perfectionality

anonymous asked:

I feel like ever since I've started a studyblr, my perfectionism anxiety has increased so much, that I've been so counter-productive in not only studying - but EVERYTHING I do. This past school year - when I first joined the studyblr community - I expected myself to be in my optimal state of productivity now that I could get motivated to study from pretty studyspo pics of desks and cute notes and stationary. At first it was only supposed to be 'motivation', but I developed a non-realistic & (1)

unnecessary mindset that if my notes didn’t look like these pics from my dashboard, I wasn’t doing it right because these studyblrs were so successful in their academics by studying like this. Eventually my academic goals focused on trying to CREATE the perfect notes - as if I were creating a painting - and NOT actually understanding the content I had to learn. I made my desk space look exactly like a generic studyspo study spot with an endless supply of colorful pens and cute printouts of (2)

calendars hung up on my wall. I spent less time studying there than time spent decorating it. I completely lost my initial motive of doing well in school prior to discovering the studyblr community. I spent less time trying to truly learn the content I had to learn because so much of my time was consumed in trying to dig out this unrealistic goal of perfection from my studying, which sort of leaked into other aspects of my life as well. Of course, I only reached this reflection of this past (3)

year after receiving my final exam marks (which, if you didn’t guess it, was absolutely terrible). It took me so long to realize how toxic the studyspo posts have been to my life, and now I’m spending this summer trying to reverse the mindset I have grown into. I know this message is so long, but I just wanted to give my two cents to anyone out there who may be struggling like I had this past year. I’m not saying that you should completely abandon the studyblr community, because aside from (4)

the aesthetic notes pics, there is extremely helpful study advice and tips here. I’m saying that you shouldn’t let these studyspo posts of ideal studying materials subconsciously allow you to create a toxic mindset that studying ISN’T done right if your stationary or your notes don’t live up to a certain standard. I’ve wasted SO. MUCH. TIME. because of this and I regret it SO much. Studying is about gaining knowledge. Don’t let the studyblr community change that definition. (5)

I feel you, anon. My video this week is actually about this very topic.

Just complaining. Sorry.

Uterine Hell
just got my period. Should’ve known it was coming as I woke up feeling like crap. I cancelled my evening plans and feel awful about that cause I was going to meet up with a cool local burlesque star (Lillian Bustle) but I’m doubled over with cramps.

Fanfic writing (Boosh) woes
This week, I talked with my therapist about why I have two or three complete Boosh stories that I’ve not posted. We’re trying to figure out why. Part of it’s perfectionism. I’ll have to open them up & proof them & face their imperfection. Part of its that I once felt like all the excitement was in bringing the fic to the community–like a gift at a potluck. Now, I feel like… Disconnected. Boosh is an unusual fandom because so much of the fannish energy feels like it’s

directed to the star, rather than

the star being a kind of a conduit/connection/matchmaker between fans (longtime fans may remember the hummus analogy)

It may be because a lot of the fan work in Boosh is visual and gen and is shared with Noel himself for approval, with the other fans often a secondary part of the emotional transaction.

So as a writer with nothing to offer Noel, it feels like I’ve nothing to offer.

How to Fight Perfectionism

1. Delete “ought”, “must” and “should” from your vocabulary.

2. Get rid of all unrealistic goals, and replace them with realistic, achievable goals.

3. Accept and love yourself unconditionally.

4. Recognize that NOBODY is perfect – despite what the media, or other people, say.

5. Love your quirks and value your uniqueness.

6. See mistakes as lessons on the road to success.

7. Notice all the positives, and small accomplishments.

8. Enjoy, and be thankful for, the good things in your life.

The problem is this:
Those of us who are never satisfied with our accomplishments secretly believe nobody will love us unless we’re perfect. We don’t think of our flaws as the glue that binds us to the people we love, but they are.
Grace only sticks to our imperfections. Those who can’t accept their imperfections can’t accept grace either.
—  Don Miller

anonymous asked:

Hey, I was wondering if you (or the followers idk) had any tips for getting past perfectionism. I develop these kickass ideas but I'm scared when I go to write them I won't do them justice, leading to procrastination. Sorry I know this isn't an advice blog, but I feel like this is something you might be able to help with? I hope I'm not bothering you guys.

