particular women

In case you wonder what the Trumpians think of women in general, and African American women in particular, Harriet Tubman isn’t going on the $20. But some other woman might get the $2 bill.

I’m just sayin . ..

transcript of the speech i gave at Vassar’s black baccalaureate service

Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen, honored guests, and the Vassar class of 2017.
Just saying that aloud made me feel old. Class of 2017? Most of y'all were born after dark-skinned Aunt Viv left the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. That’s wild.

I want to first thank you for allowing me to be a part of such a special moment in your lives. I am honored, privileged, and a bit in disbelief that you asked me of all people to give this address. I try not to have feelings, and I’m going to do my best not to cry today, but no promises.

I’m here to stand in the gap between you and your parents and guardians and any other elders in your lives that you stopped listening to because you thought they were wack and out of touch. I remember being in your shoes not TOO long ago, and it is my fervent prayer that something that I say here today will help you avoid some of the mess I went through.
To be honest I’m a little nervous, but I figured there was no way could this be worse than when Betsy DeVos went down to Bethune-Cookman, so let’s get started.

As you transition to life after Vassar the changes will be both inevitable and swift, so I’d like to begin by giving you some well-intentioned advice and warning you about the continued process of becoming an adult.

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My name is Gabriel. I shall always remember what my mother told me before she died: “The man who beats up a child or a woman is damned. Damned forever.”

Centering whiteness in the craft.

I’ve been into the occult for as long as I can remember. At 8 I was checking out books on satanism, vampirism, and witchcraft from the library, at 10 I started doing my own spells and interacting with Faefolk, at 13 my mom told me about the spell work she used to do growing up. I have grown a lot since those days of building fairy houses in my front yard out of rocks and flowers and leaving little offerings of honey or juice in exchange for good luck or help finding something I lost, and in those years of navigating the pagan and witch communities both online and off, reading books nonstop, blogs nonstop, etc, I noticed a trend. 

Paganism, the occult, and the craft are all very very white. Not only that but whiteness is centered as the one and only way to participate in these interests. First it started in the wiccan books I read as a child, the “white vs. black” magic that is shoved down the throats of aspiring wiccans and witches and eventually they spew it back at anyone else who will listen. If you’ve been on my blog a bit, you already know my gripe about white or black magic. If you haven’t browsed my blog or been there for my rants here is the nitty gritty: The idea at it’s simplest is rooted in colorism and racism, where white is seen as good and black or darkness seen as bad, this trope has been carried over into many different movies and books featuring magic as the villian who usually practices “black” magic has darker features, dark skin, dark eyes, dark hair, while the good characters practice white magic and as such represent purity with their fair skin and hair and eyes. Not only this but historically the magic and practices of those of color, brown and black people, have been demonized for centuries while magic performed by white people are seen as some kind of fairy tale, quirky, beautiful, sipping tea by a potted plant, aesthetic. 

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Yall remember *NSYNC?

Remember how they (along with the backstreet boys) were the most popular boybands worldwide during the late 90s and into the millennium?

Remember the member Lance Bass?

Remember how he dated Danielle Fishel and they were “so in love”?

Remember how after they broke up, he exclusively dated women?

Remember all the rumors he had about him not being straight?

Remember when TMZ and Perez Hilton started following him around?

Remember when shortly after all this he came out as gay 4 years after *NSYNC disbanded?


Remember the reasons he gave as to why he didn’t come out a lot sooner than he did?

Do you think people told his speculators back then that they were delusional just like they tell Kaisoo shippers that now?

I bet they did, but in the end:

I rest my case.

I just think it’s funny how many Gaston fangirls I’ve seen so far pulling the “Gaston didn’t deserve to die!” card, either because they’re into Luke Evans or because 2017 Gaston was in the army and therefore has PTSD and doesn’t deserve anything bad happening to him.

Like… he literally refers to Belle (and women in general) as ‘prey’, he attempts to murder Maurice when he tells him he can’t marry Belle, he belittles Lefou and uses him as a human shield during the castle fight, he shoots the Beast in the back three times, but sure; he was pretty and fought in the war so poor precious baby.

If that isn’t what actually makes Gaston frightening in the first place though. People (in particular women) excusing/overlooking his poor actions in favour of appearances.

anyway we need more content with old gay people in it. old gay couples that have been together since high school. old gay people falling in love. old gay people with happy families. old gay people who are just coming out. old gay people passing on their knowledge to young gay people. we just need more old gay people in media period.

20 for 20000 followers!

