ok.... white people.... we gotta talk about this really quick.
don’t try to weigh in on the importance of romances between people of color, whether they’re hetero or not. just don’t do it. i’m begging you. you feel tempted to talk about how “tired” you are of straight romances, even when the romance you’re referring to includes people of color? don’t do it. fight the urge. you heard a person of color talking about representation once, so now you think you can argue with authority on those issues? don’t do it. fight the urge. the conversation has nothing to do with you.
you think you can chime in every single time there’s a brown person on your screen about how IMPORTANT it is that they be gay or not in a romance at all, one or the other, that their straightness would be just as oppressive as seeing another straight white man kissing another straight white woman? don’t do it. do not do it. only people of color are allowed to be tired of their own people’s straightness.
you think you can calculate the worth of a pairing, the importance of certain kinds of romances, because you think representation is a mathematic equation you can add and subtract from, based on layers of marginalization? that the outcome means the same thing to every person? it isn’t. it doesn’t. you think that heterosexuality is always the same old song, even when it involves people who never get to be loved and valued onscreen? whenever you open your mouth about these things, the only people you’re fooling are other white people. everyone else knows that these issues are complex, contradictory, often deeply personal, and never the same twice.
so don’t do it. i don’t care if you ship finn/poe or finn/rey and have opinions on what’s More Progressive. it doesn’t matter if you hated mako/raleigh or loved stacker/herc. your opinion is borrowed from other peoples’ experiences. shipping certain pairings doesn’t earn you credits from the University of Brownness. you don’t accumulate points over years of good behavior and suddenly have authority to talk about issues when people of color are trying to have conversations with eachother. FIGHT THE URGE. I PROMISE IT WON’T KILL YOU TO SHUT UP.