people are bad influences

I mean pals, friendos, we’ve all talked about how media depictions influence things like racism and transphobia and misogyny.

We’ve all talked about how scrubbing media of all depictions is bad, tokenization is bad, false or slanderous depictions are bad and they all influence the ways people think of vulnerable people. This is common ground!

None of you fandom kids crying about “antis” are unfamiliar with this discourse, it’s basic level crap.

So why does that all disintegrate the moment the stuff you find sexy in your prons gets a tiny iota of criticism? I haven’t even said anything about your own coping responses. I’m not your therapist. It’s not my call to say if watching rape porn is good or bad for your healing process and in no way am I going to get in the way of whatever things you do privately in your own home to cope. 

But everything that literally all of us know about media does still extend to porn. The ways women are depicted in porn can still harm women as a class by priming men as a class because it’s still media, that people consume (often uncritically) like literally all other forms of media. The ways trans women are depicted in porn can still do harm! Racism in porn still does harm! Those things don’t just disappear because it’s your fave wank bank material!

And that can’t be ignored. We need to change all forms of media. Porn included. It’s all got problems. Get a grip, folks

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Sorry, who’s Jonathan?
My brother. Jonathan Morgenstern is a demon-blooded monster who is responsible for the death of your friend.

i know lots of people get all hot and heavy for the ‘rebel/bad influence who goes after the goody goody/nerd to corrupt them’ but what about the reverse? what if the rebel was the one minding their own business when the goody goody suddenly started approaching them, asking them out, trying to get to know them. constant pestering and cute little quips that leave the rebel flustered (and a little flattered but don’t tell the goody goody shhh).

just picture it. initially people think the rebel is the one giving the goody goody a hard time but instead the rebel’s trying to avoid getting seen with the other a lot bc no you’re too pure and sweet you’re gonna ruin my punk rock image sTOP. but the goody goody just doesn’t care about image or labels they just know that they want the rebel and dammit they’re gonna get the rebel.

i’ve already seen a few people already criticise junhong for his tattoo or disregard it as ‘yongguk’s influence,’ and it’s been pretty upsetting to see how some are treating him. none of us know the significance of ‘relation in time’ to junhong. he is someone who truly lives for art, and the piece is obviously really meaningful to him - why else would he get it permanently on his skin? if you don’t agree with his tattoo, keep it to yourself. his body is his own, and he can do whatever he wants with it without approval from others.

if youre an adult you need to be very careful on how you interact with minors. even if ur not interacting with any directly, you need to think carefully on what you say or create bc it will be seen and it has impact. do not hurt young people, do not misuse or betray their trust, do not be a bad influence to them, do not make their space unsafe.

be kind and considerate to them, remember that you were once young too. nobody deserves to grow up hurting, it’s too much to bear and the price is too high

kids, be careful. i know it’s sad but not everyone deserves your trust. you deserve safety and comfort.

i’m asking from the bottom of my heart for everyone to really think about this. thank you.

bad influence sentence starters.

