patronise

pixaling  asked:

Last night you were sounding overwhelmed by the nearness of Julians birthday and I was trying to think of something to say that doesn't sound patronising but couldn't, so sending an ask so you don't have to respond - the jist of it is you are going to rock this! You have already done so much good fathering - the research, the hyperemesis, the dysphoria and constantly having to clarify your situation. You and Alex have this completely in hand and Julian is going to be a smashing little boy <3

Merci! I hope so. We’ll both definitely give it our best!

anonymous asked:

Mercy, Zarya and Pharah with a short male s/o who has a psychological complex where he tends to overreact and get really angry when somebody calls him short. (Like Edward Elric from Full Metal Alchemist)

Mercy


She can sense this is a sore spot and doesn’t comment on it. She does wish that you wouldn’t get so angry but she isn’t you so she can’t tell how you feel. She does her best to not accidentally patronise you, not wanting to hurt your feelings. She is quite good at scolding - it comes with the job - so she’ll make anyone who does patronise you feel bad.

Zarya


It’s hard not for her to notice, everyone seems to make a comment about the height difference between the pair of you. She does her best to reassure you when it gets to you, telling you that everyone is short to her. It doesn’t say exactly what she meant but you got it, knowing that she was saying that everyone was gonna point out her height.

Pharah


She doesn’t care about your height, you’re a good person and that’s all that matters. She won’t mention your height or tease you about it, not wanting to hurt your feelings. Whenever you start to feel sad about it after that spurt of anger, she’ll drift up in the air with you. Showing you that at this height, everyone looks small.

this website pisses me off, everyones always like “space is so cool!” not its not, space is bullshit and i hate everything about it, i genuinely just saw the phrase “a black hole with a mass two billion times the mass of the sun” im so pissed off, shut the fuck up, dont patronise me scientists you know i dont know what the fuck that means, my sad little brain cant comprehend the mass of one sun let alone two fucking billion, i cant even count past 10 without getting confused and youre out here talking about the mass of two billion fucking suns, shut the hell up. and dont even get me started about black holes or the expansion of the universe because thats another two seperate rants entierly. oh and apparently theres a planet made of ice except the ice is also on fire??? yeah sure fucking thing, scientists. and this is just the shit i know about. i purposely dont research space because it pisses me off so much, god knows what other fucking bullshit exists out there that ive yet to read a fucking wikipedia article about. i dont think space is real, literally everything about space is so fucking fake, this is just some elaborate fucking practicle joke. two billion times the mass of the sun, fuck you

anonymous asked:

What do you think about Bernie still standing and fighting for what he believes whilst Hillary has seemingly vanished from the face of the earth?

1) Bernard is a sitting senator. He doesn’t get extra plaudits for doing his job.

2) Hillary has been front and centre in politics for 30 years. As a lawyer, as First Lady of Arkansas and then the country, as New York senator and as SecState. From April 2015, she WAS the front line against Trump and all he stood for. She was out there every single day for a year and a half offering a viable, experienced, informed, dedicated and - yes - progressive alternative to Trump. When you ask the question “What was this person doing to fight Trump?”, Hillary Rodham Clinton was standing up and saying “PICK ME. I’M 69 AND I WILL FORGO A CALM AND HAPPY RETIREMENT IN ORDER TO SPEND EVERY DAY OF HOPEFULLY THE NEXT EIGHT YEARS OF MY LIFE FIGHTING FOR YOU AGAINST THIS KIND OF BULLSHIT. PICK ME. I’M READY. I’M WILLING. PLEASE.”

