I’ve been practicing Wicca for over a decade. Actually it’s closer to two decades than not, but whose counting? But I clearly remember the struggles I found when I was first starting down on my own path. The books I managed to get a hold of taught a lot of things, but left so much up to me that I found myself floundering for certain basic decisions that these authors had made long before they started publishing their grimoires and Books of Shadows. I wanted to know what they meant by picking a craft name, or choosing between different paths in Wicca, and what they meant by patron gods and goddesses.
I almost turned away from the Path because I felt overwhelmed but what I had to do with no clue on how to do it.
Thankfully I had a friend in High School who came from a family who practiced. She helped me out and here’s hoping I can do the same for you in one of the most basic…and most important…decisions of the Craft.
Choosing your patrons.
Some of you may have already done this but I do implore you to go over the steps to reevaluate and moreover reaffirm the choices you’d made. It never hurts.
First let’s start with:
What is a Patron Deity?
A patron is defined as someone who lends support (usually financially) to a person or organization. A patron deity is similar. These are the gods and goddesses that lend you their strength or guidance or inspiration when you need it. It is argued by many that it’s not a matter of choosing a patron but a matter of discovering the patron who was meant for you.
I tend to agree with this concept but you don’t necessarily have to.
So, how does one go about discovering your patron?
If you’ve been following my blog you already know that I believe that all deities worshiped on our planet are aspects of the God and Goddess so why bothering picking a patron? It’s a really good question and the answer isn’t exactly simple, but I’ll try my best.
The god and goddess created the universe, the world, and all the things that inhabit it. Through them all things were created. The placed a part of themselves in each creature and natural thing that exists. That includes people, people who felt the presence of the God and the Goddess and struggled to give them forms, names, and stories to describe them.
Now some people think this knowledge gave the god and goddess different forms. Some people think that this was just our way of breaking down a cosmos that our minds can’t entirely comprehend. Some people think that the gods and goddess are children of the Lord and Lady.
To be honest, it doesn’t really matter which of these you might believe. We pick a patron because there is an aspect of the god and/or goddess that speaks to us completely and it gives us a channel to worship the Lord and Lady better….or at least more personally.
So now that this is (hopefully) cleared up…how do you pick ‘em? More steps!
The first thing you ought to do is research. You have to go out and read about different pantheons, different deities, holidays, temples, myths, legends, and more. You have to read about it all. And don’t just stick with what you know because of pop culture. Reach out to pantheons you’ve never heard of, or read myths about gods you know only a little about. Really open your mind to what’s out there and find what it is that speaks to you.
Check out books, check out the internet, talk to fellow pagans. Each one will give you perspective on the forms of the God and Goddess out there, and how they can be worshiped.
don’t’ skimp on this step. Don’t assume that you already know and don’t need to bother with it. If nothing else it can confirm what you feel you know in your heart. And it can tighten your relationship with the God and Goddess but further understanding all the ways that they have been worshiped.
Alrighty, if you’ve done step one right then you have an incredible amount of information laid out for you. Possibly an intense amount. Now that you have this astonishing amount of information what do you do with it?!
Short answer? You understand it. You go over it and figure it all out. You seperate the stories that spoke to you from the ones that didn’t. What does they really mean to you? Why? Why did the set the ones aside that you did?
Then you go on.
Now you get to sit around and let your mind do all the work. You meditate on them. You sit down and call to each of them, starting with the ones you feel matter to you first. This process can take a long long time, especially if you aren’t a regular meditator.
The meditation is supposed to help you hear what some Wiccans refer to as The Call…I know it sounds a little Hollywood but it’s kinda apt. The Call is different for every single practitioner out there, you go on a meditative search for them…and someone answers it.
I know that’s really very vague and for that I am sorry. Just trust me that when It happens you are going to know.
Possibly not the best word for what happens next, but start building a relationship with your patron. However you feel is best, and in whatever way might appeal to that god/goddess. If it turns out Dionysus is your God then buy some wine, go to a party, see a play. If you are called by Brigid then write a poem, take a class for CPR or first aid, so on and so forth. If this is the god for you then you should probably enjoy the things that they ask you to do.
In this you make a bond between yourself and your patron.
Any questions, problems, or concerns please inbox me!