I did a Google search for you and stole this article from Jeff Goins (as a token of my love for you) without his permission (I am such an asshole) source 

“The other day, I came across an old article I’d written for a magazine a few years ago. It had been some time since I’d finished the project, so I had forgotten what I had written.

I was utterly disgusted.

What was this crap? Who was this verbose, arrogant writer? And why was he over-complicating things? I couldn’t believe it.

But the truth is we all ought to feel this way about our past work. The trick is to not let your perfectionist tendencies hold you back from finishing your work.

The creative rut (and how to get out of it)

Everywhere you look, creative people struggle with liking their own work. This dissatisfaction occurs nearly every time I write something, and, it seems to be typical amongst many creative professionals.

  • Directors struggle to watch their own films.
  • Many artists can’t stand to see their work on display.
  • Public speakers often won’t watch themselves on video or listen to their own recorded voices.

Why is this?

Many creatives are perfectionists. I certainly am. I’ve talked before about overcoming perfectionism but wanted to address the issue specifically from a writer’s perspective.

I’m learning to overcome this impediment to productivity by practicing six disciplines:

  1. Capture ideas. We struggle with perfectionism because we procrastinate. We waste time and feel like our work is never complete. So we get stuck. You can fight this by always having a few ideas in the hopper. Evernote is a great tool that allows you to quickly capture ideas and come back to them.
  2. Practice. Another reason we struggle with perfectionism is because we’re honest. Often, our work just isn’t that good. Gladwell says it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert, so how do we get better at writing? We write — a lot. Not in private, but in public.
  3. Wait to revise. The idea here is to not critique or edit until you’ve produced your first, terrible draft. Write that, step away, and return to it later. Good writing takes time, and instant genius is a myth. Get your first draft over with so you can write the next one.
  4. Ship often. Write every day. This keeps you honest and humble. Shipping means sharing a piece of your work with another human being. A great way to do that is through blogging, but there are other ways. We overcome perfectionism by embracing “good enough” so that we can get to excellence… eventually.
  5. Don’t take yourself too seriously. I need to lighten up more; so do you. Writing should be fun. Don’t waste your gift on a bad attitude; enjoy the message God has given you to say. And say it.
  6. Give yourself grace. You may not be that good at writing yet — so what? Are you going to wait until you’re amazing to share your work? You may never write a single word. Instead, submit to the process and kind to yourself as you go.

It’s about action

Ultimately, this is about moving forward, one small step at a time.

Commit to creating something every day, constantly capturing ideas and avoiding the temptation to edit as you go; don’t take yourself too seriously, and give yourself a break once in awhile.

You’ll get there. So will I. Until then, I hope to see some of your work-in-progress out in the world. And I hope you’ll be gentle with mine.”

[TRANS] KAI - EXO'luXion Photobook Interview

Q: Do you tend to get nervous before standing on stage?

Jongin: When I was younger I really tended to get nervous. Should I call it perfectionism? I really can’t show a performance which is not to my liking to other people. That is why I do not really prefer freestyle [dance]. I am not satisfied with expressing myself through impromptu freestyle. I feel awkward to show other people the things that are not my 100%. During trainee days, I remember that I always got really nervous before evaluation time that I trembled all over my body. Other than this, there are also other times when I felt really nervous. I was trembling during debut showcase and standing on the debut stage. I also trembled on the first Dream Concert, the first time going up on stage for concert. On the first day of our first solo concert, it is not only me but the other members were also nervous. In the waiting room we shouted, took deep breaths, anyway it was chaotic. But then right before we went up on stage, there was a short moment of silence and after that we all smiled. And we started dancing. At some point, we started enjoying the tension before going up on stage. Should I call it thrill? Tension is something that starts from pressure but it includes the feeling of expectancy from standing on the stage to show [performance] for the first time. There is also a thrill of my own image. When the audience see the performance that I myself is satisfied with, what kind of feeling will they have? I enjoy thinking things like that.

