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12 Steps For Self Care
  1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it
  2. Say exactly what you mean
  3. Don’t be a people pleaser
  4. Trust your instincts 
  5. Never speak bad about yourself
  6. Never give up on your dreams
  7. Don’t be afraid to say “no”
  8. Don’t be afraid to say “yes”
  9. Be KIND to yourself
  10. Let go of what you can’t control
  11. Stay away from drama & negativity
  12. LOVE
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This was meant to be a quick warm up, but it turned into a comic that I’ve wanted to draw for a while. This is something that is extremely important to me, and I appreciate it if you read it.

A while ago, I heard a story that broke my heart. A family went a cat shelter to adopt. The daughter fell in love with a 3-legged cat. The father straight up said “absolutely not”. Because he was missing a leg. That cat was that close to having a family that loved him, but the missing leg held him back. Why?!

Many people have the initial instinct of “nope” when they see an imperfect animal. I get it, but less-adoptable does NOT mean less loveable. 9 out of 10 people will choose a kitten over an adult cat. And those 10% that would get an adult cat often overlook “different” animals.

All I want people to do is be open to the idea of having a “different” pet in their lives. Choose the pet that you fall in love with, but at least give all of them a fair shot at winning your heart.

Don’t dismiss them, they deserve a loving home just as much as any other cat. They still purr, they still love a warm lap, they still play, they still love you. Trust me, next time you are in the market for a new kitty, just go over to that one cat that’s missing an eye and see what he’s all about!

Typical Traits of Moon in the Signs

The sign position of the Moon reveals much about our habits, reactions, and instincts. It shows how we express our emotions and deal with them. Most obvious in our homes or in private, our Moon sign reveals our innermost needs.

ARIES:

  • inherent impatience with getting what they want. 
  • plenty of short-lived but intense desires.
  • enjoy troubles and confrontations


TAURUS:

  • very romantic, their affections are strong, deep, and unwavering 
  • resistant to change
  • ability to protect themselves and their own interests


GEMINI:

  • curious to a fault
  • always have a way with words
  • big on improvement, a million and one projects going


CANCER:

  • a large potential to be able to get in touch with the feelings and moods of others 
  • outstanding memories of the past
  • loony sense of humour

 
LEO:

  • like being the centre of attention 
  • they have a deep need to treat others fairly and justly
  • dramatic in their emotional displays


VIRGO:

  • practised at nagging and complaining
  • need to feel useful, express this by helping others in little ways
  • stiff when it comes to open, gushy displays of affection


LIBRA:

  • can be very attractive to be around, and are often given to flirtatiousness 
  • without someone to share their lives with, they feel utterly incomplete
  • idealistic outlook and constant striving for the best


SCORPIO:

  • deep need for emotional drama 
  • strong fear of betrayal, some will put the people they love through a series of tests
  • they radiate strength, people instinctively lean of them


SAGITTARIUS:

  • need for activity, meeting new people, going out in the world, and travel are all important to their sense of well-being
  • catchy optimism, blind faith
  • lovers of the truth, they make wonderful, inspiring teachers


CAPRICORN:

  • plenty of mood swings and some dark emotions,  easily hide their sensitivity behind a sarcastic manner
  • a desire for clear boundaries and realistic goals
  • selflessly helpful in every situation, but become perplexed if not appreciated


AQUARIUS:

  • rather sociable but loners at heart 
  • seemingly lack compassion, as they often expect others to be as independent and detached as they are
  • feel ununderstood and different while growing up, therefore often shy


PISCES:

  • dreamy and not always in touch with reality 
  • mostly rely on their intuition
  • discerned between sincerity and manipulation
Mercury Signs

Mercury in Aries: You never slow down and you want to jump to conclusions; Your mind is quick as lightning and you have a direct and energetic way of expressing yourself. Although you may be impatient, competitive, irritable and often having difficulty concentrating, you are never boring or tasteless (when people know you). You are ready to dictate your law if necessary. You express yourself in an authoritarian way, and people generally know what you are thinking. (If Mercury is in your twelfth house, you will try to conceal your opinions, but generally without success)

Mercury in Taurus: You are thoughtful, conservative and remarkably sensible. You study the facts, construct carefully an argument, and present it diplomatically. After that, it is very unlikely that you will change your mind. Having made a reasoned decision with the necessary time, you see no reason to change your opinion. You tend to be inflexible, and it’s hard to talk to you, partly because it’s not easy for you to open up new ideas.

