party conflict

First time playing DND

School event, my Chem teacher is DM'ing. I choose to be a Half-Orc Paladin. Chaotic Good.
Low intelligence, DMTeacher makes fun of me throughout the game as a “Stupid Orc” My mother tries to pick me up early because she doesn’t wanna wait so late into the night, so teacher tries to give me a glorious moment before I go

DM: So all of the sudden, all of the creatures leave the town, and a booming voice is heard “Sar!(my character’s name) You and your group have fought well. If you can defeat me, my forces will leave”

My group gathers in the town, several monsters and boss show up. We square up. Mother keeps trying to get me to leave, I almost die, person in my party discreetly healing me as to not violate the rules of the duel. I think even Bahamut himself helps me out at one point.

Boss is down to 10 HP, I’m down to 3. DM sees no way for me to win. He says “The dragonoid walks up to you and puts his sword by his neck, and suddenly sheathes, walking away. He claims victory, but allows you to live.”

The students nod their heads “good job to-” I interrupt them

“SLASH HIM IN THE BACK WITH A HALBERD!”

Teacher stares at me in disbelief. “…roll for it”

I roll the 20 and the die for a Halberd.

Boss dies instantly.

“While the monsters are scattering to leave and your party cheering in… conflicted victory. You look into the crowd, you see a purple scaly being similar to that of the thing you just killed. It is his son, you have made a mortal ene-”

“THROW MY SPEAR AT THE KID”

Roll a 3. Miss

DMTeacher is determined to teach me a lesson.

“Although you stand in victory, you feel your holiness and good graces of the gods leave your being”

I reply “I’m too stupid to understand the morality of the situation”

“Roll for intelligence”

I roll the D20. I roll a 4

“Your stupidity saves you from righteous judgement.”

Neverwinter Hills Monk

So during our latest session, we were in a fight against a group of Ettercaps. Our Druid went into Wild Shape form into a Black Bear. Our Monk had no knowledge that Druid had this ability and had not seen him shift.

So he finally sees this bear.

Monk: I roll to see if I’m frightened by this large bear. *succeeds*

DM: You are not afraid of this bear.

Monk: Okay. In my great courage of not being afraid of this bear, I charge it and double fist it!

*Our party starts laughing as the DM allows it. So our Monk rushes towards the bear, leaps into the air, lands behind our Druid, and makes a kick*

DM: … You hit.

Monk: I stunning strike him!

*At this point, we’re just losing it as our Druid makes the Con save. And fails*

DM: As you feel your Monk friend kick you, you begin to grow numb and fall off the cart.

*our Monk then begins to start cheering as he topples the “bear”. My Hexgunner is stunned by this and the Rogue is pissing himself laughing*

Moral of the story: Always tell the Int 4 Monk if you can shift.

So I’ve already made a post on different kinds of RPG characters.  Here’s a reference for different kinds of RPG players!

Actors: Actors get really into the RP part of RPGs.  They tend to have detailed backstories, thoroughly analyzed motivations, and a unique set of mannerisms for each character they portray.  They seek out interactions with NPCs or other party members and tend to stay in character a lot.

Originally posted by thranduile

On the Dark Side, Actors can become Scene Stealers.  Scene Stealers are attention seekers who tend to lack patience when the spotlight isn’t on them.  They tend to talk over players and often instigate problems, often with the excuse of “What?  I’m just staying true to my character!”

Originally posted by maya-pay-attention-to-me

Power Gamers: These players love optimizing their characters, usually for combat.  They tend to be minmaxers and metagamers who play RPGs like something you can win just as much as a story you can experience.  Powergamers do often possess a great zeal for the tactics and mechanics of the game, and live for the moments they can face overwhelming odds and turn challenge into victory. 

Originally posted by doafhat

On the Dark Side, Power Gamers can turn into Munchkins. Munchkins couldn’t care less about the story, the roleplaying or the feelings of their teammates.  They want to win, and win harder then everyone else so they can get as much kills, loot, and XP as possible.  Many munchkins cross the line into cheating, by fudging rolls and trying to use exploits in the mechanics.

Originally posted by disneylandwheredreamscometrue

Lorers and Explorers: These players are in it for the story, world building and environment.  They will challenge DMs to come up with richly detailed worlds with lots of in depth history and atmosphere. They also tend to be note takers and cartographers, keeping close track of every bit of information they believe might be valuable.  Most likely member of the group to be “writing a book”.

