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Don’t worry, that’s not the whole apology  ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Yay dark-eyed Zen is back, I am so happy

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Throwback to that time I did a 30 page sociohistorical analysis of my Boston neighborhood, Allston, and found out it used to be called Little Cambridge and was known for it’s beautiful flower gardens

Anyways once I saw a bunch of raccoons fighting behind a liquor store

Hi everyone! It’s time to select the short story for the special edition of IN THE AFTERLIGHT: a deep dive into Clancy’s backstory or an additional ITA epilogue (of sorts) from Nico’s POV! Let me know which one you’d like to read by leaving a comment on this post, or by voting at http://alexandrabracken.com/thedarkestvote

The winning stories will be announced along with the special content for THROUGH THE DARK and the covers sometime next month!

(I also want to add for my Tumblr peeps: I know there’s going to be some disappointment that there wasn’t a Cole option in all this, but as I explained on twitter, these short stories aren’t just missing moments–they are 30-40 page baby beasts that are self-contained stories. The issue I’ve run into with Cole over the years is simply finding a story “big” enough to do him justice, but also one that’ll surprise you–basically, I want to find ground with him that wasn’t covered in the books. I’m still brainstorming this out and hope to get to a short about him for something in the future–in fact, I have the perfect thing I could use it for!!–but I need a little more time to find the right story. Thanks for understanding, and I hope you’ll still be happy with the new content when the editions are released next January!)

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Trahearne has every faith that Ive is capable of punching out all manner of eldritch abomination.  Or at the very least he expects that Ive is involved somehow because he knows that he’s a complete danger magnet and why wouldn’t he be involved. 

He also apparently is never surprised by anything.  Or at the least is mildly surprised.  In a very proper and calm manner.

types of writers

The Lore-ist 

  • has detailed if not meticulous notes on the universe they’ve created, down to the food eaten and language quirks, they use mythos and setting to bring it all together
  • most of the character’s backstories are already loving laid out, though may not be all connected yet. 
  • Has yet to write a full chapter. (But they’re getting there!)

The Bae

  • Story is centered around a complex and engaging OC that they’ve spent years developing
  • said OC has been through A Lot, the love is real, so is the pain
  • OC may sort of be a loser? ie the story is a character-driven piece where the plot is moved ahead by said character’s bad decisions and questionable habits

The Researcher

  • akin to the lore-ist but spends more of their time on wikipedia articles jotting down notes and things like how much a watermelon weighs 
  • Everything from knowing Too Much about child-care to how a body decomposes or flapper chest-binding is on the table, their breadth is large and Should Be Feared
  • takes a long time to start but make the most of their words, from spot-on sci-fi to history to murder, readers will learn something on the way

The Lemon Flavored Factory

  • alright take it back now y’all, this writer has written enough smut to make a tom cat blush, they can write other things too, and often well, but there will inevitably be bed-rattling at some point (or car or shower)
  • either unusually creative or just sticks to classics like Aliens Made Them Do It, neither is necessarily bad but there is oddly little in between
  • their author’s notes tend to be hilarious or at least very self-aware

The Word Vomit Canoe

  • action oriented writer who spews out the words before they know what is happening, no plans, no outlines, 10k of the first thing that comes to mind, sometimes things like ‘maybe dragons?’ & they go with it
  • their strengths are productivity, weaknesses are not knowing what the hell is going on
  • style is marked by fast-paced tone and downright impressive word count

The Muse

  • their inspiration doesn’t come as often, but they are always listening for her & redy 2 go
  • update schedule is…sporadic at best, but makes up for it with long chapters and clean editing
  • Will write 30 pages in a day and then take a few months off, enjoys one-shots but can do longer works
  • doesn’t have the best sense of time and when they are in The Zone may forget to eat or shower
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Is that…Mondatta saying good things about Genji? :O

Apologies for the late update, here you go! it’s slightly longer, too

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Some early design work for my klance Swan Princess AU. I’ve got about 30 pages of notes on the plot along with some script and storyboard stuff already. Aside from this thread on twitter I haven’t reeeally yelled about it publicly, but I’m excited about it :D I have Plans. 

weird, completely random things the types would do

ESTJ: go to the store at like 1am to pick up paint because they noticed a spot that the painter missed and it’s driving them craaaaaazzzyyyy

ENTJ: at Target they see a set of perfectly aligned, industrial looking clocks that they absolutely must have because the clocks just look presidential

ESTP: eat a battery as a kid

ENTP  climb up the window using a rapunzel wig just to see if the theory is actually plausible

ISTJ: spend all day learning how to correctly paint walls, then not finding the energy to actually paint walls

INTJ: design a fandom poster then think of ways they could sell them for a living

ISTP: try going one full day without cussing………fails in 10 minutes

INTP: “i think i’ll go to bed tonight… shake things up for a change”

ESFJ: make a grilled cheese sandwich for someone, then realizes they are hungry and so they eat that grilled cheese sandwich God forgive them

ENFJ: leave their purse at the public food court, then when they go back to retrieve it, they just start engaging in conversation with the police officer 

ESFP: goes on a “pretty-pen hunt” throughout their house to find all the pretty pens so they can hoard them and kill anyone who tries to steal them