Q: Who is the member that you talk with the most in the waiting room?
Jongin: Suho hyung. I tend to talk to Suho hyung about the performance with Suho hyung a lot before the concert. But honestly before going up on stage, rather than talking with other members, there are more times when I check my body condition.

Q: EXO members unanimously praise your performance talent. To be able to feel your sexiness through the various sides of your performance is very impressive. What kind of man do you think as sexy man?
Jongin: I think a man who is covered with sexiness even without taking off [his clothes] is the real sexy man. A man who gives a sexy aura instead of flaunting “I am sexy”.

Q: What do you do when you want to look sexy?
Jongin: When I want to look sexy on stage or when I sing songs with sexy mood, I put emphasis and dance. Or sway my pelvis very hard. Hahaha.

Q: What kind of artist do you want the audience to think of you as, when you stand on the stage?
Jongin: There are a lot of times that I think vaguely about what kind of artist I want to be, but I have never put words into it. Hm, if I have to explain and put it into words, it’s a deep artist. I think it can be expressed as “I want to be an artist that is like a deep ocean whose end is unknown”.

Q: What do you think are the EXO members’ strength?
Jongin: Baekhyun hyung is really fun. I think there are people who feel that Baehyun hyung looks childish because he always says funny things, makes people laugh and is a cheerful person. But hyung’s greed and passion in music are tremendous. He always worries about EXO and the performances. Before he became EXO, he had never learned dance at all and only done singing, but right now the side of him pulling his weight and dancing well is amazing. It would not be possible without Baekhyun hyung’s passion. D.O hyung really sings well. From the EXO [members], I like D.O hyung’s vocal the best. He deliver emotions but I think he was born with it. I think singers, dancers, people who draw, are the type of occupations that express emotions and hyung is really outstanding in that part. I want to take after that part [from him]. Xiumin hyung is kind, cute and simple and honest. It is really cool to see his attitude in doing his best in everything. I also like that he listens to the younger [members] attentively. Hyung really has a lot of strengths in every side of him that it is hard to pick and say, “This strength of Xiumin hyung is the best.” He is a good person. Suho hyung, more than anyone else, thinks of EXO a lot. He thinks about EXO endlessly, and share his thoughts to me endlessly. Sometimes it seems like he thinks about EXO too severely. I really like his acting and on stage the side of him being devoted is amazing. He has a strong sense of responsibility because he is the leader. Chen hyung is really kind. Should I say he is simple? I really like that strength of Chen hyung. I acknowledge that hyung is good in singing and dancing but if I have to choose one thing that I want to take after from Chen hyung is kind heart. Honestly in daily lives, I tend to get misunderstood a lot. Because my skin is tanned, expression is dark and I have dark circles. So there are people who misunderstand me as a cold person and I receive a lot of stress. To the extent that I practice smiling. But Chen hyung always smiles and is very kind, that he gives the people who see him a good feeling. I really want to take after that side of him. The thing that I want to take after from Chanyeol hyung is his greed in composition. I always get jealous of hyung’s ability when he makes a song and play it for us. Someday I hope I can learn how to compose from Chanyeol hyung and make music myself. I am also learning it by myself but it is hard. Sehun is loyal. He always thinks of the members and his loyalty is strong. I think it is a really big asset. Because as much as Sehun keeps his loyalty in his daily lives, it will all come back to him. I always feel thankful towards Lay hyung. I am thankful that he runs the schedules in China himself and still puts effort to do EXO team activities together too, but I am thankful of his presence. The fact of him being with us is something to be thankful for. Not only the side of him doing both singer and actor activities side by side, but also his passion in music is outstanding. I also want to take after of that passion from Lay hyung. Honestly for me I cannot really do things well unless it is something I like or am interested in.

