people who build you up

Fuck with people who build you up, open your eyes to more and value your energy. Fuck with people who teach you the importance of growth and who support and encourage you through the hardships of your journey. Fuck with people who tell it how it is, no sugar coating. Fuck with people who want to win and who only associate with winners.

- Meggan Roxanne

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🍋22/100 days of productivity🍋
(16/04/17) a flick through of my history mind map folder and a friendly reminder to myself as exams get closer!! If you celebrate Easter, then HAPPY EASTER ALL and if not, happy sunday🌈
🌼April study challenge day 16: Advice?
The best advice I have is to surround yourself with people who build you up and motivate you every day, there’s nothing more amazing than supportive friends ps special mention to @mocha-vated @sirius-studying and @cal-culatingmylife for being my biggest supporters every dang day🌼

Joking with friends and family is so small you often forget how necessary it can be. You take away the laughter and you’ll find yourself in a endless rut of emotionless moments and voids. Friends are the people who can make you feel, they can build you up or bring you to reality. Find those friends who make you feel and don’t let them go.
— 

Things I’ve Learned in 2017 by Amy Kennedy

05/02/17

anonymous asked:

Its my senior year in high school and still haven't found a group I belong to. I'm not really sure how to go on about making friends or where I belong (not that I'm confused with who I am). Any advice or tips?

Hi there love,

I’m also going into my senior year in high-school. I understand your concerns and honey, they’re completely valid. I have some tips for you on how you can make some friends plus some links:

Tips on how to make friends:

  • Offer help. always offer help to your friend and be there whenever they need you.
  • Don’t stick to one person. Mingle with lots of groups so if a friend turns on you, you can fall back on your other friends.
  • Make sure your friend is comfortable around you. You don’t want to annoy her if she isn’t, so try to look out for signs that she is definitely happy around you.
  • Learn to entertain. Create a reason why people would want to come over to your place. Offer something to people that they don’t already have. While you don’t want a pool or a video game console to be the only reason people come over, it will give you an opportunity to socialize with people and for them to get to know you better.
  • Be reliable and trustworthy. Friends should be able to trust each other, even with personal secrets.
  • You don’t have to be a superstar to be fun. You don’t even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good and appreciated when they’re around you.
  • Let the friendship unfold naturally. Don’t force the friendship, because they won’t be your true friend if you cannot be yourself around them.
  • Encourage your friends to know your family as well so that there will be more chances to stay in touch with one another.
  • Friendship is not about what you can get, rather it is about what you can give.
  • Get to know that person’s other friends. That way you’ll not only be friends to them, but friends with his/her friends too!
  • It’s very important to remind and counsel your friends about the things they should avoid or refrain from. (Try not to be pushy, though.) This will help you convey how special that friend is to you, and will help you be a positive influence in their life.
  • Be honest. Being honest helps them to make them trust you.
  • Don’t talk about yourself all the time. Ask them questions about them and show interest in your friends and their likes.
  • Make yourself approachable.
  • Get around fun, and confident, people.
  • When having difficulty with a friend, never say anything bad about them to anyone else, because that makes the issue worse.
  • Just be yourself. If someone doesn’t like who you really are then they don’t deserve you on their friend list. If someone does sit with you then please don’t move away from them. This is not considered to be polite to the person trying to get to know you.
  • Make sure you keep yourself open to new possibilities. You never know what might be in store for you, if you are open to many possibilities.
  • Ask them about family. Ask them if they have any pets and then tell them how many you have. They’re most likely to ask what kind of pets and what are their names. Pets is a great and easy topic to keep the conversation going without awkward silence.
  • Along with learning to entertain, try to be unique. When you have something interesting that people can learn from you, they tend to stick around and ask you questions. This is usually the case when you know a lot about something popularly known yet complex, something controversial, or something that could just spark a big debate. Some of the most interesting people you meet may have a large knowledge base when it comes to things like politics, certain religions, or unusual topics like astrology and divination.
  • Friendships require a lot of tolerance and it boils down to how much you are willing to give and take.
  • Know that this is not an exact science. There’s no perfect method to getting a friend. It’s a natural process, and if it happens, it happens.
  • Don’t just go up to someone and say ” Lets be friends” it puts the person in an awkward position.
  • Be kind to each other and hang out with other people who make you feel comfortable being yourself.
  • If you have a friend who knows some good people that you aren’t acquainted with, ask them to invite those people to hang out with the two of you. It is a great way to make some friends who have common interests.
  • Being friendly and polite to each other don’t do the nasty thing Make sure don’t being mean to each other.
  • Try to make friends with someone sitting near you or someone who look really lonely. They might really be able to use some help.
  • If there’s someone who you really want to be friends with, try to sit next to them, but not all the time, or they’ll think your weird. Try to find other people to be friends with instead, while sitting with this person other times.
  • Be yourself.
  • Sometimes you should consider the facts that maybe there won’t be people at your school that will understand you the best! Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t find someone at the time, because the perfect person will come along soon. Just remember to give it time.
  • Give your friend space. You don’t have to see your friend 24/7. If you don’t leave your friend, he or she will feel uncomfortable.
  • Don’t be shy and be real. Many people will like you just the way you are.

