pangendered

And people wonder why I tend to keep my sexuality to myself...

Today, a friend of mine told me that I can’t be pansexual, because being pansexual doesn’t exist. He also claimed being pangendered, or gender ambiguous, doesn’t exist either, because we are all physically male or female, despite what we think. I was actually quite offended, and the fact it was coming from a friend made it worse. I don’t judge anyone based on their gender, because by being a set gender, there are boundaries in place that you can’t get past, like the sexists, and the inequalities at work. Why don’t we all become pangendered? That way, we’re all equal.
And when it comes to sexuality, being pansexual is also more accepting, because we’re showing we can love anyone and everyone, no matter what bits they have, whether they’re male, female, trans, or pangendered. Because, at least in my opinions, love should transcend all gender boundaries.

But seriously, the fact this came from a friend whom I’ve known for 12 years actually hurts me, because I’ve never judged him on his sexual preference, or on what gender he considers himself to be. It’s actually quite shocking, really, that I have friends who are so unaccepting to people who are different.

I’m now tempted to not go into school because of this, because it hurts so much, and part of me wants to hurt my friend for saying such a thing to me.

-explains why I want to curl up in someone’s arms and cry myself to sleep-

The fact that being queer is a joke is in itself queerphobic.
When two guys are hanging out and someone shouts “Aw, someone’s got a boyfriend!” and everyone erupts into giggles, that’s homophobia.
When a girl dresses “butch” and someone says “your outfit is super lesbian today” that’s homophobia.
When someone says “you’d make a beautiful girl!” thats transphobia.
These little things that have sneakily entered our vernacular are homophobic. Just because you’re not saying “that’s gay” doesn’t mean what your saying isn’t queerphobic.
Society is still so incredibly queerphobic, even places that are supposed to be the most liberal of places. San Francisco, New York, LA. Queerphobia is everywhere. It’s our duty, as the youth, to fix it.

What's Pangender?

[ENG]

Pangender (and/or Omnigender) is a non-binary gender experience which refers to a wide multiplicity of genders that can (or not) tend to the infinite (meaning that this experience can go beyond the current knowledge of genders). This experience can be either simultaneously or over time.

Being pangender does not require that one knows everything about all the established genders nowadays; being pangender goes beyond the known genders.

Pangender can express gender fluidity or not; for example, a pangender person can manifest a genderflux, flowing from pangender to agender.

Panflux is a gender identity consisting of pangender + genderflux.

Pangender = binary genders (100% female and 100% male) + known genders + unknown genders.

The greek prefix “pan” refers to “everything” or “all”, therefore, pangender could mean “all genders”, however the genders of pangender people are limited to their own life experience. Pangenders only identify with genders of their own culture. Pangenders DO NOT try to identify with ethnic genders outside their own culture (and ALL of them by the way), because that’s impossible (one would have to spend their life in ALL cultures). Attempting to identify with ethnic genders outside one’s culture is colonialist/appropriative; people who do that and call themselves pangender should NOT be considered as an example of pangender.  This applies to ALL other non-binary identities: one cannot identify with gender(s) outside their own culture.

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[PT-BR]

Pangênero (e/ou Onigênero) é uma identidade de gênero não-bináriade pessoas trans. É uma experiência de gênero que se refere a uma enorme multiplicidade de gêneros que pode (ou não) tender ao infinito (ou seja, pode ir além do conhecimento atual sobre gêneros). Essa vivência de gênero pode ser simultânea ou ao longo do tempo.

Pangeneridade pode se expressar com uma fluidez de gênero ou não; por exemplo, uma pessoa pangênera pode manifestar genderflux, variando entre pangênero e agênero. Para ser pangênere, não é necessário conhecer tudo sobre todos os gêneros atualmente estabelecidos; ser pangênere é sentir que seu gênero vai além dos limites do conhecimento atual sobre gêneros.

Pangênero = gêneros binários (feminino e masculino) + gêneros conhecidos/estudados/nomeados + gêneros desconhecidos/não-estudados/não-nomeados.

Pangênero faz parte do espectro múltiplo.

O prefixo Grego “pan” é referente a “tudo” ou “todos”, logo, pangênero pode significar “todos os gêneros”, entretanto, os gêneros de uma pessoa pangênera se limitam à sua própria vivência. Isso significa que pangêneres não tentam se identificar com gêneros étnicos não-pertencentes à sua cultura (e ainda por cima TODOS); isso seria impossível (pois seria necessário passar a vida em todas as culturas ao mesmo tempo). Tentar se identificar com gêneros étnicos de culturas da qual não se pertence é uma atitude colonialista / apropriadora; pessoas que fazem isso e se dizem pangêneras NÃO devem ser consideradas como exemplo de pangeneridade. Isso se aplica a todos os gêneros não-binários: uma pessoa não pode se identificar com gênero(s) fora de sua própria cultura, pois isso é apropriador. Por exemplo, se você não faz parte das culturas indígenas norte-americanas, você não pode se identificar dentro de two-spirit.