Q: Tell us your thoughts after completing EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion.
Jongin: If we want to say 44 shows are long, they are long, if we want to say they are short, they are short. EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion has finished but honestly I want to do this performance format longer. Because I want to do it better every time. But only if I brush that feeling, I can prepare for the next performance. I think that the regretful feeling that I feel while doing EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion may be nourishment when I get ready for the next stage. I want to show a better performance to the fans, a performance that I myself do not regret and am satisfied with. That is my dream.

Q: In “Baby, Don’t Cry” stage, there was a spotlight stage for you and Sehun, right? You showed off cool dance and water dance. Is there any part where you would like to add more of your idea?
Jongin: I really like composing performance but when the director, Jaewon hyung, suggested the water performance, I really thought it was a cool idea. I considered it a perfect choreography to the extent where there was not any need to think about “it will be good to add something more here”. I simply thought that I had to complete that performance with my style.

Q: What was “my style” that you talk about?
Jongin: I do not put effort to simply just dance well. A “cool” feeling is important but more than that I think delivering the emotion felt in a song is the most important thing. We feel a certain emotion when we listen to the song lyrics with a lot of people. It will be good if I can express the emotion through my dance and the audience can feel more of my emotion while looking at my performance.

Q: Do you mean that you want to make a stage which the audience can “feel” instead of “see”?
Jongin: Yes. I want to make a stage that is shared with the audience, and a stage that is more open. I mean [a stage] that will leave the audience’s interpretation and feeling open. When I express a sad emotion, it is possible for the audience to feel a happy feeling. It is because even if we see the same thing, the emotion one feels is different. Things like this can be some sort of fun when looking at my stage too, can’t it?

Q: But when the audience look at your performance, they think that it is “beautiful” or “sexy”.
Jongin: I like a beautiful and sexy performance as well. But beyond that, I think that emotion clearly exists. For example when I did “Baby, Don’t Cry”, it was the same choreography and movement but I could show different performance according to my emotion on that particular day. One day I expressed a hopeless story, one day a light emotion. Other day I dressed the stage with a good feeling.

Q: Did your emotion change every day when you performed “Baby, Don’t Cry” for 44 times?
Jongin: Yes, it changed every day. Because every day my mood is different. I dance based on the mood at that time, before I go up on stage. Therefore there was a day when I danced while smiling, other day I added some movements. The details were slightly different, there was also a time when I buried my head [in my hands]. I always did a little differently in those 44 performances. That is the kind of performance I seek to do.

Q: The gesture of you sweeping your head while standing up on “Baby, Don’t Cry” last part is very sexy. Did you aim for it?
Jongin: You can see it that way. I aimed to do “Baby, Don’t Cry” last movement perfectly. Haha, but for the rest I did not aim for it. My hair was long and as I did the performance I sweated so I swept my hair a lot.

Q: When you dance, it seems like you season it with ballet feelings. Do you also add ballet movements to “Baby, Don’t Cry” dance?
Jongin: I didn’t insert ballets movement intentionally. But the basis of all dance is ballet and since I was young I have done ballet so naturally in my movements [the ballet feeling] oozes.

Q: What is the most memorable stage in EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion?
Jongin: “El Dorado” is the most memorable. Lyrics and LED sticks, as well as the gold outfit and other things that form “El Dorado” might be very childish if put into text. But the performance was not the least bit childish and very cool [instead]. That was the director’s [Shim Jaewon] strength. For me “El Dorado” performance shows the end of the directing. If we consider it as movies, it can be The Lord of the Rings or Spiderman. If we only think about the story, they might feel like a cartoon but they really are not childish at all, aren’t they?