Helpful Links:

Once you’ve looked over those links, I have some more advice for you on how you can have more more ideas and tips on how to make friendships work out:

10 tips on how to build stronger friendships:

  1. Choose friends wisely. You do not have to be everyone’s  friend. Choose to be friends with people who build you up, not tear you down.  Choose friends who inspire you and welcome you, not alienate and insult you. You  can’t choose the family you are born into, but you can choose your friends.
  2. Listen. Listen closely to what the other person is saying.  Let that person know that you hear them. Ask clarifying questions. Summarize  what you’ve heard. Though helpful, it does not always have to be through words.  Eye contact and body language are also important ways of showing someone you are  listening.
  3. Respond carefully. Think before you speak – especially if  you are angry. Sometimes, taking a moment to think about what you say before you  start blurting things out will spare hurt feelings and bruised pride. Also, when  friends feel like it is okay to be themselves around you, they trust you. Choose  your words with care.
  4. Avoid consistently giving advice or trying to fix all of your  friend’s problems. By all means, if a friend asks for your advice, give  it. They might want you to proofread an important email before it is sent out.  Maybe they are struggling with a relationship. Perhaps life is throwing them a  curve ball and they need your support or insight. Don’t wiggle your way into  every aspect of your friend’s life, telling them how to be the star of their own  show. Give them room to process things and make their own decisions.
  5. Play fair. Avoid trying to one-up your friends. Eventually  your friends won’t want to play with you anymore.
  6. Be authentic. Be yourself. Be honest. We all test our relationships by throwing something out there about our  true nature. We then hide behind a corner, head peeking out, waiting for the  response.  If someone can’t accept you for who you are, developing a  relationship with them will be hard. Don’t shortchange yourself by denying your  beliefs, values, and point of view, for the sake of fitting in. You won’t be  doing anyone any favors.
  7. Communicate openly and honestly. Developing communication  with a person can take time – and trust! Ask your friends what you can do for  them. Share what you have to offer. Don’t be afraid to let people know what you  need. Share what is necessary, but don’t dominate conversation. When a problem  arises, work through it together.
  8. Accept your friends for who they are. On your search for  friends who can accept your authentic self, keep in mind – other people are  looking for the same thing. We all want people who love us for who we are.
  9. Respect their choices. It is okay to disagree. If your  friend decides to make a move when you think standing still is the right thing  to do, let them do their thing. If you’ve given your advice and your friend sees  things differently, step aside. What your friend is doing might be right for  their life but not yours. They might be making a mistake, but if it doesn’t kill  them, maim them, or leave them in a coma, hopefully they can learn from the  experience. And, if it will kill them, lock them in a closet and don’t let them  out until they’ve forgotten why you trapped them in there in the first place.
  10. Be the kind of friend you want others to be for you. You  want friends who are honest, kind, compassionate, fair, not judgmental,  authentic, and intelligent.  Be that person first and you’ll be more likely to  attract that kind of friend into your life.

(source + more info here.)

