“The wedding is for her not for you” is one of those things that allows for the “ball & chain” trope to persist. It implies that the husband should forfeit any and all feelings about a wedding and essentially just “show up”. Apparently no man is allowed to want a dream wedding and conversely every woman has a dream wedding and their dream cannot be comprised. The fact that such an important moment of union is skewed to be solely about the bride is disturbing to me and sets the stage for resentment. The man spends a lot on the ring only for his only contribution to be financial, its no wonder why that stupid trope persists.
I know a way to get past the whole "one day" thing! Just sleep in Snowdin Inn a few thousand times! I mean, they say you're only in there for, what, 2 minutes?? Surely one could just grind-sleep there for over a day. I wonder if anything would change if you did, considering the emphasis on "a day". I mean, why have so many emphasised dialogues on the Day, and then just throw in the amount of time you stay in the Inn for...?