My favourite influential women in the media who love women!
(no particular order)

1. Samira Wiley

2. Margaret Cho

3. Portia De Rossi

4. Lily Tomlin

5. Kate McKinnon

6. Michelle Rodriguez

7. Raven Symone

8. Lena Waithe

9. Sarah Paulson

10. Cara Delevingne

11. Cynthia Nixon

12. Annie Clark AKA St Vincent

13. Wanda Sykes

14. Alia Shawkat

15. Sydney Bennett AKA Syd tha Kyd

16. Ellen Page

17. Jane Lynch

18. Clea DuVall

19. Lea Delaria

20. Jenny Shimizu

Text represents sexuality and sex acts in ways importantly different from  film: while evoking the bodies of actors associated with particular characters, erotic fanfiction, unlike filmic pornography, does not require actors or any other real people to perform, and so readers don’t have to worry about the objectification or exploitation of those people. And of course, words are cheap to work with and don’t require the same social capital as  filmmaking, painting, or symphony composing; consequently, they have been the medium of choice of marginalized storytellers in general and women in particular. Writers can focus on characterization, and they can also create fantastic worlds on a miniscule budget: rocket ships, a cast of thousands, seamless special effects. As Rebecca Tushnet has noted, it takes a big studio to make The Avengers, but it doesn’t take a big studio to write Avengers fanfiction, and fanfiction can take us into a character’s mind and heart as easily as outer space.
—  Francesca Coppa, “Five Things That Fanfiction Is, and One Thing It Isn’t,” The Fanfiction Reader

arwenxs  asked:

Hi! For the prompts, I don't know if you've done this before, but what about a Tony Stark advises for the young avengers? Because I really love the RDJ advises so I think that might be cool.

I SO FELL IN LOVE WITH THIS IDEA OMG I DECIDED I COULD NOT WAIT TO POST IT.

Also I interpreted “Young Avengers” as his new young Avengers, not the Young Avengers™ who don’t have a book right now. That may have been wrong, sorry D:

Title: Tony Stark Advises the Avengers
Rating: PG
Summary: Somehow, Tony Stark ended up Team Dad.
Notes: This is set nominally in the 616, where Ms. Marvel (Kamala Khan), Nova (Sam Alexander), and Spider-man (Miles Morales) are half of an Avengers team with Iron Man (Tony Stark), Captain America (Sam Wilson), and Thor (Jane Foster). 
More Notes: There is a text version following the image version for people who need plain text. Sorry there are two guys on this team named Sam, it’s not my fault. 

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Ms. Marvel

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So, plainly-speaking here: I don’t care how many empty “omg this is solidarity!” posts, how many “bi girls are the cosmos uwu” posts, how many “just a reminder that it’s bad to do biphobia, guys!” posts are on your blog, I’m still looking out for this:

  • if a bi woman thinks you have said or agreed with something biphobic, no matter how nice she’s being about it, do you immediately accuse her of being a liberal that believes in monosexual privilege?
  • do you seem to like making fun of the concept that you could ever possibly be biphobic? (bonus points if you have a bi friend that agrees with you, so you don’t need to ever critically examine the way you talk about bi women!)

  • is your idea of positivity for bi women only ever the most bare minimum “don’t call bi girls straights!” or “all bi girls are cute!” posts?

  • do you only seem to care about biphobic issues once people who are not bi women begin talking about it? as in: are you waiting for people who are not bi women to “confirm” that something really does effect bi women before you agree that it’s bad?

  • is your concern for issues faced by bi women clearly contradicted by your continued behaviour? (eg. reblogging a post saying “stop lumping bi women and straight women in together” but continuing to use terms like “men-attracted women”)

  • do you seem especially concerned with bi women in particular “stealing” (even retroactively!) concepts, resources, and history, even if you yourself do not fully understand them? when bi women try to explain their perspective, is your first instinct to block, no-platform and mock?

  • do you imply that bi women trying to explain their experiences to you is just a result of bi women being entitled, whiny, childish, etc.?

  • do you consistently imply that you understand the experiences of bi women better than they themselves do?

  • have you ever brushed off the biphobia of a friend/mutual/acquaintance until it was no longer convenient to associate with them for unrelated reasons?
Just ask yourself these questions. Even if you, yourself, are a bi woman, ask yourself these questions! I needed to, once upon a time!
Reblogging cutesy posts us nice, having the bare minimum “no biphobes allowed!” in your header is nice, but it’s all a hollow gesture if you’re not working to actively understand us when we talk about what impacts us and why. 

anonymous asked:

Opinions on Elia Martell and Rhaegar Targaryen's relationship? Most people dismiss it as an unhappy union, but that's not in the text. Just because it's implied that they weren't in love, that doesn't mean there was no depth to their marriage. Didn't GRRM say their relationship was a complex one? Also, is it just me or is "he was fond of her" not as terrible as everyone says?

