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Dear straight people

Please stop saying you wish you were gay. Please.

I know you don’t mean any harm by it, you’re usually just making a joke… But even you know that, it’s “funny” to say you want to be gay, that you want to have attraction to the same gender.

Those of us with same gender attraction don’t get a choice and it’s not a bunch of laughs all of the time with trendy gay spots and lots of plaid.

I mean, it can be those things, but almost ALL of us have to deal with a tonne of prejudice and bullshit that harms and hardens us and a lot of us don’t want to hear your quirky comments about how you wish you were gay.

For any reason.

It’s too easy to think about the violence, aggression, systemic oppression and homelessness we face to laugh along. If my mouth smiles at your joke, my stomach fills with a knot, I assure you.

You can still talk about what celebrity you think is gorgeous and I’ll agree with you, but don’t tell me you want to walk a mile in my shoes without taking a look at the stains upon them.

Thanks.

So I hate it when people mistake being a little sad for a day as having depression. or when people think that because they skipped lunch twice in a row in order to try and lose weight means that they have anorexia. so then they talk like they know absolutely everything about that or like they actually have it or something.

but then there are the people who, for example, have made themselves throw up after each meal since they were 13 or who have secretly tried to kill themselves 8 times but have never spoken to a doctor or been diagnosed with anything dealing with that. those people I feel have a right to say ‘maybe I have depression’ or 'maybe I am bulemic’ because those things that they’re are doing/have done are really serious issues and they weren’t just using them as 'trends’ for lack of a better word.

I’m stuck in the middle though, I have actually been diagnosed with a form of depression and an anxiety disorder but I haven’t been diagnosed with an eating disorder. and thats why I always kind of feel weird if I were to say 'I have an eating disorder’ because I dont want to self diagnose.

I spoke to my doctor about it about a year and a half ago because my mother was concerned and because had to be rushed twice due to the fact that I stop eating aka stop taking care of my body. my mother told my therapist some things about my habits and I opened up to her about it as well and she gave me some pamphlets about ed’s and encouraged me to go to a support group for teens with ed’s and she told me she wanted to get more into that when I came back.

but the thing is, I never went back so I never had any more conversation with her. at the time I was like “fuck, I could actually get diagnosed with something” and I didn’t want to be put under a microscope again like I was when I was diagnosed with my other things so I just backed out. but now I regret that because actual disorder or not, I have trouble with this and if I had just kept going maybe it wouldn’t be so bad now

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I think everyone in the fandom wants to rewrite that Wood/Spike scene. They devalued Wood’s pain in favour of Spike’s. I knew a shady confrontation was coming, but I never anticipated Spike to react that way. I don’t know why the writers thought Spike could get away with his actions with no consequences while still being a hero, especially since he was on a slippery slope since Season 6. Did the writers just really want people to hate Spike?

Yes, the writing in general in this episode is hard to understand as was often the case with Spike’s character in the later seasons. And I think that people are definitely right when they say that it was intended to be a controversial episode. And it probably would have been fine if there had been an episode later that fixed some of the stuff happening in that episode, but it never happened. So I end up hating the episode even more because of it.

People are saying that Mon-El is going to be right because the writers want to dumb down the Danvers ladies. It makes sense that their judgment is clouded while Mon-El is able to think more clearly since he has no emotional connection to Jeremiah at all. They love Jeremiah so obviously their happiness for seeing him again after so many years can lead them to forget the fact that the whole thing may be suspicious. That doesn’t make them dumb. 

anonymous asked:

idk if it's just me but... tsumugi's 4* doesn't look as good as the past gacha 4*s..? like idk if happy elements tried with him or not 😨

right?? there were people on my twitter tl saying it looks rushed/photoshopped lol. earlier i also saw a thread of comparing chiaki’s card to previous cards and the expressions were the exactly like tetora’s gacha card + chiaki’s vol cover etc. Tbh most 3*s recently are repetitive too. Huh i guess happy elements don’t need to try because ppl will feed them money regardless 🤔  

When Moffat and Gatiss turn queercoding into a joke, don’t acknoweledge their own queerbaiting and reduce the matter to people “fantasizing”, they give me a reputation for being delusional.

When you give me and other queer people a reputation for being delusional, you pass that reputation onto what we have to say about queer rights.

It doesn’t stop to people believing that I am crazy to think two characters could get together in a TV show. When I talk about being attracted to girls, being agender, trans people not being perverts, the validity of poliamory, not f/m couples parenting, etc. people are going to think that those opinions are crazy too. Spoiler, this is already happening in my life.

And Lena Dunham’s comment wasn’t just disrespectful to people who have been in situations were they needed an abortion, but especially disrespectful to people who have needed but were denied an abortion.