And what did she get for it? The same patronising, sexist bullshit she got the 30 years prior. A primary opponent who falsely introduced an entire generation to her as ‘The Goldman Sachs Lady’. A legion of “concerned liberals” in key swing states voting for Jill Fucking Stein in numbers that made up the vote-difference and more. Twitter Eggs and Facebook Bros saying “She’s just as bad if not worse than Trump.” WORSE THAN TRUMP. SERIOUSLY. And that wasn’t enough. As a final slap in the face, despite winning 3 million more votes than THAT opponent, despite being educated and capable and experienced and diligent and caring and ready, she was denied the office she respected so deeply, (in contrast to the coward who sits in it now), denied the opportunity to serve the country she was willing to sacrifice her Golden Years for on a technicality, through an arcane, archaic system. And just to make sure she wasn’t allowed to end this farce with even the faintest shred of dignity, faithless electors stripped her of electoral college votes she DID win, instead voting for the male primary opponent she FAIRLY beat by every democratic metric, a woman who didn’t even run for President, and a Republican. Oh, and then be told “Bernie would have won.”

If Hillary had been elected, Bernard wouldn’t HAVE to be “still standing and fighting.” Sure, he’d be working. He’d be doing his damn job. He’d be making sure the progressive wing of the Democratic party was heard.

But would President Hillary Clinton have signed a Muslim ban? Would President Hillary Clinton have moved to repeal the ACA on day one? Would President Hillary Clinton have appointed an Education Secretary who literally hasn’t got the first clue about the education system? Would President Hillary Clinton have picked an Attorney General who actively tried to withhold voting rights from Black America? Would President Hillary Clinton have named to her inner circle, and to high-ranking governmental positions, people with strong, evidential ties to hostile foreign powers? The answer to those questions and more would be a resounding “HELL FUCKING NO.” But she was never given the opportunity to prove that. Because she gave a few speeches. And because she sent a few emails. And because her husband was the figurehead of a charitable foundation.

So if, as a private citizen, Hillary wants to walk her dogs in the woods for a bit, so she should. Lord knows she earned it. She played her part, and she was burned for it. She deserved better than the vitriol to which she was subjected in the election, and she deserves better than the scorn with which she’s now treated by people who chose not to tick the box because they wanted to cling to their vain, ill-measured notion of ideological purity. She’s not the one who should be paying the price for the fucking godawful cock up swing state voters made.

Thank you SO much for asking what I’m sure you intended to be a purely innocuous question, and my apologies that you got the brunt of my intense frustration - I’ve been holding that inside for rather a long time. It feels good to get it out.

Oh. One final thing. Please might I direct your attention to Hillary’s twitter feed - I think you’ll find she’s far from ‘vanished’.

fun fact about fat lesbians/wlw:

you really are gorgeous and amazing and all that stuff those positivity posts like to say.

You know what else? You’re also hot. You’re sexy. There is a girl who DOES actually find you attractive, like, in a physical way. Many, actually. People DO want to kiss you. Your body is glorious. Us fat babes deserve to feel desirable in every single way, because we are. I promise. Even though you don’t feel it and you don’t believe it and you’re terrified of making a move and upsetting her or grossing her out or being predatory.

People are attracted to your body. Finding you hot is not the purview of fetishists or weirdos or chasers. When she says she finds you hot she is not lying. It takes so long to even start to trust that. But it’s true.

Endearing Qualities:

Aries: “I can be argumentative towards someone I care for but if someone else does it towards them then that’s just not on.”

Taurus: Expressing affection through physical goods, whether that’s preparing food, baking goods, or seemingly random gifts. They can find that generosity communicates more than they could in words.

Gemini: Their short attention span. Even in times of hurt and anger, if they can find something to be curious about, they can shift into a new experience, much like distracting a child. And I don’t mean that in a patronising way. They morph their reality.

Cancer: The warmth and care they often show to those that are vulnerable, almost like an openness despite their reservations in new situations. They balance assertion and softness admirably as a cardinal water sign.

Leo: Naive idealism. They just don’t get maliciousness and cruelty. Pride and pettiness, sure. But the former has no justifiable place in their world.

Virgo: Their willingness to see themselves in the context of everyone else, to work in a team, to embrace that their part, no matter how small, is a cog in the workings of a whole system. They can appear rather ego-less in this context.

Libra: The ability to romanticise everyday gestures or situations, a way of adding a sense of art and intrigue into the otherwise ordinary to others.

