people cooler than you

You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and to try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad—or good—it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.
—  Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life

so i totally understand the ‘cringe’ factor when it comes to people who are like ‘oh, you’ve probably never heard of the things i like. they’re weird and different and unique’  except my therapist pointed out that i always preface talking about any of my hobbies by saying they’re strange and small and ‘most people haven’t heard of them’  

and i just realized it’s because of years of bullying and disinterest from others that told me that I was strange and everything i liked was strange so now i feel the need to prepare people to be disappointed and disinterested in anything i have to say 

The only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and to try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad—or good—it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.
—  Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life
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get to know me meme: [1/∞] tv shows » the big bang theory

This is for the invisible kids. Maybe you never fit in. Or maybe you were the smallest kid in the school. Or the heaviest. Or the weirdest. Maybe you’re graduating and you still haven’t even had your first kiss. By the way, nineteen, and Geraldine Coco, wherever you are, thank you. Maybe you don’t have any friends, and guess what, that’s okay. My point is, while you’re spending all this time on your own, building computers or practicing your cello, what you’re really doing is becoming interesting. When people finally do notice you, they’re gonna find someone a lot cooler than they thought. And for those of you that were popular in high school, it’s over, sorry. Thank you. Congratulations.

good life advice i have for you:

-bald people are cooler than you think

-it’s always worth it to go pet a dog, even if you’re late for something

-sometimes an event isn’t always a gathering

-you can put a fish on a table.

I don’t miss you anymore. I noticed you part your hair in the middle now though, but your teeth are still a crooked fence surrounding your wicked tongue and lies are still the only things that manage to slide through the bars.

I don’t miss you anymore. I’m sorry about your series of unfortunate events that somehow meant you had to ignore every attempt I made at contacting you before I finally gave up. You still haven’t even opened the messages. You couldn’t even leave me on read.

I don’t miss you anymore. Last time I saw you, you told me you were sorry for the way we ended and for never really saying goodbye, but rather cutting me off. My heart still broke when you decided that I wasn’t worth your time and that drugs gave you a better high than my presence. My heart still broke when you told me that you’d forgotten most of the memories we had. My heart still broke when you found people that you thought were cooler than me and weren’t afraid to tell me about it.

I don’t miss you anymore. My resentment is stronger than my sympathy and I cannot tell you how grateful I am for that night last week. I’m grateful that you told me about how hard your life was and when I offered sympathy and help, you left with two men instead. I’m grateful that you showed me how well I am doing without you and how toxic your presence is to me. I’m grateful that I no longer struggle to go a day without thinking about you and the eight years you were my best friend.

Thank you.

- my scorpio venus in 11th is showing lol

anonymous asked:

Do both the lovely asks that start with tag! 🐝 and 🦋 ((The emjoi wouldnt work ;-;))

🐝- Tag three friends and your three favorite things about them!
I cant believe i had to choose just three
@andy-the-anon - They try to cheer me up when I’m down, they’re actually super sweet, and they’re fun to talk to!
@mira-jadeamethyst - The cutest, honestly. She has a really nice voice, and she cares a lot
@pansexualroman - shes fucking hilarious, is hella pretty, and shes cooler than me evem though shes younger

🦋- Tag three people you want to get to know better and state why!
@imin-loveanon - I see them a lot on my dash (makes sense I am following them lmao) but we don’t talk a lot and they honestly seem pretty cool!
anongram - I can’t tag them but I’m really fucking curious about them okay they’re so goddamn sweet when they send me asks.
@mylasagnaisraw - Again, we’re mutuals but we haven’t really talked! They seem pretty chill though!

“You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and to try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad—or good—it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.”

— Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life

anonymous asked:

Yondu realizing that you talk in your sleep... and that if he asks you questions while you sleep you're completely honest. .. ;)

Ooooh 😏😏😏Of course!!! I just imagine him asking you whether he'a cooler than other people and stuff XD

You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and to try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad—or good—it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.
—  Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life
TAG YOURSELF AS A SIGN
  • (I DON'T HAVE PRETTY PICTURES WAAHH)
  • Aries:
  • - tall or medium
  • - vvvv nice eyes wow
  • - passionate in many ways ;))))
  • Taurus:
  • - lives in the kitchen
  • - probably secretly in love with you
  • - g8 person to rant to
  • Gemini:
  • - smol af
  • - tew kewl 4 skewl
  • - can't spell well
  • Cancer:
  • - great hair
  • - innocent badass
  • - stops liking something after it becomes mainstream
  • Leo:
  • - baby drama mama
  • - hot af tho
  • - a people's person sometimes
  • Virgo:
  • - cleans up vvv well
  • - annoying, but charming
  • - beautiful smile
  • Libra:
  • - has too many clothes
  • - says goals to everything
  • - lives in their own world
  • Scorpio:
  • - secretive
  • - ????
  • - ????????
  • Sagittarius:
  • - cares about what people think
  • - high-key low-key will always be cooler than you
  • - intelligent
  • Capricorn:
  • - responsible
  • - lives in their room
  • - has a vvv nice face shape
  • Aquarius:
  • - totally not an alien
  • - speaks in a fake accent a lot
  • - your problematic fav
  • Pisces:
  • - sleepy
  • - OBSESSED WITH FOOD
  • - has more cute jackets than the average human

it’s funny because (probably even up to a year ago) i used to believe that anything popular was not worth my time, too “superficial” and “shallow”. 

i’ve realised that being different and unique is not the only thing that makes you valuable. you don’t have to be unique to be interesting or of worth. 

being a fan of skam has taught me that i want to share what i’m passionate about with other people. i want to discuss things i find important and entertaining. i want this little norwegian show full of meaning, humour and authenticity to be known and loved worldwide. 

basically, i think sharing your passions is way cooler than pretending not to care about something. tell people you care about what you care about. share your passions.

anonymous asked:

that harrystyler person is a nonblk POC who loves to call harry out on not speaking up on issues like BLM as if they're in the position to call someone out on that. Also she's one of those "I have better and more "adults" issues to worry about in real life instead of a rich white guy" people. Like okay sis we get it you're cooler than us I guess.

i wonder how that person feels about tswift using black women as props in her video and kendrick lamar as a gateway into urban music and her not speaking up about literally anything politically motivated ever because it would cost her her fans in the south and midwest. but i digress. also if you’re still actively running a blog on tumblr dot com how engaging is your spectacular adult life anyway

