For every single gift daddy, splenda or free vacay I’ve gone on (I’ve been on 3 this yr and was suppose to have one this weekend 😧😟🙁) this is the trap I use.
1) I casually throw out lingerie shopping for myself out there which of course will entice them. Note: I initially didn’t ask him for anything, just stated it would inevitably happen.
2) He bites…he wants to see. That’s when I ask if he’s buying it. Usually its a “yes” to which I’ll flirt back. In the rare occasion that it’s a “no”, I let him no that he shouldn’t even ask to see me in anything sexy if he’s not willing to buy me something sexy to wear. This usually turns a “no” into a “yes”.
3) I include him in the shopping. I send him photos of things I’m thinking about buying. If he starts to fantasize, I’ll slightly indulge him like “oh yea, I DO think my butt will look great in that…”
4) I up sale him. For example “oh yea, I DO think my butt will look great in that… Can’t you imagine me in lingerie and pearls/at dinner in nude heels and a form fitting dress with my lingerie peeking from underneath/ red lipstick and chanel?”
I’m creating an image for him that he thinks is based for his pleasure but already I’ve gone from just lingerie to pearls, dinner, shopping for shoes and dresses, makeup and perfume. And he doesn’t feel forced because he’s trying to bring to life the image I created for him.
Another trick could be to double up. Once you agree on a set or whatever tell him that you want to pick out another as a complete surprise for him and that he can’t see it until you wear it. Now you have two sets! (Assuming you have his card or he paypal you the money).
It starts small then you just add on a bit more every time. It helps if he believes You’re already accustomed to this treatment. If he thinks every man does this for you and that if he doesn’t do it, another will, And that he won’t get your time of day without it then he’ll more than likely get on board if he truly wants your attention. Btw of all the men I’ve used this on…. young vanillas are the easiest. Truly. Honestly.
OOTD from yesterday! We went to the city to see an awesome play called Battlefield, a four-actor adaptation of part of the Mahabharata, and then wandered around in Britex. I didn’t buy anything because I made a vow not to buy fabric I don’t already have a project set up for, but it was a close call.
The dress is from Hot Topic (would you believe? It’s technically merch for the Burton Alice movie, but the pattern isn’t too specifically his versions of the characters so I love it anyway) and everything else is second-hand or a gift.
I had a SU-related dream last night. I don’t remember all of it but it was set thousands of years ago on Homeworld. Gems had to buy shoes and what shoes they could buy depending on what kind of Gem they were. Basically, there were different shelves of different ranks and if you were a higher rank Gem, you had access to all the lower ranked shoe shelves too. Pearls only had one shelf and it wasn’t even on display because it was considered a waste of space (who would choose to buy those shoes?) so they had to specifically ask to see that shelf.
Anyways, Pearl had to get new shoes with a stipend from her unspecified owner Gem and also pick up their lunch (I guess this shoe store was in, like, a Gem mall [Gemall] because the lunch was from a food court). She had to ask for the lowest rank shelf, which she was really embarrassed to do.
But another Gem, who was also unspecified but I’m going to assume was Rose, had an arrangement with Pearl to give her her old shoes. And what they would do is cut the soles off her old shoes and attach them to the new shoes Pearl got, because I guess that’s where the quality difference was (low ranking shoes had little support, I think). They would do this secretly, of course.
friendly reminder (because I still see people doing this) that, if you are cosplaying/thinking of cosplaying pearl, please do not wear actual pointe shoes for the cosplay! this is, of course, applicable for any character depicted as wearing pointe shoes/something similar, but with the popularity of steven universe this is something I see a lot. so please, unless you are a trained ballerina/o who has danced en pointe long enough to be considered extremely well trained (we’re talking years, even, guys), do not wear pointe shoes for this cosplay
here, let me give a (by no means exhaustive) list of reasons why you shouldn’t do this:
pointe shoes are hella painful. if you have not broken them in properly, and you have bought them for the sole (heheh) purpose of this cosplay, I cannot stress enough the fact that you will be in pain. just like ballerinas don’t buy a new pair and wear them for the first time in a performance/at an audition, so you should not wear a new pair in a cosplay.