Scorpio: How they draw meaning from most everything. Nothing is just a surface matter for them, but something for them to consider, scrutinise and draw as much information from as possible. They look for depth, a rich existence.

Sagittarius: Their sense of humour. Their happiness radiates from them, and they can find lightness in difficult and troubled times, which in turn, spreads to others.

Capricorn: The sweetness they add into things in subtlety. Outright displays of affection are unlikely, but they find ways to express it in other ways.

Aquarius: Their awkwardness when it comes to “heavy” topics or one to one interaction. They can often deflect this with humour and intellectual topics to talk about, once again putting them in their element.

Pisces: The extent they can go to for the sake of pleasing others from a place of kindness is extensive. They can be one thing and say one thing to one person, and change for another, reaching maximum connection to the person in their immediate company. They are accommodating individuals.

Some men are so patronising… they act like everything they say is the most profound thing ever and they’re blessing you by imparting their wisdom. they don’t even talk with you, they talk at you.

The Signs When They Like Someone

NOTE: I cannot stress enough how important it is to take into account BOTH your Venus and sun, because they nature of those signs will influence whether or not you’re obvious in your flirting habits or not, so check them both 

Aries: When an Aries likes you, they’ll be quite bold about it, they’ll flirt openly but in a way that will still make you wonder whether they’re like that with everybody, or just you. Normally they’ll excuses for physical contact, even if it’s so much as touching your arm when you say something. They’ll try to debate with you, to see what you’re really like and will be quite impressed if you win. 

Taurus: When a Taurus likes you, you’ll it a lot in the eyes and the way they look at you. They’ll venture more out of their shell when they’re near you and will pay attention to your reactions to different things, they’ll try to make you laugh and will share their food with you, they’ll tell you about their aspirations and their goals. If you flirt with other people, don’t be surprised if Taurus gives that person a death stare. 

Gemini: When a Gemini likes you, they’ll really make an effort to form a mental connection with you. They’ll tell you about their ever growing ideas and even ask for your opinion on them. They’ll try to pull you out of your comfort zone to see what you’re like when you’re out of your depth. Pay attention to the topics they talk about, when with someone they like, they’ll try to find a common interest or common ground for you’s to build a conversation on and encourage bonding. 

Cancer: When a Cancer likes you, it really shows in their mannerisms. They’ll be incredibly polite and sweet without fault. They might seem shy and somewhat awkward when you’re talking to them, but only because they really don’t want to mess up, they don’t want anything to be miscommunicated between the two of you. Despite their soft demeanour, they will look out for you and protect you, whether you see it or not.

Leo: When a Leo likes you, they tend to be more charming than usual, they’ll compliment you on things you never even noticed about yourself, because these signs see all the beautiful things about others. Despite their seemingly unbreakable pride, your opinion on their ideas and such will impact them greatly and they’ll even try to do something to impress you alone rather than a group of people. 

Virgo: When a Virgo likes you, you’ll see it in the type of questions they ask you. They won’t just ask you what you like, they’ll ask why you like it. They like to thoroughly know the person who’s messing with their formerly organised emotions which can normally lead to confusion, people often think that they just want to be close friends. They may appear more nervous around you and will be very careful with the words they choose. 

Libra: When a Libra likes you, they’ll appear to admire you quite a lot, they like to give credit where it’s due and won’t be afraid to tell you when you’re looking good or even just good at something. Despite the fact that they’re the sign of fairness and justice, they’ll tend to put you on a pedestal. They’ll have an almost dreamy look in their eyes when looking at you and will listen intently to what you have to say. 

Scorpio: When a Scorpio likes you, it can be hard to tell because they’re very good at keeping it under wraps. Generally, they’ll listen to you when you speak - like really listen. They’ll be the type to make incredibly dirty jokes and discreetly aim them at you, making you wonder if they’re serious or not. They’ll look at your lips quite a lot. If someone else tries flirting with you or vice versa, Scorpio can be blunt with that person and like Taurus, will give the death stare. 

