pan-jus

listen @ all you girls who are questioning your sexuality: i will love you no matter what. there is no pressure to be anything.

 i will 100% love you if you turn out to be a lesbian. 

i will 100% love you if you turn out to be bi. 

i will 100% love you if you turn out to be pan. 

i will 100% love you if you turn out to be ply. 

i will 100% love you if you turn out to be ace.

 i will 100% love you if you turn out to be lith, or demi, or grey or anything else, or just decide there is no label that fits. 

and you know what? i will 100% love if you do turn out to be straight. there’s a lot of sapphic positivity going around right now, but that’s mostly because there hasn’t been a lot in the past. a lot of the problems that i had while questioning were “what if im just doing it to join the lgbtq+ community? what if im an intrusive hetero™?”  and i promise you, you’re not. youre completely valid in your search for who you are, and i love you for that. 

you dont need to know anything for sure. the fact that girls make your heart go thwump thwump or that you think about them a lot or you want to be held in a girl’s arms is enough. definitions are fun, but defining who you are is a journey. just be. 

anyone wanna start a girl gang where we punch nazis and do other highly secret activities? if it makes any difference, we all get code names. 

just a reminder that sapphics in relationships with boys are super valid and sapphic af and just because you are dating a boy doesn’t mean you aren’t bi or pan or ply or any other sexuality ok 

fuguring out who you are, my friend, is a long journey with monsters like  the charybdis and scylla of ingrained homophobia and fear of “what if I’m just being edgy,” the cerberus of fear of being different, and the Echidna of Compulsory Heterosexuality. So basically, questioning is like being Odysseus and you need to find out whether you want to go home to Penelope, Peter, both or neither while fighting some pretty sick monsters. Good luck, hero.