Q: When do you think you commune with the audience during EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion?
Jongin: Director Shim Jaewon emphasised, “Make eye contact with the audience a lot.” I also agreed with it. During the concert performance, I intended to commune with the audience while looking at them one by one. Different to broadcast performances, at concert performances while communing with the audience the energy is boiling? It’s simply feeling like “You are looking at me too right? I am also looking at you.” I think the real commune is as a singer, boiling up the audience’s energy on stage and communicate together.

Q: During this concert tour, there were times when you felt upset because of the injury. On the other hand, is there a thing that you obtained thanks to the injury?
Jongin: Yes. Before EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion [dot] I injured my leg that I intuitively think “I will not be able to stand on the stage”. It was very hard after that day. Because it was a performance of EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion tour finale that I had waited for, my mental pain was huge too. After EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion Seoul first concert, due to small injury I think I do not have a lot of concerts that I am 100% satisfied with. So I prepared hard to perform a performance that I would be 100% satisfied with in EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion [dot] but in the end I got an injury so I was very dejected. To the extent where I wanted to run away from EXO PLANET #2 The EXO’luXion [dot]. I am very sorry towards the audience and the members. When the concert started, I went up on stage and performed at my part and down after my part was done. It was very awkward and I was embarrassed. When I was up on the stage, I always faced the audience and smiled but below the stage I feel like crying. The thought like “What am I doing right now?” kept whirling in my head, and I was really jealous at the members who danced on stage. Then there were times when I went near to the audience area by lift and communicated with them, in the end I could not hold my tears. The emotions that I supressed, exploded. And at the same time, I received consolation from the audience. From that day, I thought about what kind of performance I could do while sitting on the chair, gradually I got used to the performances that I was given. The lesson that I felt from that time is for me to be satisfied and to show the audience an even better performance, “Let’s take a good care.”

Q: In an interview, you have ever said, “At the time when I do not dance, I gain a lot of things”. If you became the audience and saw EXO’s performance, what would you feel?
Jongin: There was a time when I said, “I also want to see EXO’s concert as an audience.” But because of this injury, I basically have experienced it. There were a lot of feelings that I felt when I looked at EXO stages from below the stage. After looking from outside, at which part the audience went wild, which part I felt lacking, I got to know the strengths and witnesses of EXO stages. I think in the future it will be the foundation of the performances that we will show. Referring to the things I felt, reflecting them on the next concert, I think we will be able to show a better performance and do better.​

Translated by choconini.

But Imagine Lance with Negative Perfectionism

Part 2

-It has been something he struggled with his whole life and sometimes its a real rough time for him when its triggered

-He hates telling people he has it because most people are under the impression that perfectionism is a good thing and he hates trying to explain that’s not the case

-Whenever he doesn’t meet his personal above average standards he sets for himself, Lance just lashes out.

-This is the beginning of his rivalry with Keith because he struggles with accepting that Keith is a better pilot and living under the illusion that their neck-in-neck keeps him from crashing mentally.

-Hunk knows because he’s witnessed one of Lance’s break downs after class one day when he failed the simulator and Lance was literally pulling his hair out from stress and disappointment in himself

-Hunk actually did research on it after Lance admitted it, and realized how many habits he had once seen as annoying was actually symptoms and coping mechanisms

-This is why Lance is constantly hitting on others, because he’s hoping they will return the praise and boost his crippling confidence.

-It’s also why he always smiles, because it’s easier than admitting he’s feeling hopeless or left out.

-He is terrified of telling the other team members because he doesn’t want them to see him as ‘less than perfect’ for having a mental disorder that causes several other issues like depression and OCD tendencies.

-One specific side effect of his perfectionism is his attitude where he doesn’t try hard or procrastinates, because he knows if he works on a particular task he won’t be able to do it the way he wants it done and why bother?

-Hunk can always tell when Lance is really having a hard day and knows all sorts of tricks to help out~because that’s what best friends are for

anonymous asked:

Do you have any information about OCPD and the key differences between OCD and OCPD?

