people who build you up

Fuck with people who build you up, open your eyes to more and value your energy. Fuck with people who teach you the importance of growth and who support and encourage you through the hardships of your journey. Fuck with people who tell it how it is, no sugar coating. Fuck with people who want to win and who only associate with winners.
Joking with friends and family is so small you often forget how necessary it can be. You take away the laughter and you’ll find yourself in a endless rut of emotionless moments and voids. Friends are the people who can make you feel, they can build you up or bring you to reality. Find those friends who make you feel and don’t let them go.
— 

Things I’ve Learned in 2017 by Amy Kennedy

05/02/17

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🍋22/100 days of productivity🍋
(16/04/17) a flick through of my history mind map folder and a friendly reminder to myself as exams get closer!! If you celebrate Easter, then HAPPY EASTER ALL and if not, happy sunday🌈
🌼April study challenge day 16: Advice?
The best advice I have is to surround yourself with people who build you up and motivate you every day, there’s nothing more amazing than supportive friends ps special mention to @mocha-vated @sirius-studying and @cal-culatingmylife for being my biggest supporters every dang day🌼

loverofthingsanimated  asked:

How do you tolerate people who act very non Christian and bring you down for not wanting to join them. and also talk to them without sounding sanctimonious or like nag.

Never ever retaliate! Meaning whenever negative comments are made towards your opinion do not fire back. Turn the other cheek as Jesus has. These are not your people. People who do not share your beliefs and interests in life and break you down for having different thoughts are people you need to get out of your life. God wants you to be better not brought down. Be with people who build you up and help you on your journey of christianity.

When it comes to acting non-christian…when they are wrong, help them, guide them but do not retaliate.

It’s not about tolerance, it’s about you choosing to have a better life.

Markiplier quotes  {Sentence Starters}
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  • “It’s not like I’m trying not to be worse! I’m trying to be gooder!”
  • “Don’t go for the booty if it kills you.”
  • “Together, we make two halves of a whole idiot.”
  • “To infini-nope and beyond.”
  • “Okay, now I’m scared. I’M SCARED!”
  • “You do you. And I’ll do me. And we won’t do each other. Probably.”
  • “Can we do it? No we can’t! Maybe. I don’t know, I’m not very committed to this decision, but whatever.”
  • “That’s cool and all but also screw you.”
  • “I just thought random screaming would help me out.”
  • “Those are people! Those are people! I’m gonna go say hi to the people!”
  • “What I do is temporary, but what I leave behind is forever.”
  • “All of life’s problems are crossed by your eyes! —- what the fuck did I say?”
  • “Bitch, I’m fabulous!”
  • “How do I put thrusters on a baby?”
  • “What the hell was that?! What did you just throw at me?!”
  • “These casual bongos have turned sour!”
  • “You! You’re gonna die tonight! You and your taut chest and your lovely butt. You look good.”
  • “Goodbye. If you could just leave, it’d be great.”
  • “I substitute all my social interaction skills with physical violence.”
  • “I don’t think that’s supposed to be helpful.”
  • “All your life, you’ll meet people that only want to break you down. Forget them, stand strong with the people who build you up.”
  • “Your efforts are futile. You shall be assimilated.”
  • “No, thank you! I don’t want any!”
  • “You’re not alone in anything that you’ve done.”
  • “Let me AXE you a question.”

anonymous asked:

Hey, just wanted to say that I really relate to you when you talk about your younger days. I'm 20 and unlucky and broke and sad and the only thing that gets me away from it all is my art. I want to be a tattoo artist but I feel like I'm running out of time and opportunities. Idk, guess I'm rambling here. Seeing how you are now gives me hope that everything will be OK.

ugh yes lil bb! can i just be twenty and eat food from the dollar store all over again.
but seriously, I didn’t go to beauty school until I was 24,
and at (basically) 27, i’m still pursuing a career that I basically just woke up and decided on one day.
so don’t sweat it. 
keep your head above water,
meet people, 
use protection
and surround yourself with people who will build you up. 

anonymous asked:

Every thing is shit rn. My depression is consuming my life. All of my grades are shit. I don't feel like doing anything. I'm just so tired. And finals week are coming up & 4th quarter is ending. I'm so mentally exhausted.

i know how tough things can get, but please don’t give up! if you need to take time for yourself, take a little break, take care of yourself and talk to people who care about you. don’t let things build up, make sure to talk about how you’re feeling with a trusted teacher or friend or parent. i hope you get through whatever you’re dealing with!!