’ come on, it’s no big deal. ’
’ can you throw caution to the wind just this once. ’
’ why do you hang around people who are a bad influence? ’
’ my parents think you’re a bad influence on me. ’
’ it’s not going to kill you to do it this one time. ’
’ don’t worry, i never get caught. ’
’ it’s not like they’re going to catch us. ’
’ are you in or are you out? haven’t got all day. ’
’ you distract them and i’ll run inside real quick. ’
’ if we get caught just tell them i forced you too. ’
’ it’s not rocket science, just sneak out when they go to sleep. ’
’ come on, it’s not like it’ll be the end of the world. ’
’ it’s not sneaking out if they never find out. ’
’ i’m sorry, remind me of what a guilty conscience is again? ’
’ it’s okay to break the rules sometimes. ’
’ you can’t die from bending the rules a little. ’
’ they’ll never find out because neither of us will tell, right? ’
’ i won’t tell if you don’t tell. ’
’ are you going to snitch me out if we get caught? ’
’ are you going to come with me or not? ’
’ it’s not that hard to tell a little lie. ’
’ don’t worry, i got it covered. ’
’ stop being such a big chicken all the time. ’
’ you seriously need to do this stuff more. ’
’ this is not being a criminal, we’re just having fun. ’
’ i’m not under the influence, okay? i can drive. ’
’ it’s just a one time thing, how bad can it be? ’
’ it’s not like you have to do it every day. ’
’ they will not find out, i promise. ’
’ no one will know because we’ll do it at night. ’
’ it’s not like anyone can actually get hurt. ’
’ you’re going like that? you clearly over think too much. ’
’ it’s just some stupid party, calm down. ’
’ if you don’t come then who’s going to make i don’t do anything stupid? ’
’ you are such a party pooper sometimes. ’
’ stop being a sissy and just do it already. ’
’ stop being a crybaby, just do it. ’
’ i’ll do it with you, come on. ’
’ okay, on the count of three, you ready? ’
’ it’s not like you’re stepping out to commit murder! ’
’ stop thinking so much and just do. ’
’ why don’t ever wanna do something with me? ’
’ it’s not illegal, just come on. ’
’ you have to prove your not a chicken. ’
’ you never want to do anything, why not? ’
’ come on, we’re going to play chicken on the road. ’
’ it’s a harmless prank, can you just chill. ’
’ nothing wrong can happen with a prank. ’
’ just tell your parents you’re coming to my house for the night. ’
’ it’s not that hard to lie to your parents. i do it all the time. ’
’ one day, you’ll realize, it’s not that bad. ’
’ you cannot go and tattletale this time. ’
’ just so you know, no one likes a tattletale. ’
’ are you actually crying right now? i can’t tell. ’
’ seriously, man up already and do it! ’
’ for the record, nothing i do is actually illegal. ’
’ come on, it’s going to be so much fun. ’

“Fiction isn’t reality! / It’s just fiction”

Buddy, pal… Ayn Rand’s novel Atlas Shrugged is considered the 2nd most influential book in American History after the Bible itself, which makes it the Most influential Fiction book. Every fiscally Conservative politician has read it and lives by Rand’s objectivism. But it’s ~just fiction~ which is why Speaker of the House Paul Ryan’s entire ethos is based almost entirely in Ayn Rand’s philosophy

For context, Ayn Rand believed that Selfishness was a virtue and Empathy was by extension a vice and a form of parasitism. Putting the needs of others above your own needs was the highest form of evil her philosophy. She once described a serial killer as a “Superman” because “other people do not exist to him, nor should they.”

Now back to Paul Ryan, the man behind the gutting of the ACA, he, a conservative, says that the conservative morality is laid out in Atlas Shrugged, and he’s not the only one who believes this. Rush Limbaugh, Michelle Bachmann, Ron and Rand Paul, and basically every major Libertarian politician all cite Ayn Rand as an influence (and it’s probably why Ron Paul named his son Randall).

The entire objectivist morality is that the government is an anathema to the Individual, which is sacred.

Individuals, especially rich, selfish individuals = good
Government = bad

Sound familiar?

But sure,,,,,, fiction is fiction so it doesn’t affect the way people think,,,,,,, people can tell the difference,,,,,,,, ,,, fiction and reality are totally separate and one doesn’t influence the other,,,,,,,,,,,, obvi

If you’ve been feeling empty:

It’s not about money. It’s not about social status. It’s not about where you are in comparison to everyone else. Are you okay? Are you fulfilled? Do you feel valuable on this earth? Does your life feel like a safe, peaceful and grounded place? Success is not enough. Distraction is not enough. It’s not about getting through the day, it’s about walking down an intentional path. Having fun can be very innocent but it can be very evil. Don’t close your eyes and walk through a minefield. Examine your intentions, for yourself and others. Don’t let yourself be a gateway to darkness. It will only drive you deeper into your own despair. If you’re a negative force for yourself, you negatively influence the people around you which makes you feel bad about yourself which causes you to act negatively which influences the people around you and so the cycle continues. Break it. You don’t need a good time, you need hope. You need purpose. You need to see how powerful you are when you’re fighting for your life. You need to know what winning feels like, not in the eyes of others but in the depths of your soul. It’s not too late but you need to act now. It’s not always the cool thing to be positive but a lot of cool people live empty lives and die alone. Don’t let yourself become a dead person who never lived. Lights are meant to shine. Love is meant to be shared. You are meant to be more than this. No more being asleep at the wheel, wake up now.