Originally posted by br0kenactions

This kind of attention to detail can be great, but is also shared by Rules Lawyers.  The rules lawyer has memorized the game’s handbook and will generally interject whenever they see something that contradicts it.  Rules Lawyers can be useful as references for how to handle less common situations in RPGs.  But they also tend to argue with the DMs when they disagree with their decisions, even when the DM is motivated to “break” the rules in order to make the game a better experience for the players.

Originally posted by ninjadetective

Deliberators are motivated to come up with creative or well thought out solutions to problems.  They are often fun and well intentioned, but they do sometimes drag out decisions for too long, agonizing over the pros and cons of each choice.

Originally posted by dama-do-lago

On the flip side, Firestarters tend to have very little patience for deliberation and are always looking for the action.  Firestarters have a lot of enthusiasm for RPGs, but tend to cause problems or derail stories when they get bored.

Originally posted by irish-faerie

Party Moms: Thus called because they go out of their way to take care of and help their party members, Party Moms are a valuable part of any gaming team.  Whether it’s making sure there’s always snacks for everyone to enjoy, helping others level their characters or smoothing out player conflicts, Party Moms can be relied on to get it done.

Originally posted by kickassandrelax

Party Gamers: Thus called because they’re there to party.  These players may be interested in the game, but they’re just as, if not more interested in hanging out with their friends and/or getting wasted.  Fun to have around, but it may not be a good idea to rely on their character in game too much.

Originally posted by drugsandtvshowsallday

Bored Gamers: For whatever reason, these players just aren’t really into your game.  Maybe they’re just there for a significant other, maybe they don’t like the system.  It’s not always easy to say.  Can often be found using their personal electronic devices and not really paying attention.

Originally posted by winchester-jazz

Newbies: Newbies have little experience with RPGs and sometimes lack confidence.  Their unfamiliarity with the rules is often more than balanced out by their enthusiasm and delight in discovering the joys of the game.

Originally posted by imlookingforaplacetofall

n00bs, on the other hand, talk a lot of trash, but are generally less experienced and skilled then they claim to be.  These players tend to whine a lot when things don’t go their way.  

Originally posted by misterjakes

Finally, a type the tumblr crowd should be familiar with, the Shippers.  A shipper is often in it for the role-playing, but mostly when the roleplaying leads to romance.  Table Top RPGs can be a great outlet for those thus inclined, just make sure the other player is okay with it. :)

Originally posted by carryonhowell

Please note that these are my interpretations on these types, and that it’s possible to be multiple or none of them.  What other player types have you encountered?

I saw something like this and decided to share my own

Things I love about critical role:


- the way grog and pike talk with each other and the little voices they use

- when scanlan sings and everyone joins in (literally my favorite, especially mid battle when everyone’s stressed and you know it’s exactly the momentary relief they need)

- vax using his crazy stealth to prank vex and grog

- when keyleth or someone who’s trying to Do Good™ looks to pike for support and pike kinda shrugs with a “Well…" because she's part of the shenanigans herself

- taliesin’s "that’ll do"s

- the little gnomes always rolling low initiative and scanlan saying he was preoccupied with his flute playing or some Unimportant Thing

- Matt making kickass NPC voices on the spot

- the side conversations and jokes that happen while someone is talking to Matt

- when you can see them interact and makes faces at each other from different tables

- keyleth when her voice gets soft and high and optimistic

- vex when her voice gets low and sultry and coy

- when vax runs into something without consulting the group and they all collectively face palm/panic

- when a party member does something and Matt’s eyes go wide and he laughs because holy shit he didn’t see that one coming but boy is it marvelous

- "How Do You Want To Do This?” followed by a collective: "WHAAAAA!!!“ and near table flipping

- when keyleth casts a spell and marisha’s shoulders turn and her front hand comes up in a reaching/grasping motion

- percy trying to be all diplomatic and adult and then Taliesin just losing it because grog said something quietly across the room

- when grog says something quietly across the room and ashley’s the only one to hear it but she’s too focused so it doesn’t register for a second but then it does and they just laugh in the corner together

- vex calling everyone darling

- laura getting frazzled and saying "well i’m just gonna shoot it again!” in a really distressed voice and everyone reassuring saying “no no that’s good” and “yeah do that”

- scanlan mentioning his many titles

- the shits

- when they all are legitimately crying because this shit is real

- when grog and scanlan go off together

- lady kima being salty towards scanlan

- pike being in awe of lady kima because that woman is badass

- literally everything about Gilmore

- scanlan trying to leave trinket behind all the time and vex getting worked up and annoyed because he’s helpful scanlan

- when travis wants to say something so bad and you know it’s painful to hold back but he has to because grog wouldn’t say it

- magic poop?