You know I find people who try to build people up instead of trying to kick them while they’re down admirable and worth my respect. Like Hoenn League for example. I’ve picked up quite a few tricks by training with each Gym Leader there. Master Juan was especially helpful to my growth since he also helped be improve my contest performances.

I couldn’t imagine any of them, especially a champion like Wallace or Steven stopping so low as to judge or talk smack about another region, since both me had too much dignity and pride for that nonsense. 

anonymous asked:

Hi, so i have a bit of a problem of making friends on tumblr. when ever i try to talk to someone off of anon i get sick to my stomach and end up backing out of the whole idea. do you have any advice on how to take that first step on making a friend? Thank you so much if you can.

Hey there, xx

Helpful Links on Shyness:

Ice breaker questions:

  • If you had just won a million dollars, what would you do with it?
  • If you knew that you only had a year left to live, what would you do?
  • What is something you have never done but would like to do?
  • If you had three wishes, what would they be?
  • If you had the chance to start any business, what would it be?
  • Would you rather go a week without your phone or a week without your toothbrush?
  • If you could send a message to the whole world, what would it be?
  • If you had to pick a new name for yourself, what name would you pick?

Some awesome links:

How to Make Friends:

10 tips on how to build stronger friendships:

  1. Choose friends wisely. You do not have to be everyone’s  friend. Choose to be friends with people who build you up, not tear you down.  Choose friends who inspire you and welcome you, not alienate and insult you. You  can’t choose the family you are born into, but you can choose your friends.
  2. Listen. Listen closely to what the other person is saying.  Let that person know that you hear them. Ask clarifying questions. Summarize  what you’ve heard. Though helpful, it does not always have to be through words.  Eye contact and body language are also important ways of showing someone you are  listening.
  3. Respond carefully. Think before you speak – especially if  you are angry. Sometimes, taking a moment to think about what you say before you  start blurting things out will spare hurt feelings and bruised pride. Also, when  friends feel like it is okay to be themselves around you, they trust you. Choose  your words with care.
  4. Avoid consistently giving advice or trying to fix all of your  friend’s problems. By all means, if a friend asks for your advice, give  it. They might want you to proofread an important email before it is sent out.  Maybe they are struggling with a relationship. Perhaps life is throwing them a  curve ball and they need your support or insight. Don’t wiggle your way into  every aspect of your friend’s life, telling them how to be the star of their own  show. Give them room to process things and make their own decisions.
  5. Play fair. Avoid trying to one-up your friends. Eventually  your friends won’t want to play with you anymore.
  6. Be authentic. Be yourself. Be honest. We all test our relationships by throwing something out there about our  true nature. We then hide behind a corner, head peeking out, waiting for the  response.  If someone can’t accept you for who you are, developing a  relationship with them will be hard. Don’t shortchange yourself by denying your  beliefs, values, and point of view, for the sake of fitting in. You won’t be  doing anyone any favors.
  7. Communicate openly and honestly. Developing communication  with a person can take time – and trust! Ask your friends what you can do for  them. Share what you have to offer. Don’t be afraid to let people know what you  need. Share what is necessary, but don’t dominate conversation. When a problem  arises, work through it together.
  8. Accept your friends for who they are. On your search for  friends who can accept your authentic self, keep in mind – other people are  looking for the same thing. We all want people who love us for who we are.
  9. Respect their choices. It is okay to disagree. If your  friend decides to make a move when you think standing still is the right thing  to do, let them do their thing. If you’ve given your advice and your friend sees  things differently, step aside. What your friend is doing might be right for  their life but not yours. They might be making a mistake, but if it doesn’t kill  them, maim them, or leave them in a coma, hopefully they can learn from the  experience. And, if it will kill them, lock them in a closet and don’t let them  out until they’ve forgotten why you trapped them in there in the first place.
  10. Be the kind of friend you want others to be for you. You  want friends who are honest, kind, compassionate, fair, not judgmental,  authentic, and intelligent.  Be that person first and you’ll be more likely to  attract that kind of friend into your life.

(source + more info here.)

