Hi, let’s stop ignoring, invalidating, and minimizing the impact emotional abuse can have.
Let’s stop denying that it can happen in “good” homes. People who provide for their child and say they love them, can still emotionally abuse their child.
Someone who is nice to YOU can emotionally abuse another person. Just because that abusive person may be nice to YOU, doesn’t make someone’s abusive experience any lesser. Your positive experience isn’t proof that the abuse “wasn’t that bad” or was “a misunderstanding.”
You know, one concept that was covered in my Child Welfare Social Work class was how abusers are usually the ones people don’t expect at all. They can be charismatic, held in high regard, and in positions of authority. They can be anyone. Someone isn’t exempt from being abusive just because they are small, big, male, female, rich, or poor. This stuff goes for all types of abuse, but I’m specifying the often ignored emotional abuse.
Let’s stop denying that it has no lasting impact, because yes, it can cause Trauma and Stress Related Disorders– it is psychologically damaging “enough.”
Let’s also stop “throwing” the term around. A parent grounding you for being a brat and breaking rules isn’t “abusive.” A parent not letting you get your way all the time isn’t “abusive.” Honestly, certain comments that can be made sometimes aren’t inherently abusive either.
Stop shouting “Abuse! Triggered!!” at every little thing you disagree, dislike, or if someone calls you out.
On the other hand, a parent exaggerating a punishment, rule, or wrong-doing, can be abusive.
People with disabilities and disorders can be abused in unique ways that may be ignored and passed up, too.
Restricting a deaf person from their phone and/or communication device, can be abusive. Withholding medication
from someone with mental illness, can be abusive. Forcing a child who has severe social anxiety into uneeded situations that terrify them, can be abusive. Continuously triggering someone’s symptoms knowingly because, “It’s not something to get triggered about” or “it’s not a big deal” or because “it’s funny,” can be abusive.
Stop ignoring their symptoms and comparing them to those without a disorder/disability. When people comment towards someone with a disorder/disability about what they “should” be able to do, it’s saying they need to be more like someone without it.
Stop acting like people without disorders/disabilities set the only acceptable standard of being for everyone. For instance, if someone with a learning disability is continuously told, “You should be able to do this, you should have higher grades, you should understand by now, you shouldn’t need assistance” comments like this can be considered abuse.
You don’t get to decide what is damaging enough or easy/hard to do for an entirely different person, with entirely different genetics and biological make up, in an entirely different environment, situation, and “world” than yours.
Yoho à tous! Je viens de poster le 10e et dernier chapitre de “Armitage Hux et le Trésor des Hutts”. Au final j’ai quand même dépassé les 100k… Et comme je l’avais déjà évoqué, même si c’est le dernier chapitre de cette histoire, je compte en écrire d’autres dans cet univers! La suivante devrait s’appeler “Armitage Hux et les Vestiges de l’Empire”, mais nous n’en sommes pas encore là. En attendant, je vous laisse avec ce bon gros chapitre final, qui a fait monter le rating de ma fic…… Bonne lecture à tous!