for all my non-binary followers



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“What’s your real gender?” 

No. Stop talking.

“Were you born male or female?

No. Stop talking.

“Do you have a penis?”

No. Stop talking.

“Do you have a vagina?”

No. Stop talking.

“So like are you a robot or something?”

No. Stop talking.

“So were you born with both?”

For the love of god stop talking.

Not everyone you meet weather it’s on the internet or in real life identifies as male or female or even a transgender male or transgender female. There are real life people out there who identify outside of this binary gendered existence and if you literally have to think about asking any of the questions above weather they are asked in an “informal” or “polite” manner then you really shouldn’t be asking those questions out loud or even typing them to send in an ask or a reply. Face it those questions are not only rude, but they are invasive as hell and can be considered as a form of harassment as well. So next time think before you ask, and if you have to ask that question then please locate the nearest library and go inside and educate yourself. 

So I want to do something

Like, I know there are other transgender YouTube channels out there and everything, but I want to start up another one. Like, I want to get together 7 different trans* people (myself included) and have a certain day that each of us posts a video. SO if you would be interested in doing a channel with me, inbox me and let me know, yeah?(:


Super cool PDF version –> Click here!!

It’s done!!! I spent hours making this, but it’s finally done.

This three-page spread (wth) is a mix between the old-fashioned “So your child is genderqueer” PowerPoint and my own experiences/knowledge. As you can see, I added a lot of definitions and pictures (because it was necessary).

Credits for the Genderqueer Pride Dragon go to kaenith.

(Please note that English is not my first language and it could have some mistakes. I reviewed it a few times and didn’t find any, but feel free to tell me if you find something wrong and I’ll change it.)

PLEASE reblog this. It’s very hard for some people to come out to their parents about this complicated topic. It’s also useful for the rest of the family/friends, because this can be applied to them as well.

Have a super nice day! I really hope this helps some people.

(I’ll be adding more resources in the tag “so your child is”. Not just about genderqueerness though. Also, thinking of translating this to Spanish.)
idc if i get hate for this

“down with cis!”
okay alright but what the fuck no? isn’t the message supposed to be love yourself? and then you start doing the exact same that transphobes/phobes do, but towards cis people??? it’s problematic as fuck and sending the exact opposite of the message y'all supposed to be spreading?? just fuckin’ be yourself and quit spreading hate all around jfc what’s so hard to understand about that

i’m not saying cis get as much hate but?? it’s kinda fucked up you’re hating on someone for being THEMSELVES HMM SOUND FAMILIAR

Pangender Sigil

Fifteenth in trans-warlock‘s series of trans/nonbinary sigils from Trans Magic Workshop

We had to do a lot of research to make this sigil, some of which can be found in our post here which explains how the term does not appropriate genders from other cultures

Other gender sigils: Agender Sigil, Gendervoid Sigil,Genderfluid Sigil, Bigender Sigil , Nonbinary Sigil,Demiboy Sigil, Demigirl Sigil , Genderqueer Sigil  Trans Male Sigil, Trans Female Sigil, and Androgyne Sigil

As well as the Predator/Prey Reversal Safety Sigil for Trans/Nonbinary/Intersex, the Dysphoria and Transphobia Trap Sigil, and the Dead-naming and Misgendering Protection Ward

~Reminder that all of our sigils have an blank background/easy to see version in our Reader Friendly tag~

So here I am...

So here I am…

As the title of the blog suggests, I am an author, and I identify as Pangendered.  Now some might wonder why I have chosen to lump those two things together in order to blog about it.  Well, in my writings I have attempted to bring a range of sexual orientations and gender identities to the forefront and have a wide range of adventurers falling in love, going on quests and just generally doing things that people can read about.  I keep being told that people want something ‘fresh’ and 'new’ and that the inclusion of non-binaries and LGBT issues is wanted, but I’m sadly not seeing it as much as others claimed I would.  I’m not seeing the warm welcome that I had hoped, and it’s more of a 'meh’ attitude or just plain indifference.  The invisibility is still there and while I believe things might be heading in the right direction, sometimes I just get discouraged and sad, like everyone else.

So here is where author meets gender and sexual identity.  I am pansexual in addition to pangendered. 

In the past I had identified as 'bi-sexual’ and I understand the arguments between the two terms.  I prefer pan because I just like to encompass things.  Not just because of non-binaries, but because sometimes there are 'romantic’ relationships that just don’t quite fit in with anything else.  There are people I can love and can love me back that will never reach beyond a hug or a cuddle, or maybe we choose not to touch much at all.  However, there is a romanticism there that lies somewhere else.  It’s a bond beyond friendship but it’s still there and I’ll love them for it.  There are also individuals who do not identify as one or the other, or do both, or may be one today and another tomorrow and I might adore them too.  It’s just who I am. 

I’ve known that since I was very young, though probably did not fully understand it until I was in my twenties.  Sadly, even though I am now in my thirties, I am rarely 'out.'  Even to people who are close to me.  I have had bad experiences with it, though I will not bore you.  They are just like those that others have.  If you tell someone that you are attracted to more than one gender, they inform you that you are 'just confused.'  You are told you need to 'pick one’ or someone says 'well at least you are attracted to the opposite sex, so go with that and get married like normal people.'  It was hurtful, shaming, and thus I have always kept my sexual identity stuffed down, shut close to my heart, and reserved for well…special people, I suppose.