Sagittarius: When a Sagittarius likes you, they’ll pick your brain, they’ll want to know about your ideas and your own morale. They’ll share their own philosophies (depending on how close you are to them). They’ll encourage you to seize the day and even use this as an excuse to take you on a date that’s “not a date”. Although they’ll compliment you, they’ll have no problem making fun of you in a friendly way either, probably to get a reaction. 

Capricorn: When a Capricorn likes you, you may notice that they’ll get nervous around you or quieter. They don’t want to mess up or embarrass themselves so they try to reduce flirty interactions but the closer you are to them, the more flirty jokes you’ll get from them. They’ll be very polite and gentle at first but will then make slightly dirty jokes around you and hope you know they’re directed at you. They’ll ask you questions even if they’re not interested in the topic, just to keep talking to you. 

Aquarius: When an Aquarius likes you, they’ll try to challenge almost everything about you, they don’t fall for people much but when they do, they want to know what the other person is made of. They’ll be incredibly encouraging and motivating, even for the smallest things. They’ll pay attention to your little quirks and let you know how much they like them. They’ll really try to make you think. 

 Pisces: When a Pisces likes you, they’ll go out of their way to “conveniently bump into you”. They’ll make a lot of eye contact and communicate mostly through that. They’ll make almost and excuse to make physical contact. They’ll smirk at you from a distance but when face to face, won’t be as nonchalant. They may seem zoned out a lot of the time. They’ll ask you what’s wrong when they know and will guide you as best they can without coming across as patronising.

Since there’s apparently nothing official I can do about it, consider this a PSA:

If you’re in The UK, and your doctor refers you to a consultant, and that consultant is called Dr Augustine Okolie: run a mile. Ask for someone else. Refuse to go.

This is a man who:
- refused to document symptoms that did not fit his preferred diagnosis
- refused to correct the false information he recorded
- made up symptoms in order to justify his preferred diagnosis.
- minor compared to the rest, but was incredibly condescending, patronising, and sarcastic in person.
- repeatedly tried to explain to me how I supposedly felt, and refused to listen when I said that was incorrect.
- literally lied on my medical record, and it can’t be removed and the best I’ve been able to do after a year is get the NHS to agree to put a letter in front of his report THAT I HAD TO WRITE MYSELF, stating that it would be unethical to use his report because it deviates so far from reality.

The local service who hired him apparently couldn’t do anything about his behaviour (because he was a locum, and left shortly after my encounter with him)
The ombudsman said they couldn’t do anything about it, and directed me to the GMC
The General medical council said they wouldn’t do anything about it and tried to direct me back to the onbudsman, then the local service. Then NHS England.
Nhs England directed me to my area’s clinical commissioning group.
They said they’d look into it.
And never got back to me.

So apparently no one cares that this man is at best inept and at worse actually knowingly falsifying patient records.

And I’m writing this post on tumblr because there is apparently nothing else I can do. No one cares, no one is there to police this man, or stop him hurting anyone else. So this is it. This is the best I can do.

Doctor Augustine Okolie: avoid him.

Don’t you just hate it when you want to go see a superhero movie, but you just can’t enjoy it because there are some gross whiteys in the same building as you? Disgusting. Everyone knows that absolutely no black people are even capable of being comfortable around non-black people. Bring back racial segregation, I say!!

{PART 23} I Won’t Stop You (M) // Jeon Jungkook, Vampire!AU

Originally posted by jengkook

Pairing: Jungkook x Reader

Genre: Vampire!AU, Fantasy, Angst, Smut

Summary; Prince Jeon Jungkook, the first of his name, teaches you the meaning of loyalty and respect. And while you submit to him entirely, you and Jungkook both think about the future, and he can’t help his love and desire to protect you overflow.

“He loved her in her entirety. He wanted to undress her mind, make love to her thoughts and deepest insecurities. She wanted to bring down the many cold walls he had built around him; and he welcomed her with open arms.”