Tips and reminders for the signs

Aries: have you eaten today? Strawberry banana smoothies are very nutritious and tasty. Add a few strawberries, a chopped up banana, and some plain yogurt then whip it all around in the blender. If you have energy, you’ll feel better. Please don’t forget to eat. I love you and I want you to take care of yourself. It’s always really exciting to find something new to be passionate about. Maybe you could experiment with making your own soap! The Internet has tons of cheap fast recipes for it and molds aren’t very expensive. You need to find something to get excited about, find something that makes you feel alive again.
Taurus: the days are very busy, but you need to find time to take care of yourself. Have you brushed your teeth this morning? Combed your hair? What about putting on those really comfy socks you like? It’ll make you feel better. Every step you take will be a squishy, soft step on a cloud. Maybe when you get lunch you could make yourself a little treat. Like chocolate cover strawberries! Those are wonderful and you deserve it. Eat two. And don’t you dare feel guilty about it. There is nothing wrong with treating yourself and taking care of your mental and bodily health.
Gemini: start reminding yourself everyday that what you have to say matters. Ignore all the people who want to judge you based on your sign. You’re cooler than them anyway. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like you’re less than you are. Go to the store and buy yourself a brand new pillow. It sounds stupid but at the end of the day we all just want to be comforted and a super fluffy pillow will make you excited to come home. My brother taught me that, and it has helped me so much. You have to have something to look forward to.
Cancer: don’t forget to call your family if you live away from them. They love you and miss you and you aren’t alone. Maybe you could go outside and find some cute bugs and name them! I have a bumble bee in my yard that I’ve named Bernie. It’s always really exciting to see him, it makes my day better. Maybe having a little buddy outside could make your day a little better too. Don’t isolate yourself. You need love too.
Leo: don’t forget to change your bedsheets. I know it’s aggravating and it feels like it takes forever, but I promise when you lay down tonight in your cosy clean bed you’ll feel refreshed. Maybe make a little time today to go out buy yourself a sun catcher to hang in the window. Sometimes we forget how beautiful things are and little things like sun catchers can help remind us. A little beauty goes a long way.
Virgo: when was the last time you did something for yourself? Go online and find a few coupons and go out and buy yourself some nice smelling bubble bath or new soap or lotion. I know it doesn’t seem like much, but sometimes we just need something to look forward to. Even if it’s just a bubble bath with your new soaps, it’s exciting and you can stay in the bath for hours to read and relax. You could use some relaxation. Don’t push yourself so hard. You’re doing just fine, I promise.
Libra: it sucks, but maybe a little de-cluttering is what you need. Rearrange your room. Change something. Get rid of all that clutter that has been nagging at you in the back of your mind for months. Clearing out some space to work or dance or draw will help you so much. You’ll feel productive and proud of yourself and you should be proud of yourself. You’ve made it so far. We’re rooting for you. We’re all so proud of you.
Scorpio: please please please get out of the house. I know things seem pointless and exhausting but you can do this. Go look at the sky, go have a picnic or see a movie with friends. You aren’t alone, don’t let your mind trick you into thinking that you are. Buy that neat new thing you’ve had your eye on, you deserve it. Don’t forget to let yourself be happy. I know you feel strange without your sadness, but you deserve everything life has to offer. You’re going to be okay. You’re going to be better than okay.
Sagittarius: you don’t have to do everything that is expected of you. Learn to say no. I know that it makes you feel like a disappointment, but no one should have the the right to make you do things that make you unhappy. Slow down, life is passing and you don’t want to miss it. Find something beautiful and let it make you feel beautiful too. Do that thing you’ve always wanted to do. Stop living for the future, it’ll make you miserable. We believe in you. You can do whatever you want. You are enough.
Capricorn: when was the last time you actually sat back and relaxed? Wal-mart sells wonderful flower bouquets for pretty low prices. Buy your favourite and put some flowers on your table or your bed-side nightstand. Read that book you’ve been pushing to the side. Make time for yourself. Your life does not have to take the backseat to your career and you are more than you think. Go to the farmers market and buy some of your favourite fresh fruit and vegetables. It’ll give you something to look forward to. You deserve to be happy.
Aquarius: stop trying to be what other people want you to be and start being who you are. You are magnificent and we all love you. Wear that outfit that you’ve been too afraid to wear and rock it. Stop telling yourself that you aren’t good enough. A lot of places have U-pick farms where you can pick fresh fruit. Look up the closest one to you and go. There’s something so wonderful about picking your own fruit; it makes you feel proud of yourself and I know you could really use that feeling right now. Maybe you could bake yourself a pie with your fresh fruit and watch a new movie while you eat it. Learn to enjoy your own company.
Pisces: no one knows you better than you know yourself. It’s time to put your foot down and start standing up for yourself. You deserve to be treated better and you know it. Get out of bed. Laying down and thinking all day will only make you feel bad. Go to Hobby Lobby buy a new candle. Their app has coupons and you can get one product for 40% off if you’re tight on money right now. You need to let go. You are your own worst enemy and I think it’s time for you to put that part of your life away and become your own best friend. I believe in you.

I never had friends either not for a very long time, not until I was much older than you. I wanted them, too. And I always wondered if I would ever find any, and how, and when. And then I went to college, and I met people who, for whatever reason, decided to be my friends, and they taught me - everything really. They made me, and make me, into someone better than I really am. You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are - not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving - and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and to try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad - or good - it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.
—  A Little Life, Hanya Yanagihara

Kill insecurities. Don’t be insecure about other people. So what if they are handsomer, prettier or cooler than you? So what if they write better than you? So what if they capture pictures in an amazing way and you don’t? You are you. You are unique. Insecurities will just make you lose your confidence in yourself. You will most likely doubt your capabilities and skills. You are a beautiful being created by God in the most excellent way. Love and appreciate yourself because someone out there appreciates you with your knowledge. And with that,  you can easily bring out the best in you. You can easily see your potentials.