pair bond

anonymous asked:

God I can't wait to find out what ignis and Noct's dynamic is like in this S/G, I imagine it's very different to Prompto and Gladio's. will prom ever get ballsy/strong enough to push back against Gladio? Overpower him to make him pliant and lethargic?

It is very different but not necessarily healthier. They’ve been together most of their lives, the bind grew naturally, and that’s all well and good but at this stage things are a bit…wraped? We’ll be seeing it from Prompto’s pic, so some of the nuance might be missed, but trust me when I say the level of codepency is…distressingly high, even for a bonded pair. They’d win most likely to go out in a blaze of mutual self-destruction.

But there’s a level of codpenency between the three of them, honestly. Gladio is perfectly comfortable sharing Ignis as a Guide, knowing full well that if Noct ever dies, the backlash would kill Ignis which would probably kill Gladio and and that if Ignis died, it would kill Noctis and probably Gladio. Gladio doesn’t even register this as a negative.

Gladio and Prompto would probably win ‘Most Tsundere/Yandere’ (just Gladio) and 'Most fucked up BDSM practices.’

Prompto will learn things about things. How he intends to employee those things however…

That thing about how cats think humans are big kittens is a myth, y’know.

It’s basically born of false assumptions; folks were trying to explain how a naturally solitary animal could form such complex social bonds with humans, and the explanation they settled on is “it’s a displaced parent/child bond”.

The trouble is, cats aren’t naturally solitary. We just assumed they were based on observations of European wildcats - but housecats aren’t descended from European wildcats. They’re descended from African wildcats, which are known to hunt in bonded pairs and family groupings, and that social tendency is even stronger in their domesticated relatives. The natural social unit of the housecat is a colony: a loose affiliation of cats centred around a shared territory held by alliance of dominant females, who raise all of the colony’s kittens communally.

It’s often remarked that dogs understand that humans are different, while cats just think humans are big, clumsy cats, and that’s totally true - but they regard us as adult colonymates, not as kittens, and all of their social behaviour toward us makes a lot more sense through that lens.

They like to cuddle because communal grooming is how cats bond with colonymates - it establishes a shared scent-identity for the colony and helps clean spots that they can’t easily reach on their own.

They bring us dead animals because cats transport surplus kills back to the colony’s shared territory for consumption by pregnant, nursing, or sick colonymates who can’t easily hunt on their own. Indeed, that’s why they kill so much more than they individually need - it’s not for fun, but to generate enough surplus kills to sustain the colony’s non-hunting members.

They’re okay with us messing with their kittens because communal parenting is the norm in a colony setting, and us being colonymates in their minds automatically makes us co-parents.

It’s even why many cats are so much more tolerant toward very small children, as long as those children are related to one of their regular humans: they can tell the difference between human adults and human “kittens”, and your kittens are their kittens.

Basically, you’re going to have a much easier time getting a handle on why your cat does why your cat does if you remember that the natural mode of social organisation for cats is not as isolated solitary hunters, but as a big communal catpile - and for that purpose, you count as a cat.

When people say all straight pairings are boring and forced as hell, then this means they obviously have never watched FMA Brotherhood to witness one of the most beautiful and most perfect ships ever:

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Submission: As a queer, nonbinary person and an animal educator, I’ve thought a lot about the issues recently being discussed on this blog and I wanted to share some of that here. I’ve tried to be as calm and clear as possible, but this is an emotional issue for me so it might be a bit emphatic.

Serveral people in this discussion have mentioned already the problems with questioning the existence of bi/pan/trans/ace/aro animals, but not questioning the existance of straight, cis animals. You’ve made passing mentions to this, but I think it’s actually really important to step back and reframe the entire discussion in this context, if you want to be fair and accurate both to the animals and to the people emotionally affected by this issue.