- when somebody is about to do something questionable and they look to everyone else and they are all being like “no don’t do it” meanwhile scanlan and grog are grinning and nodding from behind them

- the fleeting look of panic when Matt has everyone roll initiative

- all of vex’s reactions all the time

- when matt is describing something and somebody asks for clarification and then get excited because he described it just like they saw in the head

- when travis starts dancing

- when vax leans back on the bench to disappear and when laura does the same thing but because she’s laughing too hard

- the fact that I can’t interchange the characters and the players' names because they’re different people to me and the reaction that travis has is completely different to the reaction the grog would’ve had

- when two characters are having their own moment and everyone else is reacting and making faces and trying desperately to not make too much noise

- Ashley rolling for a check and pausing for a second and asking about having advantage or getting a bonus before eventually trailing off and saying “so… I rolled a four.” and everyone laughing because oh my god Ashley is the cutest

- the sun tree and the fact that matt not only does the voice but the whole persona as well

- dagger dagger dagger

- “I would like to rage”

- scanlan lowkey saving the entire party from huge conflicts all the time because he’s so amazing and charismatic and deceitful

- honestly just the entire show it has consumed my life I love it so much

On Gal Gadot, the IDF, Palestinians, and Zionism

I have seen a plethora of people on tumblr, as well as other social media platforms, that have been painting Gal Gadot as a “genocide encouraging Palestinian killer”. I dismissed these posts initially, but their popularity has risen and I have decided to address some of the most popular claims that have been laid against her.

“She was in the Israeli Army. She killed people." 

 Gal Gadot served in the Israeli Defense Forces in order to complete her two year mandatory service. She was conscripted by law, it wasn’t a choice she could make, like many people might assume. In Israel, all able bodied people starting at the age of 18 are drafted into the army, although there are exceptions but I won’t be getting into the specifics. Gal Gadot was a fitness instructor, a non-combative position among many others that can vary from administrative positions, to vehicle operators to cooks. There is a high chance that she most likely did not see combat, and most definitely did not kill anyone.

 The conflict surrounding Israel and the Palestinians is a very, very complex one, and I will not be delving into that topic. What is important to remember is that we are all humans, and we arrogantly do what we believe is right. There is no "right” or “wrong” side in this conflict. Both parties have committed unspeakable acts. Likewise, when Gal stated her support for the IDF, she was just trying to show her support for the young soldiers that are plucked from their homes and spend 2-3 difficult years in service to their country. What was not on her mind when she wrote that post was what might’ve occurred between the IDF and the Palestinians, and not who was killed and who was not. Her brothers and sisters at home were on her mind. She has shown to support peace and co-existence. She wishes that her country would no longer need to have a conscription army because, she too, does not want to send her two daughters into war when they become of age.

 "She is a Zionist" 

Please look up the definition of Zionism before using it as a derogatory term. Zionism is a belief that Jews should have a place to call home. Do the Palestinians not also believe they should their own land to call theirs? Do you not believe that you should also have the same? 

 Painting Gal Gadot as a “genocide supportive Palestinian killer” is quite ridiculous. She is just an actress, a human being at that. A human being that has a right to state her opinions without being demonized for it. She did not kill anyone, does not want to kill anyone, and just wants her family and friends across the world to be safe. 

 We are entitled to our own opinions. If you want to make up reasons to hate on a successful actress, you can do that. If you want to boycott her films, no one is stopping you. But you should ask yourself, who forms these opinions for me? What kind of media do I consume? Is what they show accurate? Is what these people are saying on tumblr really true? There are many people on this platform that believe they are doing the right thing and looking for a person/organization/nation to be angsty about. Not everything you read here on tumblr or anywhere on the internet is true. You have to do your own research. Look for credible sources. I encourage you to take everything you read with a grain of salt and form your own beliefs, not what someone else does. And on the final note, be kind to each other, and be forgiving, because we intellectual human beings can be quite stupid at times. In other words, be your own Wonder Woman. Or Wonder Man. 

