So, I see that our favorite trolls are up to no good trying to dictate who is and who isn’t bigender! Isn’t that fun and exciting?! You’re right, it’s totally not.
Oh not this nonsense and twaddle again! The fine gentlepeople you’re interacting with here are best ignored. Especially on matters and words they don’t understand (like “gender,” “trans,” “identity,” “social construct,” “sex” and “knowing what the fuck they’re talking about”)
For the record, anyone who dismissively uses the words “social construct” as if it means “only in your head and thus not real” doesn’t know what an actual social construct is. Language, science and countries are all social constructs. That doesn’t make them not real or irrelevant.
Identity is an existential awareness of self. It’s not a series of choices made from a menu that have steps to follow in order to have the experience described by the label. They are labels that are used, once the language for them is learned, to describe the experience you’re already having.
I’ve interacted with nearly a thousand bigender people in the five years I’ve been running bigender.net and the most important lesson I’ve learned is that there is no one correct way to be bigender. Some folks do switch between two distinct sense of their own gender being man or woman or agender or something else. Some folks feel two distinct senses of their own gender at the same time. Some folks feel gender dysphoria very strongly. Some fel it weakly. Some feel things they would never describe as dysphoria. Some take steps to transition physically, or socially or never take any such steps at all and are comfortable just having a name to put with their own knowledge of themselves. Some feel their dysphoria can only be satisfied with both a functional penis/testes group and vagina/uterus/ovary group (like our friends here in this tag, the High Grand Council Of Bigender Fuckwits).
They’re all trans (unless they reject that particular label). They’re all also bigender. None of them are wrong or unwelcome or forbidden from using the label.
See, the funny thing about us humans is, we’re not telepathic. There isn’t a single human living or dead who can accurately describe anyone else’s experience and understanding of the world. The best we can do is describe OUR experience and understanding and hope that it resonates with others. But my experiencing being bigender one way does not ever negate someone else’s experiencing of being bigender another way.
Whatever way you describe your sense of gender identity, as it fits within your culture and society, is perfectly valid and I’m glad to know you. Feel free to check out bigender.net if you haven’t and see if the community there might also be helpful to you.
Also! They hate when you post selfies in the bigender tag. So POST MORE SELFIES OF YOUR BEAUTIFUL FACES AND TAG THEM BIGENDER!