past was real

Ableist hostility disguised as friendliness

Some people relate to people with disabilities in a dangerous and confusing way. They see themselves as helpers, and at first they seem to really like the person. Then the helper suddenly become aggressively hostile, and angry about the disabled person’s limitations or personality (even though they have not changed in any significant way since they started spending time together). Often, this is because the helper expected their wonderful attention to erase all of the person’s limitations, and they get angry when it doesn’t.

The logic works something like this:

  • The helper thinks that they’re looking past the disability and seeing the “real person” underneath.
  • They expect that their kindness  will allow the “real person” to emerge from the shell of disability.
  • They really like “real person” they think they are seeing, and they’re excited about their future plans for when that person emerges.
  • But the “real person” is actually figment of their imagination.

The disabled person is already real:

  • The helper doesn’t like this already-real disabled person very much
  • The helper ignores most of what the already-real person actually says, does, thinks, and feels.
  • They’re looking past the already-real person, and seeing the ghost of someone they’d like better.

This ends poorly:

  • The already-real person never turns into the ghost the helper is imagining
  • Disability stays important; it doesn’t go away when a helper tries to imagine it out of existence
  • Neither do all of the things the already-real disabled person thinks, feels, believes, and decides
  • They are who they are; the helper’s wishful thinking doesn’t turn them into someone else
  • The helper eventually notices that the already-real person isn’t becoming the ghost that they’ve been imagining
  • When the helper stop imagining the ghost, they notice that the already-real person is constantly doing, saying, feeling, believing, and deciding things that the helper hates
  • Then the helper gets furious and becomes openly hostile

The helper has actually been hostile to the disabled person the whole time

  • They never wanted to spend time around the already-real disabled person; they wanted someone else
  • (They probably didn’t realize this)
  • At first, they tried to make the already-real disabled person go away by imagining that they were someone else
  • (And by being kind to that imaginary person)
  • When they stop believing in the imaginary person, they become openly hostile to the real person

Tl;dr Sometimes ableist hostility doesn’t look like hostility at first. Sometimes people who are unable or unwilling to respect disabled people seem friendly at first. They try to look past disability, and they interact with an imaginary nondisabled person instead of the real disabled person. They’re kind to the person they’re imagining, even though they find the real person completely unacceptable. Eventually they notice the real person and become openly hostile. The disabled person’s behavior has not changed; the ableist’s perception of it has. When someone does this to you, it can be very confusing — you were open about your disability from the beginning, and it seemed like they were ok with that, until they suddenly weren’t. If this has happened to you, you are not alone.

Ya know what I want?

I want for the Paladins to a “spring cleaning” in the Castle and the Lions and that they find all sort of stuff, especially from the paladins before them that once piloted their lions.

I want Lance to find a small heavy box filled with small squares that resemble photos and in all of them a young happy ex-Blue Paladin is smiling bright and big at the camera. I want him to go through all the photos of their adventures where they are on with blue paladin armor along with the rest team and photos of the planets and people they saved. I want him to be motivated of that and push himself to do as good as his senior Paladin did; to help, save and care.

I want Hunk to find video clips of the old paladin of his lion where he’s almost video blogging and he’s narrating the adventures. The videos start as a formal report but then slowly turn into a journal and Hunk is mesmerized by the story telling. The stories become more personal as the videos go on and then, in one of them, there’s a second tiny person besides the old yellow paladin, cradled in his arms and Hunk gasps out when Alfor whispers Allura’s name as he stares fondly at the small Altean baby.

I want Pidge to find all kind of dry plants and flowers in one of her lion’s compartments and for her to being curious enough to look their meaning and components, to see if they were related to the nature back in Olkari, but turns out they are just harmless simple silly plants/leaves/flowers/petals from different planets. I want her to find the old Green Paladin notebook with the characteristics of each plant and it’s enough for Pidge to search and wonder why they were so important to the past paladin. I want her to feel this soothing calm breeze inside her as she learns more and more about nature and feels a better connection with her Lion.

I want Keith to find sketches. I want him to find sketches of aliens, planets, explosions, Red, all the lions together, Voltron itself, the castle. I want him to see through the old red Paladin’s eyes and see their reality, to see the calling and good and belonging they had and wishing he could be part of that. I want him to pick up that extra empty journal he finds, covered in dust and falling blank pages, and start doing his own sketches, making up his mind and starts portraying his home, his team, his family he has found and creating his own path slowly.

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this was originally gonna be in the b.a.p in a nutshell video but it got flagged for copyright but it tooK SO LONG TO MAKE that i had to post it somewhere

so i present to u all…this. video. of b.a.p in a fire drill. i hope u enjoy.

I’ll never understand why people get so angry about the 2CT. Sure, he technically took his brother’s identity, but he’s still the same person? We never knew Ciel before he became Ciel Phantomhive.

Also, Ciel has never and never will act like his twin? The Young Master we know isn’t going to change, his motivations aren’t going to change, many of his relationships will stay the same and basically nothing we already know about him (which is very little… people just make a lot of assumptions) is going to change!

He’s still Ciel, and he’ll /always/ be the real Ciel to us. I seriously doubt Yana would ever try to imply otherwise. I suspect the existence of the twin is to create an interference with the plot/Sebastian and Ciel’s plans…

a song that yuuri sings
a song that yuuri sings

wrote a yuuri songlet to accompany the victor one!! based on ep 7 :) also, i see the tags about a yoi musical and omg bwahaha i would love that too 

DL links for those who wanted: victor’s / yuuri’s ♡

With every glance my way they look at you
With every point I make it’s another one for you
I know I’m just a dime-a-dozen
So I can’t help worrying
If I’ve earned the place
To win first place with you
But just put your faith in me and I’ll try
To go much further
I’m so scared but with you I’m fine
So what if it takes longer
To adjust to this arrangement that we’ve got
So put your faith in me
Just stay close to me
With your embrace
I’ll win first place for you

andi mack is very very cute. good on you disney

Namjoon: wow, i just love bananas so much these days, my new favorite fruit, bananas are the best™ i could eat them all day every day

Jin: 

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Archeology in a hundred years

What do you guys think Archeology will be like in a hundred or a thousand years? I personally like to think that archeologists don’t only just dig holes in the ground to find things from ancient times but also “dig” in the depths of the internet to find posts, memes, pictures, fanarts, etc. from the past. But what will they think if they see those memes and all our tumblr posts and our fanarts and fanfiction? Will they, when they see a smutty fanart of a gay pairing, be like the archeologists today and say: „Oh no these guys in this drawing are definitly not gay! They are totally not having sex. It’s a drawing of two bros having a platonic hug to show their fondness of each other… naked… cuz that’s what people did in the early 21. century… #nohomo!“ and what will theythink of all these memes? Will they think they had some kind of religious meaning? And will they believe that all these fanfictions are old documents of things that actually happened? Will they think that doitsuism was an actual Religion, and that Brendon Urie was the Anti-Christ for the people that believed in said religion?

Some edgelord who only has a cursory knowledge of Pokemon lore: What if Pokemon were REAL then they’d only have animal-level intelligence and ATTACK people! Haha, not so fun now, is it?

Actual lore of Pokemon: Phantump is the soul of a dead child possessing a tree, Lampert hangs around hospitals to suck out the life force of sick and dying people, Gorebyss sucks all the body fluids out of its prey and is literally described as cruel in the Dex, Sliggoo can accidentally melt its friends with acid…yeah Pokemon was already pretty dark.