Now my gender identity was much more confusing and took longer to understand.  I always had an understanding that I was gender fluid.  Even other people could vocalize that I could act one way on a given day and then another the next.  I might feel like putting on a pretty dress one day, or a smart business suit another.  There are certain days that my genitals might feel stifling or 'wrong’ but I never quite reached full-blown dysphoria, at least not in my mind.

There are days that I feel like something is 'missing’ or days that I want to stuff everything tightly together, but I’m always 'me.' 

Unfortunately, being yourself isn’t always good enough for others.  I was teased heavily in school and developed an eating disorder when I was quite young.  I recovered well, but the scars remain.

You compartmentalize things like that.  Society forces you to act a certain way, especially when you go to work.  When I was in college I could be a boyish one day and girlish the next, but that was stripped of me when I went to work.  Ironically enough, I became a therapist and worked closely with trauma victims and recovering drug addicts.  I was good at what I did, but there were definitely days that I was not comfortable.

I eventually had to quit for health reasons.

I can tell you, I always looked forward to con season.  I know cosplay might seem silly to some people, but I look forward to it so much.  I get to dress however I feel with no fear of being shamed.  I can deck out like a confident woman, or I can be a gorgeous man snapping my suspenders.  No one bats an eye.  It’s such a liberating feeling.  It doesn’t matter what I’m wearing and no one asks about what’s in my pants.  And for just a little while, I’m not thinking about it either.

But I never really thought about what it meant, until I was researching a book idea.  My best friend is asexual and I intend to write a story about an individual who is asexual being in a relationship with someone who is not.  While researching the book I was reading up on gender fluidity and while reading about pangendered people it hit me like a ton of bricks.

This is me.  This is me and always has been.  This is the me that I didn’t even know I was searching for…

So here I am…

The pansexual, pangendered author hoping to write about atypical romances.

What's Pangender?


Pangender (and/or Omnigender) is a non-binary gender experience which refers to a wide multiplicity of genders that can (or not) tend to the infinite (meaning that this experience can go beyond the current knowledge of genders). This experience can be either simultaneously or over time.

Being pangender does not require that one knows everything about all the established genders nowadays; being pangender goes beyond the known genders.

Pangender can express gender fluidity or not; for example, a pangender person can manifest a genderflux, flowing from pangender to agender.

Panflux is a gender identity consisting of pangender + genderflux.

Pangender = binary genders (100% female and 100% male) + known genders + unknown genders.

The greek prefix “pan” refers to “everything” or “all”, therefore, pangender could mean “all genders”, however the genders of pangender people are limited to their own life experience. Pangenders only identify with genders of their own culture. Pangenders DO NOT try to identify with ethnic genders outside their own culture (and ALL of them by the way), because that’s impossible (one would have to spend their life in ALL cultures). Attempting to identify with ethnic genders outside one’s culture is colonialist/appropriative; people who do that and call themselves pangender should NOT be considered as an example of pangender.  This applies to ALL other non-binary identities: one cannot identify with gender(s) outside their own culture.



Pangênero (e/ou Onigênero) é uma identidade de gênero não-bináriade pessoas trans. É uma experiência de gênero que se refere a uma enorme multiplicidade de gêneros que pode (ou não) tender ao infinito (ou seja, pode ir além do conhecimento atual sobre gêneros). Essa vivência de gênero pode ser simultânea ou ao longo do tempo.

Pangeneridade pode se expressar com uma fluidez de gênero ou não; por exemplo, uma pessoa pangênera pode manifestar genderflux, variando entre pangênero e agênero. Para ser pangênere, não é necessário conhecer tudo sobre todos os gêneros atualmente estabelecidos; ser pangênere é sentir que seu gênero vai além dos limites do conhecimento atual sobre gêneros.

Pangênero = gêneros binários (feminino e masculino) + gêneros conhecidos/estudados/nomeados + gêneros desconhecidos/não-estudados/não-nomeados.

Pangênero faz parte do espectro múltiplo.

O prefixo Grego “pan” é referente a “tudo” ou “todos”, logo, pangênero pode significar “todos os gêneros”, entretanto, os gêneros de uma pessoa pangênera se limitam à sua própria vivência. Isso significa que pangêneres não tentam se identificar com gêneros étnicos não-pertencentes à sua cultura (e ainda por cima TODOS); isso seria impossível (pois seria necessário passar a vida em todas as culturas ao mesmo tempo). Tentar se identificar com gêneros étnicos de culturas da qual não se pertence é uma atitude colonialista / apropriadora; pessoas que fazem isso e se dizem pangêneras NÃO devem ser consideradas como exemplo de pangeneridade. Isso se aplica a todos os gêneros não-binários: uma pessoa não pode se identificar com gênero(s) fora de sua própria cultura, pois isso é apropriador. Por exemplo, se você não faz parte das culturas indígenas norte-americanas, você não pode se identificar dentro de two-spirit.

Panflux é um gênero que indica alguém pangênere que expressa genderflux também (panflux = pangênero + genderflux). Uma pessoa panflux pode variar do pangênero até o agênero conforme o passar do tempo (por exemplo, num dia é agênere, noutro dia é bigênere e no próximo dia é poligênere…) ou pode ter múltiplos gêneros E nenhum gênero simultaneamente, de forma a ter um espectro inteiro de gêneros em um único gênero. Ser panflux é ter infinitos gêneros, inclusive gêneros sem nome, e ao mesmo tempo não ter gênero algum. Assim como pessoas pangêneras, pessoas panflux não tentam se apropriar de gêneros étnicos fora de sua cultura.