In particular, this passage: “However, the animal science world uses gendered pronouns to denote physical sex in an animal, because that is how efficient and accurate communication about the animal is ensured” raises some massive red flags for me. Yes, it’s important to clearly communicate with your vet about the body parts an animal does and doesn’t have, for ease of treatment. However, pronouns are far from the only way to do this, and definitely not the most efficient. The pronoun “she” doesn’t tell you if a dog is unaltered, spayed, in heat, pregnant, or menopausal - information your vet definitely needs to know.
It’s the work of half a moment to state “my dog is a spayed female” at the start of an appointment, regardless of what pronouns you use after that. In fact, many trans* people have already learned to talk with their doctors in specific terms about their hormone levels and organs they do or don’t have, and cis people need to catch up. Part of the reason this is such an emotional issue for trans people is that the argument, “your doctor needs to know the gender you were assigned at birth! Therefore everyone you meet needs to know, and it should be on your ID, in case you get in an accident and we have to tell the doctor!” is often invoked. (I wish that was an exaggeration. It’s not. This is in spite of the fact that, as a trans* person, knowing the gender you were assigned at birth is more likely to lead to false assumptions about your health and biology than true ones.) So yes, your doctor needs to know about your biology and your vet needs to know about your pet’s, but gender pronouns really aren’t the way to do it.

Outside the vet’s office, insisting on cisgender-equivalent pronouns for your pet leads to a world of problems. I volunteer at an animal shelter, and I see people misinterpret animal’s actions through their percieved, anthropomorphic gender roles constantly. They’re more eager to read aggression from a male animal and affection from a female, which has the potential to lead to massive problems, since both of those behaviors can be dangerous to misinterpret. I would personally argue for the stance that people would be more able to accurately interpret the behavior of animals if we refered to all non-human animals with gender-neutral pronouns, to more accurately reflect the fact that animals do not have gender. Even in social animals that do have sex-differentied social roles, those are completely different from human gender roles and should not be confused with them by the use of human gendered pronouns. If the biological sex of an animal matters in a particular context, you can mention it in that context, rather than applying it all the time as though it was part of their identity.

I do understand that some people find it reassuring to observe that the social roles of biologically male or female animals are different from those of humans, and that they too can be as nurturing as a male penguin or as fierce as a female hyena. So I understand that sometimes people will want to refer to those animals as male or female, in the same way that I want to refer to a cuttlefish as genderfluid because it makes me feel happy and validated. I just want cis people to understand that those interpretations are exactly equivalent.

As for how this perspective affects the emotions of humans impacted by this issue: claiming that gendered pronouns are a form of scientific terminology that accurately reflects the biological sex of an animal is, intentionally or not, supporting the idea that there are biologically and scientifically two genders. It gives fuel to people who try to force that mindset onto humans, and believe me, they use it. I’ve met many people who become enraged if I use the wrong pronouns for their dog, but refuse to respect my identity and pronouns. The attatchment of gendered pronouns to biological sex in non-humans is absolutely reflected back into humans by most of the public, whether that is your intention as an educator or not.

Using gender pronouns as scientific terminology also muddies issues significantly as soon as you leave the field of mammals, where it quickly becomes clear that a male/female dichotomy is far from absolute. Do I use female pronouns for the hermaphroditic flatworm who lost the penis-fencing match and is now carrying eggs? Will those pronouns still apply after the eggs have hatched? What if they win the penis-fencing match next time and contribute sperm instead?
How about a worker bee, who is genetically female but has not developed reproductive organs and plays no reproductive role?
Do I use male pronouns for a fish who was born genetically male, but isn’t able to engage in sexual behavior and fulfill the male sexual role until mating is initiated by the supermale? How about for the supermale, who is genetically female and used to be reproductively female but has since morphed to be reproductively male due to being the largest fish in the school? Is it even accurate to say “genetically female” of a species where both major reproductive roles are carried out by the same genetic category of animals, and those born “biologically” male only reproduce at all by swimming into the middle of the mating dance, ejaculating, and hoping for the best?

A similar issue exists with the assumption that animals are straight. I’ve seen some cringe-worthy anthropomorphization of male/female pairs of animals, including calling them “married,” referring to them as being “in love,” and a lot of analogies to human married-couple behavior, but I’ve never seen this criticized or significantly discussed as an issue of anthropomorphization. But every time I see a post about lesbian birds or trans fish, this issue comes up. I don’t think that animal educators are doing this on purpose, but I do think it is an indicator that many animal educators have not sufficiently deeply challenged the cultural narrative that straight and cis are “normal” but queer and trans* are “debatable” and should be challenged and argued about. 

Science is an ever-changing field, and scientific terminology becomes outdated and is changed as we realize that it reflects our social assumptions more accurately than in reflects reality. The terms we use to discuss sex, gender, pair-bonding, and mating behavior are all deeply intertwined with human social assumptions of cisgender, heterosexual, monogamous life-time bonds that are simultaneously romantic/affectionate and sexual in nature. Scientific communication would be improved by dropping those assumptions and the terminology that comes with them.