Mermaids and Language

Many aquatic creatures are renowned linguists. Water transmits sound efficiently over massive distances, so chatter builds up and exposure to a huge number of languages is common.

With long lives, a love of gossip, inquisitive personalities, and high levels of intelligence, mermaids are among the most proficient polyglots in the Netherworld.

Mermaids are often hired by sailors and explorers to navigate the sea’s complex and often dangerous barriers in language and culture. This is a risky proposition for rude or combative sailors as the mermaid will always side in favor of the aquatic party in times of conflict (regardless of previous agreement).

By Your Side

Genre: Angst; Modern Royalty!AU

Pairing: Reader X Park Jinyoung

Word Count: Almost 1K

Drabble Game Prompts: It was a compelling and convincing argument and for that reason she chose to ignore it. + “You are cordially invited to go fuck yourself.”

Originally posted by ahgase-noona-blog

Your idea of a ‘party’ always seemed to conflict with the generally agreed upon definition. Whereas you thought that parties should be sophisticated and elegant gatherings of people over cupcakes, your friends were more inclined to call the activity of grinding on drunk people in a dark, stinky room a party.

Of course, once in a while you were inclined to attend these ‘parties’, if not just to meet new people, then at least to let loose and get smashed every now and then. Yet, somehow, attending a huge frat party on a Thursday evening did not seem like a smart idea. Especially when you knew you had class to deal with tomorrow morning.

Your friend, of course, didn’t listen when you listed the reasons why you refused to attend one her ‘parties’; it was a compelling and convincing argument, and for that reason, she chose to ignore it.

“But,” She protested hotly, eyes wide, “I heard Park Jinyoung’s going to be there!”

“As in, the King?!” You did a double-take, gaping at her, “No way!”

“No, not the King,” She dismissed, making you sigh in relief, “I’m talking about the Prince!”

“Wait, what.” The words left your mouth unbidden, as visages of the Prince flashed through your head, all too perfect to be retained for too long, “No way.”

Yes.” She hissed impatiently, “So will you come along or not?”

“No.” You brushed away those images in your head, unwilling to deal with it, “I don’t want to deal with pompous assholes anyway.”

“Y/N!” Your friend cried in exasperation, “Listen here, you might not care about any of this, but if you knew why I was trying so hard to drag you there, you’d probably come along in a heartbeat.”

“I sincerely doubt it.” You said, tone entirely too sincere to be real, “Please leave.”

“Just come!” She grabbed onto your wrist, eyes pleading, “Just for five minutes, please!”

“Okay, now let go of me!” You responded, annoyance coursing through you, along with a hint of surprise. What was so important that she needed you to go so desperately?

“But I’m not wearing…that.” You added, gesturing at the pieces of fabric lying on the bed, “Not a chance.”


You should have realized, of course, how big a mistake you’d made by agreeing to her demands. The venue was an elaborate mansion that towered almost threateningly over you; as expected, people were stumbling around outside, collapsing into a fit of giggles or sobs, depending on who you were talking about.

You shivered slightly as you began to walk forward, hands coming up to rub at your arms. Despite wearing your warmest dress, the cold still nipped at you, making your teeth chatter lightly. Your friend was also nowhere to be seen, much to your exasperation, and you had just taken out your phone to call her when you felt the velvety drape of cloth over your eyes.

“W-what—” You stuttered, the loss of sight making you panic for a dizzying few seconds, until a voice answered you.

“Please do not panic,” A rough, accented voice spoke, “Prince Jinyoung wishes to speak with you.”

What?

As you took steps in the dark, you were forced to recall times from before, when the two of you had been ignorant and naïve. Those days were long gone, of course; the news of the two of you dating had reached the wrong ears and, carrying out his ‘princely’ duty, Jinyoung gave you up.

You never really forgave him for that, even though some part of you understood.

“Y/N,” You startled when you felt familiar hands take yours, and flashes in your mind brightened the darkness; stories of another time, a tale that was too good to be true, “It’s been so long.”