I’ve said before and I’ll say again, I don’t think Rhaegar was capable of really loving anyone - not Elia, not Lyanna, basically no one. Barristan says that it was not in Rhaegar to be happy, that there was a “melancholy” to him, a “sense of doom”. Every character is apt to have biases, of course, but Barristan was a firsthand witness and, perhaps more importantly, held Rhaegar in high regard and thought he would have made a “finer” king than Jaehaerys II, Aerys II, or Robert; if Barristan who thought so highly of him still says he was melancholic and withdrawn, I’d believe it.

Too, and relatedly, I think Rhaegar was deeply secretive and withdrawn about his prophetic interests. This, I think, was tied up in his feelings about himself: he was burdened by prophecy, burdened by the memory of his prophecy-mandated birth causing the horrific deaths of family members, burdened by the knowledge that he and he alone was responsible for saving humanity when its greatest crisis came. Who could possibly understand his situation? Arthur Dayne, perhaps - he too came from an ancient and mystical bloodline, and he too was charged with great responsibility, as Sword of the Morning. But what could a mere lordling, or a wife, understand of the coming of the Others, the new Long Night, the need for a hero who could save the world from darkness?

Now consider Elia Martell. She came from a land in general and a family in particular where women are not relegated to subservient roles. She was the daughter of the reigning Princess of Dorne, a woman (presumably) respected and obeyed by her courtiers and vassals. Her closest relationship in her youth was with her brother Oberyn, who was devoted to her, her virtual twin. The Unnamed Princess had raised her to make an advantageous betrothal, certainly, and probably educated her in what to expect in marriage, but her mother’s instruction and her own upbringing might have given Elia some confidence. She was not nothing: she was a born princess, and the daughter of a ruling princess. Rhaegar, as was probably reported to her, was handsome, intelligent, and chivalrous. Together, they would make a model crown princely, and eventually kingly, couple.

But then Elia married Rhaegar, and the disillusionment and frustration probably set in pretty quickly. Her new home of Dragonstone was cold, gloomy, and isolated; her royal father-in-law was a physical and mental wreck, violently paranoid and deeply suspicious of her immediately; her primary role - to provide a Targaryen heir for the next generation - was dangerous to the point of near-fatal for her. There was no comfort to be had anywhere, and least of all from her husband. It was not that Rhaegar was cruel or mean; I’m sure he treated Elia with all the courtesy her position demanded. But he was melancholic and withdrawn, a sharp contrast to hot-blooded and energetic - and loving - Oberyn. 

It was doubtless a frustrating situation for Elia. She would do everything she was “supposed” to do - be the kind, gracious, clever crown princess of Barristan’s report - but that exterior image only hid what was happening on a personal level. Rhaegar might have grown “fond” of her, but fondness was for describing one’s liking for songs or flowers or adorable little children, not for a prince’s relationship to his princess. For the clever daughter of a reigning princess to be excluded from Rhaegar’s interest in the texts he read, as though he could not trust her with the information, might likewise have hurt her. After a year of marriage, she was no more than the crown prince’s “fond” spouse, a dynastic failure for having only produced a daughter, a figure hated by the deranged king and his cronies. Her husband’s public insult to her at Harrenhal, and her knowledge that she could never have more children (despite her probable desire for more and Rhaegar’s expressed need for “another”), probably only added to her sense of isolation.

GRRM called their marriage “complex”, and promised (three years ago) that we’d learn more about it in future books. I certainly hope so. At this point, I view it as complex because of its public success - the handsome, dashing prince and the fair, gracious princess, with a son and daughter to carry on the Targaryen line - and its probable private turmoil - Rhaegar’s melancholy, Elia’s loneliness, his conduct toward her in pursuit of his prophetic goals. As Rhaegar surged ahead, confident that history would prove him right and what he did was necessary for the salvation of humanity, he might have thought little of those he hurt in the short-term - Elia included.

Aannndddd that’s how you lose a Democratic primary. Saying that those issues aren’t something important to “ordinary Americans” sends a loud and clear signal to the Democratic base (contrary to popular belief, the Democratic base is black people, in particular black women.) Short of outright endorsing Trump, I can’t think of a faster way to self-destruct a Democratic primary campaign than saying what he just said.

frigga · goddess of marriage, childbirth, motherhood and wisdom

Frigg was the Norse Goddess of marriage, childbirth, motherhood, wisdom, household management and weaving and spinning. She was the Queen of Aesir and the only one permitted to sit on the high seat other than her husband Odin.This Goddess’s home was Fensalir (Marsh hall) in Asgard. All marshy and boggy ground was sacred to this Goddess.As Goddess of weaving she was associated with weaving clouds and the threads of fate, known as Wyrd in the Nordic tradition. Despite this and the gift of prophecy she is unable to save her own son from his fate. The Goddess made him invincible to everything other than mistletoe but unfortunately Loki disguised himself and tricked her in to revealing this weakness.She has more than ten handmaidens who assist her, the most well known of these are Hlin (Goddess of Protection), Gna (a messenger Goddess) and Fulla (a fertility Deity). Some academics have suggested that the attendants represent different faces of this particular Deity.Barren women would invoke this Goddess and ask her to bless them with children.