I don’t think I have much to add to this - it’s really well thought out and well said - so I’m going to boost it as is as part of the continued discussion. 

Scientific communication would absolutely be improved by changing the terminology to something more accurate. I don’t know if it’s something that would currently be feasible - because of a myriad of things that make attempting that type of change across so many cultures and languages and historical/social contexts difficult - but I definitely support the idea. 

Crash

@talortut​ asked:  Hi! I love your blog <3 If you’re still taking requests, I would love to see some sick/hurt/exhausted/whatever Lance with the line “You’re gonna crash" from the starters. :)

((Thank you for the prompt SOMEHOW THIS TURNED INTO A 2400K LANGST/ KLANCE FIC BUT LMAO))

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headcanon ≠ canon

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inkdropfox  asked:

As a trans guy who works in zoos and very much enjoys your blog, I might have to disagree with your current discussion just a little? While it IS very important to separate gender/sex and animals/humans, I think it's important to let the LGBT community find solace in animals displaying LGBT-representational behavior. Especially when many anti-LGBT people use the excuse "it's not natural" or "you have a disorder", it's very nice to be able to point to animals as "examples" or for our comfort?

(This ask is in response to this post on if animals can be bi). I’ve taken forever responding to this because I wanted to sit down with a trans friend who does activism/education on LGBT issues and hash out a) am I being shitty about this and b) if no, how do I actually say what I mean because getting myself out of science lingo when things cross over into social issues is something I struggle with. 

(I am very specifically not addressing trans/intersex animals in this post. I need to do more research and chat with people about that topic to get the wording correct first).

You’re absolutely right. It’s really important to say yes, in nature, there are animals that have sex / pair bond with / go through courtship behavior with animals of the same sex, or both sexes, or are uninterested in sex. This is absolutely a thing that occurs in nature, and while there are some species for which this is not species-typical behavior there are also species in which it is totally inherent in the normal behavioral repertoire. In terms of representation, yeah, it exists all over the animal kingdom and that’s absolutely worth acknowledging. 

I feel like there’s an important differentiation, though, between talking about is  ‘this animal’s existence is similar to / analogous to mine’ and projecting a human experience of that state of existence onto those animals. That’s where discussions about bi/gay animals start getting frustrating for me, as someone whose goal as an educator is to teach accurate behavioral science and remove anthropomorphism from how people think about animals. 

The really important parts of how people experience identity or how society reacts to someone’s identity (sexual attraction, isolation for not being heteronormative, for example) are too fundamentally tied up in being human to be correct for other taxa. We don’t know if animals have a sense of gender, or if they experience sexual attraction to conspecifics in any way other than an instinctual preference for specific indicators of fertility and quality, and I don’t think I’ve ever heard of an animal that was treated any differently by conspecifics as a result of who it tried to have sex with. When we assume animals experience being bi/gay/ace the way humans do, we basically invalidate all the ways their species-specific experiences and internal states would affect how they perceive and interact with the world. 

Tl;dr, bi/gay/ace animals definitely exist in a social/behavioral sense, but it’s really important to not assume that they have the same experience as a bi/gay/ace human. 

One man tents aren’t meant for sharing

I wanted to write bed sharing. So I did. 

Smut ahoy.

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One man tents aren’t meant for sharing. Neither are sleeping bags. Too bad they don’t have any choice…


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Killian Jones’ rather bony elbow dug into Emma’s back. Wincing, she scowled then retaliated by shoving her icy cold right foot backwards until it was wedged between his bare legs, causing him to mutter profanities under his breath.

Today was such a fucking mess. She was cold, tired and mentally drained from an afternoon of drudging through the forest with… him .

“Swan…” he groaned, the low timbre of his voice cutting right through her body making her gut clench.

“Keep your arms to yourself, buddy,” she snapped, her frown growing deeper.

“Gladly,” he quipped, flopping dramatically onto his stomach. The extra-large sleeping bag that housed the pair lurched in his direction, spinning her onto her back and somehow wedging her arm beneath him.

“Urgh!” she cried, tugging herself free, thanking God and all the stars that the man was at least wearing an undershirt.

He turned his head. Though it was late, it was summer and the night sky still provided enough illumination to see his expression: a smug grin combined with raised eyebrows.

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Homosexuality in Animals

Scientific research is spotting a surprising range of animals that engage in same-sex relationships. In this mind-expanding list, we will look at the male dolphins who keep boyfriends; and same-sex penguins who steal eggs from straight couples.