Why do people always assume Prompto was a bad influence on Noctis? Maybe it was the other way around? Maybe Noctis was the one who wanted to stay out late or go to the arcade. If he didn’t go home, he didn’t have to take the responsibilities he didn’t want in the first place. Maybe he just wanted to be a normal high school boy doing normal high school boy things and here comes this sunshine child who just wants to be friends with Noctis and treats him like an actual normal high school boy. Not saying Prompto is entirely innocent himself but come on guys, look at that sunshine child. He just wants Noctis to be happy. You can’t tell me he didn’t easily give in to Noctis’s rebellious whims.

Kpop Groups as Your Friends

BTS: Would somehow turn every conversation into a deep social commentary on the issues of society when you only wanted to know how their day was.

Monsta X: Would scream, jump around and strip until you finally paid attention…Then would forget what they wanted to say in the first place.

Big Bang: You already know if you get caught doing delinquent activities with them YOU’LL be the one in a jail cell and they’ll pretend they don’t know you.

Seventeen: They lowkey make you feel like you’re not trying hard enough in life but they don’t do it on purpose. Exudes pure energy and can turn any situation into a party.

EXO: You argue all the time but that’s because your friendship has been tested every kind of way. Would do anything in the world for you and has learned to have your back.

iKon: Tries to be tougher than what they are, and their mouths always get them in trouble. Shops at thrift stores for vintage swaggy hip hop gear.

NCT: Your friends that are always going through a “phase”. Their identity is always evolving and changing and you can’t even try and keep up.

Block B: Your parents hate them and think they’re a bad influence but they’re actually the nicest people in the world.

Vixx: Everything they say has a double meaning and you only barely ever have a clue of what they really mean. You just nod your head “yes” a lot.

Got7: Not even sure how you all became friends. Migraine medicine has to always be kept handy as the noise level is always on 10.

B.A.P.: Use to be sheltered and is now obsessed with tasting all the pleasures that life has to offer. Drinks 12 Red Bulls a day.

Winner: You don’t see them much. They’re always grounded even though they did nothing wrong. Cell phones were taken away.

It’s time.
It’s the 1rst of March 2017 and that means that this beautiful boy, the reason of this account right here is 23 now.
I can’t really believe how fast time is flying but it is, faster than I ever imagined.
Wasn’t you just 16 yesterday, having your first world tour, wasn’t it just yesterday when my world came out, when you reached more and more goals that you had, wasn’t it just yesterday that this fanbase was created?
Well it’s pretty crazy to think about the fact that this was all nearly 8 years ago, isn’t it?
It is nearly 8 years ago since we started to watch you growing from this little kid into this beautiful young man and I can’t even say how proud I am of you, but just saying that I’m proud would be an understatement because it has been nearly 8 years since you decided to live this kinda life, to take us with you on your amazing journey, and since then, we’ve been here, we’ve been here with you through thick and thin, we stayed through rumors, lies, changes, mistakes, break ups. We stayed when you had the worst part of your life, when you were in deep depression, not knowing what to do with your life anymore, and now look at you my angel.
You rised like a skyscraper out of the ground, you handled your depression, you started to keep your life together again and most importantly, you found your purpose.
You’ve been through a lot, your journey was everything but easy I can tell.. you know, it was tough,
~ you had to deal with the fact that people called you a “ girl ” because of your voice when you were just 16,
~ when you became 17, you were rumored to be a father,
~ you were getting called gay by the age of 18
~ then, 2013/2014, or how we call it, your bizzle phase, you had to deal with more hate than I ever imagined, parents calling you a bad influence for their kids but the worst is that you had to deal with yourself and we had no clue
~ then you turned 21 and you were having a hufe comeback, you went through a lot of changes
~ and well, now it’s the time where I can say, with 22, people called you a jerk and they tried everything to tear you down, but you’re still here.
^ look at all of this, and people still call Justin weak? I’m sorry but for me this just proofs one more that Justin is one of the strongest people existing out there.
And even though you went through all of this, you still managed to love us, to take care of us, to make us feel like we’re worth it, and it amazes me everyday how you have the strength to do it everyday.
People don’t really get it, they will always question the memories I created, we all created with Justin, the stories we have behind all of this, they will never get it, but Justin, there’s one thing you should know and one thing people will always question,
you’re keeping me alive for a lifetime now.
In my darkest times, you were there.
When everyone turned against me and showed me their back, you offered me a hand.
When I thought that all hope was lost, you reminded me that there will always be hope as long as you’re there.
You brought the smile I’ve lost for years back, in such a short time.
You are the reason I’m fighting through a bad day, why I keep holding on.
You’ve always reminded me that I’m not alone, and that you’ll might not be next to me right now but that you will always be with me.
When I was struggling with anxiety, depression and panic attacks, I just had to listen to be alright and I knew that everything will be okay again.
Even though you don’t know how I look, you make me feel like the most beautiful princess.
Do you see this?
You’re the reason behind my smile,
you made me believe in myself,
you made me accept myself instead of bringing it down,
you gave me hope when I thought there’s nothing left,
you stood by my side when I was alone,
you helped me to get out of the darkest place in my life and yet, people still say that you’re a bad influence, shake my head at every single one of them, I wonder if they would still call you names, talk bad about you in front of us, or even come
up with rumors if they would know that you’re the only reasons why their friends, daughters, classmates are still alive.
^ but that’s a different story.
This day is supposed to be about you and only you.
I’m so endlessly proud of you, you’ve got a grammy, a diamond award, our fanbase keeps growing, you’re finally the person who you want to be, you started to figure life out and maybe you didn’t figured out completely, but you figured it out enough to be happy with yourself, and that’s all that matters, your happiness.
There’s so much more I wanna say, so much more things I’m proud of, so much more reasons why I love you, so much more reasons why I will always be with you, but I don’t even have any ideas how to put it into words, because you really do mean everything to me.
But since it’s 12AM,
Happy birthday my angel,
just remember that we love you, that we’ve always loved and that we will always love you because you might not know, but you’re the reason why so many of us are still here.
Happy 23rd birthday my beautiful little cupcake vanilla muffin puppy baby prince, I love you way more than to the moon and back. ❤️🎉