The Sailor Moon paper I wrote for my gender studies class

Last week, I mentioned the presentation I did on Sailor Moon for my gender studies class, and how my professor was so impressed by Sailor Moon’s themes that she told me she wants to show it to her kids. Anyway, I promised that I would post the paper the presentation focused on once I finished writing it, so here it is!

I drew quite a bit from a previous paper I wrote on Sailor Moon, but I also included a lot of new things. Particularly, I added sections on how femininity is often negatively portrayed in the media, Haruka’s gender nonconformity in the manga, and the presence of the Outer family.


Bishoujo Senshi Sailor Moon

It seems as though more and more frequently, the lack of female-centric media is being called into question. It appears as though the majority of movies, tv shows, and other media feature a male protagonist, with female characters being relegated to the sidelines. Even if there is a female protagonist, it often feels like she doesn’t get to develop strong relationships with other female characters. The lack of deep female relationships and overall female representation in media is indeed unacceptable; the same can be said for the lack of representation regarding LGBT people. However, I feel as though we should praise a particular series that not only delivers on those things, but proves that doing so can lead to massive success. It’s called Sailor Moon (known as Bishoujo Senshi Sailor Moon in its native country of Japan), an anime (cartoon) and manga (comic book) series aimed at girls. Sailor Moon is so impressive because it provides positive portrayals of femininity, female relationships (both platonic and romantic), gender nonconformity, and even non-traditional families.

Bishoujo Senshi Sailor Moon, which means “Beautiful Soldier Sailor Moon” in Japanese, was created by a female Japanese mangaka, or manga artist, named Naoko Takeuchi. The manga debuted in the girls’ magazine Nakayoshi on December 28, 1991 and ended on February 3, 1997; the animated adaptation premiered on March 7, 1992 and ended February 8, 1997. From the very beginning, Sailor Moon was a smash hit; originally intended to only consist of a single arc, its popularity caused Takeuchi to expand it to five arcs. In addition to the original anime and manga, Sailor Moon’s enormous popularity has resulted in, as of 2017: A series of stage musicals, 31 in all; three movies with theatrical releases; a live-action series that comprised of 52 episodes; numerous rereleases of the manga and anime; many video game spinoffs; many foreign-language dubs; and finally, a new, updated anime reboot entitled Sailor Moon Crystal that is ongoing.

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Something very particular to bi women is how are identity is seen as inherently unfaithful.and I think that really plays into a lot of violence we experience at the hands of men. Because I see lots of bi women talking about “I came out to my boyfriend/husband and now he doesn’t trust me” and while that isn’t inherently abusive it’s very very unhealthy and is often times used as a justification for abuse (Amber Heard in example).

U could also probably find a connection to why bi women have higher than average rates of mental illness, I think it’s all connected

Anyways Pride Month is here and we need to remember that Black and Lantix lgbtqa+ people have always been at the forefront of our progress but have always been left behind in the spotlight of our triumph. 

They are constantly targeted and are usually the first to suffer for out collective plight (from Stonewall to Pulse, Orlando). As we move forward to a better tomorrow we must not forget our history. 

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Mayim Bialik Stirs Controversy With Sexual Harassment Op-Ed
Big Bang Theory star and Blossom alum's piece, published in the New York Times, comes amid allegations of sexual misconduct that women recently made against Harvey Weinstein

And this is why I do not like her. I do not agree with her type of feminism and her “pretty people” vs “unpretty people” style. Just because she has a zillion degrees, it doesn’t make her better than everyone. The POINT of feminism IS equality AND that women CAN and SHOULD be allowed to wear whatever they want. No, it’s not a perfect world-but by saying that women have to dress a certain way in order to NOT be harassed or raped, yes Mayim, you ARE blaming the victim and that is disgusting. I’m glad that you’re better than everyone else Mayim and have all the answers and know how to conduct yourself in uncomfortable situations. I’m not a 10 either and I have been in that kind of situation, and no, it’s not always easy to know how to act even if you think you would or-in the cases for these particular women; their careers were at stake. Don’t judge them because they kept quiet for so long because they didn’t want it to affect their careers-that happens in places other than Hollywood too. It doesn’t just happen to pretty people. Harassment, rape, assault,etc don’t only happen to attractive people. It’s not about sex. It is about power. You would think that someone with a zillion degrees would know that.

PS-Gloria Steinem who knows better than you says and I quote,  “Feminists can wear anything they fucking want.”