Obsessive–compulsive personality disorder, or OCPD, is a personality disorder where one feels the need to have control, orderliness, perfectionism, and pays excessive attention to details. 

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), on the other hand, is a mental disorder where people feel the need to perform a repetitive behaviour, check something constantly, perform routines or have certain thoughts repeatedly. 

With OCD, behaviors are unwanted and seen as unhealthy, being the product of anxiety-inducing and involuntary thoughts. However, for people with OCPD they are experienced as rational and desirable, and can be a result of a strong adherence to routines or a desire to achieve perfection.

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How beautiful is this scene?? The slanted perspective, the lighting and how it reflects off the (very luxurious but totally tattered) cloak, the arms and overall body language.

Seriously. why did they cut this. Hah… So now I’m doing quick study sketches based on gifs because I love drawing based on something that moves slightly. Helps with the perfectionism.

Also, that cloak. That’s some classic greek statues drapery going on. Cloaks don’t just fall like that. Does Kylo Ren arrange the thing with the Force for maximum effect? 

Imagine Lance with Negative Perfectionism (Round 2)

So more PerfectionismLance! was asked for, and I couldn’t help myself ;)

Part One Here 
(It got kinda long so I added a read more a little ways down sorry)

-The first clue the team gets that there might be something going on with Lance is the excessive amount of comments Lance makes degrading himself. But he always says them in a teasing manner so none of them realized he meant them.

-Sometimes Shiro grows concerned when Lance looks uncharacteristically upset when he’s lecturing the whole team, because it looks like Lance is taking only the criticism out of the talk and not his praises. 

-He’s also worried when he thinks that Lance might be taking the whole talk as if it’s actually directed towards him, and he’s taking it all to heart. 

-But then Lance seems to catch on and he throws out a half-prepared insult blaming Keith, forcing a smile. (One that the team has yet to catch on to except for Hunk)

-The first time Pidge is adamant that something is wrong is when an alien made a comment about Keith’s piloting skills during the rescue when it was Lance who had been backing him up (and if it weren’t for him Keith would have been hit hard) and Lance looked absolutely devastated when he received no praise.  

-Lance often stays up late with Hunk on those days when he’s feeling particularly vulnerable and just rants out everything he’s feeling for hours.Often describing how frustrated he is that he’s mad at himself and he just can’t seem to tell his brain that it’s okay

Keep reading

anonymous asked:

my main writing problem is that im a perfectionist- i hardly ever write anything because i debate every word before i put it down, and get stuck when something doesnt turn out right. i know the solution is to just write without caring whether its good or bad, but i dont know HOW to do that.

Set a timer. Write stream of consciousness for the next five minutes. Do not pick up the pen from the page for more time than it takes to move the tip. Keep going until the timer goes off.

Repeat once daily.

Anon, perfectionism is a beast that is difficult to beat. Defeating it is not always about courage or strength; sometimes it’s just perseverance. Sometimes it’s knowing that five words a day for you is a good day and being content with that. Sometimes it’s forcing yourself via some good old fashioned deadlines. Sometimes it’s taking time to sit back, close your eyes, and think about what you want to write about beforehand. We can come up with some of the most beautiful prose in our minds, but we often miss the opportunity to capture that because it’s while we’re out and about our lives. When we try to put pen to page without taking the time to think before hand, to form sentences in our minds with a deliberate intent at sounding nice, we stare at a blank page wondering what we’ve been doing with our lives all this time. Perhaps thinking about it first will help you find the right words before you try to write them. Or not, who knows.

Reading and broadening our vocabularies is so helpful to being able to play with the sentences we do put down and forming them into something impressive. The backside of this is that we have too many options! We stunt ourselves in our ability to write because we always feel there can be a better word than what we used. We search for it and it eats away at our productivity until we literally have none. Try an exercise where you aren’t allowed to go back and rewrite anything. Do that for twenty minutes a day. You can throw out what you write, but get used to using the words you write down first, knowing that later you can choose to keep, change, or disregard what you’ve written. You have that power.

