I have really bad acne, and I hate photos because of it. Seeing how beautiful you look and how little I notice your acne helps me have a lot more confidence in myself. I always pretend to be confident, but it's nice to be pretending a little less.
Oh bb!! I know it’s very difficult - believe me, I know - but please try and remember that you are a perfect lily flower, acne or no acne.
Here is a photo of me without any makeup on (the sun is saying goodnight and so the lighting is terrible, I apol - it makes my skin look a lot better than it actually is):
I’m actually just coming out of quite a bad flare up (at last) so it’s nowhere near as red as it was; it practically glowed in the dark a few days ago. Now, I can no longer read a book by the softly glowing red of my acne, but it’s still very bumpy and painful. It’s also clearing up somewhat from my chest and shoulder area, so that’s a relief.
And I am not a huge fan of it. I will be very upfront about that. I hate the fact that people are always quick to assume that I never wash my face, even though I am very careful about sticking to a skincare regime and never, ever leave any makeup on for longer than a few hours. I hate the fact that whenever anyone sees me without makeup, they’ll always say things like “have you tried tea tree oil?”, “have you heard about witch hazel?”, “maybe light a candle and pray to your deity of choice?”. Friend, I am 23. If it’s out there, I’ve tried it. Freederm, tetracycline, two kinds of contraceptive pill, zinc supplements, zinc topical treatments, erythromycin - even Accutane (isotretinoin), after forking out to see a private dermatologist. I have tried it all. That I still have acne is not down to a lack of effort on my part, I assure you.
But friend, you and I are not alone! Acne is a lot more common than we think.
Fun facts about acne:
80% of acne is genetic
the most common environmental cause of acne is androgens, ie hormones that control the development of male characteristics that nearly all of us (excluding some intersex individuals) produce and respond to during puberty - nothing to do with hygiene or diet (I repeat, nothing to do with hygiene or diet)
it affects 80-90% of teenagers (teenage followers, you have nothing to worry about if your skin is not exactly clear - you are the radical norm!)
it affects 50% of people between 20-30 years old (high five, and hang in there if you’re still suffering from it)
it affects 4% of people over 40
Unfortunately, my dad suffered from it until he was around 45, so I probably have about another 22 years to suffer through. I’m not happy about it. I get really bad skin envy. I am absolutely guilty of looking at the Instagram accounts of MUAs who Photoshop their skin to absolutely flawless levels of improbability, and even though I know it’s all computer wizardry, I get envious. When my friends complain that they have a zit coming up, I have to clench my fists and resist pointing out that I have approximately 20 on my jawline at any one time.
And yes, I’m also absolutely guilty of hiding it. I wear three layers of foundation (all dermatologically safe and proven not to cause acne) and, although I have never smoothed my skin in a photograph, I make sure that the lighting is such that it naturally hides all the imperfections. I probably contribute to the very lie that I hate - that we all have to have perfect skin.
Well, my precious anon, we don’t. You don’t. You are A+ fab and flawless with acne. They are just beauty spots, OK? There’s nothing to hide, not really. It’s such a common condition. I don’t know how old you are, but the chances are that at least half the people your age have suffered with it recently. You probably just didn’t know about it, because they were ashamed of it and they hid it. And that’s the self-perpetuating lie, really. That we all feel like we’re alone in it, because it’s such a shameful thing to suffer from - because it’s disgusting, or something that we should cover up - and so we hide it, and deny other people the ability to see that they’re not alone in suffering from it. It’s such a common condition, but it’s very seldom seen, because we don’t want to let people see.
I think I will have a little go at heeding my own advice and stop automatically taking photos which hide my acne and discarding the ones that don’t, and I’ll see how I get on. It would be hypocritical of me to preach all this and not practice it.
Here is the NHS’s recommended acne treatment options, and here is the list of causes, just in case anyone tries to throw the old ‘wash your face!!!’ gem at you.
Hey! I'm really curious, are Slavic languages really so difficult to learn for native English speakers? Or, what's the most difficult thing about Slavic languages?
Slavic languages are great to learn! But of course they are hard (or easy!) for anyone to learn. It all depends on what you’re used to, exposed to, good with, etc.
For a native English speaker, the most difficult things about Slavic languages would be the case systems and verb aspect.
With a case system, nouns/adjectives/pronouns/etc “decline” depending on what function they have in the sentence. Take this Polish sentence:
I talk with my brother - Mówię z moim bratem My brother is tall - Mój brat jest wysoki
In both cases, the word for my and brother changes depending on what function each word has. One is the instrumental case, and one is the subject (nominative).
Verb aspect is also hard for native English speakers, because verbs come in two “flavors”. One verb is imperfective, and the other is perfective.
Imperfective verbs denote continuity, repetition, actions that are incomplete, habitual actions, etc. On the other hand perfective verbs are verbs in which the action has been completed, finished, not repeated, finite, have a definite start and end.
Russian verb “to eat” can be translated as - есть or съесть/поесть. They can all be translated to “to eat” but each one has a different meaning. The first verb is imperfective. You would use this word for the present tense (you can only use an imperfective verb in the present), or in the future and past to mean that you perhaps didn’t finish what you were eating, it’s normal for you to eat it (as in often), etc. The other two verbs are perfective, so you can’t use them in the present tense. Using these verbs would mean that when you eat, you will finish all of it, there will be none left, it will be a one time thing, etc.
Other than that, Slavic languages are great! There are relatively few tenses, you can tell the gender of a word 90% of the time, and the overall word structure is easier too. Definitely try to learn one! Russian will have the most plentiful resources, but go with whichever language you want to learn!
Also - if you’re going for a Slavic language without cases, Bulgarian and Macedonian don’t have a case system!