people submit shit and i'm just

1036. Lily and James' first time was in the Room of Requirement. They didn't mean to spend the night there and didn't even know the room existed until then- it just happened. When they came back to the dorm they found banners that said "it’s about bloody time" and all their friends clapping. Sirius even came and shook their hands. Lily didn't know where to bury herself but James enjoyed every second. He felt like he just won but not at Quidditch- he won something much more important, Lily.
It really breaks my heart...

…to see people in our submit box starting their submissions with “this is going to sound like a joke” and “i promise i’m not a troll” etc etc.

These people weren’t born thinking their interests were to be taken less seriously than more common ones. Someone in their life falsely believed that one interest was better than the other and put them down for loving something obscure with all their soul, and over time more and more rude people perpetuated those thoughts until the fan was forced to hide their love. That’s horrible to watch. It hurts me on a very personal level.

I feel a pang of fear and sadness every time we get a more obscure submission from a controversial fandom or a children’s show or something that is widely hated on this website. Because the person submitting loves that thing enough to have whole headcanons based around it, it’s clear it means something to them on a personal level. And I know from helping to run this blog for as long as I have that there is always going to be people in the tags laughing at them, berating them, talking down on them–for something that is entirely, 100% harmless.

I don’t care if you think it’s funny that someone likes, identifies with, or discusses the mental coding of characters like Shrek, or The Cat in The Hat, or Larry the fucking Cucumber, or Thomas The Tank Engine, or Johnny Test. I don’t care if you think certain fandoms, (special) interests, or content is “cringey.” I don’t care if someone told you that your interests were embarrassing when you were young, and you’re taking that out on others. It isn’t right. It is your job to break the cycle and be kind. I don’t care if the headcanon doesn’t even make sense to you. It has a place here. It has a place here. Any instance of a borderline person loving themselves and seeing themselves in the world, rather than hurting constantly like we so often are forced to, has a place here.

There is a reason I block people who leave comments/tags like that–and you best believe I read them. But me blocking you won’t stop the submitter from seeing your comments, and you need to start putting yourself in the shoes of someone who loved something enough to build an idea around it and put that idea out to others, only to be told they deserve to be mocked for something that hurts no one and helps them to feel better.

I would expect that the least from us with BPD, who know the sting of abuse and are the textbook definition of little, minuscule comments setting you into reeling meltdowns on the day-to-day. “Don’t be awful” shouldn’t be a high standard. It should be the bare minimum.

It costs 0 dollars to be a nice person. If you think a submission is ridiculous, you’re entitled to your thoughts, but know that I don’t support them, the other mods don’t support them, and you will always be wrong here. I hope you can grow up and realize how harmful it is to tell someone their genuine joy is cringey or embarrassing or whatever buzzword you’re using these days to bully children, and autistic people, and human beings just trying to fucking cope with how shitty life can be, on a blog that encourages them to. I hope eventually you realize that whatever hurt you didn’t make it worth this.

And submitters? With obscure interests, who think they’re going to be mocked?

I can’t protect you from the unkind people out there. But I can let you know I will always be on your side, and I would never reject your submission, no matter how “weird” it might be. I will always have faith. Despite everything, I will always have faith in the goodness & honesty of people. I trust you. I will always trust you. 

Please never stop being yourselves. Please never stop loving & feeling passionate. Passion is one of the things that makes people with this disorder so beautiful. It’s one of the things that makes us different, better, stronger.

Your thoughts matter to me.

You matter to me.

~mod wendy