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Everyone’s going crazy with the asexual Lysander headcanon because he’s not as open about sexuality as the other guys and stuff but has anyone stopped to think about demi-sexual Lysander???

Everyone in the tag is going full-speed ahead with the Ronan Lynch Hogwarts House debates, so I’m going to throw this at you:

If he was sorted when he was ten (as in, before Niall’s death) like every other student is at Hogwarts, he’d be in Hufflepuff.

If he was sorted as he is now at seventeen, he’d be in Gryffindor.

how do people get 5sos m&g like did people pay for it or is it if you win a contest/ have connections?

Okay, I have been seeing posts saying stuff like “troyler is better” and “why is tronnor a thing” and “tronnor is so much better” etc. and it makes me sad, let people ship who they wanna ship and let people have their own opinion, if you don’t agree with someone’s ship keep that to yourself, please, and honestly this goes to everyone, just in case, not just the tronnor and troyler fandoms

me, roses-fountain, yard-sardonyx and eternal-flame-bb just sat thru the entirety of the last airbender movie and honestly we are all changed people now

anonymous asked:

In one of your posts you mentioned straight "fetishization" of gay people, what do you mean by that and why you you think it happens?

(Disclaimer: I am not an expert, I’m not even a gay person, I’m just trying to form words from experience and hope to god this makes sense and I don’t hurt anyone. If something in this is problematic please correct me.)

I did mention it anon, and I also didn’t put it in quotation marks because it’s not something that is in question or hyperbole. Certain straight people do have a fetish for queer couplings. Whether it’s men watching lesbians act out sex scenes or women writing slash fic of their favourite non-canon-otp. I worked for an erotica company, the biggest writers and consumers of male gay erotica were women, some women even pretended to be gay men so as to infiltrate the rest of the market, and if you don’t see what’s wrong with that then I don’t even know where to begin.

I’m not saying it’s unhealthy or wrong to be aroused or enjoy these things if you primarily identify as hetero (I fully believe that sexuality is fluid and at different times different things can be appreciated more so than others), what I’m saying is the problem arises when you have males who scream about f*ggots and vote against basic human rights with one hand, while jacking off with the other to lesbian porn, and women who call other women d*kes and think gay marriage is wrong, while gleefully indulging in say, Johnlock. (Which comes from a show which imo is problematic in of itself for queer baiting but that’s another topic)

And the problem arises from thinking of other human beings as “lesser” as “things”, as toys that are there for your naughty pleasure and can be put away when you’re done with them. It happens with race, Asian women are “exotic”, black men all have big dicks and white women are either frigid or they’ll do anything to keep a man. Those are stereotypes based on a westernized (primarily male) gaze spanning hundreds of years, reducing other people into appealing abstracts rather than nuanced wholes. Something you can hang on your wall and say “look at how diverse I am with my one piece of tribal art…but of course I also have a Rembrant and Money…I’m not an animal…”

It’s the same with straight people fetishizing gay people. It’s that thrilling little part of your mental collection, of things you can take out and say “but I’m not homophobic, I love reading about X/Z!” 

And that’s just not how it works. People are not things. They are not dolls, you cannot play with them and then put them away. And you most certainly cannot get angry when those people turn round and say “well hey wait a minute…” But inevitably people do, they get angry when their dolls argue back, they get angry when their reality isn’t accepted. And that’s when you know it’s an unhealthy fetish. You see it all the time in fandom tags.

As for why it happens…well speaking as a woman who doesn’t get much from watching lesbian porn despite being a tiny bit curious (mostly because it’s not real lesbian sex, it’s actresses acting out what people think men want to watch and usually culminates in degradation which I could write screeds about if you let me) I can tell you it’s pretty to look at? But to be honest, most mainstream porn makes me consider vows of celibacy and taking up residency in a nunnery. Erotica however…well…you’d think after working in an erotica publishing house my brain would be deadened to that kind of stimulation. But I will happily sit back and read screeds of it, I love reading fluff, I love reading kink, I love reading the stupid things where all the people do is hold hands and watch the other person eat. I love it regardless of gender, binary or otherwise. It’s so much more human, and so much more appealing to me. It makes an emotional connection, which if you’ll allow me one stereotype, I think appeals to women more. I like looking at Chris Hemsworth without his shirt on, but tell me he just rescued some orphans from a burning building, adopted them all and spends his weekends baking and I’ll be in hospital for an ovary transplant quicker than you can say “emotions”.

Which is where the popularity of M/M slash comes in fandom. It’s not just men being sexual because we’re always being told that men are sexual. It’s men being kind, it’s men being vulnerable, loving, dorky…it’s men exposing themselves without the veil of hyper masculinity which has always been a popular trope in “chick lit”. But unfortunately we as a society are so damaged by gender roles that somewhere along the line the idea of a softer side to masculinity became inherently linked to femininity and queerness, which don’t kid yourself, is still seen in a very, very dangerous light by many people. It took until 2015 for the USA to allow gay marriage, and there’s still homophobic assholes frothing at the mouth over it. Imagine that. There’s people out there jacking off left right and center to people like you, but you couldn’t marry the person you loved because of them. How fucked up is that? That’s what it’s like to be an object.

