p: demi


during high school, most of the people I considered my closets friends were men. It’s not that I didn’t want girl friends, I just felt…safer…trusting men with my friendship. I felt like they wouldn’t judge me, they wouldn’t try to compete with me or be jealous when I succeeded. Most of all, I didn’t feel like they would wake up one morning and decide I wasn’t worth their time, which is something I had experienced at the hands of some of my female friends. In my work environment, I used to only surround myself with men,“ she told Mamamia. I only had guys in my band, and I toured with guys and my tour manager was a guy and this and that. I made a specific change. there was a time I used to say that I just didn’t get along with girls,” she said. I reevaluated why I didn’t get along with girls, and I think it’s because I didn’t really have any in my life that I trusted. now I’ve made it a point to surround myself with strong women and it’s really made a difference in my life.

One of my least favorite things about our love-and-sex obsessed culture, is that I can’t actually hang out with anyone. If I go “hey wow you’re cool do you want to hang out sometime,” it always sounds like I’m asking them out. And as an ace person, I’m not?? i really don’t want to? please don’t date me I just want friendship??

So, I propose that we scrap the idea of asking strangers on dates, and institute “friendship dates.” You give out your number to someone who looks cool (wearing a geeky t-shirt, overheard them talking about something you like, etc) and then you invite them out with some other friends of yours and have a good time.

Am I wrong, or can we please just have some, like, platonic relationships? For once?

My dear demiromantic and/or demisexual children, 

I just saw a post making fun of you and decided to let you know that the voices of those who support you are louder than those of some whiny bitter gatekeepers, so.. *grabs microphone and climbs on the table*

You’re part of the lgbt+ family! 

Demiromantic? That’s a valid label! You are lgbt+! I love you! 

Demisexual? That’s a valid label! You are lgbt+! I love you!

Demiromantic lesbian? Homo-demiromantic asexual? Panromantic hetero-demisexual? Any other label involving demi? Yes, that’s real! All of that! You’re allowed to identify as that! 

If anyone thinks your label is “too complicated” or “fake”, that’s their problem, not yours! 

Demi? Wonderful! I’m so happy to have you in my lgbt+ family! 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom