parent and son

Just The Two Of Us

Will Smith’s “Just the Two Of Us” is such an important song for me. If you listen to the lyrics from beginning to end, it’s like he’s being a fatherly figure through his music. For his son and for listeners too.

Telling us about his experience and journey as a father. From the moment his son was born all the way to that present moment, which at that time, his son was 5. Will dishes about how his experience as a father makes him feel and what his duties and responsibilities are as a parent. Then he adds life lessons and parenting 101 in the form of lyrics as guidance.

“(Now dad this is a very sensitive subject)
From the first time the doctor placed you in my arms
I knew I’d meet death before I’d let you meet harm
Although questions arose in my mind, would I be man enough?
Against wrong, choose right and be standin’ up
From the hospital that first night
Took a hour just to get the car seat in right
People drivin’ all fast, got me kinda upset
Got you home safe, placed you in your bassinet
That night I don’t think one wink I slept
As I slipped out my bed, to your crib I crept
Touched your head gently, felt my heart melt
‘Cause I know I loved you more than life itself
Then to my knees, and I begged the Lord please
Let me be a good daddy, all he needs
Love, knowledge, discipline too
I pledge my life to you

Just the two of us, we can make it if we try
Just the two of us (Just the two of us)
Just the two of us, building castles in the sky
Just the two of us, you and I


Five years old, bringin’ comedy
Every time I look at you I think man, a little me
Just like me
Wait an see, goin’ to be tall
Makes me laugh ‘cause you got your dads ears and all
Sometimes I wonder, what you gonna be
A general, a doctor, maybe a MC
Haha, I wanna kiss you all the time
But I will test that butt when you cut outta line, tru dat
Uh-uh-uh why you do dat?
I try to be a tough dad, but you be makin’ me laugh
Crazy joy, when I see the eyes of my baby boy
I pledge to you, I will always do
Everything I can
Show you how to be a man
Dignity, integrity, honor and
I don’t mind if you lose, long as you came with it
An you can cry, ain’t no shame it it
It didn’t work out with me an your mom
But yo, push come to shove
You was conceived in love
So if the world attacks, and you slide off track
Remember one fact, I got your back

Just the two of us, we can make it if we try
Just the two of us (Just the two of us)
Just the two of us, building castles in the sky
Just the two of us, you and I

It’s a full-time job to be a good dad
You got so much more stuff than I had
I gotta study just to keep with the changin’ times
101 Dalmatians on your CD-ROM
See me, I’m
Tryin’ to pretend I know
On my PC where that CD go
But yo, ain’t nothin’ promised, one day I’ll be gone
Feel the strife, but trust life does go on
But just in case
It’s my place
To impart
One day some girl’s gonna break your heart
And ooh ain’t no pain like from the opposite sex
Gonna hurt bad, but don’t take it out on the next, son
Throughout life people will make you mad
Disrespect you and treat you bad
Let God deal with the things they do
'Cause hate in your heart will consume you too
Always tell the truth, say your prayers
Hold doors, pull out chairs, easy on the swears
You’re living proof that dreams come true
I love you and I’m here for you

Just the two of us, we can make it if we try
Just the two of us (Just the two of us)
Just the two of us, building castles in the sky
Just the two of us, you and I

Just the two of us (Just the two of us)
Daddy loves you, daddy loves you
(Just the two of us)
For the rest of your life
(Just the two of us)

(This is a good song dad, how much am I gettin’ paid for this dad?)

The whole record is wrapped in love. Nothing he speaks about when it comes to teaching his son is problematic. AT ALL.
• how his son makes him feel
• being a male & it being ok to feel
• how his son should go about treating women
• how to process and deal with his OWN feelings and emotions (heartbreak, pressure, stress, rejection, ect)
• it being ok to cry
• picking yourself up and moving on
• character traits to possess (what type of person you should strive to become)
• Assuring his son he’ll always stand behind him & have the love of his father

ANOTHER IMPORTANT PART! At the time i do believe Will Smith wasn’t with his son’s mother anymore. Will wants his son to understand that their relationship is not effected by Will and her separating. Throughout the song, Will’s focus is on him and his son’s relationship hence “Just the Two Of Us”. However Will does briefly explain the separation between himself and his son’s mother by saying “It didn’t work out with me and your mom, but yo, push come to shove, you were conceived and loved.” There was no disrespect, no shade or animosity included when discussing his son’s mother.

