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anonymous asked:

Hi Alice, odd question but: Do you believe asexuals belong in the LGBT community? I have a friend who identifies this way, but as a trans girl, I'm struggling to understand how she has to go through the same things as an LGBT person by being asexual. And struggle aside, I don't even see how asexuality is THAT different from heterosexuality, just with more... hesitation!? Maybe this sounds rude, but I know you've written about asexual people etc, and I wondered what you thought. No shade intended

Hi there. I’m glad you reached out to me about this because you must have really upset your friend by saying stuff like this to them.

It’s easy to see why not only cishet people, but also LGBT+ people, think that asexuality is fake. The world is awash with sex and sexual attraction. It’s everywhere. And everyone is supposed to want it and feel it. It’s so extremely normalised that the idea that someone could be literally UNABLE to feel sexual attraction is, to many people, absolutely bizarre and a joke.

Even if you acknowledge that asexuality is real, it’s also easy to see why you would be so quick to reject and get angry at asexual people who call themselves LGBT+. Because asexual people are not like you, are they. Unless they are trans, asexuals don’t have gender troubles, and unless they experience same-gender romantic attraction, asexuals don’t experience same-gender attraction! Lesbian, bi, gay etc people can all be joined together in their experience of same gender attraction, and all trans folks, binary and non binary, can be joined together in their experience of feeing a disconnect from their assigned birth gender.

The result? No one wants asexuals near them. People can’t relate. No one else feels the way asexuals do and people don’t think they should be part of the group. They’re not the same as you.

But oh god, they are not allowed in the cishet club either.

The first thing you need to try and unlearn is that asexuality is in any way similar to heterosexuality. It’s not. It’s so, so fucking not. It’s painful how different it feels to be asexual compared to being heterosexual. Telling an ace person that asexuality isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’ is about as accurate as saying being gay isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’. Being asexual means you do not experience sexual attraction, ever. EVER. And while that might seem easy to you, it’s an extremely painful and terrifying thing to learn about yourself, in a world where everyone is expected to have an array of sexual experiences, fall in love, get married, and anyone who doesn’t do that is strange and a freak.

Learning you are asexual can be terrifying. When you realise you’ve never had a crush, when all your friends have had ten each, you are terrified. When you pass the age where people have started dating and having sex and you still feel nothing - NOTHING - you are terrified. When you think about ever falling in love and the idea disgusts you, or you think about falling in love and you crave it, god you CRAVE it, but you know you can’t ever feel that, you are terrified. When you realise you will never be able to enjoy a normal romantic/sexual relationship, the ones full of passion like you see in the movies, and people will reject you because you can’t fancy them in that way, and there’s a higher chance for you than anyone else that you will simply die alone, without love, without children - you are terrified.

You think being ace is the same as heterosexuality? You think it’s an easy thing to learn about yourself? Explain the terror, then. I’m all ears.

The fact you see asexuality as 'hesitation’ is really horrifying to me. Asexuals aren’t attracted to the opposite gender but 'hesitant’ to act on it. Asexuals DO NOT feel attraction. To anyone. It’s not a choice. It’s not a way of life. It’s not the same as celibacy out of choice, or being a 'prude’, or waiting till marriage. It is ingrained in you, just like being gay is, just like being trans is. It is a part of you that no matter how hard you try to will it away, no matter how hard you try to persuade yourself otherwise, you cannot help it. You DO NOT feel attracted to ANYONE.

And in saying all this, I fully acknowledge that asexuals do not experience the extent of oppression that other LGBT+ folks do. There are no laws regarding asexuality. Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, and other LGBT+ folks no doubt experience a higher level and intensity of systematic oppression to asexuals, more frequently go through hard experiences due to their orientation or gender. But since when did being LGBT+ become a competition for 'who’s the most oppressed’? Is that what LGBT+ is? You’re only allowed in the club if you’re 'oppressed enough’? If you’re 'gay enough’? If you’re 'trans enough’?

If you need persuading that asexuals do experience their own form of oppression, though, consider the number of asexuals who are coerced into sex in order to 'fix’ them. Consider the emotional pain that I have already discussed, of feeling that there is something fundamentally wrong and gross about you because you feel attracted to no one. Consider the number of asexuals who are hounded or emotionally abused by their families for failing to find partners. Consider the number of asexuals who force themselves to have sexual experiences, because it is the norm, because they don’t even know what asexuality is, because THEY think that they are just 'hesitant’, despite finding sex disgusting and feeling no desire to do it. Do you really think asexuals are just running around, free and happy and content in who they are? They aren’t. I’m not.

