Being a Butch Woman Around Men Sure Would Be A Lot Easier Without the Patriarchy


New comic up on Everyday Feminism!  And while the main character of the comic identifies as a butch lesbian, I feel that the examples expand across many genders and identities. 

Patriarchy is not men. Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it. This abnormal obsession with women’s faces and bodies has become so normal that we…have internalized patriarchy almost seamlessly.

The Black Feminine Enzyme:

“This image confirmed for me how the Masculine should serve the Feminine. Note that the feminine stands atop the head of this masculine figure. Not beside or beneath, but on TOP! The masculine takes on the symbol of the Dark Mother in posture, the downward Triangle.

The reason black people fail, we are trying to be white folks. White women were borne into patriarchy. The only race of woman who is Sovereign and existed before patriarchy and without it for eons, is the Black Wombn. We predate men, patriarchy, white people too. We are the ones who gave birth to the genetic mutations we now call male and or white. Whether those males be black or not. Whether those whites be female or not, they crawled forth into the world from OUR Wombs.

When we replace the Black Wombn as the Corner Stone, as the Diamond atop the Pyramid, the entire black race will be restored.

No nation can rise higher than its woman. Which should tell you, black men WANT US ALL TO FAIL! Because he would rather we get on our knees, so he can stand on our backs and be 3 feet taller. Than he would lift us up on his shoulders, and above his head. So his nation can rise.“

Weeding out followers.

Occasionally, I like to weed out my followers and who I follow. So here’s today’s requirement :

If you don’t consider yourself a feminist, or don’t understand the need for feminism, or believe it’s a negative term, delete me. Right now. Or tell me, so I can delete you.

Let me add something else, too.

I mean completely intersectional feminism. Completely. Intersectional.

If your feminism doesn’t include women of color, bye.
If your feminism doesn’t include trans individuals, bye.
If your feminism doesn’t include nonbinary genders, bye.
If your feminism doesn’t support all sexualities, and understands that it consists on a spectrum, bye.
If your feminism doesn’t include unlearning internalized misogyny, bye.
If your feminism doesn’t include ways men are harmed by the patriarchy as well, bye.

If you don’t understand cisgender and transgender, how sexuality and gender are not binary and are not the same thing, it is not the onus of others to teach you. Educate yourself. Learn. You will never understand equality if you don’t know what it is to be intersectional. And no, equality doesn’t mean everyone is the same. It means having the same opportunities for everyone, it means a leveled playing field, it means the destruction of systemic oppression based on unearned, inherent privilege.

If you say “I’m not a feminist, I’m a humanist” as a male(or female) because you believe feminism only means empowerment for women, bye.

Happy Sunday Funday.

to the feminists of tumblr

can anyone of you define the patriarchy  feminists are always crying about for me? because i doubt you know what you’re talking about there yourself

A girl posted this around my high school after a new dress code was sent out via email to all parents, and by all parents I mean all parents of female students. The new dress code only targets woman and the female student body of my school has gone into a riot and its a amazing. The security guards at my school when seeing this posted on the gym took it down and ripped it up and did the same to others posted around school, as well as ripping it out of students hands. This girl is amazing and she’s my new hero


New comic!

I’m just putting together a longer piece on gender stereotypes and acceptable emotional expression for Everyday Feminism, but here’s a shorter version of some of the emotions that are acceptable for men and women.

Unsurprisingly, emotions that are associated with softness, vulnerability, or caretaking, are associated with femininity. Men are discouraged from being feminine, and so are discouraged from crying, being sad, or being frightened. Emotions that are associated with strength, resolve, or action are associated with masculinity. and women are seen as stepping out of their place by being too bossy, bitchy, crazy, abrasive, overconfident.

Patriarchy tells us what we can and can’t do with the genders we’ve been assigned.  It punishes us when we deviate from those rules. This is one of the ways that patriarchy harms men as well as women - it harms all genders. Feminism sure didn’t come up with ‘boys don’t cry’, or 'stop acting like a little girl’ or 'grow some balls’.

I’m sorry but this is “not all men” shit is just rubbish. Show me a single fucking male that has never made a sexist remark or act in his fucking life. And spare me “everyone is allowed to make mistakes” because while yeah everyone is allowed to make mistakes, how many of them even realized it was a mistake, let alone owned it and apologized? Literally the whole point is that every male at some point, even if he unlearns misogyny has done something sexist at some point. So it actually is all men, that’s the problem. 

When I was about 12, some guys who went to the same middle school as me made fun of my sneeze.

So I began consciously moderating my sneezes to be more “dainty.”

& then in high school, when I’m probably about 15, one of my male teachers a grown ass man probably more than twice my age makes fun of my sneeze because he said I was “trying to be cute.”

& that, my friends, is patriarchy. you’re damned if you do, you’re damned if you don’t. because every single man is taught that his opinion is golden & that women are there for his pleasure & critique.

The entire idea that violence is masculine, or that revolutionary activism necessarily excludes women, queers, and trans people is, like other premises of nonviolence, based on historical whitewashing. Ignored are the Nigerian women occupying and sabotaging petroleum facilities; the women martyrs of the Palestinian intifada; the queer and transgender warriors of the Stonewall Rebellion; the innumerable thousands of women who fought for the Vietcong; women leaders of Native resistance to European and US genocide; Mujeres Creando (Women Creating), a group of anarcha-feminists in Bolivia; and British suffragettes who rioted and fought against cops. Forgotten are the women from the rank and file to the highest levels of leadership among the Black Panther Party, the Zapatistas, the Weather Underground, and other militant groups. The idea that fighting back somehow excludes women is absurd. Not even the history of the pacified white “First World” bears it up because even the most effective patriarchy imaginable could never prevent all transgender people and all women from militantly fighting against oppression.
—  How Nonviolence Protects the State