Everything this song embodies is why it’s one of my FAVORITE songs! It’s inspiring and gives insight on the dynamics of a healthy relationship between father and son. It can definitely be used as a guide to help young and older men understand how to be a father to their sons. Will’s delivery on his fatherhood can also bring clarity and reassurance to current father’s who are already fulfilling their roles and building relationships with their sons. Hell, it can probably change some current fathers who are trash, for the better as well. But yea, I’ve loved this song since before i was a teenager. It’s so good. Thank you Will.

Comparison of Steven’s and Nora’s Tapes

For Steven:

Isn’t it remarkable, Steven?
This world is full of so many possibilities.
Each living thing has an entirely unique experience.
The sights they see, the sounds they hear, the lives they live, are so complicated and so simple.
I can’t wait for you to join them.

Steven, we can’t both exist.
I’m going to become half of you.
And I need you to know that every moment you love being yourself, that’s me loving you and loving being you.
Because you’re going to be something extraordinary, you’re going to be a human being.

Take care of them, Steven.

For Nora:

Isn’t it wonderful, Nora?
This world is full of so many possibilities.
Each living thing has an entirely unique experience.
The sights they see, and the lives they live, are so complicated and so simple.
I can’t wait for you to join them.

Nora, we can’t both exist but i won’t be gone.
I’m going to become half of you.
And every moment you enjoy yourself, that will be me loving being you.
Because you’re going to become something extraordinary, you’re going to be a human being.
And that’s my favourite part, a human being.
A human being, a human is an action.
i wonder who— how you’ll be, what you’ll think, what you’ll want…
I’m so happy for everybody who’s going to know you.
I’m rambling.
if they look to you, trust yourself.

Take care of them, Nora.


From what we can see, comparing the two videos, Steven’s was shot first. Not only are Greg and Rose more unsure about what they’re going to say and do, they’re also figuring out what should go into the video in the first place.

The first few scenes, which show Greg’s sleeping, messing around, and meeting the seagull for the first time, as well as Rose’s not knowing what the buttons do and experimenting with them, reveal that whatever practice they did going into the video shoot ultimately didn’t prepare them for it fully.

At the same time, when comparing what’s being said between Steven’s and Nora’s tapes, they have the same substance; the same message is being delivered: Rose hoped her child would get to live life to the fullest and make experiences that were fun and happy. She wanted to assure her child that she cared, even though she wouldn’t be there. Most of all, she wanted to assure them that being human was a great thing. 

The thing is, Steven’s message is much more brief, and a little more formal. Rose clearly practiced what she wanted to say, and in the first tape, she went for it, likely because of nerves.

By the second filming, she seemed more comfortable in front of the camera and that’s also why she could clear up her nerves and keep expounding on her ideas.

So Steven, who read very deeply into the words of his mother, may have picked up on her saying he would be extraordinary and a human being. And he fixated on becoming someone worth calling extraordinary, when in fact, Rose had always meant to say by virtue of living, one could be extraordinary. 

And we can’t really blame him, because he went from being another Beach City kid to being at the centre of an intergalactic conflict. It’s hard to accept that these things would happen to him if he weren’t destined for something.

I’d go as far as to say that hoping he was part of some magical destiny gave him strength at times, despite how bleak the situation could be.

The thing with this line of thinking though, is how much it wears on someone. The responsibility of being accountable for all these people and all these systems that were quite obviously out of his control and consequently responsibility in the first place was heavy on him.

Steven does want to be a hero. He does want to help people. But he felt more comfortable with this being his choice and his decision, not some destiny thrust upon him, not a tradeoff between his life and the many others he’d have to save.

I think Greg’s talk with him helped him process those feelings, which he’d been keeping inside for a while now. Steven thought everyone expected him to be like Rose, and that may have been true at some points in the show, but his father never did. And that’s what made Greg’s words so reassuring, because his sincerity could be felt in all of them.