pointe shoes are also wayy expensive. literally why would you want to pay all that money for a pair of shoes you literally have no use for besides this specific event. pointe shoes are so ridiculous when it comes to price I literally had to give up buying a new coat (I hadn’t gotten one for 4-5 years) because my sister needed two new pairs of pointe shoes, one for compeition and one for class. because guess what? you can’t just borrow/hand down pointe shoes. they are literally tailored to the owner’s feet. my sister’s first fitting for a pair of pointe shoes took 2+ hours. do not buy pointe shoes it is so unbelievably ridiculous
on a related note to the first point (hehhehee) - if you have not trained en pointe before, you will (almost certainly) injure yourself. it doesn’t even matter if you’ve taken ballet before - if you never learned, from a trained professional, how to properly move and walk and, yes, dance in pointe shoes, you will almost certainly hurt yourself. many people I knew took dance classes for ten, fifteen years, and still had to wait and train even longer to go en pointe because they didn’t have the strength just yet. friends of mine have tried to go en pointe too early and have literally broken their ankles because their ankles were too weak to hold them up in such a strenuous situation. do not ever, I repeat, ever, try walking/dancing en pointe without the proper training.
“but,” you says “I won’t stand en pointe! I’ll just wear the shoes and walk flat-footed! I’ll be fine then”
you will not
this can hurt your feet, this can hurt the shoes, and no matter how much you promise you won’t do it, it is almost guaranteed that, at some point, you will feel tempted to go up en pointe and you will fuck up your feet so, so terribly. and whether you’re en pointe or not, if you have pointe shoes on your feet and you are not standing correctly, you can get bruises, you can get blisters, you can lose your toenails, even. justfrom standing wrong, not even dancing around in them. even if you think you’re up right, and yes, even if you’ve gotten training, you can still fuck up your feet very, very badly this way - I won’t include pictures, seeing as it’s totally nasty, but people have permanently damaged their feet to such an extent that they couldn’t dance any more. case and point, my cousin - she was a beautiful ballerina, played both the sugar plum fairy and sleeping beauty in her studio’s productions, but she had to stop dancing because it caused too much damage to her feet.
and one last thing - it’s rude. literally, it’s just incredibly fucking rude. a ballerina works and trains for years to earn the honor of getting to go on pointe, often being shut down numerous times along the way - they have earned that thing, blood, sweat, tears, and all, through ridiculous amounts of hard work and pain, both physical and mental. earning your pointe shoes is the moment at which a ballerina can say “fuck yeah, I did it. I finally fucking did it.” it’s one of the biggest moments in a ballerina’s early career, and the last thing that someone who’s worked so hard for that wants to see is someone going “look at me, I’m such a cool ballerina lol” and stomping around in pointe shoes with no training, no had work behind it whatsoever. I’m not kidding, this is an insanely insulting, horrible thing to do. end of discussion. no debating, no protesting. you’re essentially saying “hey, your hard work doesn’t matter - these shoes that prove your dedication and hard work and pain are just a bit of costume that anyone can wear if they feel like it.” it’s just flat-out rude, okay? know that.
so, like I said, this certainly isn’t an exhaustive list - there are other reasons not to do this, but these are some of the biggest, most important things.
“but then what do I use for [insert character name here]’s pointe shoes?” you ask. “they have to look realistic!”
well, lucky for you, there’s these amazing things called ballet slippers!
they look like this
they come in pink and tan (most often), but can also be found in white and red and tbh quite a few colors actually
they’re surprisingly easy to dye actually (if it’s a dark color)
it is incredibly easy to sew ribbons onto them if your cosplay so requires
they’re like 1000 times cheaper and more durable than pointe shoes
you don’t have to break them in how lovely
these can absolutely be borrowed! sizing is so much more forgiving! you don’t even have to buy your own!!
they look like pointe shoes y’all
no ballerinas will be upset if you wear these
did I mention they’re hella comfortable
they’re basically socks I’m not even kidding
you can get them in leather, like the ones above, or you can get ones with this stretchy-ass fabric between the ball of the foot and the heel, which means it’s super comfortable and even easier to move in (although slightly less durable))
in conclusion please wear ballet slippers for cosplay instead of actual pointe shoes
no one will look down on you for that and you will have a 100% better time I can guarantee that
have a lovely day and don’t try going en pointe without the proper training and preparation yaaaay
Costume worn by Queen Victoria to a ball inspired by ‘The Court of King Charles II’ on the 31st July 1851, with Victoria records in her diary -
‘… My costume was of grey moiré antique, ornamented with gold lace, - a very long waist & sleeves trimmed with old lace. The petticoat showing under the dress which was all open in front, was of rich gold and silver brocade (Indian manufacture) richly trimmed with silver lace… In my hair I wore an arrangement of pearls. The shoes and gloves were embroidered to match the dress.’
1851 drawing of Victoria in her costume, with Albert in his costume made for the ball. I love this drawing because it really gives you an idea of how short Victoria was!