anonymous asked:

What's your opinion about people saying that dnp are living in a glass closet and being a bad influence on young people because they haven't come out as a couple and that makes young people see coming out as being bad for your career etc? And that, while they aren't queerbaiting, how they act since they haven't come out seems close to it?

My opinion is that they’re real damn people and it’s not the worst thing in the world for kids to realize that sometimes it’s okay to decide not to come out, because the reality of the world is that sometimes it is bad for your career and sometimes people do decide they hate you based on your sexuality alone and sometimes it’s okay to not feel like you have the responsibility of some unseen burden on you to come out even when it will make you life worse to do so. 

And my opinion to the second part of your question is also: they’re real damn people. Queerbaiting is when writers of a show or movie decide to imply something queer in subtext that they never plan on reflecting in the reality of canon. If you want a fiction-to-real-life comparison, then queerbaiting is more like Joe Sugg making his thumbnail him kissing Caspar when we know Joe is straight, Joe has said he’s straight, we know Caspar is straight, Caspar has said he’s straight, they’ve both only ever been interested in women, and we know they aren’t dating or together. They use queerness as a bait for views; the same cannot be said for Dan and Phil, two men who in their individual lives have both been out in the past and neither of whom have ever said they were straight, even when it would have greatly benefited their attempts at distancing fan intrusiveness from their relationship. Nothing about their queer subtext is not backed up by their life so it’s a null point to me. If one of them “come out” as straight we can talk queer baiting; until then all I see are queer people expressing themselves the way they want to and feel most comforted with.

(This line of questioning in general always just makes me sad for closeted people everywhere who have to endure attitudes like this, people who  make them feel ashamed for staying in the closet or like if you don’t explicitly come out to every single person you meet you aren’t allowed to say certain things or make certain jokes.) 

BTS Reacts - You Having Tattoos

Kim Namjoon: Would offer to go with you when you get your first tattoo, partly because he wants to see how you’d hold up to getting one for the first time. Namjoon is open-minded. He wouldn’t see a person with tattoos any different than someone without them. He appreciates and supports the idea of self-expression, and if you wanted to do it in the form of tattooing yourself, then he’d say, ‘by all means’. He’d probably get one himself too if permitted in the future. Maybe not as many as most enthusiasts; he’d get a small but significant one, and you can bet that you’re the first person he’ll look to for tattoo recommendations and advice. Low-key impressed by your guts when you both walk out of the room with a big smile on your face.

“That… doesn’t look half bad, actually. And you handled that really well.”