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There goes what little freedom Adrien had.  At least he got a good burn in before being confined to his tower.


Bonus:

Is it just me, or does Gabriel look heartbroken that his son is a superhero?  He’s either worried about his safety or that he’ll have to fight him.  Or both.

jeanblogvandamn  asked:

As far as parenting goes, allow me to offer an alternative to... that other thing. Said alternative being McCree using his serape as a babby sling, and/or Hanzo sending McCree a picture of the bab sitting in one of his hats.

yesss omg that’s so cute both of that

Also: Hanzo texts like an old person

Actual Conversation with My Son: Serious Aangst

*my son walked into my room this morning with a somber look on his face*

Son: “Dad, can I talk to you in private?”

Me: “Of course, son.”

Son: *closes door* “Thanks.”

Me: “What is it, buddy? Is everything OK?”

Son: *looks at me, sighs, looks down* “Dad, I think I can airbend.”

Me: “Oh.”

Son: *looks nervous*

Me: “Well what makes you think that?”

Son: “The other day I was outside and the wind was blowing at me, but when I did this-” *does airbending move* “-the air started moving the other way.”

Me: “Alright, I appreciate you telling me. What do you think we could do to help you develop this?”

Son: “I don’t know! I don’t know hardly any airbending moves at all!”

Me: “You think we need to start watching Avatar again?”

Son: “Yeah, I think that would be good.”

Me: “I’m sure we can work that out, buddy. We can practice together.”

Son: *beaming* “Thanks, Dad.”

Let boys wear makeup
Let boys wear nail polish
Let boys wear dresses
Let boys wear pink
Let boys be feminine

But don’t question boys masculinity
Don’t question boys gender identity
Don’t question boys sexual interests

Just let boys wear what they want
Let boys like whoever they want
Let boys be whoever they want

Initial Thoughts: Lion 4

This moment is so artfully rendered. The build-up to this scene was the boiling over of Steven’s feeling Rose’s presence and pressure in his life. 

And then as Greg reassures him of Rose’s desire (that all the best parents deep down want for their children) for Steven to find himself, embrace it, and be happy, Rose is there, watching from behind them.

It’s very much like the scenes we usually get in the temple, when Rose’s portrait hangs over everyone. But over there her eyes are closed and she’s frozen in a picture-perfect moment. 

This scene dispels the lasting tension brought about by that version of Rose, the individual who was perfect and could do no wrong, the gem who must have had a motive for having Steven.

The Rose behind Steven and Greg had fully accepted her role as mother. She giggled, rambled, and admitted to her imperfections and inadequacies. She hints at the regret of not being able to really meet her son.

Her eyes are wide open in the paused video. It’s as if she herself became more aware and at the same time more open about herself. The resolution is blurry, because we can never really get the entire image of someone else, not even in video. It’s not the clean pastel colours that we see in her portrait.

Leading up to his, Steven did feel alone. He felt he was carrying the weight of his destiny by himself. This scene beautifully shows that both his parents are there to support him. Rose may have left behind a repository of “junk,” both the literal and metaphorical, but Steven wasn’t entirely wrong.

Rose was indeed leaving things behind for him. But they weren’t necessarily leading to a big revelation of his destiny. Each time we encountered something Rose meant for Steven to find, it was only a tool and not a determinant towards what Steven would do next. 

And in this episode, we recall those places all over again, reinforcing this theme. The armoury, the fountain, the room. Even Lion.

All these things Rose left behind were left without instruction. That’s why Steven became confused and certain it was a cryptic message left for him. In reality, it was because she never wanted anything of her son. She wanted to share so much of her life and her history but she knew she wouldn’t be there to do it.

It was precisely because Rose didn’t want him to feel the pressure to take up her mantle that she left things largely unexplained.

There were definitely flaws to her approach, but her intentions, seen very clearly in her two videos, stayed true throughout her journey to becoming Steven’s mother.

From day one, that neither knew who Steven would be is a reflection of what every parent feels when having a child. 

What I feel this episode really cements is Steven’s decision-making as an individual. The significance of his life’s choices rests on him. And I hope these are themes we get to explore more in the rest of the Steven Bomb and in the show.