I now have some general tips for you on how you can have some confidence while your in high school. Because I believe that confidence is key. :)

Self Esteem/Confidence links:

Steps to improve self Confidence:

  1. Focus on your strengths – figure out what you are good at! There are plenty of things that you are wonderful at and use those to build your confidence! No one is good at everything so do not fret if you are bad at something! Instead focus on what you are good at and enjoy them!
  2. Learn from your mistakes - you don’t have to be good at everything like mentioned above but use your mistakes to your advantage! Don’t worry about them- live and learn!
  3. Do what you love – make time everyday to do something you enjoy! Do something that makes you happy to improve your mood!
  4. Tell yourself you are beautiful - stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are ! Keep telling yourself and fake it until you make it! Really mean what you are saying a realize all of the beautiful things about you - including any flaws ( they make you unique!)
  5. Turn your negative thoughts into positive ones – instead of thinking your legs are big or whatever your problem is, be thankful you have working legs that you can run marathons with if you wanted! Try to stay optimistic and see the positive side of everything! It will greatly improve your mood and outlook on life!
  6. Realize that beauty has no measure on your life. Okay even if someone is not beautiful that has no relevance to one’s life ! Everyone has worth and is amazing! I am sure you are the prettiest person ever but even if you are not then who really cares? What does it really matter? All that matters is that you are happy and love your life- and that should not be dependent upon whether or not you are pretty.
  7. Weight has no relevance to beauty! Whether you are 100 or 300 pounds you can be beautiful! Please do not relate the two to one another! See this post (:
  8. Spend time with people you love and who love you! It is important to spend time with loved ones! They will boost your mood and confidence! If people have a negative impact on your life then you don’t have to spend time with them! Don’t feel like you must stick around for everyone! You have to put yourself first and make sure you are happy! Don’t let others drag you down!
  9. Remember that life is simple - the sun rises and the sun sets, we just tend to complicate the process. Remember the simplicity in life and let it help you to stay calm and stay focused on the important things! Love yourself and love your life! Enjoy it while you can and don’t let everything stress you out so much!
  10. Be generous! Help others, be kind to others, and give when you can. It will spread love and make you feel better as a person.

Hope this helps. :) Please let me know if you’re ever in the need of some more help, advice, support etc, I’m always here and only an ask away. :) xx

anonymous asked:

(cont'd) for those of us that are worthless and devoid of positive features? (I know it's odd to ask you, who are brilliant and lovely and super multitalented, but I look up to you a lot) sorry for bothering you with this.

(I didn’t get the first part of this message so I apologize if my response doesn’t quite answer your question but I just saw it and I’m going to respond anyway! This is going to be long because I’m passionate about this kind of thing.)

So first of all, I don’t care what anybody tells you–you are NOT worthless. Ever, ever, ever. I know life can make you feel that way. I know internal and external forces can make you feel that way. I know it’s so hard to believe otherwise when you’ve either felt that way your whole life or things just keep knocking you down. But it’s false. I promise. As corny as this sounds, no one like you has ever existed in the entire span of human history, and no one like you will ever exist again. You are wholly unique and that’s a miracle in and of itself. 

One thing that really helped me start to love myself a little more was remembering that human beings are animals (this is weird, but bear with me). All animals are unique, right? A dog doesn’t dislike itself because it’s small and particularly poodle-ish when it wishes it could be a greyhound. We certainly don’t think dogs are unworthy because they’re not all the same. It is a truth universally acknowledged that all dogs are good dogs. We love them for their multiplicity, their little spots and quirks and butt wiggles and individual ways of showing their excitement. No two dogs are the same and that is glorious.

Or, if you’re not a dog person, think about plants. Millions of different kinds, right? Lillies, trees, grasses, shrubs. Every single one with different evolutionary adaptations and markings and scents or no scents and defense mechanisms and unique adaptations that allow them to thrive in their native environments. And it is freaking awesome. Even that corpse-flower is freaking awesome because holy crap it smells like rotting bodies to protect itself that is so metal. Even weeds are awesome because holy crap there’s all this stupid asphalt and industrialism everywhere and yet nature still peaks up through the cracks like surprise, motherfucker, I bet you thought you’d seen the last of me. I LOVE it when I see little weeds growing up through the sidewalk. You go, tenacious little shrub. Fight the good fight.

Nature is infinite and ever-changing and no two things are alike, and that is gorgeous. Every rock, every storm, every season, every drop of water is unique and can never be exactly replicated ever again, and we have the privilege of witnessing that one-time show. 