Mercury in Gemini: You are intelligent, curious, insightful, playful and playful, expeditious and incredibly clear. Your intellectual speed and intellectual agility are extraordinary. Your mind readily embraces, and you can talk like a mill. But you can also bow to the wind. You are far too adaptable, and you can reason on anything.

Mercury in Cancer: Sensitive and understanding, you are intuitive, thoughtful and available to listen. You can communicate with compassion, and you can absorb information so easily that it seems from time to time that you are a soothsayer. You have an astounding memory. But your moods sometimes flood your discernment and you tend to take your desires for realities.

Mercury in Leo: Theatrical, full of dignity and ambitious, you think creatively, express yourself in a colorful way and you have confidence in your opinions (less so Sun in Cancer). You never lose sight of the whole situation. You are persuasive, eloquent, and your thinking process is organized. You can also be dogmatic and bragging, but unreservedly in your enthusiasm - as often happens with positions of planets in Leo, your heat controls your tendency to brag and prevail over it.

Mercury in Virgo: You are intelligent, subtle, persistent, knowledgeable, astute, analytical and purposeful. Nothing escapes you, and especially not the logical inconsistencies. Idealist who secretly deplores the discrepancy between the state in which things are and the state in which they ought to be, you may be fussy, and exercise the profession of criticism, or of attorney. But you are also a brilliant thinker and a leading talker. Be confident: you have a fine mind.

Mercury in Libra: With your rational thinking and elegant speech, you are looking for a balanced perspective and intuitively understand that the best solution is usually the simplest. Prudent, discreet and endowed with a strong aesthetic sense, you are charming, objective and diplomatic. The opinions of those you respect are of interest to you. But in the secrecy of your mind, your thoughts oscillate from one position to another, you are prey to uncertainty and you will take time to arrive at a reasoned decision.

Mercury in Scorpio: You possess a penetrating and resourceful mind, which is constantly probing the underside of the surface. You never take anything for cash, so you often suffer from suspicion and even paranoia. But you are also analytical, sagacious, able to find all kinds of information. This is an excellent position for a detective, researcher or therapist. Mas it can be dangerous because it also confers a biting spirit and tendency to use words as a weapon.

Mercury in Sagittarius: You have a research intellect and a broad breadth of mind. Reflecting on the big questions, as you love to do, inspires you and gives you greatness in your philosophy of life. You like to speak well, and you are distracting and wise. But you can also be dogmatic, hypocritical and weak when you get into the details, and direct to the point of lacking tact. Your sense of humor saves you.

Mercury in Capricorn: Methodical, realistic and organized, you are a systematic thinker. You do your homework ; You concentrate; You act as an adult. Although you may be conventional, rigid and pessimistic, you try to be impartial and cautious to draw your conclusions, even if this means that you must overcome your prejudices. Thinker applied, you are responsible enough to make sure of what you advance, and you communicate clearly and thoughtfully.

Mercury in Aquarius: Fed with ideas, you possess an inventive spirit, often brilliant. Turning to progress, human and happy when you commit to a cause, you express yourself in a unique way and you have flashes of inspiration that often bring you an excellent understanding of things. You can completely pack yourself up for a social problem or for an abstract theory. But you can also attach yourself to an idea to the point of becoming inflexible, and deny that facts - or people - hinder you.

Mercury in Pisces: Any planet in Pisces brings the triumph of feelings on the facts. You react instinctively to people and situations, often making the right decision without knowing why. You understand how people work. And you adapt easily to changing circumstances. Your mind is receptive, subtle, compassionate and imaginative, but logic is not your forte. On the other hand, you have easy access to your intuition, which is a river of impressions and instincts that flows just below your conscious thoughts.

a guide to stim toys!

trying to decide what stim toy you want? i’m here to help !!