Jung Hoseok: He’d have a hard time not being intimidated by you at first. Hobi knows it takes a lot of courage and pain tolerance to even get a tattoo, and he can’t even muster the steel nerves to imagine what he’d have to go through to have the amount of tattoos that you have. He might seem timid at first to approach you because of them, but he’s not the kind to judge someone by the way they look, so it won’t take him long to warm up to you after his initial reaction, and he may possibly admire you for your bravery. Excited to show Hoseok your new tattoo sleeve, you casually walk into their recording studio. His eyes widen in horror - he didn’t think you’d be daring enough to get a design spanning the length of your whole forearm.

“W-What is that? What did you do to your arm?! Did you dip it in a vat of tar?!”

Kim Taehyung: Won’t have a problem with you sporting tattoos; big or small. Tae himself loves art of all forms, and he would probably appreciate the craft of inking skin as well. He might be caught off-guard when you two first meet, but he’ll eventually come to admire the branding on your skin, the closer you get to each other. If there’s anything he might ever be concerned with, it’s for your health - after all, infections are not unlikely. You decide to get something new inscribed on the side of your arm, and when you present it to Taehyung, he gapes at the sight of fresh ink on you. He is a bag of mixed feelings, for he really thinks it looks great on you, but he would secretly be jealous that you even have the option of getting yourself tattooed. 

“Yah, you got a new tattoo? Ah, you look so cool, I seriously want one too…”

Park Jimin: If you asked this man for his opinion on you getting tattooed, he’d probably be opposed to it - at first. He won’t try to stop you, he knows that people should be able to do whatever they want with their bodies, especially if it doesn’t really hurt them, and it makes them happy. He just doesn’t want people to associate you with being a bad influence. However, he’d probably be singing a different tune when you actually get inked. Bangtan are relaxing in the lounge when you pop in to show them the new tattoo you’ve gotten, and while they all crowd around you to look, Jimin stares from further away. He doesn’t want to admit it, but he’s kind of turned on by it. You approach him and speak apologetically.

( Sorry, I know you didn’t think getting a tattoo was a good idea- )
“No, it’s okay, I changed my mind. You look… really good with one.”

Jeon Jungkook: Number one fan of your body art. After all, Jungkook loves to draw, and has said that he’d definitely consider being a tattoo artist in the future. Just for the sole fact that you are tattooed, he’d spend a lot of time with you just to be able to examine it in awe, and marvel at all the details that come with it. His envy isn’t as uproarious as Taehyung’s, but you can tell it is tenfold. It makes him wonder if he can think of a way to convince BigHit to let him have a tiny tattoo, just one, where no one would even be able to see it. He bites his lower lip when you catch him staring at you every so often. Seeing the ink on your arms just reminds him that he can’t have one, which gets him more frustrated than you think, even more so than Taehyung.

“…”
( Something wrong? )
“Aish, I really want one…”

Kim Seokjin: He knows he can do whatever you want with yourself, but for some reason, he can’t help but feel strongly against it. There are other things that you can do that aren’t as outright, like getting multiple piercings, so he’s not sure why you would feel the need to make such a bold statement with dark ink permanently etched onto your skin. Don’t misunderstand, for this is just the protective side of Seokjin being summoned. He himself doesn’t have a real problem with tattoos, but he’s aware that Korea, in general, is still a conservative country. People might not take well to the markings on your skin. He sighs, placing an arm around you to reassure you that this doesn’t change what he thinks of you - he’s just worried about you.

“I’m not trying to tell you what to do with your body, but… I just don’t want people judging you harshly because of your tattoos.”

Min Yoongi: Goes back and forth between wanting a tattoo on his own body, but shouldn’t have a problem with them on others. He believes anyone can choose to look however they want, as long as they’re a good person on the inside. He might respect you for it even more, as you would have gotten one in spite of what other people might think of you. He accepts that different people have different ways of showing their passion about something, and if his is through his music, yours can be through body art. You’ve never gotten inked before, so when Yoongi jokes about how he doesn’t think you’d ever do it, you’re determined to prove him wrong. You show up with a visible length of dark ink trailing up your neck, and all he can do is laugh and place his hands on both sides of his head in surprise.

“Holy shit, I can’t believe you actually did it, pabo! I was just joking!”


Found some time to complete a reaction, hope you guys enjoy it! Some of them are of the reader getting their first tattoo, some of them are of the reader already having them. <3

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