October 10 is World Mental Health Day, so let’s talk about how we can end the stigma surrounding mental health 🌱
Start a dialogue about your own experiences 💖 Mental Health is still stigmatized and that can make it difficult to talk about openly, but the more we talk, the more we help to normalize the discussion. But it’s not just about helping the world see Mental Health differently, but about your perception too; talking about your problems can help you work through them, and see them in a more realistic light, and it helps the people around you understand your needs.
Challenge incorrect information 💖 If you see someone spreading incorrect information about mental health, be brave and step in. Remind people that mental illnesses are disorders of the brain, and are usually due to chemical imbalances, in the same way that disorders of other organs might be due to a vitamin deficiency, or the body not being able to produce the right amount of hormones.
Ask others about their experiences 💖 Encourage others to talk about their own mental health issues, if they feel comfortable doing so.
Provide a judgement-free environment 💖 Sometimes people just need to vent, rather than have a discussion, and as well-meaning as you might be you need to respect that. Ask if they’d like to discuss their issues or if they’d just like to vent and be given a sympathetic shoulder to lean on. Mental Illness can make us hyper sensitive to perceived criticism, and feel unable to open up. Create a judgement-free environment by giving them your full attention, and by allowing people to talk at their own pace, without interruption.
Ask what they need, don’t assume 💖 What we need and what someone else needs might be two different things, so ask and listen to what someone says when they talk about their needs. It might be tempting to think “they’re just being lazy” or “if I give them a push they’ll get there eventually”, but respecting their wishes is not just about whether or not they know best. Ask them if they need their boundaries pushed, or if today is a good day to try. There will be days where they are more open to pushing their boundaries. If you force them too early you may deter them from trying again, and it may hurt their trust in you.
Check in 💖 Now’s a good time to check up on the people around you. Don’t just say hello, ask how they are feeling; specifically how they feel mental-health wise. It becomes a habit to say “I’m fine”, even when you’re not, and mental illness makes it harder to be forthcoming with how we feel. Give them the option to say “well, now that you mention it…” instead of the usual small talk.
Check up 💖 Have you been ignoring your own mental health needs? Procrastinating on getting proper professional help? Now’s a good time to make an appointment with your GP for a check up!
Check yourself 💖 Even the most open-minded of us need to keep our own privilege and bias in-check. If you hear someone talk about an issue or symptom they face that you think might be exaggerated, made-up, or their own fault, consider that your own bias, privilege, or lack of understanding may be clouding your judgement. Everyone’s experiences are different, so try to remember not to compare. Have a judgement-free discussion, give advice or offer alternatives, but in the end: trust THEIR judgement of THEIR situation.
So my husband is taking a shit, and he has one of those moments. When you roll a natural 20 on perception, but there’s nothing to perceive. So instead, god burdens you with some kind of awful, terrible observation.
He stumbles out into the living room, pulling his pants up, and blurts:
“The common theme among these white supremacists is to accuse me of ‘Asian privilege,’” Gu said. “Their arguments were that because I went to Stanford and Duke Medical School, I should be thankful and not complain about systemic racism…”
“It struck me as incredibly racist because I have every right to show solidarity with African-Americans in this country, my fellow Americans, who are subjected to police brutality and injustice…“
“In fact, successful white Americans and Hollywood stars comment about this all the time. Why is it that I, as an Asian-American, cannot comment on prevailing social and racial issues affecting America today? Do I have no voice?” Gu added.
Perfect case study of how the model minority myth/perceived whiteness of East Asians is used to damage antiracist efforts
one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have.
no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation.
no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying.
no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.
no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.
a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age.
Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse.
I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships.
The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery.
I exist. Outside of being your mother, your wife, your sister, your daughter, I exist. I exist as a human first, as a being that experiences joy and suffering, beauty and learning, life and tragedy. I exist because the universe chose to put me here for a purpose higher than my relation to men. I exist because the stars died to give me life and planet blood runs through my veins. So the problem is not my existence. The problem is how you perceive it as so small, you do not believe I can exist at all apart from my bonds with men.
Nikita Gill, From “The Moon Dragon and Other Feminist Fairytales”
Guys.. this chapter made me realize something while talking with @aoimikans
Izuku isn’t going to become the Symbol of Peace. That will always be who All Might was.
When Sir Nighteye tried to look into the future, hoping he saw the boys and Eri escaping and surviving, he saw nothing.