Tips on how to make friends:

  • Offer help. always offer help to your friend and be there whenever they need you.
  • Don’t stick to one person. Mingle with lots of groups so if a friend turns on you, you can fall back on your other friends.
  • Make sure your friend is comfortable around you. You don’t want to annoy her if she isn’t, so try to look out for signs that she is definitely happy around you.
  • Learn to entertain. Create a reason why people would want to come over to your place. Offer something to people that they don’t already have. While you don’t want a pool or a video game console to be the only reason people come over, it will give you an opportunity to socialize with people and for them to get to know you better.
  • Be reliable and trustworthy. Friends should be able to trust each other, even with personal secrets.
  • You don’t have to be a superstar to be fun. You don’t even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good and appreciated when they’re around you.
  • Let the friendship unfold naturally. Don’t force the friendship, because they won’t be your true friend if you cannot be yourself around them.
  • Encourage your friends to know your family as well so that there will be more chances to stay in touch with one another.
  • Friendship is not about what you can get, rather it is about what you can give.
  • Get to know that person’s other friends. That way you’ll not only be friends to them, but friends with his/her friends too!
  • It’s very important to remind and counsel your friends about the things they should avoid or refrain from. (Try not to be pushy, though.) This will help you convey how special that friend is to you, and will help you be a positive influence in their life.
  • Be honest. Being honest helps them to make them trust you.
  • Don’t talk about yourself all the time. Ask them questions about them and show interest in your friends and their likes.
  • Make yourself approachable.
  • Get around fun, and confident, people.
  • When having difficulty with a friend, never say anything bad about them to anyone else, because that makes the issue worse.
  • Just be yourself. If someone doesn’t like who you really are then they don’t deserve you on their friend list. If someone does sit with you then please don’t move away from them. This is not considered to be polite to the person trying to get to know you.
  • Make sure you keep yourself open to new possibilities. You never know what might be in store for you, if you are open to many possibilities.
  • Ask them about family. Ask them if they have any pets and then tell them how many you have. They’re most likely to ask what kind of pets and what are their names. Pets is a great and easy topic to keep the conversation going without awkward silence.
  • Along with learning to entertain, try to be unique. When you have something interesting that people can learn from you, they tend to stick around and ask you questions. This is usually the case when you know a lot about something popularly known yet complex, something controversial, or something that could just spark a big debate. Some of the most interesting people you meet may have a large knowledge base when it comes to things like politics, certain religions, or unusual topics like astrology and divination.
  • Friendships require a lot of tolerance and it boils down to how much you are willing to give and take.
  • Know that this is not an exact science. There’s no perfect method to getting a friend. It’s a natural process, and if it happens, it happens.
  • Don’t just go up to someone and say ” Lets be friends” it puts the person in an awkward position.
  • Be kind to each other and hang out with other people who make you feel comfortable being yourself.
  • If you have a friend who knows some good people that you aren’t acquainted with, ask them to invite those people to hang out with the two of you. It is a great way to make some friends who have common interests.
  • Being friendly and polite to each other don’t do the nasty thing Make sure don’t being mean to each other.
  • Try to make friends with someone sitting near you or someone who look really lonely. They might really be able to use some help.
  • If there’s someone who you really want to be friends with, try to sit next to them, but not all the time, or they’ll think your weird. Try to find other people to be friends with instead, while sitting with this person other times.
  • Be yourself.
  • Sometimes you should consider the facts that maybe there won’t be people at your school that will understand you the best! Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t find someone at the time, because the perfect person will come along soon. Just remember to give it time.
  • Give your friend space. You don’t have to see your friend 24/7. If you don’t leave your friend, he or she will feel uncomfortable.
  • Don’t be shy and be real. Many people will like you just the way you are.

Hope this helps :) keep me updated? x

anonymous asked:

which member do you think acts cold, and keeps silent most of the time but is actually warm and loving-caring person? thanks!

No problem! Thank you for requesting :)

The members that I think fit this description are:

Jeonghan

Woozi/Jihoon

Vernon/Hansol

The reason why I picked them is because they’re all a little more quiet, serious and can be intimidating if you don’t know them well. They’re people who build up walls around their hearts to protect themselves but once you get past that wall you’ll see that they’re absolute sweethearts who just want the best for everyone.

Sally

Please note that I do not know these people directly and this is solely an opinion

anonymous asked:

I've finally got around to starting my makeup kit and realized I'm totally stumped on which foundations I should stock up on first. I don't have a large clientele but it's decent. Can you give me some good foundations from drugstore to high end? Can you also give me some suggestions on other things I should put in my kit? I didn't realize how hard it would be since I can get serious anxiety from looking at all these products! Lol thanks so much in advance.

Hi there!