Rams: Domestic rams are statistically among the most extensively gay mammals in existence. Scientific studies have shown that up to an incredible eight percent of male sheep may form exclusively male-to-male pair bonds, forsaking all contact with the female ewes.

Bottlenose dolphins  Bottlenose dolphins are probably known as the most hypersexual creatures among all animals. They’re not only attracted to other dolphins but other sea creatures like sea turtles and even humans. Male dolphin calves often form temporary sexual partnerships, which scientists believe help to establish lifelong bonds. Such sexual behavior has been documented only relatively recently. It’s been said, nearly, if not all adult male dolphins are bisexual. The gay activities of these mammals include oral sex during which time one dolphin stimulates the other with its snout.

Bonobo Monkey: Studies suggest 75 percent of bonobo sex is no reproductive and that nearly all bonobos are bisexual. Incest sexual activity among these apes is also, very common.They’re famous for using a language of love, rather than a language of aggression, to resolve problems and communicate with each other.

Penguins : two male penguins made headlines after they paired up in a zoo, and were given an egg which they successfully raised.  Prior to being given an egg of their own, the gay penguins attempted to steal eggs from straight penguin couples.

Giraffes ;Young male giraffes, prior to mating with a female, sometimes engage in same-sex encounters and short term alliances. Activities may include tongue kissing, neck massaging and “hugs,” as well as full-body contact and nuzzling. Scientists theorize  that the purpose of the same-gender interactions is to develop a familiarity with the mating techniques before using them to court the appropriate female giraffe. In the small-town community which is the giraffe herd, it seems that the idea is to get it right with the girls from the word go—by checking out some of the guys, first

Of course there are a lot more of animals whit homosexual behavior, but that’s maybe for the next time :)

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Moonlight

Pairings: Alpha!Werewolf!Sam x Omega!Werewolf!Reader

Word Count: 3500+

Summary: You’re a bonded pair with three children and all Sam can think about is having more.

My twist on a/b/o dynamics. There’s a little fluff in here too, I swear it.

Kink Prompts: Mating/Breeding & Were-animal sex

Warnings: Breastfeeding(non-sexual, baby related), knotting, dominance, claiming, fingering, oral, unprotected sex (obvi), biting, dirty talk, rough sex, some dom/sub overtones.

A/N: Written for @impalaimagining‘s Smut-entine’s Day Challenge


Sam comes home late, just after two in the morning, shutting the front door carefully, cautious of waking you or his children. He’s a sore, bleeding and a little drunk but it’s been a good night.

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oh shit son, i totally forgot about lance thinking keith was going to take Blue! like, that rang really weird/out of place for me when i first watched it, because i didn’t feel like there was any actual precedent for him to think keith wanted to take his lion. other than to showcase his own insecurities about his position on the team, at least.

and meh, yeah you’re on the right track when you say that that sort of attraction can’t last. I’ve honestly never bought into the whole idea of opposites attract. if we’re talking about magnets, sure. but like… humanity as a whole has pretty well demonstrated that opposites don’t actually attract… and if they do, it’s usually unsustainable in the long run. in fact, numerous studies on pair bonding for people show that overall, yeah, birds of a feather flock together, so to speak. in that most couples actively need positive similarities or ideological similarities to be compatible in the long run.

maybe it’s just my neuro and psych background talking here, but it’s been pretty well shown that opposite people don’t typically attract unless their opposition is surface level only (the tol and the smol, introvert and extrovert, etc…) OR they attract and stick together if the “opposite” aspects of their personalities are things that the other actively needs or wants. Like one party being somewhat laidback while the other is a bit highstrung (but not overly so) - the “opposite” traits, in this case, can serve as a way of balancing each other out because the traits themselves aren’t to the extreme. The laidback person might do well with a bit more structure, and the somewhat highsrung person might do well with a bit more fun in their life. But because “laidback” in this case doesn’t mean “lazy and totally carefree”, and because “highstrung” in this case doesn’t mean “anal retentive control freak”, they can work together and become better people because of it. (especially if they have other positive aspects that are similar between them)

but that doesn’t really apply to kl//ance. 

in fact, as a side note, it applies a HELL of a lot more to SHEITH. Hell, even the creators have actually pointed this out: Like Dos Santos saying that Keith can be somewhat reckless and hot-headed, and often looks to Shiro as a balancing point for him, to help level him off and keep him in check. And Shiro needs Keith’s hard-headness and determination to persevere. Shiro can be fairly fatalistic at times - not in that he readily gives up or anything, but that he can begin to feel hopeless in times when he needs strength. And Keith is usually the one who is willing to push hard and remind him that he has support, and that things can work out if they fight for it. Shiro and Keith actually do have what couples need as a whole - plenty of similarities, but opposite enough to help balance each other out and make each other better people.)

