anonymous asked:

I've finally accepted I'm pansexual. But now I'm being told that invalidates bisexuals. That I should just use bi. But bi feels wrong on me...

Pansexuality and bisexuality have overlapping definitions, however, aligning yourself with one label and one community in no way invalidates the other as long as you are respecting and recognizing both communities and their individuals. Your identity is your identity, and the label you choose to best describe it is for you, not anyone else. The term(s) you use to describe your sexual orientation should make you feel happy, comfortable, and essentially at peace, and to me, it sounds like you’ve accepted pansexual. That’s great! 

It’s true that label may change in the future. Who knows? You might find something that you feel fits better. People are dynamic beings, you know? But in the meantime, you shouldn’t change how you identify for anyone’s sake but your own. You know yourself best. This is your call to make. Best of luck!


The Pan-Handler is a superhero who works by night, lurking in the shadows to protect citizens from LGBTQ+ discrimination. Yielding her dual pans as weapons, she uses her super strength and invisible tenancies to destroy anyone who attempts anything against her beloved community. 

Look out, world… You’ve been pan-handled. 

Since today is pan visibility day, here’s some friendly reminders!

  • pan people are not bi.
  • you dont have to be pan to date a trans person
  • we dont fuck kitchenware
  • nor other non-human things
  • pansexuality is not “”bi erasure””
  • pansexuality is not homophobic (believe me, i have been told this)
  • pansexuals are not inherently greedy or desperate
  • pan people are attracted to all genders, but we can still have preferences
  • we’re not bi
  • pansexuals arent just ‘looking for attention’ or looking to be ‘’cooler” than bisexuals


I think of doing a serie like that. I dunno. But well, here’s the drawing/doodle of the night !

-Know your flags-

The Bisexuals                                                           The Aromantics

The Asexuals

The Polysexuals

The Transgender people

The Homosexuals

People like to identify with labels because it makes it easier to find terminology to explain what we’re experiencing, and it opens us up to a world where we’re not the only ones who feel this way. It’s not a way to be special, it’s a way to understand and belong.

5 things  about Deadpool that some of his fans make sure to ignore:

#1 Deadpool is pansexual, not heterosexual. (confirmed by literally 4 of his artists) and have flirted with men, women and people with no particular gender.

#2 Not a womanizer.  He cat calls a lot of girls, sure, but he’s not a womanizer. When he falls for someone, he falls hard and probably will stick up with them until they get bored of him or for some reason go away. 

#3 Has chronic pain. Let’s not pretend he cannot get hurt  or  feel pain just because of his healing factor. He feels the pain and there were times when he would curl himself into a ball because he couldn’t bear the pain of his skin.

#4 Is changing. He’s not the douchebag who was basically careless anymore; in fact, slowly he’s becoming a hero. 

#5 It’s not all jokes and breaker of the 4th wall.  What really pisses me off is when some of his fans take only those two traits and make it seem like that’s all Deadpool is. He’s so, so much more than this. He’s a very complex character and one cannot simply categorize him into one single thing. 

#6 Just because there are older fans, that doesn’t make the new fans less fans than the old folks.  Traditional fans should give a chance to newbies because once, all of us were new too and more  Deadpool fans means more popularity,  more merchandising and more movies! 


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Thank you so much to everyone for voting! Because of the overwhelming amount of responses we’ve already received, we’re going to go ahead and open the shirts for orders much sooner than we planned.

Shirts will open for orders on Friday, May 8th!

You will have 21 days to place your orders, and any shirts that receive 10 orders during that time will be printed. I know we previously said it might be more like 3-5, but after further researching Teespring’s policies, it seems that our shirts will require 10 orders. 

Shirts will cost $15 and be available in fitted and non-fitted options, in a variety of colors. There will also be a $25 charcoal grey hoodie option. 

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Pete Wentz on Androgyny and Sexuality

“I think part of it is ’cause at some point when we were doing this band I was like, “You know what? I’m going to be the most androgynous person that I can possibly be. I’m going to wear girl pants and makeup.” I looked to David Bowie, Mick Jagger, and people like that, and I was like, “That’s what’s missing in all the bands that we’re playing with right now! You need this effeminate edge.” Did Mick Jagger and David Bowie make out? Probably. Who knows? 

And that’s kind of what I was going for, but people took that to the next level. We have a song called “Gay Isn’t a Synonym for the Word ‘Shitty’” [on import versions of Infinity on High], and people take it in a weird way, like no one could ever be pro-gay rights who isn’t gay — which I’m fine with, because it puts the issue in peoples’ heads and forces them to confront it, like, “Can I be into this guy who’s on the cover of Tiger Beat and who I think is gay?” 

But I think sexuality is a lot more ambiguous and more of a blurred line than people make it out to be. People are always like, “It’s black or white,” but I don’t really feel like it is. I feel like people come across all parts of that spectrum. I think there are a lot of people who aren’t necessarily gay or straight or even bi; it’s just whatever moment or mood you’re in, you find different things attractive or cool.”

Full Interview on The Advocate site

Photo by Megan Westerby

Pansexual is a redundant term that is already covered by bisexuality. In fictional worlds, though, it can be appropriate.

Deadpool is called pansexual. This is appropriate because he has shown sexual attraction to men (Cable), women (Siryn), and innately genderless anthropomorphizations of abstract concepts (Death).

Lorne from Angel was described by his actor as being pansexual, and although he never has an onscreen romance he is shown making overt advanced towards men (Angel, Lindsey), women (Cordie), and various non-binary (three or more or one or less sexes) species of demons.

I am sure there are more examples of appropriate settings for pansexuality but these are the only ones I know of who actually are shown being pansexually attracted.

A human being in the real world who claims to be pansexual because he or she is attracted to men, women, and trans men and trans women is not appropriate. Trans men and women are men and women.

 In the real world it is impossible to have a sexual relationship with genderless demons or abstract concepts. 

Edited to clarify terms.

it doesn’t matter if you think somebody fits the defintion of bisexual better than pansexual, or if you think that they’re not actually bi, they’re pan

if they identify as bisexual, they’re bisexual

if they identify as pansexual, they’re pansexual

disregarding anybody’s chosen label based on your own idea of what they should identify as is a super shitty thing to do

Important pansexuality psa

In my time that I’ve known I’m pan, I’ve seen a lot of non-pansexual people trying to define the term as “being attracted to people regardless of gender”. However, that is NOT true.

The root “pan” means “all”. That is it. It doesn’t mean that we’re gender-blind or that we don’t care.

Some of us do have preferences. For example, I have a preference for feminine people/women.

That doesn’t make me or any of us less pansexual than others.

Please spread the word of this definition instead of all of the incorrect definitions going around on this website. They can be harmful to pansexual people who are still trying to come to terms with their sexuality, or those who experience constant mislabeling or people saying negative things about their identity.