “Anytime you need to talk, come get me.” 

F A N T A S Y . Z O D I A C
 virgo; the oracle // 23 aug - 22 sep

“The word oracle comes from the Latin verb ōrāre “to speak.” In classical antiquity, an oracle was a person or agency considered to provide wise counsel or prophetic predictions or precognition of the future.“

“Virgo’s are inquisitive and are very skilled at drawing information from people. This trait also makes them naturally intuitive. Combine this with their remarkable memories, and we see an advanced, analytical personality.”

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5 Web Technologies You Cannot Ignore in 2014

This is not a post about 5 cutting-edge technologies that may become relevant in 2014. This is a post about 5 technologies that are ready to be applied to your site today. However, not enough people are taking advantage of them and, most importantly, you simply cannot afford to ignore them any longer.

DEEP ANALYTICS - ITS NOT ABOUT THE WHAT BUT THE WHY AND HOW

A lot is being said about Big Data and a lot may sound irrelevant to most organizations. However, Big Data is not just about the volume of data, it is also about the depth and breadth of user behaviour it can provide insight to. Big Data, at its heart, is the process of driving business decisions on the basis of real-world user data collected in the digital world

We cannot assume that users are rational automatons that carefully follow pre-ordained paths through a site. Analytics need to go beyond visitor numbers and page views (what most analytics software focus on unfortunately). Instead, we have to think in terms of goals met, paths followed and the context that surrounds them.

It is not the absolute numbers that count but the ability to connect all the dots from interactions off your site (e.g. social media, marketing campaigns) to specific actions on your site. Subsequently, that data needs to actually reach the people that can act on it. At times this means the people creating content and dealing with the site daily. They cannot waste time trying to sift through reports in order to glean some knowledge.

The decisions you make based on this deeper understanding of your business may be the single most important thing you do in 2014.

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Who does everyone hate blue?

I’ve been seeing messages to @markrosewater about how bad Jace is and @commandtower-solring-go’s posts about how bad blue is, and although I realise it’s a joke, I think it’s a little harsh on people who are blue in personality, and who play that way because it reflects their strengths. I’m a very logical and analytical person, so I play blue because it’s the only thing I’m good at. People seem to think that somehow dominating a game with a control deck is ‘unfair’ while doing the exact same thing with aggro is 'skilful play’. That’s not true. Similarly, with Jace, it’s really unfair how many people hate him. I’m quite skinny and not very good at sports, and that (among many other reasons) was why I got bullied a lot at school. Jace as a character is really important to me, because he is a hero who isn’t physically strong, he uses his cleverness. It really means a lot to me for there to be a character that proves that you can be cool and successful even though they aren’t strong and tough, and that someone like that isn’t just a weirdo nerd. Please stop making fun of blue players and Jace. I know it’s just a joke, but stuff like playing a more controlling deck and liking blue is a reflection of the more logical strengths of people like me, and making fun of that stuff feels uncomfortably similar to my past experiences.

I feel really bad for making this post, and I don’t mean to be a killjoy. I also don’t mind control deck jokes (I find them quite funny), but recently I’ve felt some of them have been more just dissing them instead of just joking Thanks guys!

queen-gryla  asked:

Yo, as an ENTP, I psychoanalyze literally everybody. Tonight I figured out that this one girl isn't trying to gain attention by saying negative things about everything she does—she legitimately believes this stuff. I noticed this by her body language and awkwardness, as well as by noticing her nails while she was making a craft (she bites them). I know this analytical personality-trait is common in ENTPs, but it doesn't seem to be prominent in my ENTP friends. Thoughts?

Other ENTPs do this for sure. Most of our social skills come from sitting back and studying people before we do things to test them and understand them. 

I know, at least for me, it was more obvious that I did this when I was younger. So I’d be quiet and I’d eyeball people or maybe act particularly weird towards certain people. But as I got older, it got easier to figure people out quickly, and I don’t normally speak to people about what I observe. So your other friends probably pick up on things and move on. But if they are ENTP, I can almost 100% assure you that they’re doing an analysis, and it plays an integral role in how they act. This is just how our Ne and Ti work together. 