When it comes to building up your freelance kit with face products, keep in mind that everyone has different skin types, skin tones, preferences. You’ll want to have foundations that will work with dry skin, oily skin, combination skin, people with acne, people who want full coverage, people who want really light, dewy coverage. 

If you can’t afford to build up a huge face product collection just yet, mix and match products to fit your client’s need! If you only have a matte foundation add a little bit of liquid highlighter into a foundation to make it more luminous, add a hydrating setting spray, use a luminous base/primer. There are ways to make one foundation work for a variety of looks and skin types. 

Also try to have a wide range of shades for a variety of skin tones. I’d recommend buying a lightest shade and a darkest shade and a few medium shades that you can mix together to create the perfect shade for each client. You can even mix foundations for a unique look/finish!

Try to have

  • A full coverage, matte/satin foundation. This will work for weddings, photoshoots, heavy glam looks. Try foundations like Loreal Infallible Pro Matte (their setting spray is great, too!), Estee Lauder Double Wear, Dermablend Cover Creme, MAC Studio Fix, Koh Gen Do Aqua Foundation, Giorgio Armani Luminous SIlk and/or Lasting Silk. 
  • A light weight foundation. BB creams, tinted moisturizers, light weight foundations. NARS Sheer Glow, MAC Face and Body, Makeup Forever Face and Body, Urban Decay Naked Skin Foundation, Loreal True Match Foundation.
  • A moisturizing foundation. Loreal Magic Lumi Foundation, Too Faced Born This Way, Koh Gen Do Maifanshi Moisture Foundation, YSL Le Teint Touche Eclat Illuminating Foundation.

Face product add ons

  • Primers/moisturizers for all skin types. Try to have a light-weight gel or oil controlling moisturizer for oily/combination skin types and more hydrating moisturizing bases for more dry skin types. The foundation won’t look good if the base is melting off or looking dry and flakey!
  • Liquid illuminators. These can be mixed with foundation, moisturizers, used alone, under powder highlight for a more intense shine. 
  • Setting sprays that are hydrating and long wearing. One for oily/combination skin and one for dry skin. For oily skin check out ones like Loreal Infallible Setting Spray, Urban Decay All Nighter. For dry skin check out Tatcha Dewy Skin Mist, rose water, MAC Fix Plus. Setting sprays will also help any foundation/powder look less cakey/dry.
  • Translucent powder. Translucent powders will work on most skin types and skin tones making them a great universal powder. I recommend ones slightly tinted to avoid a white flash back in photos. Try ones from Ben Nye or the Laura Mercier Translucent Powder (best one!)

I work at a movie theatre chain and we offer a rewards card for people who come in often. You can build up credits to get a free small popcorn or something like that. I don’t know how many times I’ve had someone come up and say they have a free popcorn, and when I ask for their card they say “oh, I gave it to my spouse. They went into the theatre.” I ask if they have a phone number I can look it up with, but all the phone numbers dont work and I can’t just GIVE them a free popcorn, our inventory is fucked enough. They start screaming how bullshit it is and this is awful customer service; I had an old woman ask for my manager over it.

Another big issue we have is our alcohol sales. We’re a family company so it’s hard for us to serve alcohol at all, and we jump through about a million hoops to be able to serve it. We can serve 5 oz wine cups and 16 oz beer cups, with the exception of our two 22 oz beers. You can only have three a night and I need to see your ID everytime, no matter how old you look. I’m also one of the only ones who can serve alcohol, and a lot of Sunday or Saturday nights I’m the only one back there who’s certified. If someone has an alcohol sale I have to run from my register to theirs and do the ID check, and get the beer/wine and give them their wristband. The most common interactions are:
-“Are you kidding me? I’m 43!”
-“This is so little wine. I want a refund.”
-“I don’t have my id. Can’t you just serve me?”
-“Can I have two beers?” “I need to see two people and two ids.” “What? I just want two for myself. I have to come back here in the middle of my movie? Seriously? This is bullshit.”
I also have people make some bullshit excuse about sick parents/grandparents, demand to see a manager, etc. I had some guy stand at my coworkers register while he downed his three beers at 11:30 AM in succession, then claim he was gonna have someone come up and get him another one

