Ci sono storie che durano anni e in questi anni magari ci s'innamora e disamora. Alcuni smettono di amarsi, ma rimangono comunque insieme. Altri decidono di lasciarsi, ma per farlo hanno bisogno di tempo. Prima cercano di capire se sono veramente sicuri, o se è solo una crisi passeggera. Se poi alla fine si convincono che è veramente finita, devono comunque trovare il modo di farlo, trovare le giuste parole per lenire il dolore. Ci sono persone che su questo punto possono anche perdere mesi, a volte addirittura anni. C'è anche chi ci ha perso una vita e quel passo non l'ha mai fatto. Molti non riescono a lasciare, semplicemente perché non sanno dove andare, oppure perché non riescono a sopportare l'idea di essere i responsabili del dolore dell'altro. Un dolore intenso, che può provare solo qualcuno con il quale abbiamo vissuto in intimità. Si ha la convinzione che un dolore improvviso sia troppo forte e faccia maggior danno di un dolore più piccolo, ma dosato giorno dopo giorno.
Questi rapporti vanno avanti anche se chi sta per essere lasciato lo ha già capito. Perché preferisce far finta di niente. Quando nessuno dei due è in grado di affrontare la situazione, il meccanismo si inceppa. Entrambi sono sopraffatti dalla propria incapacità e da quella dell'altro. Allora, prendono tempo. Perdono tempo. Sfiniscono il tempo.
La persona che sta per essere lasciata quasi sempre diventa più affettuosa, più gentile, più consenziente; non capisce che in questo modo peggiora la situazione, perché qualsiasi persona troppo accondiscendente perde fascino. Più si ritarda, più la vittima diventa debole.
C'è anche chi rimanda nella speranza che l'altro faccia un passo falso, un errore, manifesti anche solo una piccola debolezza per potersi aggrappare a quella e usarla come scusa per non
sentirsi carnefice. A volte anche quando non ci si ama più e ci si rende la vita impossibile a vicenda si continua a essere gelosi. E non ci si lascia solo per impedire ad altri di avvicinarsi.
Sono tanti i motivi per cui si resta insieme. Magari in una storia di cinque anni si è stati innamorati e ci si è amati solamente per due, o tre, o quattro. Per questo la qualità di una storia non può essere misurata dalla durata. Non conta il quanto, ma il come.
—  Fabio Volo, Il tempo che vorrei
-¿Qué pasa?… ¿Por qué me miras así?
-Has cambiado de peinado.
-¿No te gusta?
-Sí, pero cuando una mujer cambia de peinado significa que también está a punto de cambiar de hombre.
—  Federico Moccia, Tengo ganas de ti.
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Super cool PDF version –> Click here!!

It’s done!!! I spent hours making this, but it’s finally done.

This three-page spread (wth) is a mix between the old-fashioned “So your child is genderqueer” PowerPoint and my own experiences/knowledge. As you can see, I added a lot of definitions and pictures (because it was necessary).

Credits for the Genderqueer Pride Dragon go to kaenith.

(Please note that English is not my first language and it could have some mistakes. I reviewed it a few times and didn’t find any, but feel free to tell me if you find something wrong and I’ll change it.)

PLEASE reblog this. It’s very hard for some people to come out to their parents about this complicated topic. It’s also useful for the rest of the family/friends, because this can be applied to them as well.

Have a super nice day! I really hope this helps some people.

(I’ll be adding more resources in the tag “so your child is”. Not just about genderqueerness though. Also, thinking of translating this to Spanish.)
lgbtqnation.com
All New York City single occupancy bathrooms now required to be gender neutral
New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio’s administration will use a 2002 civil rights law to accommodate transgender people in several areas.

New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio’s administration issued a report last week explaining how they will interpret a 2002 civil rights law to accommodate transgender people. The New York Commission on Human Rights document explains the way the city will enforce the law. One of the biggest changes listed is the requirement that all single occupancy bathrooms be clearly marked as gender neutral. Several other cities have similar bans on sex segregated restrooms unless they are meant for multiple people at a time.

The law explicitly states that it is illegal to deny a transgender person access to bathrooms, locker rooms, and other single-sex facilities. It also requires police, employers, and landlords to use a person’s pronoun and name of choice regardless of the name and gender marker on their identification.

“The [New York Civil Rights Law] requires that individuals be permitted to use single-sex facilities, such as bathrooms or locker rooms, and participate in single-sex programs, consistent with their gender, regardless of their sex assigned at birth, anatomy, medical history, appearance, or the sex indicated on their identification,” the document reads. “The law does not require entities to make existing bathrooms all-gender or construct additional restrooms. Covered entities [such as landlords, city agencies, and employees] that have single-occupancy restrooms should make clear that they can be used by people of all genders.”

“Some people, including, for example, customers, other program participants, tenants, or employees, may object to sharing a facility or participating in a program with a transgender or gender non-conforming person. Such objections are not a lawful reason to deny access to that transgender or gender non-conforming individual.”

The entire document is available for download online [pdf].

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* Weak masculine nouns decline -[e]n in every case except the nominative; only a few decline -[e]ns differently in the genitive.
der Junge, den Jungen, dem Jungen, des Jungen
der Friede, den Frieden, dem Frieden, des Friedens

^ Masculine and neuter nouns decline -[e]s in the genitive, with the exception of some weak masculine nouns (see above).
der Hund, des Hundes
der Vater, des Vaters
das Haus, des Hauses
das Auto, des Autos

̃ Dative plurals decline -[e]n unless the plural already ends with -n or -s.
die Äpfel, den Äpfeln
die Bücher, den Büchern
die Bananen, den Bananen
die Fotos, den Fotos

̄ There is no plural form of the indefinite article. The negative plural form is shown for explanatory purposes.

† Possessive pronouns decline in the same pattern as the indefinite article.


German case declensions - download as PDF

more German resources

  • Finn to Rey:You looked at me like no one ever had
  • Finn:Except this one guy Poe Dameron
  • Finn:He was super hot tbh and I liked him a lot
  • Finn:I don't know if I liked him more than you I mean I've known you for longer but he kinda gave me a name and his jacket is the only thing I actually own
  • Finn:But he's dead now
  • Finn:If he were around I'd totally be giving him this speech too tho
  • Finn:So anyway
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HI GUYS I DID an Undertale fan zine to silkscreen (just for myself) and i figured I’d upload the pdf!! The pdf is available for download here 

DO NOT READ UNLESS YOU’VE BEATEN THE GAME, both no mercy and pacifist. This zine contains MASSIVE SPOILERS like. its entirely spoilers.

The zine is also under no circumstances available for print or distribution of any kind aside from this pdf. If you see it printed or mass distributed report it because that’s not cool. 

I just wanted to have some fun with the imagery of the game, because it inspired me a lot! anyway !! 

Undertale is by TOBY FOX, and is available for purchase here


Thanks for reading!!!

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