Human beings, then, are naturally part of that process. We are individually brilliant, flawed, and worthy. Stretch marks are like striations on tree bark; that laugh that makes you self-conscious is fabulous because it literally sounds like a hyena and hey, isn’t that neat? You remind someone of an awesome giggly animal on the savanna. Think you’re “too short” or “too tall” or “ too fat” or “too skinny” or too loud or too quiet and so on and so on? No such thing. “Too tall” implies a standard to which you must adhere. There is no standard.

No one–literally NO ONE–is writing the same book as you’re writing. How on earth can you expect to compare yourself to others? Your book is YOURS and it unfolds at YOUR pace, no one else’s. And this is a hard, hard thing to accept because we’re naturally competitive. Of course, it’s fine to look to others for inspiration, but it’s harmful to compare yourself to a completely different life path because it’s not yours! And that’s what makes all of this worth it–this is your journey, no one else’s; that kind of ownership is beautiful. 

And maybe you haven’t found what makes you tick yet. Maybe you haven’t had the time or the energy or the resources or the support network to explore what makes you you. Guess what? That is okay. You have time. You always have time. Just because you haven’t found your “thing” doesn’t mean you’re worthless or talentless. You’re inherently astounding because you’re human. 

Give yourself time. Find people who build you up. Give yourself space and nurturing to explore what sets your soul on fire. Always ask yourself before you make any decision if it will build you up or tear you down. If you ever do something and it makes you feel worthless or devalued, forget it. Allow yourself to fail and learn from it–failure is a revolutionary concept once we understand that it builds us up–but never pursue anything that devalues your inherent worth or that hurts you or others. 

What are you interested in? And it doesn’t have to be anything huge, like astrophysics or painting masterpieces or spearheading the Avengers Initiative; it can be simple things that you think aren’t important: tinkering with things, taking walks, listening to music, playing with animals, drawing in the dirt, tapping out a rhythm on your pillow in the morning…pay attention to the little things that calm you down and help you focus. Because there’s a nugget of gold in there. 

Maybe you’re good at empathizing with others and listening. You think, “Who cares? That’s not a skill. If you’re a good friend, of course you’ll listen.” But not everyone can do that. It’s a rare gift. If you can, start seeking out things that utilize your unique superpowers. Maybe you major in counseling. Maybe you join a writing group where you all bounce ideas off of each other. 

Or maybe you love solitude (I do, too). You think, “Well, this sucks, I hate being around people. It makes me anxious and stressed.” Sure. No big deal–you’re not wrong for feeling that way. That’s just you. Think about what it is about solitude that really attracts you. Is it because being alone leaves room for introspection? Is it the silence? Is it because you can just be yourself? Maybe it means you’re an extremely introspective person. Start seeking out things that play to that strength. Or maybe it’s a way of avoiding something that scares you. What is it that’s scaring you? Can you talk to someone who can help you with that fear? 

The point is, be gentle with yourself. I say this all the time. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time and space to explore what makes you you. And it is OKAY if you don’t know that. Part of the fun is figuring that out. You will figure it out, I promise you. Just give yourself time and let yourself step back once in a while so you can soak in the fact that you’re a one-of-a-kind creation. You can do it. :)

Markiplier quotes  {Sentence Starters}
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  • “It’s not like I’m trying not to be worse! I’m trying to be gooder!”
  • “Don’t go for the booty if it kills you.”
  • “Together, we make two halves of a whole idiot.”
  • “To infini-nope and beyond.”
  • “Okay, now I’m scared. I’M SCARED!”
  • “You do you. And I’ll do me. And we won’t do each other. Probably.”
  • “Can we do it? No we can’t! Maybe. I don’t know, I’m not very committed to this decision, but whatever.”
  • “That’s cool and all but also screw you.”
  • “I just thought random screaming would help me out.”
  • “Those are people! Those are people! I’m gonna go say hi to the people!”
  • “What I do is temporary, but what I leave behind is forever.”
  • “All of life’s problems are crossed by your eyes! —- what the fuck did I say?”
  • “Bitch, I’m fabulous!”
  • “How do I put thrusters on a baby?”
  • “What the hell was that?! What did you just throw at me?!”
  • “These casual bongos have turned sour!”
  • “You! You’re gonna die tonight! You and your taut chest and your lovely butt. You look good.”
  • “Goodbye. If you could just leave, it’d be great.”
  • “I substitute all my social interaction skills with physical violence.”
  • “I don’t think that’s supposed to be helpful.”
  • “All your life, you’ll meet people that only want to break you down. Forget them, stand strong with the people who build you up.”
  • “Your efforts are futile. You shall be assimilated.”
  • “No, thank you! I don’t want any!”
  • “You’re not alone in anything that you’ve done.”
  • “Let me AXE you a question.”

