things i’ve discovered about long distance relationships & generally life b/c of said relationship
(this was requested so here’s some words of wisdom/general things i’ve learned from this relationship. i’ll add onto this as experiences occur and as i think of new things. i’ll also make it a separate link on my blog so when it gets piled over with other posts, you’ll still have the advice at your fingertips. :) it’s a work in progress :) )
- First and foremost, you have to actually like the other person.
I know this should seem super obvious, but what I’m saying is that you have to actually like their personality and who they are, or else it won’t work. Close proximity relationships can at least somewhat survive for a while based solely on physical attraction. Long distance cannot (that should be pretty obvious).
- Skype (or any video chat service) becomes your best friend.
Video calls are probably the biggest connection you can possibly have with distance between you. Utilize it. Trust me.
- Alongside this, allow yourself to have a late night call every now and again.
I wouldn’t recommend every call you have to be super late (been there, done that), but with time differences, sometimes it’s inevitable. And sometimes you’ll fall asleep on the call, and there’s something comforting about that; it’s like falling asleep with the person you love right there, even when they’re so far away. It’s nice.
- It’s not easy.
This is pretty self-explanatory. You’re going to miss them. There are some nights where it’ll feel overwhelming, there are moments where they may be the only ones who are able to really help you and they can’t be there, there may be times you just want to talk but things don’t work and it’s disappointing…it happens. And it sucks. Trust me, it’s so worth it when you actually see them, but you have to know you’ll have your moments where you feel down and you just need to accept it. (if you ever need to vent or anything or just need to talk you can 100% message me anytime b/c i’ve totally been there. here or here (personal blog))
- You have to trust the other person.
This will be the make-it or break-it in the relationship. If you can’t trust the other person, then you’re screwed. Trust is honestly the basis for all relationships, but with long distance, you’re not around them all the time, so you have to trust that they’re not cheating or just generally being a jerk. It’s important.
- Plan out the next time you’ll see each other.
It should be pretty obvious here too, but you’re gonna miss each other, and you can only go for so long without seeing each other, so plan out when you’ll see them next! It’s also kind of fun to figure out different things you could do :)
- Remember that they’re in a long distance relationship too.
You’re probably thinking, “Well yeah, obviously.” What I’m trying to say here is remember that it’s not easy for them either. Just like you have your bad days, they’ll have their bad days too. Just remember to be there for them when it happens. After all, you know firsthand how it feels.