Panflux é um gênero que indica alguém pangênere que expressa genderflux também (panflux = pangênero + genderflux). Uma pessoa panflux pode variar do pangênero até o agênero conforme o passar do tempo (por exemplo, num dia é agênere, noutro dia é bigênere e no próximo dia é poligênere…) ou pode ter múltiplos gêneros E nenhum gênero simultaneamente, de forma a ter um espectro inteiro de gêneros em um único gênero. Ser panflux é ter infinitos gêneros, inclusive gêneros sem nome, e ao mesmo tempo não ter gênero algum. Assim como pessoas pangêneras, pessoas panflux não tentam se apropriar de gêneros étnicos fora de sua cultura.

About this blog

[ENG]

Pangendering is a blog whose main focus is the Pangender gender identity, although there may have also material about other genders of trans / genderqueer / nonbinary people.

The idea of this blog is to gather informations and personal experiences about pangender and talk about them.

If more pangender people want to join the blog to become a member, all they need to do is ask.

The blog will be written in both english and portuguese languages to make it available for more readers.

Discrimination towards any groups will NOT be tolerated.

Just to introduce myself: my name is Cari Rez. I’m a biologist from Brazil who is a transgender nonbinary person whose gender is pangender with a little bit of genderflux (fluctuating from pangender to the agender spectrum, so I’m panflux). My pronouns are: they/their/them/themselves. I’m also an intersex individual.

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[PT]

Pangendering é um blog cujo foco principal é a identidade de gênero chamada Pangênero, embora possa conter material sobre outros gêneros trans / genderqueer / não-binários.

A idéia deste blog é coletar informações e relatos de experiências pessoais sobre pangênero e conversar sobre eles.

Se mais pessoas pangêneras desejarem se juntar ao blog para participarem deste, basta fazer uma requisição.

O blog será escrito em ambas as línguas inglesa e portuguesa para que o blog seja acessível para mais pessoas.

Discriminação contra quaisquer grupos NÃO será tolerada.

Para me introduzir: meu nome é Cari Rez. Eu sou biólogue do Brasil e sou transgênero não-binário de gênero pangênero com um pouco de genderflux (flutuando entre pangênero e o espectro do agênero, então sou panflux). Minha forma de tratamento é preferencialmente no neutro e, em segundo lugar, no masculino. Meus pronomes: elu, el, ele. Também sou intersexo.

I feel guilty for feeling sad that I can’t have a girlfriend. I have my wonderful boyfriend, he takes wonderful care of me, and he makes me happy. But honestly, I want a girl in my life. I like guys, but I’ve always been happier with girls/women. I can be me without feeling like I’m messing with their masculinity. I can be forward and masculine, but still be feminine. I miss the way it feels to sleep next to a girl, to hold her and feel like I’m the one protecting her, to wake up with her head on my chest, or any of those things. I miss the way I felt when I was dating a girl…

I love my boyfriend and I plan on being with him forever, but I’m honestly a bit polyamorous in my love life, and we’ve talked about this, but if I’m dating a girl, I shouldn’t have to only see her when I’m around him, or only do things with her if he gets to see or hear every detail. I want something I can’t have I guess…

anonymous asked:

I feel like I go between masculine and feminine or feeling both but I also have an overall feeling of being agender. I prefer they, them pronouns too. I don't know what my identity is and I'm clueless

[EDIT]

Hello!

This sounds like it could possibly be either genderfluid or genderflux, but can also be bigender, trigender, genderqueer, multigender, polygender, or pangender.

Genderfluid- an umbrella term for someone whose gender identity and presentation are not confined to only one gender category. Gender fluid people may have fluctuating associations of their gender, moving between categories as whatever feels right. For example, a gender fluid person might feel more like a man one day and more like a woman on another day, or that neither term is a good fit.

Genderflux- a gender identity in which the strength of feelings of gender varies over time. It can be seen as a form of genderfluid between being agender and one (or more) other gender identity(ies). Genderflux people may also identify as nonbinary, genderqueer or transgender.

Agender - someone who doesn’t identify with any sort of gender identity. Some people use similar terms such as “genderless”, “gender absent” and “gender neutral”.

Gender identity is a spectrum and you can fit absolutely anywhere on that vast spectrum. 