Took a nap, watched my niece’s dance recital, and am in a much better mood. It occurred to me that weak people who are jealous will tear you down to build themselves up. They will accuse you of things when they in fact are doing much worse.

Bring on Cousin Ben Week and bring on Round 3 of the anthology. Reylo deserves freedom of creativity and we aren’t going to bow down to policing and arrogance.

anonymous asked:

I'm 14 and almost finished writing a book, (and I'm going to write a sequel after I'm done with the first book.) I want to publish it, but I have no idea how to do so. I also have no idea on how to tell if my book's any good. I haven't shown anyone yet because 1. I'm a super paranoid about people stealing my ideas. 2. I don't really want to show my family since my story's not super "church good". 3. I don't have any friends as a homeschooler, except for a few whom I have no idea how to contact.

Firstly, congratulations on finishing! At your age, I had only ever written maybe one or two chapters in an original work. As for your concerns,

Telling if your book is any good: You can’t, really. What’s good and bad is entirely subjective to the reader. The way I tell if my writing is good or bad is by how it sounds when read aloud, although that’s not always something you can do easily (especially for a while book). Another way is to compare its flow and format to published novels. Does it look like it could sit on a shelf? Does it follow too many cliches?

People stealing your work: This is a completely valid concern, in my opinion. I’ve never personally published any of my original works online in fear of someone taking it. However, there are plenty of communities out there for it (FictionPress, Wattpad, AO3, just your tumblr audience). I wouldn’t press you to post if you aren’t comfortable, though.

Not having friends: I would do whatever you can to get involved in a writing community online, or any sort of (positive, well-regarded) community. While there are some awful, toxic people out there, there are also some real gems. Especially with artistic groups, there are plenty of places for each other to bounce ideas off of and simply relate to one another. I would say take your time getting involved in one of these, until you find one or more people who you really connect with. Build up enough trust that you’re willing to at least share a snippet of work and see how it goes. (I suggest email as the best way around it, as large blocks of texts in messaging systems are very unattractive to read) Fellow artists can be a very valuable resource, but don’t take their word as gospel. We all have our own preferences.

As for publishing…There are a few different ways to go. The most traditional route is to first find an agent. This can be a difficult process and takes quite a bit of research. You’ll usually have to write them a query letter, and based on that they may consider reading your work. Once you have an agent, things can get a bit easier. Can. Publishing houses are always flooded with content, and there are more often than not going to be many rejections. Nowadays, self-publishing is fairly easy. Anyone can publish their own work on Amazon, selling as an e-book, but actually selling is the hard part. You’ll need a decent social media network to sell, or just get really lucky. There are also other services that will print your book for you, and then it’s your job to sell these copies. Whatever the case, publishing is full of headaches and turmoil and work. Not to scare you away from it! I just want you to know what you’re in for. I personally finished writing a novel and decided on a few more drafts before getting in on any of that business, simply because publishing intimidates me, and I want to approach it with the best work I possibly can.

In short, the internet is your friend for all of these things. Everything I learned about publishing is from reading about it in books or online. (Mostly online) There are plenty of resources on how to edit, how to find agents, and communities to lend you an ear if you let them. I wish you the best in your endeavor!

Fuck with people who build you up, open your eyes to more and value your energy. Fuck with people who teach you the importance of growth and who support and encourage you through the hardships of your journey. Fuck with people who tell it how it is, no sugar coating. Fuck with people who want to win and who only associate with winners.

anonymous asked:

Hey, just wanted to say that I really relate to you when you talk about your younger days. I'm 20 and unlucky and broke and sad and the only thing that gets me away from it all is my art. I want to be a tattoo artist but I feel like I'm running out of time and opportunities. Idk, guess I'm rambling here. Seeing how you are now gives me hope that everything will be OK.

ugh yes lil bb! can i just be twenty and eat food from the dollar store all over again.
but seriously, I didn’t go to beauty school until I was 24,
and at (basically) 27, i’m still pursuing a career that I basically just woke up and decided on one day.
so don’t sweat it. 
keep your head above water,
meet people, 
use protection
and surround yourself with people who will build you up. 

anonymous asked:

Hi, so i have a bit of a problem of making friends on tumblr. when ever i try to talk to someone off of anon i get sick to my stomach and end up backing out of the whole idea. do you have any advice on how to take that first step on making a friend? Thank you so much if you can.

Hey there, xx

Helpful Links on Shyness:

Ice breaker questions:

  • If you had just won a million dollars, what would you do with it?
  • If you knew that you only had a year left to live, what would you do?
  • What is something you have never done but would like to do?
  • If you had three wishes, what would they be?
  • If you had the chance to start any business, what would it be?
  • Would you rather go a week without your phone or a week without your toothbrush?
  • If you could send a message to the whole world, what would it be?
  • If you had to pick a new name for yourself, what name would you pick?

Some awesome links:

How to Make Friends:

10 tips on how to build stronger friendships:

  1. Choose friends wisely. You do not have to be everyone’s  friend. Choose to be friends with people who build you up, not tear you down.  Choose friends who inspire you and welcome you, not alienate and insult you. You  can’t choose the family you are born into, but you can choose your friends.
  2. Listen. Listen closely to what the other person is saying.  Let that person know that you hear them. Ask clarifying questions. Summarize  what you’ve heard. Though helpful, it does not always have to be through words.  Eye contact and body language are also important ways of showing someone you are  listening.
  3. Respond carefully. Think before you speak – especially if  you are angry. Sometimes, taking a moment to think about what you say before you  start blurting things out will spare hurt feelings and bruised pride. Also, when  friends feel like it is okay to be themselves around you, they trust you. Choose  your words with care.
  4. Avoid consistently giving advice or trying to fix all of your  friend’s problems. By all means, if a friend asks for your advice, give  it. They might want you to proofread an important email before it is sent out.  Maybe they are struggling with a relationship. Perhaps life is throwing them a  curve ball and they need your support or insight. Don’t wiggle your way into  every aspect of your friend’s life, telling them how to be the star of their own  show. Give them room to process things and make their own decisions.
  5. Play fair. Avoid trying to one-up your friends. Eventually  your friends won’t want to play with you anymore.
  6. Be authentic. Be yourself. Be honest. We all test our relationships by throwing something out there about our  true nature. We then hide behind a corner, head peeking out, waiting for the  response.  If someone can’t accept you for who you are, developing a  relationship with them will be hard. Don’t shortchange yourself by denying your  beliefs, values, and point of view, for the sake of fitting in. You won’t be  doing anyone any favors.
  7. Communicate openly and honestly. Developing communication  with a person can take time – and trust! Ask your friends what you can do for  them. Share what you have to offer. Don’t be afraid to let people know what you  need. Share what is necessary, but don’t dominate conversation. When a problem  arises, work through it together.
  8. Accept your friends for who they are. On your search for  friends who can accept your authentic self, keep in mind – other people are  looking for the same thing. We all want people who love us for who we are.
  9. Respect their choices. It is okay to disagree. If your  friend decides to make a move when you think standing still is the right thing  to do, let them do their thing. If you’ve given your advice and your friend sees  things differently, step aside. What your friend is doing might be right for  their life but not yours. They might be making a mistake, but if it doesn’t kill  them, maim them, or leave them in a coma, hopefully they can learn from the  experience. And, if it will kill them, lock them in a closet and don’t let them  out until they’ve forgotten why you trapped them in there in the first place.
  10. Be the kind of friend you want others to be for you. You  want friends who are honest, kind, compassionate, fair, not judgmental,  authentic, and intelligent.  Be that person first and you’ll be more likely to  attract that kind of friend into your life.

(source + more info here.)