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Soooo this is me here. Thought I’d share some recent selfies and lil bit about me. ^____^ My name is Khris. Hiiiii, my fellow followers!!! I’m a Gay, 22 Y.O, living in Southfield,MI (the “suburbs” of Detroit) And I’m in love and have a passion for 2 things: Photography and the Sims 3. I fell in love with the sims ever since the very first sims game were released.. I remember when we first got our desktop computer, they shipped us the sims for free. & I’ve been addicted ever since. I kinda missed the sims 2 era a bit. I played but not much. And then later when sims 3 came out and I found out about CC, OMG!! I would sit and play for hourssss. I eventually came across the simplr community and was kinda skeptical about making a simblr, but eventually I grabbed life by the horns and went for it.. I’ve been learning how to take better screenshots of my sims and decorate my homes.. My decorating skills have improved and that’s what I love most about the Sims 3, is decorating. & Even being a homosexual male, I love playing the game having kids the traditional way, it’s just so cute. I just like seeing the girl sim pregnant wobbling around it’s just so adorable. Bring life into the world is beauty in it self.. &I I commend you sistas for it! 🙌🏾👏🏾Eventually I’m going create some hot gay sims thou. ^____^ I’m hoping to learn from a few individuals like @sincerelyasimmer @simply-kita-b @applekissims @guttasims @urbanmahogany @pixelatedthots @picture-my-lifee @naturalbornsimmer @carefreeblackmama @chunkysims @do-the-sim-thing & @napsims to create and convert CC. Ya’ll decorating and CAS skills are so sick! You guys are amazing and the few people who made me build up the courage to make a simblr. You guys make amazing CC/Conversions. You guys each are truly inspiration to the sims community. And I know everyone else feels appreciative like I do, to get a chance to use your amazing work in our games. I just wanted to share a lil bit about my self, my thoughts, and my appreciation with you lovely simblrs out there!!! :)))) Feel free to ask me anything, tell me anything, show me anything or send me anything at all. I love interacting with and meeting people so feel free to speak. I’m a sweetheart and very friendly. :))) don’t be strangers.

anonymous asked:

Its my senior year in high school and still haven't found a group I belong to. I'm not really sure how to go on about making friends or where I belong (not that I'm confused with who I am). Any advice or tips?

Hi there love,

I’m also going into my senior year in high-school. I understand your concerns and honey, they’re completely valid. I have some tips for you on how you can make some friends plus some links:

Tips on how to make friends:

  • Offer help. always offer help to your friend and be there whenever they need you.
  • Don’t stick to one person. Mingle with lots of groups so if a friend turns on you, you can fall back on your other friends.
  • Make sure your friend is comfortable around you. You don’t want to annoy her if she isn’t, so try to look out for signs that she is definitely happy around you.
  • Learn to entertain. Create a reason why people would want to come over to your place. Offer something to people that they don’t already have. While you don’t want a pool or a video game console to be the only reason people come over, it will give you an opportunity to socialize with people and for them to get to know you better.
  • Be reliable and trustworthy. Friends should be able to trust each other, even with personal secrets.
  • You don’t have to be a superstar to be fun. You don’t even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good and appreciated when they’re around you.
  • Let the friendship unfold naturally. Don’t force the friendship, because they won’t be your true friend if you cannot be yourself around them.
  • Encourage your friends to know your family as well so that there will be more chances to stay in touch with one another.
  • Friendship is not about what you can get, rather it is about what you can give.
  • Get to know that person’s other friends. That way you’ll not only be friends to them, but friends with his/her friends too!
  • It’s very important to remind and counsel your friends about the things they should avoid or refrain from. (Try not to be pushy, though.) This will help you convey how special that friend is to you, and will help you be a positive influence in their life.
  • Be honest. Being honest helps them to make them trust you.
  • Don’t talk about yourself all the time. Ask them questions about them and show interest in your friends and their likes.
  • Make yourself approachable.
  • Get around fun, and confident, people.
  • When having difficulty with a friend, never say anything bad about them to anyone else, because that makes the issue worse.
  • Just be yourself. If someone doesn’t like who you really are then they don’t deserve you on their friend list. If someone does sit with you then please don’t move away from them. This is not considered to be polite to the person trying to get to know you.
  • Make sure you keep yourself open to new possibilities. You never know what might be in store for you, if you are open to many possibilities.
  • Ask them about family. Ask them if they have any pets and then tell them how many you have. They’re most likely to ask what kind of pets and what are their names. Pets is a great and easy topic to keep the conversation going without awkward silence.
  • Along with learning to entertain, try to be unique. When you have something interesting that people can learn from you, they tend to stick around and ask you questions. This is usually the case when you know a lot about something popularly known yet complex, something controversial, or something that could just spark a big debate. Some of the most interesting people you meet may have a large knowledge base when it comes to things like politics, certain religions, or unusual topics like astrology and divination.
  • Friendships require a lot of tolerance and it boils down to how much you are willing to give and take.
  • Know that this is not an exact science. There’s no perfect method to getting a friend. It’s a natural process, and if it happens, it happens.
  • Don’t just go up to someone and say ” Lets be friends” it puts the person in an awkward position.
  • Be kind to each other and hang out with other people who make you feel comfortable being yourself.
  • If you have a friend who knows some good people that you aren’t acquainted with, ask them to invite those people to hang out with the two of you. It is a great way to make some friends who have common interests.
  • Being friendly and polite to each other don’t do the nasty thing Make sure don’t being mean to each other.
  • Try to make friends with someone sitting near you or someone who look really lonely. They might really be able to use some help.
  • If there’s someone who you really want to be friends with, try to sit next to them, but not all the time, or they’ll think your weird. Try to find other people to be friends with instead, while sitting with this person other times.
  • Be yourself.
  • Sometimes you should consider the facts that maybe there won’t be people at your school that will understand you the best! Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t find someone at the time, because the perfect person will come along soon. Just remember to give it time.
  • Give your friend space. You don’t have to see your friend 24/7. If you don’t leave your friend, he or she will feel uncomfortable.
  • Don’t be shy and be real. Many people will like you just the way you are.