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Please note: This chapter contains scenes of a sexual nature.

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the more angry and organised a violent protest is, the more certain the media and politicians are that they must be ‘outside agitators’ - and I feel like the roots of this are not so much in fear of these spectral ‘outsiders’ as the firm belief that “ordinary” people don’t ever get angry and organise themselves - it’s unsupportable historically, but i really think they believe that it must be outsiders because it can’t be ordinary everyday folks - because to be ordinary, to them, is to be docile and malleable, capable of being whipped up by agitators, sure - but incapable of coming up with it yourself. You can feel it in the patronising way they talk to us.

I’m not saying that there has never been an instance of people coming from outside to cause trouble at a protest - but I am saying that when that’s the immediate, instinctual explanation that people arrive at in the absence of any evidence, it’s about discounting, diminishing and dismissing the agency of ‘ordinary’ people. It’s saying that whatever you’re experiencing, nomatter how bad it is, it could never make you angry enough to get organised and start hitting back. They can keep thinking that - we know it’s bullshit.

Season 4, the case of the missing Watson, and why BBC John doesn’t love Sherlock

So yesterday I was reading @silentauroriamthereal‘s Best of Three, again (it’s a really good story!). And I realised that the John in that story is pretty much a total dick. He’s incredibly patronising and self-congratulatory about being such a wonderful friend to Sherlock etc etc etc, all the while being actually unimaginably cruel to Sherlock.

And I left a comment to the effect that I loved the story but hated John, and she very kindly replied that she thought it was pretty in character and I had this absolute oh my god moment because she’s bloody right, isn’t she?

And somewhere between Season 4 and Best of Three and SilentAuror’s comment, I think the scales sort of fell from my eyes with regards to John and the show. It’s not that Season 4 ruined John. Season 4 was the logical continuation of where they had taken the character, arguably from the second episode. Go back and look at the way John talks about and treats Sherlock, all the way back to TBB. Try to reconcile the way John talks to and about Sherlock with the way Watson talks to and about Holmes.

Season 4 John is not out of character. Not for BBC John. It’s extreme, but it’s not actually out of character. We think it is, but I think that we have good reason for that. In my specific case, I knew and loved the canon long before BBC Sherlock came on the scene. I know Watson, and I know how he feels about Holmes. So when John acted the way he did in Season 4, I thought it was awful, and terrible, and it came as a shock to me. Before Season 4, when John acted in ways that Watson would not have, I was like “well, maybe he’s just having a bad day’, but Season 4 made me realise that Watson hasn’t been having bad days, Watson has never been here at all.

We think that John is better and wiser and kinder than he is because we spend more time with the wiser, kinder versions of John Watson that we see in the canon and in fanfiction. We’ve been blinded by those Watsons to the truth of John’s character in the show.

And that leads me to another conclusion. BBC’s John doesn’t love Sherlock. We think he does, because Watson loves Holmes, and whether you think that it’s platonic or romantic or sexual or whatever, you can’t deny that there is love there, but John? He doesn’t love Sherlock.

I think he wants Sherlock. I think he’s addicted to Sherlock. To the cases and the life they lead and the danger and all of it. And I think that, like any addict, he hates Sherlock and everything that comes with him, and hates that he needs him. And that’s why the morgue scene happens. Because John, unlike practically every other Watson in history, does not love Sherlock Holmes. Because John wishes that he had never met him and wishes that he could live without him, and knows that as long as Sherlock is alive, he will never, ever be able to leave him for good.

Which means that yes, they really did do TPLoSH all over again, with a gay Holmes desperately in love with Watson, who doesn’t love him back. Except they dialled it up to 11, because everything has to be bigger and louder and hurt more, and instead of a straight Watson who still loves his Holmes, they have given us a John Watson of ambiguous sexuality who not only does not love Sherlock, but actively despises him.

(I also have some thoughts about how Sherlock has been moving toward becoming Holmes over the course of the series, while John moves further and further away from being Watson, but I’ll save that for another time.)