(note: this is based off me n a few others’ experiences)

Fidgets

  • tangle toys
  • fidget cubes
  • spinners
  • bike chains
  • other moving part toys

Pros:
-easy to get your hands on
-typically not expensive
-wide variety

Cons:
-not very discreet

a popular, well-liked type of stim toy! good for keeping focused, self regulation, and they’re pretty fun to play with ! there’s quite a variety of them out there, some may not even be marketed as stim toys (ex: plastic toys from stores).

Chews

  • chew jewelry (necklaces/bracelets)
  • chew toys
  • teether rings

Pros:
-meant for chewing! you won’t break em
-no more chewing on wires/fingernails/etc
-jewelry can be designed nicely to look like regular jewelry

Cons:
-actual chew jewelry/toys are harder to get and can be pricey
-teether rings aren’t discreet

many autistic people never outgrew the instinct/need to put thing in their mouth or chew on things! and some other nd people chew for other reasons! that’s what these are for! plus, they can also help with anger management!
tip: if you don’t want people to see your chew necklace, tuck it under your shirt and chew when you’re alone/no one’s looking!

Squishies

  • stress balls
  • moni moni animals
  • stretchy rubber toys

Pros:
-fairly easy to get
-inexpensive
-stress balls are a “normal office toy” (less chance of judgement)

Cons:
-monis and rubber toys aren’t as discreet

a calming stim! very soothing, good for relieving stress and anxiety. i like to roll my moni moni animal between my hands a lot!

Weighted

  • weighted blankets
  • weighted lap pads
  • weighted stuffed animals

Pros:
-fantastic sensory input
-good for insomnia

Cons:
-harder to get
-pricey
-not discreet

i LOVE weighted stuff!!it’s a great feeling. super calming and soothing. really good for helping you sleep!!

Plushies

  • stuffed animals/plush toys

Pros:
-very easy to get
-varying prices

Cons:
-not discreet
-seen as immature and babyish (unfortunately)

plushies!! super important. super good. soft, huggable, lovable things. many people have them as comfort items!! it’s so good to hug them and pet the fur

Textures

  • bristle brushes
  • spiky toys
  • fur
  • many more

Pros:
-wide variety
-there are good textures in a lot of places!
-spike toys are slightly painful and can leave little indents, which is a good alternative to self harm!

Cons:
-spike toys are harder to get

textures!! we all know n love our textures. my favorite is fur!! sometimes i stim by petting my pets! (my hamster is especially good, she’s so soft!). textures are everywhere and everyone likes different things! but there’s also specific toys/tools that can help! like bristle brushes and spiked things!

Visual

  • stim jars
  • glitter containers
  • fish tanks
  • online videos/gifs

Pros:
-wide variety
-easy to make
-there are a lot of gifs online

Cons:
-no tactile stimulation

popular!! easily found online, and easily made irl! fun things to watch. i especially love to watch fish tanks!

Slime, Sand, and Orbeez

  • slime
  • kinetic sand
  • moon sand
  • sandbox
  • orbeez
  • jelly/gelatin

Pros:
-really fun
-unique textures

Cons:
-a stay-at-home toy
-needs to be kept in a safe dry space
-harder to get
-messy
-fancy slime is expensive

these things are the most popular in stimboards and videos, because they look so cool!! if you make your own, you can do whatever you want with it! they’re all really unique textures and feelings and super fun to play with!
tip: be careful when using borax! it’s toxic

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i hope this helps!! feel free to add on if you have anything!

On Keith and leaving Allura behind

One thing I’ve always wanted to clear up is the ‘Keith is cold-hearted’ thing. I can see how the scene of him being ready to leave Allura behind might come across as such, to quote Hunk: “Keith, that’s cold-hearted even for you.” 

But that is not how things actually are. Let me explain why he acted the way he did back then, because Keith has had just as many emotions about it as everyone else. 

Keith is rational, observant and tends to state stuff exactly as it is, with all facts lied out to make sure that everyone gets the whole picture. (see: how he explained his board in s1e1, how he argues with Lance at the beginning of s1e3 etc.) He has been known to accept critique pretty well - he actively tries to work on his temper (“patience yields focus”) and accepted that Lance’s plan was better than his in s1e7. In turn, however, he expects people to treat him the same way. If there isn’t any evidence to contradict it, he takes things people tell him at face value and accepts them as facts. It is one of the reasons him and Lance clash often, Keith can be found constantly correcting Lance’s statements and Lance doesn’t appreciate that. 

This is coupled with his rational personality. I have no doubt that part of that comes from having been forced to grow up without a family and people to comfort him when he was feeling lost, he has had to deal with reality screwing him over quite a lot of times already. He is extremely cautious and protective of his friends when a possible threat appears (see: how he placed himself in front of the team when Klaizap appeared in s1e2), probably exactly because he knows that when they are gone, they are gone. That happened to his dad, that happened to Shiro. 

And now he thinks the same thing has happened to Allura.

It is not that he doesn’t want to help her - because he does. He really does, he even said so himself. (And he wasn’t lying. We all know that Keith is an absolutely horrible liar.) In his mind, there were four facts battling with one another: 1) I want to save my friend; 2) “the ship that is headed to Zarkon’s central command?” “the place that’s way too dangerous for us to attack?” (a direct quote from an exchange between Hunk and Keith from s1e10. Keith had accepted that information a fact); 3) we are fighting against an enemy we know next to nothing about; and 4) I am responsible for the entire universe and I can only protect it with Voltron, for which Allura technically isn’t essential. 

So he stands there and goes through all the facts. And he comes to the - absolutely logical - conclusion that it is too dangerous to go to Zarkon’s headquarters. He could lose even more friends. He could lose the universe’s only hope. So he does what he always does: suppress his emotions for the greater good. He did that there, he did it when he decided to give up the blade in s2e8.

But then the others turn against him. We can’t see his face when they begin to vehemently protest against his statement-

-but I have no doubt that it would be serious and reflective. The backlash would have made him reconsider the conclusion he had come to. Because that’s what he does when he faces critique: take a step back and reevaluate. Obviously, fact 2) wasn’t quite right. [Also note how open his body language is, he is more than willing to discuss this.] 

And once the execution of their plan starts, which means an actual chance for getting his friend back, he is right at the front of the group again. 

Keith isn’t cold-hearted. Not at all. Does this look like the face of a cold-hearted person to you?

Because that is the face he made when he came to the conclusion that it would be too dangerous to save Allura. He is not happy about it. He genuinely believed that she was already lost and they were about to condemn the universe for a suicide rescue mission. If there is anything he can do to save his friends, he will do it. Like, seriously - he had never seen Zarkon before that episode. For all he knew, Zarkon could be 5ft tall, wield magic and be immortal. But as soon as he saw a normal-sized Galra in armor, Zarkon suddenly became less of an abstract concept and more of something that he has an actual fighting chance against. Look at how his attitude towards him changed in season 2, at the end of it he volunteered to infiltrate Zarkon’s base on his own!  

(Also. He was the one that asked Allura if she was sure that she wanted to come with them: “I’m sorry, princess, did you say ‘we’?!” in s1e10. He was worried for her. There is no way he didn’t want her back.)

Keith constantly watches out for the greater good. It’s what he told Pidge when she wanted to leave to go look for her family - “everyone in the universe has families!” - and what he did when he gave up finding out about his past in the Trials of Marmora. He pushes his own emotions down because he genuinely believes one person’s life and/or comfort isn’t worth putting the entire universe at risk. And that does not equal being cold-hearted.

tl;dr: Keith has had perfectly valid reasons why he hesitated to go on the rescue mission. He wanted her back just as much as everyone else. He is not a cold-hearted asshole.

Lilith - Aspects

Sun: Lilith / Sun aspects are about developing a healthy ego in terms of the input of the natural wild that exists within the body and world around them. They need to learn that trying to control the wild will earn them grief, while supporting and directing it will teach them to work with it and become more whole.

Moon: Lilith / Moon aspects indicate that the emotions are involved in an inner conversation with the uncontrollable natural feminine or wild within them. This could lead to mood swings / being moody if ungrounded or to living on the full spectrum of emotional possibilities available to them if grounded.