You already knew he was standing there, even before the blindfold was removed; dark eyes smiling, as always (even when he shattered hearts), pretty pink lips curved into a kittenish smile (so deceiving) and warm hands (to push people away).

“What do you want?” You asked tersely, unwilling to deal with him, “I don’t have time for this.”

Jinyoung looked past you, before sharply nodding at someone behind you—the guard, you realized—who likely escorted you there. You figured it was a signal to get him to leave; a hunch that was proven correct when you heard the receding footsteps. Your gaze didn’t shift from his form, however.

“Look, Y/N,” He sighed, more forlorn than you’d ever seen him before, “I’m sorry.”

“That apology was way too late, Jinyoung,” You snapped, “I mean, Prince Jinyoung.”

His eyes looked pained, and he bit his lip.

“Y/N, you know that I wasn’t trying to deceive you, I just…” He stopped, raking in a deep breath, “I just wanted to fix things.”

“Well, you can’t!” You yelled, anger thrumming through your veins, “You can’t fix anything! You can’t fix me!”

“Please give me another chance!” He pleaded and, to an outsider, the sight would have looked strange; the esteemed prince begging from a commoner?

“No,” You bit out, “You are cordially invited to go fuck yourself.”

“Y/N…”

“Look, even if I hypothetically give you ‘another chance’,” You argued, pushing your hair back, “What are the chances that this won’t fail again?”

“I spoke to my mother about this,” He said earnestly, eyes sincere, and that was the tipping point, “I’ll never leave you again, Y/N.”

“No, you’re lying,” The tears start marking their course, trailing down your cheeks and getting whipped away by the icy wind, “This isn’t real, I thought…I thought you’d never come back!”

“It is,” Warmth surrounded as arms wrapped themselves around you, and you were tugged into a familiar embrace that hurt so good, “I’m here now.”


Written By: Admin Midnight

i have. a dilemma

“Wanna One” Disney Princess Edition [part 1]

Jaehwan & Tiana:

Originally posted by gameraboy

Originally posted by sungwoona

  • do not create illusions about the future;
  • fight for their dreams;
  • optimistic;

Minhyun & Pocahontas:

Originally posted by dailyplanetnerd


Originally posted by hwangminyeo


  • sensitive and tender;
  • well understand all parties to the conflict;
  • are able to stop the war by singing;

Sungwoon & Rapunzel

Originally posted by bigherosixed


Originally posted by roisgf


  • a little crazy;
  • trust their senses;
  • dreamy;

feat Noh Taehyun as Eugine:

Originally posted by runningracingdancingchasing


Originally posted by nochujj


Seongwoo & Merida:

Originally posted by bosque-negro-de-libros


Originally posted by kingdans


  • selfdetermined and independent;
  • driven by their ambitions;
  • bold
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Otomate Release Schedule 2015 - 170815

So I’ve been super slack. Excuse me guys :( 

August

  • 20th - Reine Des Fleurs
  • 27th - Juuzaengi 1+2

September: 

  • 17th - Yonohana Spring
  • 25th - Hakuoki Shinkai 

Ocotober: 

  • 22nd - KK - Wonderful School Life

November: 

  • 19th - Bad Apple Wars

December: 

(Rest easy wallet…rest easy….) 


TBA: 

  • Diabolik Lovers- Lunatic Parade
  • Brothers Conflict Precious baby - Port (BrilliantxPassion) 
  • etccc

Mostly titles announced at Otomate Party 2015 
Link: http://usagichau.tumblr.com/post/126831154377/otomate-party-2015-the-annoucements-big-news 

On Austria’s Canon Portrayal

The canon has serious problems with historical accuracies, and I notice them especially in the Germanic countries. This is not because the inaccuracies are the most egregious there, but because that is my area of specialization.

Austria is an interesting case, because the canon lines up fairly well with the modern stereotype of the country. He is the quiet one who would rather play piano and drink coffee than start wars or fight battles. When he is in a war, he is saved by Switzerland or Germany or his wife. 