Tips on how to make friends:

  • Offer help. always offer help to your friend and be there whenever they need you.
  • Don’t stick to one person. Mingle with lots of groups so if a friend turns on you, you can fall back on your other friends.
  • Make sure your friend is comfortable around you. You don’t want to annoy her if she isn’t, so try to look out for signs that she is definitely happy around you.
  • Learn to entertain. Create a reason why people would want to come over to your place. Offer something to people that they don’t already have. While you don’t want a pool or a video game console to be the only reason people come over, it will give you an opportunity to socialize with people and for them to get to know you better.
  • Be reliable and trustworthy. Friends should be able to trust each other, even with personal secrets.
  • You don’t have to be a superstar to be fun. You don’t even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good and appreciated when they’re around you.
  • Let the friendship unfold naturally. Don’t force the friendship, because they won’t be your true friend if you cannot be yourself around them.
  • Encourage your friends to know your family as well so that there will be more chances to stay in touch with one another.
  • Friendship is not about what you can get, rather it is about what you can give.
  • Get to know that person’s other friends. That way you’ll not only be friends to them, but friends with his/her friends too!
  • It’s very important to remind and counsel your friends about the things they should avoid or refrain from. (Try not to be pushy, though.) This will help you convey how special that friend is to you, and will help you be a positive influence in their life.
  • Be honest. Being honest helps them to make them trust you.
  • Don’t talk about yourself all the time. Ask them questions about them and show interest in your friends and their likes.
  • Make yourself approachable.
  • Get around fun, and confident, people.
  • When having difficulty with a friend, never say anything bad about them to anyone else, because that makes the issue worse.
  • Just be yourself. If someone doesn’t like who you really are then they don’t deserve you on their friend list. If someone does sit with you then please don’t move away from them. This is not considered to be polite to the person trying to get to know you.
  • Make sure you keep yourself open to new possibilities. You never know what might be in store for you, if you are open to many possibilities.
  • Ask them about family. Ask them if they have any pets and then tell them how many you have. They’re most likely to ask what kind of pets and what are their names. Pets is a great and easy topic to keep the conversation going without awkward silence.
  • Along with learning to entertain, try to be unique. When you have something interesting that people can learn from you, they tend to stick around and ask you questions. This is usually the case when you know a lot about something popularly known yet complex, something controversial, or something that could just spark a big debate. Some of the most interesting people you meet may have a large knowledge base when it comes to things like politics, certain religions, or unusual topics like astrology and divination.
  • Friendships require a lot of tolerance and it boils down to how much you are willing to give and take.
  • Know that this is not an exact science. There’s no perfect method to getting a friend. It’s a natural process, and if it happens, it happens.
  • Don’t just go up to someone and say ” Lets be friends” it puts the person in an awkward position.
  • Be kind to each other and hang out with other people who make you feel comfortable being yourself.
  • If you have a friend who knows some good people that you aren’t acquainted with, ask them to invite those people to hang out with the two of you. It is a great way to make some friends who have common interests.
  • Being friendly and polite to each other don’t do the nasty thing Make sure don’t being mean to each other.
  • Try to make friends with someone sitting near you or someone who look really lonely. They might really be able to use some help.
  • If there’s someone who you really want to be friends with, try to sit next to them, but not all the time, or they’ll think your weird. Try to find other people to be friends with instead, while sitting with this person other times.
  • Be yourself.
  • Sometimes you should consider the facts that maybe there won’t be people at your school that will understand you the best! Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t find someone at the time, because the perfect person will come along soon. Just remember to give it time.
  • Give your friend space. You don’t have to see your friend 24/7. If you don’t leave your friend, he or she will feel uncomfortable.
  • Don’t be shy and be real. Many people will like you just the way you are.

Hope this helps :) keep me updated? x

oh my god, this

What they don’t tell you is that there’s a kind of abuse that isn’t about tearing you down.

That there are people that will build you up, and say they care. That there are people who will tell you that you’re perfect and mean it, and still refuse to respect your boundaries.

That there are people who will tell you your funny, and mean it, and still throw a fit every time you talk about someone else you care about.

That there are people who will build you up and put you a pedestal and you’ll feel like shit when you can’t live up to their expectations even though you always knew it was bullshit.

There are people who will tell you they can’t live without you and mean it, and just because they aren’t turning on you, doesn’t mean that it’s not just as bad.