Helpful Links:

Once you’ve looked over those links, I have some more advice for you on how you can have more more ideas and tips on how to make friendships work out:

10 tips on how to build stronger friendships:

  1. Choose friends wisely. You do not have to be everyone’s  friend. Choose to be friends with people who build you up, not tear you down.  Choose friends who inspire you and welcome you, not alienate and insult you. You  can’t choose the family you are born into, but you can choose your friends.
  2. Listen. Listen closely to what the other person is saying.  Let that person know that you hear them. Ask clarifying questions. Summarize  what you’ve heard. Though helpful, it does not always have to be through words.  Eye contact and body language are also important ways of showing someone you are  listening.
  3. Respond carefully. Think before you speak – especially if  you are angry. Sometimes, taking a moment to think about what you say before you  start blurting things out will spare hurt feelings and bruised pride. Also, when  friends feel like it is okay to be themselves around you, they trust you. Choose  your words with care.
  4. Avoid consistently giving advice or trying to fix all of your  friend’s problems. By all means, if a friend asks for your advice, give  it. They might want you to proofread an important email before it is sent out.  Maybe they are struggling with a relationship. Perhaps life is throwing them a  curve ball and they need your support or insight. Don’t wiggle your way into  every aspect of your friend’s life, telling them how to be the star of their own  show. Give them room to process things and make their own decisions.
  5. Play fair. Avoid trying to one-up your friends. Eventually  your friends won’t want to play with you anymore.
  6. Be authentic. Be yourself. Be honest. We all test our relationships by throwing something out there about our  true nature. We then hide behind a corner, head peeking out, waiting for the  response.  If someone can’t accept you for who you are, developing a  relationship with them will be hard. Don’t shortchange yourself by denying your  beliefs, values, and point of view, for the sake of fitting in. You won’t be  doing anyone any favors.
  7. Communicate openly and honestly. Developing communication  with a person can take time – and trust! Ask your friends what you can do for  them. Share what you have to offer. Don’t be afraid to let people know what you  need. Share what is necessary, but don’t dominate conversation. When a problem  arises, work through it together.
  8. Accept your friends for who they are. On your search for  friends who can accept your authentic self, keep in mind – other people are  looking for the same thing. We all want people who love us for who we are.
  9. Respect their choices. It is okay to disagree. If your  friend decides to make a move when you think standing still is the right thing  to do, let them do their thing. If you’ve given your advice and your friend sees  things differently, step aside. What your friend is doing might be right for  their life but not yours. They might be making a mistake, but if it doesn’t kill  them, maim them, or leave them in a coma, hopefully they can learn from the  experience. And, if it will kill them, lock them in a closet and don’t let them  out until they’ve forgotten why you trapped them in there in the first place.
  10. Be the kind of friend you want others to be for you. You  want friends who are honest, kind, compassionate, fair, not judgmental,  authentic, and intelligent.  Be that person first and you’ll be more likely to  attract that kind of friend into your life.

(source + more info here.)