So go ahead. Cast aside asexuals if you want. Call them attention-seeking, call them special snowflakes. Ignore the pain they feel. Make them go through it alone, in pain, terrified of what they are. Why on earth would the LGBT+ community be a place to support people like that!?

Messages like the one you have just sent me gives me further reason to never talk about that part of myself. To just sit and cry about it at home day after day because I do not like myself. Because I feel that nobody will accept me or understand who I am. I could list the number of things people have said to me to discredit and laugh at this part of myself, but it’s people like you who make me embarrassed to talk about it, too scared to own a label and talk about it freely and openly.

I thought, going into this, that the LGBT+ community was one of total respect, understanding, and empathy. I learnt pretty quickly that it is not.

I send love to your asexual friend. I really, really do.

Disclaimer: I am very aware of the nuances of asexuality, of the differences between romantic/aesthetic/sexual attraction, but sadly it seems that many people can’t even grasp the basic concept of asexuality, so I don’t quite think they’re ready for that yet.

Very important

Things you should know about UMG (Universal Music Group)

This is a massive entertainment company that owns DefJams the label BTS is actually signed under. This isn’t the first time UMG have engaged in controversial and indiscriminate copyright acts. They have removed content from Artist Prince, abused copyright acts with company Digital Millennium Copyright Act and even muted singer Katherine Jenkins rendition of the British national anthem God Save the Queen.

The reason why this is important is because they are not learning from their mistakes and could potentially ruin BTS chances of reaching a larger audience since reaction videos, lyric videos and dance tutorials contribute to Bts recognition and also affect their social chart for Billboard. They are unfairly copyrighting content related to BST that is not Japanese, and claiming aspects of BST to be from them when in fact it originated by a KOREAN company Leon entertainment which created the BST MV and therefore have copyright claim not UMG

We cannot let this happen and need Bighit to be aware of the consequences it could have for Bts especially since YouTube content is such a major reasons for their interaction with global fans.

Guys please spread this as this is a BIG ISSUE especially if not dealt with now as it can affect Bts future MV and fan made content. Some army’s have already began spreading the hashtag #UMGdon'ttouchbts and I encourage fellow army’s to work together and make this a worldwide trend so we can stop them fro taking advantage and using bts.

UPDATE: Army’s you truly are the best fandom because of our complaints videos have begun to be unblocked, I hope they continue to unblock all the videos they wrongly removed. Fighting!

‘getting his shit together’

his own label has been purposely holding him back and fucking him over for the past year. his mother was terminally ill for the majority of 2016 and just passed away 6 months ago.  every single card he’s been dealt since the break started in late 2015 has been horrible and his own team has been sabotaging him and purposefully trying to devalue his image, his brand, and his fans’ loyalty to him.

he’s been reacting and surviving as best he can. what a slap in the face to use language like ‘getting his shit together’ to put the burden for everything he’s been forced to deal with on him rather than on the people responsible for holding him back.

Think about how the sound of Harry’s solo album is an extension of Made in the A.M., a natural progression from that, and think about how Niall’s stuff is a natural progression from Four, and then think about how Louis made sure the songwriters were allowing them musical and lyrical input on the songs on those albums. Making them more their own than maybe the label or songwriters wanted. 

When you think about it in that context, you’re like WOW, Louis really took one for the team then and he’s still doing it now, allowing Niall and Harry to make this music they were making before, but take it and make it their own and have a blast doing it with supportive fans who loved it and understood the sound!

I’m not saying that Louis helped make that happen, but Louis helped make that happen. 

It’s time for people to start recognizing Louis for that and recognizing he has paid a steep price for that. 

Nonbinaries who tried to come out, only to be told they are in some way wrong or broken, faking it or attention seekers, are strong and amazing. The world still has to change to accept us, and that’s okay. The world is constantly changing and evolving. We’re just a little ahead of the rest.

There is nothing wrong with you. You are absolutely fantastic just the way you are. You are not just another “special snowflake”; you are individual and amazing and so, so strong. I believe in you. I support you.

