I have an INFJ male friend and I want to know more about him. He's exceptionally quiet and doesn't always say much. What do I do? Do straight-to-the-point questions work?
Us INFJs are often like onions; peel back too many layers at once and you may cry.
That aside, I’ve noticed that INFJs tend to make you feel as if you know them without you actually knowing them. I do this almost subconsciously. We do this to blend in. It’s not often that someone takes interest in finding out anything more.
In the case of your INFJ friend, I think you should spend some time with him one-on-one; it’s the way we work. With one other person we don’t have to divide our attention and we can be more connected. Spend a day with him around town and I garrante you will learn something new about him. Asking him questions will most likely work, but only after he’s comfortable.
I wish you the best of luck, Anon!