perfectionalism

anonymous asked:

Do you have any suggestions to conquer wrtier's block?

I feel like writer’s block is caused by a sense of perfectionism. We always want to be perfect and when we struggle with writing, we get the sense that we’re not perfect and that’s why we get writer’s block.

  • Go for a walk, clear your head.
  • Eliminate all distractions; put your phone away, get off of Tumblr
  • Read a book or read someone else’s writing to inspire you.
  • Listen to motivational music. (this is my personal favourite it just makes me feel like i’m powerful)
  • Write down all of your ideas that you have whether you’re going to use them or not, write them down
  • Find something you want to write about (whether it be original fiction, non fiction, fanfiction etc)
  • Plan out your character/s (here is a blog with lots of planning sheets)
  • You can conquer writer’s block by writing. You cannot overcome it if you’re sitting about doing nothing, by writing you can overcome it. Write about anything, it doesn’t matter if it’s good or if you feel uninspired, if you start writing then you will continue to write.

You can do it. Just write, honestly, it doesn’t have to be good or descriptive; just write and slowly, you’ll get back into the swing of things. Push through. xxx

anonymous asked:

About the zodiac signs. What do you think of the boys and compatible and on their own?

They both fit their signs a lot. Like a lot. And many of the ways in which Virgos and Geminis are supposed to match in theory fit Troye and Connor perfectly, which is adorable. Virgos are very structured and get worried whenever they have to break from their comfortable little schedule, but Geminis coax them out of it and teach them to live in the moment more. Conversely, Virgos teach Geminis to care more about perfectionism instead of being half-assed about everything. Both Virgos and Geminis are really intellectual too so they enjoy talking about deep philosophical subjects together. There are a few passages in this book I have that descibe them so well. I kind of love it.

Astrology is so much fun to dabble with, there’s this dumb idea that it’s made up to scam people but it has a huge history and it’s so interesting as a personality theory.

things the signs remind me of
  • aries:manhunt in the dark, sloppy first kisses, music so loud that it makes you see colors, long hair, roller coasters, extroversion, walks on the beach in winter, putting on a pair of glasses and seeing clearly for the first time
  • taurus:introversion, plucking pieces of grass out of the ground, noticing everything around you, painfully intricate doodles, believing wholeheartedly in the fortune inside a cookie, cynicism and distrust, feeling misunderstood
  • gemini:kite flying, rainbow striped tee shirts, falling off your bike and skinning your knees, fancy seafood restaurants, red-eye over sea flights, perfectionism, putting pressure on yourself and others, putting trust in the wrong people
  • cancer:denying compliments, tan lines, sour ice creams from ice cream trucks, popsicle-stained lips, cutting off all of your hair in one clean swoop, peer pressure, trying hard to take convincing “candid” photographs
  • leo:two very separate ends of a spectrum, narcissism, bright colors, controversiality, prank phone calls, pastel colors on designer clothes, country clubs, mountain dew, falling in love with everyone from strangers to your best friend
  • virgo:dust, popularity, foreign accents, light-colored hair, quaint beach towns, party animals, surprising someone with outgoingness, toned muscles, fierce opinions, protectiveness, strange addictions to strange movies
  • libra:honesty, keeping in touch with old friends despite the distance between you, telling ghost stories at sleepovers, adopting stray neighborhood kitties, untameable curly hair, retelling childhood memories and making new ties
  • scorpio:blue backpacks, puns and bad humor, making loud and spontaneous noises, making up catchphrases that you consider hilarious and no one else does, working tirelessly on school, trying to live up to high expectations
  • sagittarius:red and gold sharpie, suggestive smirks, early evening in winter when it’s already dark, mosquitoes, jokes and hilarious puns, self-deprecating humor, being hesitant and afraid of hurting others, bright sunlight
  • capricorn:combat boots and camouflage, perfect contouring and sparkling cheekbones, impeccable appearances, fishnet stockings, high-pitched, nervous laughs, expecting better grades than you get
  • aquarius:designer clothing, good fashion sense, wanting to live near the coast, body image issues, exotic eyes, jean jackets and old-fashioned bookshops, great conversation with friends over tea or coffee
  • pisces:small, white fluffy animals, making bitchy humor but feeling terrible if anyone takes it too seriously, forbidden love, close knit families and circles of friends, summer days spent doing nothing at all, brown eyes

ok people are theorizing Rainbow Quartz has two sets of eyes because Rose and Pearl come from very different places of mind.

