It is really upsetting what is going on in Pakistan, at least in Karachi. Young girls have been pressured into terrible beauty standards. I know a little girl, she was 10 when people kept going up to her telling her she was fat and needed to lose weight. What is wrong with you?? SHE’S TEN. That poor girl gave up eating and started dieting at TEN YEARS OF AGE. I never even thought about these things until I was around 15, and she got DEPRESSED over it, she would cry! So upsetting. My other little cousins, they are so into being modern, beautiful, and fashionable that they call out those who aren’t as fashionable or don’t have the same amount of makeup they have on. I don’t blame them, it’s society that turned them this way. The are so young, yet so caught up in only giving beauty importance. These little girl cousins of mine won’t talk to you if they don’t think you’re beautiful, literally it is so upsetting, but again, I don’t blame them.
I blame the aunties, all they ever talk about to these young girls is wearing nice clothes, staying skinny, having tons of makeup on, anything that has to do with the concept of beautifying oneself. These aunties will only compliment a girl when she looks beautiful, they don’t care if she got A’s in school. nope, you look so pretty, that is all that matters. You aunties have damaged these young girls and have destroyed them, if you hear the words coming out of these young girls’ mouths, you all would be shocked! They straightforward come up to you and say “you aren’t prettier than me, I’m so beautiful.” Why? Society has made them so insecure that they feel the need to remind everyone about how pretty they are and are so selective of who they talk to. It’s just heartbreaking.
Whenever I’m around these young cousins of mine, I feel so judged. They literally analyze you top to bottom and won’t give you even a hi if you don’t look good. My other cousins who are also in western countries who go to visit Pakistan feel the same way about the little girls in Pakistan. It’s scary and sad.
Karachi has lost modesty, this is an islamic state yeah? Doesn’t seem so. Faith isn’t given as much importance as it should be given. I am judged in Pakistan for wearing the hijab and carrying out Islamic duties more than I am in USA. In USA people are a thousand times more respectful and supportive of my decisions, but in Pakistan, an Islamic country, get ready to hear complaints about being too religious and being constantly judged and ridiculed!
Aunties stop, being beautiful and modern isn’t going to make your girl happy. It is not that important. Stop telling the young ones to lose weight or to slap on more makeup, stop telling them to wear tighter clothes. Stop. You should encourage them to be inspiring, kind, successful, and full of faith in Allah. What are you doing to your precious gems? Look at your daughters, how savage they have become, their priorities are definitely not what they should be! It’s so extreme that the young girls approach guys in order to have the guys make the girls feel beautiful. They get so depressed if not in a relationship or not flirted on. Stop destroying these girls. Stop imposing such pressure upon them. Stop telling them that they only fit in if they are with the trend. Stop making them feel like they are only valuable if they look a certain way.
When I go to Pakistan, the aunties only talk about things like “when are you getting married?” “Do you have a boyfriend?” (THEY GET HAPPY IF THEY KNOW SOMEONE HAS A GF/BF INSTEAD OF ANGRY??? THEY ASK FOR DETAILS???) “You should get bla bla beauty treatment done” “Put on some skin whitening cream” “Lose more weight.” AUNTIES LOOK AT WHAT YOU HAVE DONE.
For those of you who are unaware, Qandeel Baloch is a Pakistani woman who was very big on social media and was often critiqued for posting “racy” or “inappropriate” content that was disapproved of by the South Asian (but mainly Pakistani) community. She was murdered by her brother because he thought she was bringing dishonour to her family, although people believe there might be another side to the story since photos of her were released with a mufti (Islamic scholar). There are actually people justifying this “honour killing” because they believe murdering somebody is justified as long as it’s to restore honour to the family. This absolutely appalling and despicable mentality runs rampant in South Asian communities and it needs to be addressed. Women’s lives are not yours to take, control or assign worth to. Unsurprisingly there are Pakistani men who support this murder because they too view women as property and objects they own and can choose to dispose of when they feel like it. To these men, and all men- women are not your possessions. You do not have the right to us, to our lives. It is a sad day when this needs to be said but the fact is, South Asian communities hold this disgusting mentality that it is justified to fucking kill someone if you think they are behaving inappropriately. Our lives BELONG TO US. I am so tired and sick of these communities that are brainwashed and fed the same sick attitudes and beliefs. I am really fucking tired of people using religion and the idea of retribution from God to control and police women’s behaviour. It is absolutely a Muslim problem and it is absolutely a Hindu problem, and above all- it is a South Asian problem. Policing and controlling women’s behaviour to what men believe is appropriate is a very large problem in our communities and we need to acknowledge that the way these men do it is using religious beliefs that come with Islam and Hinduism.