Focus 1: Creating Space to Grieve

Over the next few days I’m going to be posting focuses for myself. While I’m an emotional person, I’m also very analytical and business oriented, and I think created clear outlines, goals, and focuses will help balance some of my emotions and make my life more manageable.

I need to grieve with intention, carving out time to focus on my loved ones who have passed, as well as other losses that have happened in my life. I live, live, live going out and “keeping busy” which is great and healthy until it becomes a distraction and escape from dealing with hurt and pain. So my focuses, at least until July (when I’ll re-evaluate the frequency):

1. Meditate by the lake twice a week. This means sitting and watching the water, listening to music, listening to a guided meditation, being alone and in my heart space and feeling whatever comes out. Letting it be. No judgement.

2. Setting aside an hour (or longer if I’d like) every other day to read a book relating to grief.

3. Before Father’s Day writing a letter to my dad, and taking it along with a few wild flowers and reading it at his grave.

4. Plan a trip specifically with my dad in mind. The West Coast road trip is still going to happen I just don’t know the time frame. He also loved Starved Rock and Wild Life Prairie Park and Cahokia Mounds and Charles Mound as well as just taking random turns down side roads without a map and finding our way using mile markers (for the record, I hated nature stuff and getting lost so I was not supper supportive or willing to go on these trips as a kid 😆)

These are simple, but I feel like concentrated time set aside will help me with my SUPER intense emotions lately (especially the negative ones like anger, jealousy, and guilt).

Seer of Doom personality

Seers are pretty analytical. They are notoriously studious and can get waaay too in-depth and overthink things. Known for shorting themselves out by thinking too much. Curious as hell.

Doom is about restrictions, systems, sacrifices, and limits.
Doom players are on the pessimistic side. They know the costs of actions and the risks they take.


General
“Rules exist for reasons. Usually stupid reasons, but reasons.”
Probably knows what happens after you die
Definitely knows how to kill a man
“This should work… technically.”
Loves to imagine what happens after the endings of books and movies
Great at decision making, always weighing their options. Maybe not the best at deciding pros, but they always know the cons
Usually reads the fine print

Social
When making relationships they’d want them to last
They’re the cautious friend making sure dumb things don’t happen

Good
Great with knowing and remembering rules
Takes pride in punctuality
Knows when to let things go

Bad
“There is no way we won’t fail”
Worries a bit too much
Can be over meticulous

Seer of Doom powers

anonymous asked:

Kuroo - 21, 26, 37, 47, 48 :D

21.  Turn-ons? Turn-offs?
Although Kuroo likes having a balanced relationship, he finds it incredibly tempting to see their flustered expression whenever he is acting more dominant. Intelligence and a witty personality are certainly traits that do not only get his mind going and the more he gets into an intellectual power play, the more enticed and aroused he feels. At the same time he feels excited when he doesn’t get to win, feeling like this kind of challenge is a factor that could keep his relationship from becoming too much of a routine.
One thing Kuroo truly cannot stand is people who pretend to be someone else just for the sake of being liked by others. He’s also not all too fond of sore losers, thinking that one should take their defeat with their head held up high, instead of angrily rambling about the person that ended up being victorious. 

26.  Do they have any plans for the future? Any contingency plans if things don’t workout?
Although Kuroo wouldn’t deny that having contingency plans was logical and a rather smart move, he is still confident about his abilities. He knows how high he can aim without making it impossible for him to reach his set goals. Kuroo is spontaneous and creative enough to think of one or more possible plans on the spot, capable of adapting to a certain situation. Kuroo thinks that worrying too much about the future is going to take all the fun away from it, feeling like things can change incredibly fast. He knows that it’s impossible to prepare for everything and even if there was a way, he wouldn’t want to take the surprise away from him. 