I now have some general tips for you on how you can have some confidence while your in high school. Because I believe that confidence is key. :)

Self Esteem/Confidence links:

Steps to improve self Confidence:

  1. Focus on your strengths – figure out what you are good at! There are plenty of things that you are wonderful at and use those to build your confidence! No one is good at everything so do not fret if you are bad at something! Instead focus on what you are good at and enjoy them!
  2. Learn from your mistakes - you don’t have to be good at everything like mentioned above but use your mistakes to your advantage! Don’t worry about them- live and learn!
  3. Do what you love – make time everyday to do something you enjoy! Do something that makes you happy to improve your mood!
  4. Tell yourself you are beautiful - stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are ! Keep telling yourself and fake it until you make it! Really mean what you are saying a realize all of the beautiful things about you - including any flaws ( they make you unique!)
  5. Turn your negative thoughts into positive ones – instead of thinking your legs are big or whatever your problem is, be thankful you have working legs that you can run marathons with if you wanted! Try to stay optimistic and see the positive side of everything! It will greatly improve your mood and outlook on life!
  6. Realize that beauty has no measure on your life. Okay even if someone is not beautiful that has no relevance to one’s life ! Everyone has worth and is amazing! I am sure you are the prettiest person ever but even if you are not then who really cares? What does it really matter? All that matters is that you are happy and love your life- and that should not be dependent upon whether or not you are pretty.
  7. Weight has no relevance to beauty! Whether you are 100 or 300 pounds you can be beautiful! Please do not relate the two to one another! See this post (:
  8. Spend time with people you love and who love you! It is important to spend time with loved ones! They will boost your mood and confidence! If people have a negative impact on your life then you don’t have to spend time with them! Don’t feel like you must stick around for everyone! You have to put yourself first and make sure you are happy! Don’t let others drag you down!
  9. Remember that life is simple - the sun rises and the sun sets, we just tend to complicate the process. Remember the simplicity in life and let it help you to stay calm and stay focused on the important things! Love yourself and love your life! Enjoy it while you can and don’t let everything stress you out so much!
  10. Be generous! Help others, be kind to others, and give when you can. It will spread love and make you feel better as a person.

Hope this helps. :) Please let me know if you’re ever in the need of some more help, advice, support etc, I’m always here and only an ask away. :) xx

Sophia Bush’s message to bullies. So powerful: 

What happened to you, you poor lost soul, that this is how you find pleasure? That you need to attempt to destroy little bits of other people to build yourself up, bit by bit? Who in your life hurt you? Who made you need to act out like this? Because my god I feel so sorry for you. But my sorrow in the face of your pain is no match for my anger at the pain you are causing others. You do not have the right to spread poison because you have felt poisoned. It’s a small minded and ugly path to take. Choosing to inflict pain doesn’t make you strong or powerful. It only proves your weakness and self-loathing. All the time you’re taking to verbally harass us, threaten physical assault, and terrorize strangers? Please start spending it in therapy and learn to love yourself. You deserve it. And because none of us deserve one more moment of your bullying bullshit. #gethelp #bullyingisugly #violenceisntfunny #thereisabetterway (x)

People don’t get how hard it is to have mental illness unless they suffer themselves. They can imagine it, but what they imagine doesn’t even come close. So they won’t understand that you can’t come out tonight because your social anxiety is at a high point, or why you don’t want to get out of bed today, or why sometimes it’s a big achievement eat intuitively. Because recovery isn’t a straight line, recovery isn’t straight forward, it’s not just ups and ups. It’s up and down, it’s got bends and breaks, it’s not perfect. Just because you’re recovered doesn’t mean you still don’t have bad days. When life gets stressful, things feel like they’re too much and you find yourself struggling a little bit again. That isn’t a time to give up, and you’re not, you’re just taking care of yourself. You’re not pushing yourself beyond your limits. You’re challenging yourself, but not to the point of breaking down.

But people won’t understand why you can’t come out tonight or you were really quiet yesterday or you slept all day. They won’t understand you all the time. How can we expect them to? They haven’t been where we are, where we were, where we will be if we keep pushing on. They have their own pain to deal with, but it’s not like ours.

So be patient with them, like you would like to be treated with patience. They don’t have to understand you to respect you, or help you. They just have to care about you. And I’m sure they do. And if they don’t, you can let go of them and spend your energy and time on the people and things that matter most: you, and the people who love you for YOU. People who love you despite your mental illness. The people who build you up and make you want happiness more, not bring you down.

