The law of paradoxical intent says that the more desperate you are to achieve a certain goal, the more your energy will push it away, creating the paradox (or opposite) of your intention. When urgency and need become your major motivations, you filter your life through the belief that you can’t be happy without your goal. This creates a consciousness of misery and emptiness that the Universe resists—and your lack of present joy will make it impossible to attract the goal or the happiness it could bring. The solution comes in surrendering your attachment to the outcome—and finding purpose and fulfillment in the pursuit. Let go of urgency and desperation.
— pilar mejia