i was…trying to find some things i could do in the area to connect with other queer people today. cause like…i was feeling really lonely and hopeless in terms of finding a potential s.o. and i thought maybe i should take some initiative and start looking for people
but like….everything is labeled as ‘lesbian meet up groups.’ and…and i’m not a lesbian. i’m definitely sapphic/wlw, i definitely have a preference for female-identifying people, but i don’t identify as a lesbian. I’ve done a lot of soul searching on that and i know my attractions are heavily preferenced but not exclusive.
so on that note…
am I allowed in a space labeled ‘for lesbians?’ i feel shut out just because of that word. even if i am allowed, am i going to feel at all comfortable or accepted there? I haven’t come across this myself but i’ve had friends who have been harassed for biphobia and panphobia and acephobia and i’m like…scared. i’m scared to try and enter something labeled ‘for lesbians’ because……..i don’t know if it’s a place i’m allowed to enter, either by the space’s rules or just the group’s norms and notions.