It seems to have escaped the notice of the canon that to maintain such a large empire for such a long time, Austria resorted to brutal suppression of Nationalist movements. He is not so gentle or so useless as the canon would lead one to believe. When Revolutions broke out in his empire in 1848, Austria sent in his army to crush the uprisings. This includes a very costly campaign in Hungary. One should remember that Austria really consisted of a small German minority that was able to rule over many other nationalities mostly through the fear of the Imperial army. The ideas of liberalism and nationalism were dangerous to him because they gave the people he ruled cause to rise up against him.

His relationship with Hungary has enough problems to be a post of its own, so I will limit myself here to saying that their relationship is not the equal, happy partnership that it is usually portrayed as. Austria regularly denied the rights of the Magyar nobility and treated the Hungarian populace no differently than the other minorities. There was no special affection between Hungary and Austria. The dual monarchy was a last resort to Hungarian unrest.  

The idea that Austria deals with problems through marriage touches on the historical practice of the Hapsburgs of marrying into other royal families. But, this should not be seen as anything other than politics. This practice gave Austrian monarchs considerable power over other parts of the continent. Marriages between monarchs were a matter of influence. A marriage to Hapsburg meant an agreement to support Austrian causes. For example, the marriage of Marie Antoinette was an attempt to forge an alliance between the historically enemy houses of Bourbon and Hapsburg. It would be wrong to assume that these marriage alliances were any less a political move than a war.     

As for the idea that he is conflict averse, the Austrian empire involved itself in several major war in Europe. During the height of his power, Austria could claim the entire military power of the Holy Roman empire. If anything, he should be a commanding aristocrat with a short temper and a willingness to intervene even when he is not directly party to the conflict. The Austrian empire’s entanglement in the Balkans led directly to the first World War. 

The canon portrayal of Austria ignores the power and military might of the Austrian empire.

Guys oh my god guys

You know Baz Luhrmann? The guy responsible for the movies Moulin Rouge and The Great Gatsby? If you’ve seen both, you’d probably notice the pattern he follows, which is

Enter main character who’s all hopeful and has dreams and shit > enter possible love interest who’s known to the people by something (eg. “The sparkling diamond”, the guy who throws the parties) > enter conflict/s that may pose as reputation or life threat to one, if not both, of the characters > possible love interest dies > moody and bitter main character > tells his story one day to some person via writing a story or a person he directly talks to

But then oh god guys why havent we seen this before

ELIBARRA

I was playing a d&d 3.5 game with two rangers. We often worked as a team, doing everything we could together for double efficiency. One day, we needed to track someone through the woods. So we both rolled for track.

I rolled a 1, my ranger friend rolled a 20.

Because of this, the party was conflicted on what way we were supposed to be going. We rolled to convince the party that one way was better than the other.

I rolled a 20, my ranger friend rolled a 1.

What would have been a three day trip ended up taking over a month.D&D

Ivar Lothbrok.

23 years old.

Youngest son of Ragnar Lothbrok.

Born into the family bussiness.

Skilled fighter, extremely good strategist and always looking for a fight.

Arrogant, cocky, quick tempered, cold and playboy, rebel and party boy.

Conflicted with himself but lets Vivian see his real personality.

In love with Vivian but doesnt let anyone else knows it until he decides.

Handsome, intelligent, manipulative and cold hearted killer.

Status: Alive

Hey y’all!

So, I thought a lot about how to word this post, or whether I should make it at all, but I think it’s something I definitely need to make clear for my own health and wellbeing going forward.

I want to start off by saying that I’m absolutely humbled and totally elated by the response my stupid comics have gotten for all that I’ve only been doing them for a short time, and I honestly don’t know how to appropriately express my gratitude or my delight that you all enjoy them. I’m always happy to chat and offer up examples of my own personal struggles in the interest that they may potentially be able to help, but I want to be abundantly clear up top that all of this is new to me, too.

I’m still very early on in my transition, and I started this comic as a way to cope with the crippling depression and guilt and other handful of issues that I’ve been having as I stumble through it. I know I’ve said it a few times but I just want to reiterate that I’m not an advice blog - I’m a cartoonist who’s trying to allay some of the anxiety I’ve been drowning in for night on a decade, and that’s it.

I mention this not because I mind when people reach out to me for advice or support - I think it’s frankly amazing and humbling that y’all look at a comic panel of me hollering about not being able to get a binder on and think “yes, this is the guy to ask about my problems” - but because I want to be explicitly transparent about the fact that I don’t have all the answers. Hell, in a lot of ways, I don’t have any answers, and while I know that especially in crisis situations it’s all you can do to reach out to anyone at all, and while I will always, always do my best to respond in those situations, I do not have access to adequate resources to support you during those times.