Consider trying another exercise in thinking where you are only allowed to change something in the last five words, and only once, and you only get 10 seconds to decide on that change. Perfectionism isn’t something that goes away in an instant, Anon. It takes an active pursuit to defeat it. Willpower is the only thing that will do it. I know telling you that eventually you just have to find a way to push past it, knowing that editing is there for a reason, to make your prose better later isn’t necessarily going to help you, Anon, but it’s about all that’s good in the battle against perfectionism. Good luck! -Pear

ok so i haven’t drawn in approximately two years because a metric shit ton of mh issues got in the way (obsessive compulsive perfectionism anyone?) and i sat down to draw properly this evening (haven’t even been able to finish the outline tho) and i’m not sure whether to feel proud that i just managed to produce something that resembles the subject or whether to go into a spiral of self loathing because i’m not a source of artistic godliness and i never finish anything :). anyway this drawing here is the beginning of what was going to be my lil vulcan babe, but i’m not sure i have the guts to continue it 😶 it feels inexplicably bad somehow. (also it’s a bad quality photo sorry). aaaaah. i used to use drawings to express feelings and send messages like love & appreciation but now it has become just a neurotic spiral of “this will be terrible”. very frustrating! can anyone relate?

anonymous asked:

This might sound pretentious, but I love being an INTJ. I don't think there is anything wrong with the other types because each type has pros and cons and good traits and bad traits but if we were able to choose a type before birth then I'd definitely choose INTJ. 100% pal

INFJ admin: Fuck yeah INTJ positivity. INTJ is not a bad type to be– they get a bad rep which is probably the suckiest thing you have to deal with. Also constantly accidentally hurting people when you have good intentions is not the greatest either. But hey you guys are some of the most intelligent types, can come up with the most efficient ways to do things, and make the most loyal friends. You only have to deal with unrelenting perfectionism making you feel like shit all of the time– but hey then at least you have something in common with other Ni-doms.

On the other hand, I hate being an INFJ. Burn me alive.

“There would be no need for love if perfection were possible. Love arises from our imperfection, from our being different and always in need of the forgiveness, encouragement and that missing half of ourselves that we are searching for, as the Greek myth tells us, in order to complete ourselves.”

― Eugene Kennedy

No, you’re not “a little OCD” about x, y, or z.

Today when I was teaching my adult swim class, one of the women said she was “a little OCD” about something.

I was really uncomfortable, and uncertain how to respond. I normally always correct people in this situation, but I was teaching a class of adults all older than me, and I already feel awkward being so much younger yet having the position of power. I decided to speak up anyways though.

“So, I don’t think you intended to be harmful, but it’s a really big pet peeve of mine when people who don’t have OCD casually say that they’re ‘OCD’ about something,” to which she quickly responded, “I don’t think I have OCD… at least not about most things.” I was getting the idea she was equating OCD to perfectionism so I clarified, “yanno OCD and perfectionism really aren’t the same thing.” To which she responded, “Are you sure?”

Am I sure? Oh buddy, betcha am I sure.

“Yes, I have a few friends who struggle with OCD and it’s reallyyyyyy not the same thing.” 

I don’t know if I got my point across. I don’t think I offended her. (She’s only a few years older than me, and I am the teacher after-all.) Maybe she’ll go home and read about what OCD really is. 

I did my whole senior project around the misuse of mental illnesses as adjectives like this, and I’m passionate (and easily offended) about this subject. OCD is not perfectionism. Anorexia is not just being skinny. Depression is not just being sad. Bipolar is not inconsistency. Etc. etc. Ugh I hate ignorance, however I know the way to approach it is not to get offended or mad but to calmly educate (which is a lot easier when I’m not already getting paid to educate someone on something else). 

Anyways, this is a babbly, pointless post.