It’s okay to feel upset on Mother’s Day, and it’s valid to have mixed emotions about it. It isn’t selfish to wish you had a different experience with your mother than what you got, and feeling upset or angry with your mother doesn’t make you an ungrateful child. Not everyone had loving mothers who treated them right all the time, and it’s important to acknowledge that. It doesn’t make you a downer. Take care of yourself.

to everyone who has abusive parents:

there may come a point in your life where you realize that you’re not nearly as close with your parent(s) as you used to be. you may realize that their abuse is the cause of this. 

you may also experience feelings of numbness or apathy towards them while spending time with them (willingly or not) or speaking to them. you may not enjoy doing things with them, feeling like you don’t love them anymore, truly. you may feel like when someone asks you if you love your parent, you think: “i have to, they’re my family member.” you may feel as though you miss having a healthy bond with them, if there ever was a time that harbored such. 

and that’s okay. those feelings are normal. you may never be as close as you were with your parent prior to the abuse, and that’s okay. you don’t need to pretend to love them if you don’t. sometimes it’s better this way. it doesn’t mean you have to hate them, although it’s understandable if you do. it doesn’t mean you have to never be friendly with them ever again. 

healing takes time. if healing means not being as close to your parent as before, then that’s completely fine. you do what you need to do to heal and be happy. you are not alone.

Late and out of order, but not everyone can be as perfect as Molly. Here’s day six of #PotterWeekPrompts , “parental figure!”

DAY ONE : BEST FRIENDS

DAY TWO : MUST BE A WEASLEY

DAY THREE : HOUSE COLORS

DAY FOUR : MISUNDERSTOOD

DAY FIVE : FLORA AND FAUNA 

DAY SIX : PARENTAL FIGURE

DAY SEVEN : YER A WIZARD, HARRY

if you are in the position where you can decide to have children:

do NOT have kids if you know you won’t be able to care of them/neglect them

do NOT have kids if you will treat them as an object, and not a source of happiness, or someone you can love selflessly

do NOT have kids if you will punish and/or discipline them in ways that affect them negatively, especially in the long term

do NOT have kids if you will use fear, abuse or trauma to “keep them in their place”, or think that it is the slightest bit appropriate to use such tactics

do NOT have kids in the intent that they will become your “successor” or “just like you”

do NOT have kids if you will not accept or support them for whatever physical or mental disability that they would possibly be born with, or would develop later on in life

do NOT have kids if you will not accept or support them if they would later on identify as another gender, or fall in love with someone of the same gender

do NOT have kids if you will disrespect their want for privacy where acceptable or appropriate—e.g. looking through their things, checking their browser history, demanding to read their texts

do NOT have kids if you won’t support them for any trouble, trauma or abuse they are going through

do NOT have kids if you will be dishonest, about anything in any way, shape or form, to your child

DO NOT HAVE KIDS IF YOU WILL DO ANYTHING MENTIONED ABOVE.

THEY ARE CHILDREN, APPLICABLE TO EVERY HUMAN RIGHT, AND SHOULD YOU CONSIDER EVEN THE SLIGHTEST FRAGMENT OF ANYTHING MENTIONED ABOVE TO DO TO YOUR CHILD, YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE CHILDREN.

baby / new parent memes

  • should she/he be making that noise?
  • she’s crying again… it’s your turn
  • should she/he be screaming this much?
  • i think she/he has a fever
  • you can’t call the pediatrician every time you have a question!
  • be careful with her/him!
  • the books didn’t cover this…
  • i think she/he has a rash
  • i don’t know what i’m doing
  • do you think we’re doing a good job?
  • she’s/he’s a prodigy!!!
  • have you seen my breast pump?
  • i’ve never been so tired in my life
  • how have they already outgrown these clothes??
  • be careful with her/him…
  • do you wanna count her/his toes again?
  • you think she/he knows who i am?
  • i think this diaper is on wrong
  • watch your mouth, this baby’s first word better not be a curse word
  • shhhh! i just got her/him to sleep
  • do we really have to watch the wiggles 24/7?
  • should she/he be socializing with other babies?
  • be careful… she/he is a hair puller
  • she/he looks like you
  • we made this…

Parents who aren’t cishet are so strong.
People who give birth or carry a child and aren’t women are unbelievably brave and capable.
Nonbinary parents are incredible and just as capable of raising a child of any gender.
Mothers whose partner carried their child are so beautiful and amazing.
Same/similar gender parents are fantastic and loving and able to be just as awesome as different gender parents.
Fathers who carried their baby are unbelievably awesome dads.
Parents who have a surrogate baby for any reason are just as much their child’s parent as they would be if they had/had been able to have the child just between them.
Parents who adopt are so beautiful and kind and are the parent that the child needed, and are just as worthy as parents who don’t adopt.
LGBTQ+ parents are the best and nothing will ever convince me otherwise.