I’m not a mental health professional and I’m only as much of an expert in trans issues as they relate specifically to me and my situation. I’m not trained to deescalate a situation, or to foster better communication between conflicting parties, or to alleviate some of the unspeakable weight that comes with being in crisis mode, and I am shit scared that I’m going to say the wrong thing and make somebody’s life worse instead of better.

This isn’t directed at any one person - I’ve gotten a lot of really incredibly difficult questions addressed to me recently and while I’ve done my absolute best to answer them honestly, the fact of the matter is that I spend probably just as many days struggling to get up and handle menial tasks as many of you do. I spend just as much time mired in self-loathing and trying to dig my way out of it. It’s just as hard for me to be confident in coming out, or in demanding the respect that I know I deserve as a living, breathing human.

I’m not some kind of trans life guru by any stretch of the imagination, and I just want to make sure that you all know that while I’m happy to talk to you or support you on days that I have the energy to carry anyone other than myself, I may not be your best avenue for advice or feedback. There are tons of excellent advice blogs here on Tumblr - trans oriented and otherwise - that you can reach out to if you’re looking for information on something specific, and I can almost certainly guarantee you that they’ll be better informed than me. There are hotlines and text options for therapy if you need to chat to someone about that.

Again, I’m not saying this because I mind, or because I have a problem with people reaching out to me. When I have the reserves to do so I’m more than happy to prop up anyone who needs it, but there will come a day when someone reaches out to me and I can’t reach back because I need both my arms to hold myself together, and that scares the shit out of me. I didn’t start this blog intending to offer any advice, which may have been slightly foolish on my part, but if we’re being honest I didn’t really think anyone would even read my dumb comics in the first place. And yet, here we are.

I wanted to get all of this out into the open because all of you deserve the best support that you can get, and I want you to know that 99% of the time, that’s not me. This isn’t false humility speaking. I’m not selling myself short, I’m making an honest assessment of the skills and experience that I have to offer you all, and those are mostly limited to soothing/supportive noises, the handful of concepts from my many stints in therapy that I can honestly claim have worked for me, and the ability to condense all of the pain and anger and fear that I’m feeling into a one-page cartoon punchline.

You are still welcome to reach out to me for whatever - I’m not going to put a moratorium on that - but if you have questions about medical aspects of transitioning, I have to recommend that you seek out a trans-oriented advice blog or another reliable resource. If you have questions about brain stuff or mental health, I will tell you right up front that I am the Wrong Person to ask about that. I have a tetchy relationship with my own emotional and mental wellbeing most days and I’m in no way qualified to be making assessments or recommendations in regards to another person’s mental or emotional wellbeing. I want to take care of you all who have had the courage to pipe up and ask for advice or for aid, and the best way that I can honestly think to do that is to offer you a sincere response and recommend that you talk to someone better equipped to help you than me. I would be doing everyone who reaches out to me an egregious disservice if I assumed myself to be or marketed myself as an authority in offering advice and support on trans and other issues.

So while I won’t be policing my inbox or anything I want to make sure you all know that most of the time I won’t have answers beyond perhaps the capacity to say, “Hey man, me too”; I may not have access to resources that could help you out significantly more than I ever could; there will be days when I can’t respond because I’ve had to expend all of my limited stores of energy on myself. It was important to me to get this out there because all of you lovely people deserve your absolute best shot at success, and if I can’t give you that it’s my obligation as a fellow human and supporter to be honest and point you in the direction of someone that can.

I hope it makes sense, and I’m sorry for the wall of text but I didn’t want to miss anything.

- Oz

stkperson  asked:

Read your post about "session 0"s. I'm a relatively new DM (8 mo) and didn't have one when we started. I'm thinking of having one during the next stopping point. Besides the advice in that post, any suggestions?