You know how people love to discredit Courtney Love by conspiratorially saying Kurt Cobain or whomever actually ghostwrote Live Through This. I have a similar theory except mine is that Mariah Carey ghostwrote on it because 1) she’s friends with Courtney Love 2) one time she ambiguously said in an interview “no one knows about them but I’ve written alternative records no one knows about” 3) thematically its exactly about her when she was trapped in marriage and psychological trauma at the peak of her misery c. 1994 .. “I fake it so real, I am beyond fake” …. of course she could not express these sentiments in her own songs because of label censorship (aside from “Looking In” which again is thematically like Live Through This basically) so she channeled it into Live Through This 4) she also said she loves Live Through This and we all know Mariah only pays attention to herself. The truth will come out someday. Additionally, “I want my baby / Where is the baby” (“I Think That I Would Die”) is about when she was forced by Tommy Mottola to give up the Italian child she gave birth to in 1993, Ariana Grande, for adoption

If debuting at #2 on the UK charts, hitting #1 on Itunes in 42 countries, hitting #2 on Itunes WORLDWIDE, debuting at #1 on Billboard’s dance/EDM charts, and hitting #1 in 50 countries on Itunes Dance IS NOT enough to get you A-listed in the top UK radio stations, then what will?

This is the question most of us are asking about “Just Hold On.” Because these are real numbers. These are facts.

The bigger issue is that “Just Hold On” was a proven success when it was released. But it still had no radio support until weeks later in January. It still didn’t get the promotional support it deserved despite being a PROVEN entity.

Think about it - how many artists on Sony’s and JGG’s roster can even bring in that kind of success when a song drops? and take note, Just Hold On and Louis/Steve got zero promotion and zero hype BEFORE JHO dropped and YET they still managed to get those numbers in! No one even KNEW It was coming!

Do you know that when JHO dropped,  Louis Tomlinson’s Spotify profile grew SO QUICKLY? It was ranked 40th in the world and had over 15 million monthly listeners? Imagine that! All because of one song! This is Louis Tomlinson solo! He managed to outrank so many established solo artists.

Yet he still didn’t get the promotional support his song and him, as an artist, deserved. 

And this was AFTER he brought the numbers in. His team had weeks before the January promo to really get a good plan together and YET….  

Look, If you don’t get your own label and management’s support after ALL THAT success, then something is really wrong, isn’t it? Really makes you wonder what Louis has to prove at this point, and what he’s really up against. 

Why did his team continue shitting on him and generating bad press even after he was a proven success???

To: KPop Tumblr / From: An Angry Black Girl

WARNING: This is a RANT. If you don’t want to read this, or you don’t want to have to sit through my deepest disappointment and the annoyance that has been dwelling within me for the longest about this; please just scroll right past this and you will be a-okay.

- Admin Dayna


Okay so, I know I’ve mentioned before that I wanted to avoid the topics of racism and culture appropriation within K-Pop because the list goes on forever, and as a black girl with anxiety and depression, having to constantly speak up against these things get extremely tiring and weigh heavy on me. But the reason why I’m deciding to write about this now is because I’ve been seeing certain things floating around in the K-Pop side of tumblr that’s quite honestly being left untouched and I just… I really can’t sit back and let it not be known.

I want to first start off with my deepest concern for the constant validation black girls seek on tumblr about whether or not so-and-so or such-and-such Idol group likes black girls. We see videos on Tumblr and YouTube quite often of compilations of idols interacting with black girls, overthinking and overplaying said interactions/conversations and romanticizing it to gain some sort of self-worth from said videos. As if these girls need confirmation that they are beautiful and can be loved by anyone. Which really hurts because what other race of girls has to sit down and ask themselves if the person they’re interested in likes their race and not them, themselves. The only time that I see anything in regards of afro-fans within the K-Pop side of Tumblr is when the blog specifically caters to said race – which truly bothers me because then my race often times get sexualized in said blogs. We should be able to intermingle no matter what our races. POC girls are of the norms, bruh like tf?