M/M slash is the ultimate expression of male vulnerability for a lot of people, and while some of it can be cute and heartwarming…that’s rarely the case. There’s normally a lot of pain, a lot of shame and degradation, the kind that goes on with cis-hetero porn, the kind that leaves women feeling objectified and used, and a lot of “kill your queers” which I mentioned in my previous post. And considering the media still does that kind of thing, baiting people along with the promise of a queer pairing only to “reset” the “norm” by killing one of them off (I actually edited a piece of trash which eventually got left on the editing floor where a female pairing was destroyed brutally but the epilogue “remedied” it by having her married to a man with three kids and happier than she was with her female lover because she was able to lead a “normal life”, and I just fucking WHAT?!) it’s really not okay. It’s not.

And you can try and defend it by saying you just enjoy the pairing and you think there’s not enough LGBTA representation in the media so you have to make up for it…but if that’s the case, then why is so much of it about pulling people apart? Why aren’t you shipping actual gay characters too, why just the pretty male leads? Why are lesbian female characters demonized in fandom? Why do they have to suffer? Why? Think about it. I’ll wait. 

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Hey guys, so tomorrow is TRB in Dallas & it would be great that for those of us who go on the hashtag on Twitter to report the people who keeping “joking” about jumping, hitting, doing whatever to Namjoon. 

That can also include “jokes” like “ohhh I just saw a fan in the bathroom who told me Namjoon threw Gatorade at her!!!” Anything that seems fake.

We don’t want anything like in NYC to happen ever again. So let’s team up & protect our boys! 

***Also don’t bother trying to fight back with them. It’s not worth your time. 

I just realized how funny this quote is of Church’s: “I can’t believe I died for this army.” Because, to us, it makes perfect sense as to why he is saying that. Nothing really out of the ordinary. In fact, the way he says it is kinda amusing. To other people that don’t know the show, though, it’s probably REALLY fucking weird. They’re probably like, “But..if he died for whatever army he’s talking about..how could he be alive to SAY that quote?! What??” In short, that quote probably makes absolutely no goddamn sense to people who don’t know the show, because they don’t understand the situation. Yet we understand it perfectly. I love that so much.

[[I sometimes wonder if this blog makes any sense to people that are encountering it for the first time or are otherwise new to the bird.

What must they think? Does it comes across as too much? Too little? Does the relationship to a canon character throw them off? Hell, there’s even a kid involved, and I treat chronology like a $4 whore in a back alley when Mika is off doing Mika things.

Ultimately, I suppose, it doesn’t really matter… Some will come and word and some will not. Even without anyone new, there are my wonderful regulars, so my lexivore tendencies are usually sated.

Either way; just idle musings. Carry on.]]

well I sure am glad I didn’t end up buying that doujin

my name is valerie but sometimes i really like going by “val” and “valerie” just sounds very weird but sometimes i hate the sound of “val” and sometimes simple “v” sounds very good to me and basically i have many mixed feelings about my name i do not identify with my name sometimes does that make sense idk sometimes i don’t feel like i have a name at all

I feel like I’m waisting my life. I mean, I’m a teenager. Aren’t I supposed to be doing fun, memorable things? Like making new friends and dating people and being adventurous? But instead here I am, with 3 friends, no dating record, and staying inside all day on tumblr and youtube. I literally haven’t accomplished anything meaningful in my life. I don’t even have hobbies. A lot of people say that it’s fine. That you “start actually living in your 20′s” but man idk if I really believe that. I feel so blatantly average and unsuccessful.

anonymous asked:

unpopular opinion: antman looks boring af and i am never planning on watching it

ONE OF US. ONE OF US. 

Yeah I agree with you 100% lmao. I expected to be pleasantly surprised when I watched it but yeah.. it was even more boring than I expected. But I’d still say give it a go at some point. Other people seemed to enjoy it so it could surprise you :) I just apparently have a different sense of humour to everyone else because it didn’t make me laugh or even smile once xD

Send me an unpopular opinion and I’ll agree/disagree

I used to think I had to be different to be myself.

Now I know that being myself doesn’t mean I need to be different from everyone else

fxrtyfive asked:

Do you have a NoTP in HP?

questions designed to make you h8 me.

i tend to be super chill about most pairings and even my notps are with a grain of salt, you know, but there are plenty i’d probably never be interested in pairing in a romantic sense. of canonical pairings, i didn’t really like ron/hermione – and i know a lot of people do & i respect it & i understand why people ship it, but, in my ideal hp world, hermione would not have gotten married at all / had kids so early / gone to work for the ministry when she expressed clear disinterest in it. i don’t hate the ship, it just never lined up for me and didn’t leave me feeling anything significant. sweats i feel so bad to say it because i really like hermione, and ron has never really been a character i’ve connected to but i still like him, too, and he’s important, they just didn’t make me feel anything as a couple. i thought they were better as friends. at any rate, besides that - ? idk, there are a lot of pairings i’ve seen in the fandom i don’t think i’ll ever be into. i’ve really never liked lily / sirius too much, either. they’re another pairing i could only envision as friends. annnnnd i can ship my snape with a lot of people but in the books i ship snape with his untimely and noble death omg. no one else, ever.