Mercury: With these aspects, the mind and thought processes are conversing with the inner wild instinct. These people need to let instinct guide their inner minds and curiosities, and allow their minds to learn to function in unique, non-rigid ways. Deep and analyzing levels of perception / sensory input await those who allow Lilith to inform their minds.

Venus: Lilith / Venus aspects bring the need for a person to learn about relationships, values, resources, and money by twisting instinct. People may look good on paper but if they don’t smell right, forget them!! It’s critical with these aspects to feel in the body what people, activities, opinions, and choices are right.

Mars: Lilith / Mars aspects are about the conscious will and desire of a person being in contact with their inner wild. Mars is pretty instinctive without Lilith, and so the task is to make sure Mars’ reactivity is informed not by knee-jerk or rote but in line with what is best for them going forward. Lilith offers Mars the wisdom of the natural world to go with its get-up-and-go energy.

Jupiter: Lilith / Jupiter aspects give an insatiable, ravenous sexual energy but also a real need for those physical reactions to be tantric. Sex has to bring one in contact with the divine, which is similar to Lilith / Neptune. But where Lilith / Neptune is fantasy forming, yearning, unrequited, and ultimately celibate, Lilith / Jupiter has to be very, very physical. If this aspect is not channeled into sex, then it becomes a very zealous approach to spirituality.

Saturn: Lilith / Saturn aspects indicate that the person’s maturity and structure function needs to be taught by the uncontrolled, instinctive wild of Lilith. Any rigidity that does not serve as a being on all levels must be reworked in order to allow Lilith’s primal wisdom to shine through. Lilith here needs to learn from Saturn that structure and a firm foundation can serve her purposes well.

Uranus: Lilith / Uranus aspects bring into conversation the need to be free and the need to be wild. The originality of Uranus can teach Lilith to leave behind situations that don’t serve her, and Lilith can teach Uranus to get back in the body and not get stuck in the head - too much detachment and objectivity leads to disconnection, after all.

Neptune: Lilith / Neptune aspects show the inner conversation between the surrender function and the inner wild. Connecting to nature is a primary tool for each archetype, and so people with these aspects need to get out and sit on rocks, surround themselves with nature and forms of wildlife. Much information that will help them stay conscious of having / being in a body is available through such activities.

Pluto: Lilith / Pluto aspects are about trying to figure out who gets to be strong and when. Within a person, Pluto needs honesty and truth, and Lilith needs autonomy, equality, and respect. Pluto can learn about honoring the passing and changing rhythms of their natural world while Lilith can learn from Pluto about sticking to guns when conviction and determination are needed. Both are and can be strong if the wild within the person is recognized and honored.

AC / DC: Lilith in aspect to the horizon says that relationships and self-definition carry Lilith’s themes in the person. Others to be played with need to be chosen through a process of opening to and trusting instinct. If they are not, sticky relationship issues can result they may make a person wish they could flee situations that aren’t working. If there is a pattern of this, check with how people are chosen to play with and why.

IC / MC: Lilith in aspect to this angle brings a need to know / honor the wild within the home and work environments. Instinct and inner, visceral wisdom need to come into play when it comes to how work is chosen and approached as well as how family, safety, and security are dealt with. Work and home relationships can stir up Lilith’s themes / issues and people with these aspects need to trust themselves to make the right decisions regarding balancing home and work no matter what.

Nodes: Lilith aspecting the Nodes indicates that developing a healthy relationship with the natural wild within has been an issue in many lives. These people need to shed cultural labels that get affixed to those who live Lilith stories and tap into the truth about humans - we are the extensions of the natural world, we all carry the energy of the uncontrollable wild within us, and we all need to make peace with who we really are.