37.  Are they more analytical or more emotional in their decision-making?
Although Kuroo probably likes to tell himself, that he is an analytical person, basing his decisions on logic rather than emotions, he is still heavily influenced by feelings. He does carry out his actions in a logical manner, masking his true intentions and reasons, and yet, if anyone bothered to analyze the entire situation, they would notice that most of the time there was an emotional reason behind it. In spite of all the distrust people feel towards Kuroo, he does, in fact, want to help others, even if it absolutely has no benefit for him. He helped Tsukishima, because he saw true potential in him, thinking that a little teasing could manipulate him into training with Kuroo and Bokuto. Even though Tsukishima plays for another team and could very well use the things Kuroo taught him against him, he cares about being a positive influence. The same goes for him defending Nohebi after defeating them. Even though their way of playing certainly would give him a reason to care less about what others said about them, he still harbors a deep respect for the team and the way they play. On top of that he has known Daishou for years, probably even enjoying the bickering between him and Nohebi’s captain. 

47.  If they were to fall in love, who (or what) is their ideal?
The ideal for him would be someone he had developed a friendship with, first. Kuroo wants to trust his lover, he wants to be able to rely on them and even more than that, he wants them to depend on him as well. In regards to love, Kuroo is a very giving person, not wanting to be taken advantage of because of that. He either does it right or he doesn’t do it at all. Ideally speaking, he would want to be with someone he felt that special spark with during their first meeting. It wouldn’t have to be love at first sight, not at all, actually. But an instant connection, the feeling that he had known them for years already -  that would be something that would reassure Kuroo to get to know them and put the effort in building a healthy relationship.

48.  How do they express love?
Kuroo is not too overbearing with expressing his love, preferring to go for smaller actions that could easily go unnoticed. He like sharing his food or other things with people he cares about, feeling like it’s an easy way to bond with people. He will put his jacket around his partner without them having to complain about the cold, just as he would make a detour just to get them home safely. He expresses his love with his words, when he’s voicing concern, or when he’s asking them not to give up on something. He expresses love by genuinely being interested in them, honestly wanting to know how their day went or how they slept. At the same time there are moments when he is very open about it, intimate moments only shared between him and the person he loves. Kuroo’s love can be felt through his passion, the fact that he sometimes breaks the kiss to tell them that he loves them, staying close enough to murmur into their mouth.

Using the Unusual; Metaphors and Similes in Creative Writing

while i was getting my bachelor’s in fiction writing, one of the most useful classes i ever took was a poetry class taught by a woman named Mary Leader because she really taught me to examine my prose. poetry, at least in her class, was an excellent way to fully capture the visuals, sounds, and setting of a particular moment in time, which is a skill (i believe) that prose writers can use as well.

but today I’m gonna focus on my particular favorite thing in writing, which is the Unexpected Metaphor or Simile.  (long post, and some really personal takes/analytical perspectives, but i hope this helps some people who want to get more creative with their analogies!)

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anonymous asked:

*curtsies* Dear Duke, what book(s) would you recommended a less emotional more analytical person? Favourite genre is historical fiction and I do enjoy an interesting love story so don't rule them out.

*Curtsies* I might suggest reading some true crime. (Personally I’m also a bit this way and really love getting lost in the details of that kind of thing.) Vince Bugliosi’s Helter Skelter is probably the best TC I’ve read in recent years and let me just tell you, it’s got more detail than you’ll know what to do with but it’s fascinating all the way through. If you’re not so warm to the nonfiction idea that’s totally cool, and what I might suggest is James Michener. He wrote all these big long epic novels that are all about the history of a particular place and they’re definitely something to keep your brain busy. He also, incidentally, wrote one of my favorite kind of epic travelogues of all time, which is called The Drifters. If you’re looking for something rich and detailed but which still follows few enough characters that you can keep track of/get attached to them, I might start there. Another idea in the same vein would be Eleanor Catton’s The Luminaries, which is the kind of book where you have to pay attention to follow all the breadcrumbs. It’s also set against the fascinating backdrop of a New Zealand gold mining town in the 1800s and it’s SO engaging (at least, I thought so). If you like complex, intricate historical fiction that might be right up your alley.