ENFP: tries to cook up a mock Chick-fil-a chicken sandwich recipe but ends up giving themselves food poisoning, God rest their soul

ISFJ: makes a pot of coffee, fixes a cup of coffee, doesn’t finish that cup of coffee, leaves it somewhere in the house, repeats this process 5x a day

INFJ: “i’m going to read this book outside under that tree” *sees bee* “nope” *goes back inside*

INFP: writes incredible 30 page fanfics but is too shy to post them anywhere

ISFP: wants to be a vet or something but can’t even be in the same house as a beetle or a spider

SURPRISE!!!! (ノ´ヮ´)ノ*:・゚✧

Thanks to my new therapist and new anti anxiety medication and an increase in my antidepressants and unlearning bad coping mechanisms I’ve been feeling a lot better! Of course, I’m not 100% better, more like 38% better. The road to recovery is long and exhausting, but I’m actually moving forward now! (๑•̀ㅂ•́)و✧ 

I probably won’t be able to pump out a page every week, but I’m definitely going to start posting pages again. Hopefully with time I’ll be able to work faster, but in the meantime I’m not going to work myself into the ground. 

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But imagine Victor and Yuuri having Typical Marriage Spat™ #32857 and Victor is complaining to Yakov/going to Yakov for advice, telling him about Yuuri being unreasonable, etc, etc. Offhand, Yakov just shrugs and is like, “Yeah, Lilia and I used to have problems like that.” 

So, of course, Victor asks, “Well, what did you do?”

And Yakov, sensing a teaching moment like the good coach he is, looks Victor right in the eye and says clearly, “Vitya. Lilia and I are divorced.”

Yuuri comes home to an apartment stuffed to capacity with flowers and Victor holding a 30 page essay on Why He Was Wrong, Please Don’t Leave Him, Yuuri, Please, Please, Please.

this is a masterpost on how to deal with all of your schoolwork during a shitty mental health week. it is important to note that mental illness is a finnicky animal, and that not everyone has the same experiences as far as symptoms and adverse affects are concerned. however, these are all tips/resources that have worked well for me in the past, and i hope that there are at least a few that will work for you as well.

i. look at your schedule for the next day. rally all of your energy do all of the assignments and readings that absolutely must be done by tomorrow. disregard everything else. it can be done another day.

some portion of the stress will be lifted off your shoulders, and you will be able to relax a little bit and focus on things that are more important. If it can be delayed by 24 hours, it is not worth doing the night you are on the verge of a real crisis. i’m not advertising procrastination, but the reality is that we all do it. and i would argue that sometimes it is justified. if you are having a bad enough night where it takes all of your emotional and physical energy just to get through 30 pages of reading, you need to put nonessential things aside for a time when you are feeling more mentally available. your work will be higher quality if you do it this way.

ii. take a shower.

showers (especially hot ones) will help clear your mind, open your sinuses, and relax your muscles. stand/sit under the spray until you feel less tense. even if you’ll be heading straight back to your room to work, you will be more relaxed and levelheaded to tackle the assignments in front of you.

iii. tackle your essential assignments in smaller chunks.

slow down your routine by a few minutes. study in 10-15 minute bursts instead of your usual 20-30. study in your room instead of the library. make a small change that could help boost your focus. however your study schedule may look, slowing everything down can help you accomplish your essential tasks without causing you to burn out before everything is done. it may seem impossible to slow down your already fast paced schedule, but trust me, even making small adjustments can do a lot of positive work.

iv. seek help and support from outside sources if you need it.

study with a group of friends or classmates if you are feeling up to it. this will help with your comprehension of the material, and might help boost your motivation to get through those essential assignments so you can go back to your room and wind down. call your family if that will help you feel better about where you are. if necessary, seek counseling/wellness services on your campus. this information is often posted somewhere on your university’s website. remember that there is absolutely no shame in seeking out therapy and counseling related services! there are also many online resources for mental health you can access as well, if in person counseling is not a viable option for you.

v. remember that you are not a bad student because this is happening. you are not a failure. this is not your fault.

mental illness sucks. it sucks all of your energy and motivation right out of your system. it is brutal. sometimes you will need to take a night off. let yourself do this without punishment. your mental health is important. repeat this mantra to yourself until you believe it. above all, remember that your feelings and struggles will always be valid. keep fighting, i believe in you!

anonymous asked:

Isn't there a really dodgy bit in Why Does He Do That? I read somewhere that it says a man who says he's being abused is the abuser in a relationship, which... no, male victims of domestic abuse exist too...

Yes.  I was actually going to post about this.

It’s not just a “dodgy bit”.  There are multiple points at which he says things that I didn’t care for.

The “male abuse victims are probably lying” thing is is the biggest flaw in the book, but the book is still absolutely vital, and people should still read and recommend it.  Full stop.  Because a thing is flawed does not mean it has no value and should not be circulated to those people that it could help.  If the book were less shockingly accurate and unflinching in its portrayal of abusive men, if it were less good in the ways that it is good, perhaps I would feel more hesitation.