Okay, here’s my biggest logical problem with soulmate AUs where you’re born with one definite soulmate and that’s the one person you’re definitely gonna love forever. Maybe you have their name written on your arm.

Without modern technology and medicine, humans have an insanely high child mortality rate. Like, it is not uncommon for 25%-50% of such a society’s babies born to die before the age of five.

What happens to their soulmates?

(This is my biggest logical problem. It’s nowhere near my biggest theoretical problem, since those include “I violently reject the concept of predestination” and “but most human lives aren’t actually defined solely or primarily by one major romantic/sexual pair-bond, but by an entire NETWORK of relationships that can’t be easily classified!”)

I wanted to write a little post about what would happen if Molly and Sherlock adopted a cat together, and it accidentally turned into this. Enjoy!


 Toby the cat passes away peacefully at the age of 14. Molly is the one who finds him, curled up comfortably in Sherlock’s chair – neither of them are particularly surprised, given his age, but they mourn him as anyone would mourn a lost family member. His ashes are placed in a bright yellow urn on the windowsill, his favourite spot to sit and watch the people in the street, with a photo of the three of them taken by Mrs Hudson the previous Christmas.

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REQUESTED by @msjuliawicker. Eliot/Margo are Head Boy and Girl and Q is a year below them.

Additional headcanons because I’m such Harry Potter trash:

  • Eliot is a Muggleborn. Most people assume he’s a pureblood, and he lets them. He insisted on being put into Slytherin.
  • Margo is a half-blood, as is Quentin. Julia is a muggleborn. Alice is pureblood. So is Penny. Penny was almost positive he’d get Slytherin, and was humiliated when he got Sorted into Hufflepuff. He eventually came to accept it and, in later years, would grow defensive and fight anyone who dared underestimate him simply because he’s a Hufflepuff.
  • Eliot and Margo are the Head Girl and Boy that don’t put up with any asshole behavior at all. They’re Slytheins, yes, but Slytherin =/= villain. 
  • In my verse, Alice/Margo are probably a thing (Margo would laugh for at least thirty minutes when she hears Julia set Quentin and Alice up, only to soon make sure Quentin knows nothing will ever happen with Alice. Hands off.)
  • Quentin struggled desperately with the Patronus charm due to his depression.
  • Quentin in the Mirror of Erised would see himself surrounded by the people he loves, and accepting that people love him and being able to live a happier life.

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anonymous asked:

GOOD LORD YOUR TAGS ON THE OVERSHARING VIA BOND POST. "ARE YOU JEALOUS ~MASTER~" *HE SAYS PINNING OBI AGAINST A WALL* MY GOSH THE IMAGE I would like to formally request a tumblr one shot obikin/obianidala about that on your prompt list for if/when you want to write but need a break from your wonderful glorious stories that I also adore

I’ll have to dig around to like the post this was in reference to, but here you are ‘nonnie! In summary: it was about Obi-Wan feeling it every time Anakin & Padme have sex & getting frustrated about it.

Oversharing

Rating: E

Pairings: Obi-Wan Kenobi/Anakin Skywalker, Obi-Wan Kenobi/Anakin Skywalker/Padme Amidala

Additional Tags: Explicit Sexual Content, That’s Not How the Force Works, Porn Without Plot, Polyamory

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Natural Bonds

Originally posted by kimthwriter

Pairing: Taehyung x Reader
Genre: Fluff, smut
Summary&A/N: You set out to share a place close to your heart with Taehyung. Together, you make it even more special. Dedicated to any other country girls who sometimes feel a little left out in the fandom.
Word Count: 4.3K


Home can be different for everyone. For some, it’s a physical place. For others, it’s a person. You are one of the lucky ones who have both. That both fit so flawlessly together is a gift unlike any other.

From the first time you’d brought Taehyung back to your childhood home, he fit like he belonged here as much as you. He charmed your family flawlessly just as they did him. Mutual politeness rapidly gave way to the same teasing warmth you grew up with. It matched him perfectly. Now they always ask when you’ll be bringing him back.

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