Chiron: Lilith / Chiron aspects put the person’s energy antenna in a conversation with their need to relate to the natural world as an extension of it. A lot of emotional reactivity can result if the person feels threatened by others. What’s needed is that all possible expressions of humans be allowed in principle and honored, but that the person guides themselves to the right situations and experiences based on trust of instinct and of the body itself.

anonymous asked:

I love Jason, and you love Jason, but do you ever just want to grab his silly motorcycle helmet and scream ITS NOT ABOUT YOU AND YOUR PAIN in his face? Your fics are spectacular and the wonderful in-character writing of them is reminding me of how frustrating he can be, especially when he's being willfully obtuse and spitting things at Bruce that are blatantly hurtful and untrue. (To clarify: I understand when it's early days and everyone is still reeling from trauma, but even recent (part1/2)

comics I’ve read show a lack character growth that after 10 years I find incredibly frustrating) Keep being an amazingly talented human being! (Part2/2)

thank you, i’m glad you like the characterization! :) i think jason’s one of those people who can be absolutely venomous without fully realizing the impact of why. he’s similar to bruce in that respect, except there’s still differences; you poke around at bruce, he’ll disappear on you, but if you mess with jason, he’ll take your hand off, right? it’s part of what makes him interesting. 

and this is an extrapolation, definitely not canon, but i think the reason jason baits bruce in particular is to see that reaction, because if he’s hurt, that means he cares. except the bruce jason came back to is a lot different than the one he knew as a kid, and bruce doesn’t let people read him anymore. so i think, personally, part of it in regards to bruce is because jason’s deliberately baiting him, and the other part is that jason’s first instinct is to bite when threatened. 

  • Willow: From now on, we'll be using codenames. You will address me as "Eagle 1."
  • Willow: Sycamore. Codename: "Been There, Done That."
  • Willow: Juniper is "Currently Doing That."
  • Willow: Birch is "It Happened Once In A Dream."
  • Willow: Elm. Codename: "If I Had To Pick A Dude."
  • Willow: Spark is "Eagle 2."
  • Spark: Oh, thank Arceus.
  • [Later, Professor Oak walks onto a stage]
  • Willow: "I'd Be Lying If I Said I Hadn't Thought About It" is in position.
What Your Sign Has Taught Me
  • Aries: People are forever moving, and just because you're content with being stagnant doesn't mean everyone else is going to be too.
  • Taurus: People are going to do what they want to do at the end of the day. No amount of "warnings" or "Oh but I love yous" are going to stop them.
  • Gemini: Words are more than just words when they are articulated with passion and emotion. Be careful how you use them.
  • Cancer: There is an extremely thin line between a "joke" and blatant mocking and insulting. Sometimes, we cross it without even thinking, and that's simply unhealthy.
  • Leo: You should never apologize for dressing up, or spending money the way you want to, or being happy. If you're not hurting anyone, you should do as you wish.
  • Virgo: Some people just like to complain. It helps to take the edge off. So when they don't have anything to complain about, they might just pull something out of thin air.
  • Libra: As far as your first instincts about people go, you should trust them, at least a bit. Maybe she really is fishy, or maybe he can be a real douche. Just keep it in the back of your mind.
  • Scorpio: Just because someone can hold an intelligent conversation, talk with you all night, and make consistent, beautiful eye contact, doesn't mean they're hopelessly in love with you.
  • Sagittarius: There is still love in "tough love." While it can hurt, it does not create the absence of caring, nor should it.
  • Capricorn: It's okay to look up to others. Sometimes, through admiring another person's qualities, we can learn more about where it is we would like to someday be.
  • Aquarius: Although many people do not change, a change is possible. Sometimes it's just waiting for the right moment to develop.
  • Pisces: Don't confuse an emotional, sensitive person for a good friend or a good lover. Someone can be totally self-pitying and not care one bit how you feel.

i really appreciate that it looks like lance’s emotional side will be explored outside of ‘oh he feels like a third wheel and he’s super flirty’ if u get me??? like, him being able to reassure and comfort people and his very instinct to do so is a character trait that i think defines him a lot, and every time i see it actually explored !!! i get super happy!!! he’s a lot more than a guy whose importance is fanon overdone angst!!!! he’s also just…. a guy who cares!! a guy who’s soft sometimes and isn’t ashamed of that!!! he’s the heart of the team!!!! not a device used to throw around for people’s pleasure !!