I’ve read basically the whole thing so far (I’m about 20-30 pages from the end in the PDF), and here’s the deal.

He doesn’t say unilaterally that men lie about being abused.  He says that abusive men lie about being abused by women.  It’s a fine distinction, and not really much better, but I want to be clear that that is what he is saying.  Not that men lie about all abuse, but that they lie about being abused by women.  Abusive men, especially, will tell this lie to get the upper hand.

Based on what he has seen after dealing with a couple thousand men who abuse women, I do not doubt that this is true.

But he seems to think the number of abused men is smaller than the number of abusive men who are lying about being abused.  Even if that is true, abused men are not acceptable collateral damage.  It’s not okay to act like the issue isn’t important just because liars exist.

He uses SOME qualifying language. I’m not going to go digging for it, but it’s along the line of “Male victims of domestic violence are really rare compared to the number of female victims.”  After that he kind of treats it like they either don’t exist, or the fact that they do is irrelevant in the face of the much more widespread problem of men who abuse women.  I won’t lie, that’s not good.

To be frank, he does not seem all that aware of social justice issues the way that all us gigantic queers on Tumblr are.  His awareness of LGBT issues is peripheral.  When he says “men” and “women”, he definitely means “cis men” and “cis women”.  And the book definitely reads like a book written by a cis dude to me.  But honestly, this is a book that only a cis dude could have written, because only a cis dude could have worked with other (cis) men the way he has, and it is precisely that experience that makes it so valuable.

The fact that he’s biased doesn’t mean he is talking out his ass the rest of the time.  He’s not.  At the time of publication (2002) he had worked with over two thousand abusive men whose targets were women.  He pioneered recovery programs for these men.  He was the first to really get down and work with them on a daily basis, both in group and personal therapy settings.  And that experience shows.

No.  He really really doesn’t understand abused men.

But he understands abusive men.  Specifically, he understands men who abuse women.

On the one hand, it’s given him an unprecedented level of insight into abusers’ mindsets, and that is so valuable.  

On the other, the graphic and awful examples he has seen of men who are lying to get themselves out of trouble or justify their behavior have definitely colored his views of male victims.  These men – men, I emphasize, referred to him by the legal system, meaning they were entirely confirmed abusers – WERE almost always lying about it.  I think he mentions two exceptions?  And yeah, that sounds like shit abusers fucking do.  I believe him.

Within his setting, within his sample, I believe he is 100% correct in his assessment – abusers are likely to be lying about having suffered partner violence.

That setting absolutely is not the rest of the world, and I think he loses sight of that, if he ever had sight of it to begin with.  That’s a terrible flaw.

Another flaw is that it gives very little face-time to same-sex relationship abuse.  It goes into it a little, and does it a little ham-handedly but not too badly, but mostly it gets ignored.

Rather than raise these issues at all and then doing it badly, I wish he had said “The issue of abuse in LGBT relationships, as well as the issue of women abusing men, is sadly beyond the scope of my experience, and therefore this book is not about those issues.”

There is nothing wrong with focusing on one aspect of the issue of intimate partner violence.  That he did so is not a bad thing.  The bad thing that he did is to treat the rest of it like a non-issue, when it isn’t, and that he said some things that encourage the reader to be generally suspicious of men who say that women have abused them.  Those are bad things.

Would I recommend it to a man who is being/was abused by a woman?  No no no.  Absolutely not.  Those dynamics are completely different, and the abuse is likely to look very different, and I feel like very little of it will be accessible to someone in that situation.  I think it would do more harm than good.

Would I recommend it to someone in a non-cishet relationship?  Maybe, but probably not, unless I had a little insight into the relationship and felt like it would be a good match.

Would I still recommend it to women, or to people who want a general understanding of the dynamics between abusive cis men and abused women?  YES.  YES A THOUSAND TIMES.

The book is not “good” in a morally/ideologically pure, okay?  It is flawed.  But for what it is, which is a book about men who abuse women, it is very good.   He is on the side of abused women, all the fucking way.  And that is still an astonishingly rare thing to find. 

It validates the experiences of women abused by men by showing different types of abusive behavior and different types of abuser.  He says at multiple points “If you’re wondering whether it’s abuse, then it probably is.”  And that is still such a radical, necessary, healthy and badly-needed thing to say.

I’m not going to defend the way he treats the issue of abused men, or abuse in LGBT relationships,  He barely deals with these issues at all, and when he does, it’s halfhearted at best and actively regressive at worst.  In that regard, it’s shitty.  If that is what you are needing, this book won’t give it to you.

I am going to defend it as an excellent starting place for women abused by men, or in toxic almost-abusive relationships with them.

I would prefer it not be flawed, and if it has to be flawed, I would prefer it come with a disclaimer, but I would rather it circulate flawed and without a disclaimer of any kind that fail to reach someone who really, really needs it.

We could be waiting a long time for a better, more inclusive book to come out.  There’s not time to wait.  This book is needed now.  TODAY.

That said, I am always glad to reblog helpful resources for abused men, or for people in non-cishet relationships, if you know of any.  I would love to know about comparable GOOD books for LGBT people, if you know any, or would love to know about GOOD books written for male victims of domestic violence.