Sometimes it worse.

anonymous asked:

The person that I'm the closest to seems to never have time to talk to me or see me. I love her, not romantically, with every fiber of my being. I don't want to leave her, but I'm tired of getting rejected and disappointed. I just want to see her for a couple hours a week or so. Is that too much to ask? She goes to college 3 hours away, and I'm more than willing to drive there to hang out, but she still says no. But the second one of our other friends wants to see her, she says yes to them.

Obviously she doesn’t have the same love for you that you have for her. It’s important to surround yourself with people who have an equal respect for you and build you up, rather than not make time for you at all. I would reevaluate that friendship and cut it off if it continues this way. The fact that she wouldn’t come see you let alone let you travel 3 hours to see her means you’re not even on the list of priorities in her life. 

anonymous asked:

which member do you think acts cold, and keeps silent most of the time but is actually warm and loving-caring person? thanks!

No problem! Thank you for requesting :)

The members that I think fit this description are:

Jeonghan

Woozi/Jihoon

Vernon/Hansol

The reason why I picked them is because they’re all a little more quiet, serious and can be intimidating if you don’t know them well. They’re people who build up walls around their hearts to protect themselves but once you get past that wall you’ll see that they’re absolute sweethearts who just want the best for everyone.

Sally

Please note that I do not know these people directly and this is solely an opinion

anonymous asked:

I've finally got around to starting my makeup kit and realized I'm totally stumped on which foundations I should stock up on first. I don't have a large clientele but it's decent. Can you give me some good foundations from drugstore to high end? Can you also give me some suggestions on other things I should put in my kit? I didn't realize how hard it would be since I can get serious anxiety from looking at all these products! Lol thanks so much in advance.

Hi there!

When it comes to building up your freelance kit with face products, keep in mind that everyone has different skin types, skin tones, preferences. You’ll want to have foundations that will work with dry skin, oily skin, combination skin, people with acne, people who want full coverage, people who want really light, dewy coverage. 

If you can’t afford to build up a huge face product collection just yet, mix and match products to fit your client’s need! If you only have a matte foundation add a little bit of liquid highlighter into a foundation to make it more luminous, add a hydrating setting spray, use a luminous base/primer. There are ways to make one foundation work for a variety of looks and skin types. 

Also try to have a wide range of shades for a variety of skin tones. I’d recommend buying a lightest shade and a darkest shade and a few medium shades that you can mix together to create the perfect shade for each client. You can even mix foundations for a unique look/finish!

Try to have

  • A full coverage, matte/satin foundation. This will work for weddings, photoshoots, heavy glam looks. Try foundations like Loreal Infallible Pro Matte (their setting spray is great, too!), Estee Lauder Double Wear, Dermablend Cover Creme, MAC Studio Fix, Koh Gen Do Aqua Foundation, Giorgio Armani Luminous SIlk and/or Lasting Silk. 
  • A light weight foundation. BB creams, tinted moisturizers, light weight foundations. NARS Sheer Glow, MAC Face and Body, Makeup Forever Face and Body, Urban Decay Naked Skin Foundation, Loreal True Match Foundation.
  • A moisturizing foundation. Loreal Magic Lumi Foundation, Too Faced Born This Way, Koh Gen Do Maifanshi Moisture Foundation, YSL Le Teint Touche Eclat Illuminating Foundation.

Face product add ons

  • Primers/moisturizers for all skin types. Try to have a light-weight gel or oil controlling moisturizer for oily/combination skin types and more hydrating moisturizing bases for more dry skin types. The foundation won’t look good if the base is melting off or looking dry and flakey!
  • Liquid illuminators. These can be mixed with foundation, moisturizers, used alone, under powder highlight for a more intense shine. 
  • Setting sprays that are hydrating and long wearing. One for oily/combination skin and one for dry skin. For oily skin check out ones like Loreal Infallible Setting Spray, Urban Decay All Nighter. For dry skin check out Tatcha Dewy Skin Mist, rose water, MAC Fix Plus. Setting sprays will also help any foundation/powder look less cakey/dry.
  • Translucent powder. Translucent powders will work on most skin types and skin tones making them a great universal powder. I recommend ones slightly tinted to avoid a white flash back in photos. Try ones from Ben Nye or the Laura Mercier Translucent Powder (best one!)