With the controversy over President Trump’s immigration ban, I’ve noticed that a lot of people are arguing over whether undocumented immigrants have constitutional rights. Tomi Lahren tweeted the other day that the “hard left” lives in “a lala land where illegals have constitutional rights.” Glenn Beck has gone a little bit more extreme, saying that undocumented immigrants “do not have legal rights.” And the same point is all over Twitter.

It sounds like it makes sense. Why would the Constitution protect people who aren’t even part of the country or respecting its laws? That’d be wacky, like trusting the people to govern themselves or guaranteeing the right to say whatever you want! The problem, as you probably guessed from the sarcasm, is that undocumented immigrants do have constitutional rights. Lots of them! And this isn’t a controversial opinion, or something “the hard left” invented recently. The Supreme Court of the United States has made this point over and over again in cases like Yick Wo v. Hopkins, Wong Wing v. U.S., Plyer v. Doe and most recently in Zadvydas v. Davis. In Wong Wing, Justice Field even wrote this in his decision:

The term “person,” used in the Fifth Amendment, is broad enough to include any and every human being within the jurisdiction of the republic … This has been decided so often that the point does not require argument. [Emphasis mine]

That was in 1896. This argument was boring people 130 freaking years ago.

The Most Quoted B.S. Myth Inside The Right’s Media Bubble

I hate when people say “don’t be so sensitive”.

Because I would legitimately LOVE to be less sensitive in some ways, but HOW. Please explain it to me. HOW do I be less sensitive. Explain it, right now. I’m gonna need charts and diagrams and specific instructions but since according to you I can just STOP, you should have no problem telling me HOW to stop. Right?

(It’s amazing how quickly people shut up when you ask them to tell you how to do the thing they just glibly told you to do. Almost as if it’s NOT that simple. Hmm.)

Some PSAs about White Feminism in the Post-March Era

We came out, we marched. But now we have to let our actions speak louder than our words. 

TO MY FELLOW WHITE WOMEN: 

Do not sit down. Stand by your marginalized sisters. Acknowledged your privilege, or started to? Good, but not good enough, now use it as a wall between those who have been silenced for too long and the brutality of our system. Yes, ours. Become familiar with the idea that we are a part of the system and demographic that elected Trump. Familiar, not comfortable. You can’t fight an enemy that you don’t know, but no matter how comfortable it feels, you have to realize how dangerous it is. SHOW UP for rallies that don’t represent your demographic. Acknowledge that you will not always be welcomed into that space, and that when you are, your presence there is as an ally and a witness, not a voice. You can not speak for anyone but yourself, from your own experience. And if you are asked to leave? Leave. Stop defending, start listening.

Words are a call to action, they are not the end. Do not sit down.

And no matter what, do not lose sight of this: We are fighting for equality in an army that is on unequal footing. Yes, our end goal is equality for all women, all humanity. But if we smile and pretend that we face this fight together as one unified front, and if as white women we take calls for us to do better or affirmations of power, beauty, and strength from marginalized communities as threats and insults, we are losing. 

And we have to wake up, because the scariest part of all of this is: As white women, we can afford to lose.

Will there be laws passed that scare us, anger us, and even slash our rights to affordable healthcare, etcetera? Yes. Do we have something to lose in this battle? Without a doubt. But we have always had and will always, for the foreseeable future, have a safety net in this country: Our whiteness. And that is why, if you truly want to fight side by side with your sisters, this is going to be harder than you thought. Because if we don’t use that safety net as a barricade between police brutality and our sisters when they are in need, if we don’t use it as a banner on which to project their voices to our fellow white people until they start listening to them directly, then we can march all we want, but we’re marching in a bulletproof security blanket with little pink ears while our sisters march with targets on their backs. Wear the hat. Take off the blanket.

Removing that security blanket to use it for anything but our own personal safety is something that we as white women have never been required to do in this country. So now, we have to require ourselves to do it. 

We wanted a revolution, and here it is. Here is our chance. Millions of people are mobilized. But if we are saying that we are here for all women, we have to show up and listen to those women. If we want our sisters at our sides, if we want that unified front, we have to be ready to make ourselves less safe so that our sisters can stand beside us. This means accepting criticism, listening to anger without jumping to defend ourselves, asking what we can do to be better allies instead of announcing our plan of action. If you want to fight together, you have to be willing to take a step back and realize that right now, we are not. The women who hold up “Remember: White Women Voted for Trump” signs are not the enemy of unity in marches: our own privilege and defensiveness is. When we let our feelings about being implicated in racism and bigotry come in the way of fighting that racism and bigotry, we play right into the hands of those who would seek to drive us apart and paint us as whiny girls who hate to lose. 

Remember who you are and what you personally stand for, but never forget to say their namesThis is war, but we’ve been playing it like Risk.