but consider this: Pearl and Amethyst, from what we’ve learn so far, have quite a similar view of themselves (low self esteem; measure themselves by how people they value see them; constant need for reassurance from outside factors). however, each has a different way of handling (and hiding) the same issues (Pearl’s perfectionism and high strung attitude; Amethyst’s laid back ‘i don’t care what you think’ facade).

they think alike but act differently upon it.

Opal has one set of eyes and two sets of arms.

Tracee Ellis Ross Says: It’s Okay to Be Your Worst Self

“My standard of perfection often paralyzes me, or makes me terrified, or makes me feel ashamed. Instead, if I can make space for the idea that the goal is not to be perfect, but the goal is to be me, then I get to revel in the mixed bag of what it is to be a human. Some moments are good, some are bad. Some days are good, some days are bad.

We live in a culture where people are constantly telling us how to get what we want, and within that message is, “You need to be something other than you are”. So my antidote to that has been, “What if the goal is not to get what I want, but to discover who I am, be who I am, and accept that”? Because strangely, that takes courage!

As I get older, the more I stay focused on the acceptance of myself and others, and choose compassion over judgment, and curiosity over fear.”

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So…I’m shitting some bricks posting this which is ironic because I DID A SIMPLE COMIC ABOUT MY PERFECTIONISM RECENTLY AND HOW HARD IT MAKES DOING ART as an experience. And now I’m stressing about sharing it but I’m going to because I feel like I need to because maybe other people can relate/reflect on this too.

I chose a deliberately simplistic style so that I wouldn’t anxiety this, and also because I feel like my perfectionism must have began when I was a child, so I must have had a child’s eyes….

I m p e r f e c t // Why is it hard to love people? Because we are all sinful. We’re selfish and prideful and we have mess. We do annoying and mean things. Yet, we have the opprotunity to choose love and grace regardless. Yes, when we love, our love for each other will always be imperfect- but it’s perfected by knowing perfect love. I am imperfect & yet I am loved perfectly. It’s the wonder of grace, and I’m growing in it. Listen: You don’t have to be better to be loved. You are loved at your worst; the ugliest it’s gotten, the lowest you’ve gone, the biggest bad choices…the Father was there loving you as His. Being a Christian is not about being perfect. It’s about admitting you aren’t, and looking to the Only one who is. It’s recognizing that you need a Savior- and seeing that Christ alone is the only one who can take our mess and make a masterpiece. We do not have to be perfect, because all we are is not by our effort or righteousness. We could never obtain it, no person can be sinless or perfect. I’m imperfect; and when God looks at me, He sees Christ’s perfection, because I am in Him and He is in me. That’s one of the beauties of the gospel. Christ makes us who we could never be apart from Him, but all we were created to be as His own. God is not looking for our perfection, He’s offering us His. We live from that grace, because everything we’ve received is because of it. Trust in the work He is doing in you. Grace perfecting love.

