Dear straight people
Please stop saying you wish you were gay. Please.
I know you don’t mean any harm by it, you’re usually just making a joke… But even you know that, it’s “funny” to say you want to be gay, that you want to have attraction to the same gender.
Those of us with same gender attraction don’t get a choice and it’s not a bunch of laughs all of the time with trendy gay spots and lots of plaid.
I mean, it can be those things, but almost ALL of us have to deal with a tonne of prejudice and bullshit that harms and hardens us and a lot of us don’t want to hear your quirky comments about how you wish you were gay.
For any reason.
It’s too easy to think about the violence, aggression, systemic oppression and homelessness we face to laugh along. If my mouth smiles at your joke, my stomach fills with a knot, I assure you.
You can still talk about what celebrity you think is gorgeous and I’ll agree with you, but don’t tell me you want to walk a mile in my shoes without taking a look at the stains upon them.