If I haven’t hit the nail on the head yet, there’s also these identities that might click with you. 

Bigender- A Bigender identity is a combination of any two genders however both are felt and expressed wholly. It’s a subcategory of Genderfluid. Similar to individuals who identify as genderfluid, bigender people may present as either of the two genders the identify as.

Genderqueer- an umbrella term for someone who identifies outside of the two-gender (masculine/feminine) system. They may identify as multiple genders, a combination of genders, or “between” genders.

Multigender- a term for anyone who experiences more than one gender identity. It can be used as a gender identity in its own right, or can be an umbrella term for other identities which fit this description.

Nonbinary- A huge umbrella term similar to genderqueer, this is a way of describing one’s gender as outside the two-gender (male/female) system and/or challenging that system.

Pangender- “Pan” means every, or all, and this is another identity term such as genderqueer or neutrois that challenges binary gender and is inclusive of gender diverse people.

Polygender- a gender identity which can be literally translated as ‘many genders’. Polygender people experience multiple gender identities, either simultaneously or varying between them. These can be male, female and/or any nonbinary identities.

Trigender- is a gender identity which can be literally translated as ‘three genders’ or ‘triple gender’. Trigender people experience exactly three gender identities, either simultaneously or varying between the three. These three gender identities can be masculine, feminine, or any nonbinary identities.

If push comes to shove, THIS flowchart’s a beauty and can really help.

I hope that helped!

If you have any other questions, feel free to ask one of us.

I hope you have a lovely day, thank you for existing and please stay safe.

-Amber/Michael

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OKAY GUYS; DYSPHORIC TEEN COMING THROUGH

ive been feeling really bad lately and my dysphoria is NOT getting the best of me this time!!!

I just made a new gender and I feel like my dysphoria is receding…

its called sanongender and it derives from anongender, but rather than nobody knowing the gender or its explanation, the creator does!!!

my explanation of the gender comes from me feeling like a ftm trans teen, but I’m not bc I’m dmab!!! I’m proud of my male body, but I know its not me? I’m truly happy with my body, but I know that mentally I am not just a male AT ALL.

thank you for reading!!! please reblog and message me bc I’m freaking out rn!!!

anonymous asked:

Hi! Right now I feel agender but every time I read about another gender, I feel some sort of connection to it. Is there a way to find out for sure if I'm agender or bi,tri,pangender, etc.?

Hello!

This sounds like either multigender, pangender or polygender.

Agender - someone who doesn’t identify with any sort of gender identity. Some people use similar terms such as “genderless”, “gender absent” and “gender neutral”.

Genderqueer- an umbrella term for someone who identifies outside of the two-gender (masculine/feminine) system. They may identify as multiple genders, a combination of genders, or “between” genders. 

Multigender- a term for anyone who experiences more than one gender identity. It can be used as a gender identity in its own right, or can be an umbrella term for other identities which fit this description.

Pangender- “Pan” means every, or all, and this is another identity term such as genderqueer or neutrois that challenges binary gender and is inclusive of gender diverse people.

Polygender- a gender identity which can be literally translated as ‘many genders’. Polygender people experience multiple gender identities, either simultaneously or varying between them. These can be male, female and/or any nonbinary identities.

When in doubt, this flowchart is a lifesaver.

I hope that helped!

If you have any other questions, feel free to ask one of us.

I hope you have a lovely day, thank you for existing and please stay safe.

-Amber/Michael

Based in a true story:
It is not easy to just hear what people say and do not care… Principally when those people say some sh*t (sorry for saying that… x.x) that can make you feel Dysphoria… It is really hard when you want to do something that is normally done by the gender you were assigned at birth, because of this kind of comments or because people will supposing that you are cisgender…
But you must remember that you are what you are, you are beautiful no matter how you want to look and your gender will be the same no matter what you do…

Ps.: It hurts to cut Mizu’s hair, but I need to bring him to the reality… I am so sorry for the quality of this comic strip, because I think I can improve that…

anonymous asked:

So, I read in the FAQ that pangender is considered offensive? How come? Is pansexual offensive as well? And for some reason I feel more comfortable with a gender label- what should I identify as to mean pangender? Sorry for the overload of questions... Thank you!

danny says:

well, pangender isn’t an ok term because some genders are specific to race or conditions. like genderfog being specifically for autistic people, or two-spirit being specifically for native people. so by saying pangender, it implies that you are all of the genders, including ones you can’t be.
as for an alternative label, i dont know!!! i mean. polygender is a good one?
followers, any other suggestions?

Phoenix says: Note that I edited people with autism to autistic people (for accountability!) thanks to anon input - thanks folks.