When’s the last time you stepped into the Light? Faced all the worries, troubles, regrets, bitterness, rage, jealousy, perfectionism, insecurity, pain, pride, and just taken it to the Lord, surrendered your attempts at control, and today just let your whole being say “Christ is enough. I praise and I will obey the One who gave me life, who loves me wholly, who calls me to live wholly surrendered & obedient to Him”? He who names you beloved & gives grace deeper than the farthest reaches of the ocean or the longest roots of the oldest tree, more abundantly than every mistake you have or will ever make. You are loved, let it seap into your heart. His grace will transform you, His strength will renew your bones, His sacrifice completely frees you to true life, life in Him, His call leads you. Let Christ be the One who you rest in, He is the only satisfaction, & in Him you will find real joy, real peace.

anonymous asked:

Miranda Lawson is your favorite mass effect character? pls elaborate

Good GOD yes she is. I love so many characters from the Mass Effect universe (Kaidan is a SUPER close second, Ashley Williams, Doctor Chakwas, Eve…) but Miranda Lawson takes the cake.

In her thirty years, woman has seen and lived through some majorly fucked up shit, and she still comes out of all of it with heart and a general belief in goodness. She’s pragmatic, but not cynical. She protects herself, sometimes to her own detriment, but she grows out of her shell over the course of ME2.

She’s hyper-focused on perfectionism, but not because she wants to be perfect. All her life she’s been told she is, but she genuinely does not see herself that way. It’s all words in her ears of what she feels she has to live up to, so much that she develops an inferiority complex about herself as a person while still recognizing that she’s more capable than most. It’s such a clash in beliefs - because she knows she has worth, yet at the same time, she feels unworthy. She fights for everything she has because she feels she needs to earn it.

It can’t be easy knowing you were a test-tube baby grown for your perfection.

BioWare really missed a chance at a great character study with her relationship towards Grunt in the second game. There are a lot of parallels that would have been amazing to explore, because they’re very different people yet their origins are the same: bred for an ideal. Or rather, grown.

A lot of people dismiss her as a ‘cold bitch’ which is frankly horse poop because a man in her position would probably be praised. She’s logical, and does what needs to be done - sometimes ruthlessly so. 

I love love love that she stands up to TIM, to Cerberus, at the end of ME2, and says they’re done. The organization that she went to bat for, because Cerberus helped her escaped the tyrannical hands of her father - and let her sister have a normal life. She’s loyal, but she’s not blind, and it’s fantastic. A lot of people harp on her for being so loyal to Cerberus in ME2, but looking at what they did for her, and that all of the projects she worked on weren’t the shitty, terrible projects Cerberus was known for, can we really blame her? But over the course of the game, she sees more of the bad side and makes that decision for herself.

Good god, what a decision it is. I think it’s one of the first decisions concerning her life, aside from her running away in the first place, that she really feels like she can own. It’s a defining moment for her character - and it’s a scary ass move. Dropping Cerberus drops their protection of not only her from her father, but her sister as well. Yet she lives on the run and makes it work, because she’s a survivor, and she’s discovering more of her own self worth as she forges her own path. No one in charge of her, no one dictating her every move. No one to report to but herself. 

She’s fearless while still being afraid. She stands up even when it’s hard. She’s spent her whole life running, and by ME3 she’s finally ready to stop. To take control of her life and say no more. To protect not only the people she loves, but the people she’s never met. To fight against the organization that gave her a chance at life because that organization was no longer worthy of her loyalty.

Her story is one of reclaiming agency and discovering the ability to love yourself as you are, not as others perceive you. It’s about how even ‘perfect people’ aren’t perfect, and that imperfections are beautiful.

It would be so easy for Miranda, growing up as she did with Henry Lawson for a father - a man who only cared about his dynasty and isolated Miranda from practically everything, never showing her love or affection, never giving her approval - to have grown up cold and unfeeling. To have been unable to appreciate the meaning of love - but she didn’t. Her perceived coldness is a defense mechanism, undoubtedly because Henry Lawson rejected her own displays of affection towards him as a child. But she is far from cold.

Miranda is so warm inside, she’s burning. She burns like a blue star, bright and hot - but all people see is the blue, and blue is cold.

I must learn to love the fool in me–the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also harbor and who would rob me of my human aliveness, humility, and dignity but for my Fool.
—  Theodore Isaac Rubin