(interview) key for ‘ceci’ october '15 issue

q: i could see you were excited and having fun when doing 'my little television’, 'key’s know how’, 'make an order’, etc.
key: i told that i was going to work without going on a vacation or taking a rest during this year. music, variety shows, musicals, etc. although these started off as suggestions from others, it is entirely my job to digest them to succeed. i didn’t wish for compliments, i was confident enough just with the contents that i created with ownership.

q: it was interesting to see that you showed something outside of expectation when someone thinks of an idol group member having an individual activity. you seemed to show a lifestyle that is more than just music or fashion in a way that is deeply related to everyday life.
key: as a singer, being on stage is obviously far more important than any other schedules. things like fashion styling, cooking, skincare, diet, etc. are things that i do because i like doing them. i wanted someone else to know that. i realized how satisfied i am with my own lifestyle when i found myself doing things actively even though nobody told me to do them. i didn’t potray anything that wasn’t a side of me. i think all these activities become a groundwork that will allow me to show a better side of myself on stage.

q: i think key is a person who kows his strengths well
key: i know there are a lot of other celebrities that come on reality shows, but i knew i had my own distinct style. everyone will digest their own reality shows in the best way they can, and i felt that people like it when i tell and share knowledge of a field that i know very well.

q: after the musical 'chess’, you are about to start on a new musical 'in the heights’
key: i know that this (musical) is known to be focusing on street dance and hip hop, but including the fancy spectacles it also has a solid story line. it deals with underprivleged groups in society and sadness of the weak, and as a part of their culture, hip hop naturally makes an appearance. i want to deliver the sadness of reality that all youths can relate to without any distortions.

q: everyone’s been telling that the idea of you and model kim kibum having a twin photoshoot is going to be interesting. how did you two become close?
kibum: i heard several times that we look alike. we met through an acquaintence and had a meal together. at that time we only greeting, but we became close when we got in touch ater a very long time. having conversation with hyung is always fun because he knows a lot of things and we share similar tastes.
key: we became close especially in the past few months. we share diet know-hows and have conversation about music and fashion.

q: do you remember each other’s first impression?
kibum: i was feeling very cautious and unfamiliar because most of the people were new, but hyung took care of me the most. and i remember thinking, “we don’t look that much alike compared to my expectation, but we would in photos.”

q: you meet lots of new people when you’re working. you must have a know-how for personal relationships
key: there’s a lot of emotional work going on when you try to calculate your moves to increase relationships with other people. i’m not the kind of person who builds a wall when meeting people. when you build up the time you spend casually with another person without making them uncomfortable, you will naturally be close with them.

q: key’s name appeared so many times in the front page of portal site’s news main page. i think you’ve proved that you are truly an almighty key?
key: it hasn’t been long since everything that i dreamed of from a very long time ago became reality. just like how god made the world in a week, i was always ready to have (individual) activities and show off many different sides of myself. after having confidence about myself, i was feeling confident to succeed in whatever work with anyone!

q: what is one thing you like from each other’s personality?
key: kibum knows how to listen to other people. i’m not the kind of person who tells, “since i’m a hyung, you should listen.” i tell in a way, “if i were you, i would do it this way.” he easily accepts when i tell him the mistakes that i made when i was younger or things that i missed because nobody around me told me about it. i tell him a lot of my experience because i don’t want a dongsaeng that i like wasting time.
kibum: hyung’s sensibility? key hyung is very smart and is someone who reacts quickly to the changes in the world to the extend that i feel proud of him. and also i can learn a lot just by listening to this stories.

q: is there any memorable advice that key gave you?
kibum: i remember him saying that it isn’t difficult to earn the public’s attention, it is difficult to maintain it. he also told me that rather thinking that i succeeded because i was so good, i need to be thankful and know how to repay what i recieve. hyung actually participates in a lot of good things and puts his words into actions. i can trust him more because hyung shows me the life that i dream of beforehand.

q: key born in 1991, and kibum born in 1995. you guys are also similar in a way that you show love to your work. what is the secret to build trust in relationships like you two?
key: you need to be the person who can show trust first. it is much more comfortable to think why you don’t gain trust from other people. but there seems to be a lot of people who expect others to trust them first.

q: lastly, what do you envy about each other?
kibum: his versatality
key: height! kibum’s height (laughs).

(t/n: of kibum’s questions, only the parts where he mentioned key were translated)
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