If you’ve been DMing for 8 months now, you aren’t exactly new anymore.  Congrats on getting your first campaign up and running!  :)  

Anyway, as for more advice about Session 0, it depends on what you mean by the “next stopping point”.  If you’re talking about a break in your current campaign, like between plot arcs or something, now may be a good time to get some feedback on how sessions are going.  Here’s a few things you might consider asking:

  • How are you guys enjoying combat?  Is there too much/too little?  Does it take too long?  If so, what might we try to speed it up?
  • How is the party dynamic?  Are characters/players getting along well?  If not, are the players enjoying the conflict?  If inter-party conflict is frustrating, what can we try to smooth things over?
  • Do your characters have any abilities you’ve been itching to use but the opportunity hasn’t come up yet? (this is a good way to get inspiration for future challenges)

If by “next stopping point” you mean when you end this campaign and start a new one, here’s a few further pieces of advice I haven’t really touched on yet.

  • When your players are asking permission for something, try to say ‘yes’ more than ‘no’.  And when you say ‘no’, try to phrase it as ‘no, you can’t do that, but you could try this’.  
  • Encourage some of your players to make characters who already know each other at the beginning of the campaign!  Whenever my players do this they seem to have extra fun role-playing and making backstories.
  • Tell your players what inspirations you had for your campaign, because it’ll help them make characters that fit in with your aesthetic.  For example, the campaign I’m about to run is heavily inspired by Narnia, Arthurian Legends and Grimm fairy tales.  My last campaign was a lot more like Discworld.  And I’ve got another one in the works that is more Mad Max/Fallout (but fantasy).  Each of those has a very different feel.
  • Always try and tell your players what the “hook” for the first session will be.  That way, you ensure that all their characters will have a reason to go along with the story.  It sucks when players make characters who just don’t care.  It could be as simple as telling them “You’ve all been hired to investigate [blank]” or “For one reason or another, each of you is in prison” or “You all owe money/a favor to So And So”.  Have them tell you their specific reason for getting started on this adventure so you can personalize your plans for them.

I hope this was helpful!  If you have more specific questions please let me know.

PSA

Please, for the love of whatever deity you want (I personally suggest the Many-Faced God), if I reblog someone to offer my response, I do it because I would like my own input to be heard instead of it being a wall of one-sided argumentation.

It is not to be perceived as ‘hey this guy is being a twat go send them death threats lol’.

It’s literally just me, replying as a person would, to an instigation that was thrown my way that I felt needed response.

Just because I have a following does not strip me of the right to defend myself from allegations that, for all intents and purposes, are completely fabricated and blown out of proportion when the reality of it all was simply me making an ‘off the top of my head’ boner joke to my friend on the internet.

In short: No witch hunting/bullying/’LOLGODIE’ing, otherwise you’re acting just as bad as the people I don’t want to hang out with.

Domo.

Meaningful conflict is the soul of drama.

Darkness-Induced Audience Apathy occurs when a conflict exists that simply lacks any reason for the audience to care about how it is resolved. This is often because the setting is extremely but meaninglessly Darker and Edgier, and/or all sides are abhorrently, equally evil – or at least, far enough gone that any difference between the two is splitting hairs. As such, consumers of media affected by Darkness-Induced Audience Apathy tend to approach conflict between parties or factions with remarkable indifference; because no matter who wins, the universe will still suck. (And while it would be really nice to see them all lose, that likely isn’t going to happen.) In other words, there is nothing at stake. While there is a conflict happening, for all that the audience is concerned there might as well not be because they likely have little reason to care about who wins or loses. (And even when there are clear-cut good guys, they can be so smug, priggish, hypocritical, unpleasant, or just plain annoying that it’s hard to feel too sad if the bad guys defeat them, especially if the bad guys actually have a good reason for hating them.)

This is the emotional result of Black and Black Morality. Because the conflict between the equal evils is essentially meaningless, there is no dramatic tension. Maybe one Eldritch Abomination eats you in a slightly less painful manner than the other one, but either way, you’re still screwed. You can’t support any factions or hold on to any ideals after this effect has set in. All you can do is sit agape as the writers apparently attempt to outdo themselves at making the setting even worse and more unpleasant and more nihilistic to the point where the media is a bland miserable monotone. This trope is not just about a Crapsack World, but about Evil Versus Evil and too much cynicism producing this effect. A sure sign of audience apathy setting in is if they start rooting for the Omnicidal Maniac – the setting is so bleak that no part of it is worth saving. When total oblivion looks like your best option, something is wrong.