Which possibly means he passed out, he can’t see a changing future, (Edit: or Chisaki dies - not by Izuku’s hand but by his own quirk), or Chisaki pricked him with the bullets he picked up.
But I feel that’s less likely since he wouldn’t want to waste them on who he perceived was a dying man.
But more importantly, what we immediately get as a reply to this blank future is this:
The kid who was Quirkless, whose actions led to him earning a Quirk. The kid who gave back All Might’s will to live. The kid that changed the meaning of Deku. The kid who has helped and changed his classmates for the better.
Izuku is an agent of change. He won’t be the Symbol of Peace.
Dear Heathers Hamilton, Be More Chill Inktober Prompts! (read under the cut for specifications)
i made these for myself but please feel free to use them and dont forget to tag your artwork so i can share it! :)
1. Okay, so we’re doing this The first musical you’ve heard from the ones listed (aka the one that started it all) 2. How lucky we are to eb alive right now Different time period AU 3. …And Heather Draw characters that are not heathers as a heather! 4. Its from Japaaaaan! Draw a character who isnt from BMC with a SQUIP 5.-I am not the one who the story’s about… Supporting characters appreciation day 6. It changed the meaning, did you intend this? Swap the plots of two different musicals! 7. A place where the grass is greener.. Favorite AU 8. Have you read this?! Favorite fanfic/fanfic scene 9. This way too good for a school play! Favorite scene from one of the musicals 10. How they perceive you… Headcanon day! 11. You are my favorite person <3 Fandom Artist appreciation day 12. Upgrade! Redraw your favorite panel from an animatic! 13. Your words flooded my senses.. Draw something that represents your favorite lyric 14. Sept Huit Neuf.. Angst. Just. Angst. 15. You will be found Mental Health awareness day 16. Our love is god draw your OTP(s) 17. But not beacuse we’re gay! draw your BROTP(s) 18. I know this can be beautiful Fix THAT part from a musical, you know which one. 19. A million words apart Draw your crackship (An unpopular/not famous in the fandom ship) 20. My name is Alexander Hamilton Hamilton AU (Or just revolutionary/old era AU) 21. No one deserves to be forgotten Understudy/not OBC appreciation day 22. Who- Who are you? Crossover day 23. A guy i’d kinda be into Draw your favorite actor 24. If i could tell her Draw your favorite actress 25. You play who you need to play OTP personality/clothes swap 26. …Sacrifice? The character that has sacrificed the most (in your opinion) 27. Maybe prom night? Characters at prom 28. Theres no other half there.. Unrequited/One-sided ship 29. Anyone as trusting or as kind The cinnamon roll 30. Hate the sin, love the sinner the SINnamon roll 31. I’m halloween partying tonight Last day! Draw characters on a halloween party/with costumes/trick or treating :)
aries: can be insensitive and insulting. may hold a grudge and unearth past conflict even after you’ve apologized to each other. they know what is bad for them but do it anyway.
taurus: close minded when it comes to other people’s perspectives. also tend to have a victim complex and may contradict the standards they set for others. (ex. lie when they expect others to be honest)
gemini: quick to lie and manipulate others to reach their goals. if you prevent them from reaching said goal, be prepared to face a totally different person-a cold, spiteful one. they also complain about their problems for ages before they solve them.
cancer: cares too much about how others perceive them. they let their desires slip away because they can be too scared to act on them. sometimes they joke too much when it’s inappropriate for the situation at hand.
leo: they can be pretentious about insignificant things. (ex. want people to know they have THE BEST taste in shoes.) can be too prideful to ask for help and gossip too much.
virgo: another sign that always has to be right. can be critical of others but are mostly hard on themselves. like taurus, they can have a victim complex and refuse to look like the bad guy.
libra: too passive. although they are loving, they may be hesitant to step in and defend their partner for the sake of avoiding drama. though they would be very upset if their partner did the same.
scorpio: overly possessive. can easily become self centered. their head may remind them to be family oriented, but their heart may lead them astray in favor of a love interest. also portray themselves vastly differently infront of those they want to charm.
sagittarius: they care too much about everyone’s opinions. may ignore their morals in the moment in favor of impressing others. (ex. may mock others just to be funny/seek approval.)
capricorn: like leo, they are pretentious. they unironically believe they are the smartest and want you to notice. if you don’t, it’s because you’re too stupid to. care more about wealth than love. probably mansplainers.
aquarius: expect people to read their minds. they can be enamored with you or hate you and act the same way in either case. they either withhold their feelings or release them in intense bursts that others don’t understand.
pisces: may have a hard time separating reality from their idealized world. that’s not to say dreaming is bad, but certain ideas they uphold can be impractical. for example, they may be upset at the idea that not everyone can be friends and not everyone may like them.
pros: quick mind that is full of fun ideas. have a lot of energy and enthusiasm. come across as very energetic and are good at motivating people. straightforward and honest. approach to life and situations is very sincere
cons: their immense energy may throw people off or people may dislike their energy. can be extremely restless, they always have to be moving or doing something. acts on impulse and rushes into things quickly, usually without planning or thinking it through
pros: approaches life and situations with patience and dedication. aren’t afraid of working hard or sticking with something. usually have a good routine in life. have a soothing, graceful presence
cons: are extremely stubborn with opinions/thoughts. are very cautious, and sometimes miss out on opportunities because of that. can be very single minded or focus only on one thing at a time, and hate to be rushed
pros: very friendly and adaptable. can talk to just about anyone, has very friendly vibes that most people are drawn to or will like instantly. has a quick and witty sense of humor. aren’t afraid of change or adapting, and are always willing to learn something new
cons: always wanting action and change. may change to fit someone else’s ideal or to get along with someone better. need a lot of space and freedom. don’t like being told what to do or to follow what everyone else is doing. can have a hard time focusing on one thing at a time
pros: people think they are sweet and adorable. very approachable and have a kind disposition. reads others easily and are good at picking up other’s emotions. feels a lot of emotion and sympathy for the world and others
cons: people think they are younger than they really are. people may not take them seriously. is expressive and can be read easily, especially with emotion. tends to take on others emotions and is extremely sensitive to vibes
pros: radiant and exuberant. lives life in the moment, always wants to have fun and do whatever they want. has a noticeable presence. has a big heart that is full of love and wants to spread joy and entertain others, loves to make others laugh
cons: can be too honest or dramatic, doesn’t ever want to be serious or do anything serious. would rather just have fun all the time. it’s their way or the highway. can be extremely stubborn or set in their ways
pros: polite and humble, is very honest with themselves and always wants to improve. helpful and thoughtful, is always thinking of others and wanting to help them. intellectual and mindful
cons: can be very picky or nitpick a lot, extremely critical, especially critical of themselves. if something goes wrong they start to panic. can be too logical or practical. likely to have a nervous energy
pros: has great manners and social skills. good at getting along with people and making a good impression. sees beauty and good in the world and others, and appreciates it. wants to make the world a kinder place
cons: may be too concerned with material matters or what people think of them, can be caught up in their own world for a while. sees people and the world through rose tinted glasses. can seem superficial
pros: people think they are mysterious and cool. reads people like a book. has a great intuition and judgement of character. has stunning, soul piercing eyes
cons: resting bitch face. people don’t understand them, they may feel like an outsider or that they don’t connect with people easily. might come off strongly or more intimidating than they would like
pros: honest and genuine. love learning and doing new things, wants to experience everything they can. optimistic and enthusiastic, approaches everything in life with a good attitude.
cons: doesn’t like to be held down or put into a box, wants and expects freedom and space. can be flighty or hard to pin down. gets bored with routine easily
pros: has a sarcastic, deadpan kind of humor. self aware and honest with themselves, they really know themselves. senses bullshit from a mile away. hard workers who approach life by working hard for what they want. extremely capable in everything they do
cons: always second guessing themselves and can be insecure of themselves or their work. is very concerned about their image or how they are perceived by others (or sometimes its the opposite and they care too little). puts a lot of responsibility on themselves, can seem really rigid or too serious
pros: sees life as an adventure, always changing and growing. wants to bring change and excitement into the world. sees things with original and unique thoughts, has an amazing and intellectual mind. has cute quirks. very hard to forget
cons: inflexible and stubborn, wants everything done their way and the way they think is best. can be too future oriented, and forget to live in the present. can seem detached or uninterested, or can be hard to pin down and unpredictable
pros: dreamy and imaginative. caring and empathetic, they want to care for the world and others. sees beauty and good in everything, likes to stay positive. has a good eye for art and comes across as very sweet and kind. very creative
cons: idealistic to an extreme. can sometimes forget about the real world and how it works, they like to stay in their bubble. very sensitive to others vibes or emotions, especially negative emotions or criticism. sees things the way they want to see them, not as they are