Which leads me to this topic: Black Girls – or more so Black Culture – are used as props within K-Pop so often that when I try to express my distaste towards a certain idol or a certain music video, I get backlash for it from stans because they’re so blinded by either; A) The need to be loved and noticed by their biases despite the fact that their bias is using them as an object to enhance whatever aesthetic, concept, or audience they’re trying to appeal to, or B) the aggression or culture appropriation either doesn’t affect them or is so trivial (yet very wrong) that it ends up being dusted under the rug because “they don’t know better”.

But the thing is, some of these idols have been overseas, worked overseas, lived overseas, that they have been exposed to these things already, so the truth of the matter is, they do know better. So many idols have been called out for saying certain words (for example dropping the word nigga around as if they know what it’s like to be followed around a store just in case you decide to steal something, or to have an irrational fear of authority figures just in case they go ape shit and decide to shoot you unarmed) or carrying out certain actions (for example, painting their skin black and over drawing their lips, and pretending to know what it’s like to struggle out in these streets and use our means of coping – music – as a source of entertainment and costume). It is 2017, they have social media, and so many idols before them have made these mistakes before that there is just no fucking excuse anymore.

NONE.

What lead up to this rant was the fact that Jay-fucking-Park, took a revolutionary name brand and rode it out for his own fucking label. Jay Park has taken NWA (Niggas with Attitude) and turned it into his own NWA (New Wave Attitude) and I am incredibly pissed that he would do that because Jay Park SHOULD KNOW BETTER.

The entire purpose of Niggas with Attitude was to reclaim and expose the hardships, stereotypes, and struggles of black people who find themselves cornered and stuck in the ghettos that they were forced into, and explain to the mass audiences why black people are “always angry”. Why black people “always steal”. Why black people “always do drugs”. It’s because majority of us don’t have a choice. We don’t have the same resources and do not know anything beyond the struggles of the streets because we’ve been cornered and kept there all our lives.

Now here is Jay Park, a man who has been exposed to black culture, knows black people, love black people, taking such a powerful name brand and turning it into some whimsical ass whatever-the-fuck for the hype or the wave and shit – completely dismissing the historical importance of the original NWA in music.

This shit ain’t no fucking joke. This shit ain’t to be messed with, b. Gangsta rap, hip-hop – just rap in general isn’t a fucking game. It comes from starvation. It comes from self-hate. It comes from poverty, and degradation, and discrimination. Hip-Hop and Rap became what it is because black people were too broke to afford instruments and shit – we had to use our voices. Because music was all we got. From the slave trade to now! It ain’t shit for people to be twisting up for their own fun like this.

Put some respect on our names or get the fuck out!

Now we got people like fucking Keith Ape running around snatching up Atlanta’s trap music calling it “noisy rap”. We got fucking Taeyang saying “he wanna experience black people’s pain”. We got Jackson and Jooheon making a fucking fool of themselves (bless they souls man, don’t even come for me because Jooheon is my ultimate bias, y’all know this. i fucking love him and Jackson but they were wildin’) claiming that Jooheon is like “the Korean Kendrick Lamar”. Like the fuck they know about Kendrick Lamar? The fuck they know about “The Blacker the Berry, the Sweet the Juice”? The fuck they know about “Nagus to Niggas”? The fuck they know about “How Can I paint a picture, when the color blind is hanging you?”

What does Jay Park know about “Fuck the Police”?

Black people aren’t props.

Stop protecting y’all biases and get with the shits bruh.

Anyways, I hope y’all have a blessed day. Love you.

Originally posted by eataburgerr

positivity post

- for boys who are strong and muscular
- for boys who are a lil hairy!!!!
- for boys with lisps
- for boys with front tooth gaps
- for boys who kiss other boys sometimes
- for boys who are religious
- for boys who are vegans
- for boys who live in brooklyn
- for boys who are older than 40
- for boys who own a record label with their stepfather
- for boys who have had a soul patch since 2005
- for boys who are indie-folk singer-songwriter and multi-instrumentalist sufjan stevens

Let’s play a game called How far can you get through the lesbian tag on tumblr before you come across a penis

I’m not saying that a woman can’t have a penis

I’m saying that heterosexual men use terms like lesbian, Japanese, ebony, teen etc as porn categories and I’m fucking sick of it. 

I no longer offer the tags lesbian or bisexual on my girls looking for girls blog simply because men type in those tags and assume all the women on there want to send them nudes. 

Instagram has also removed the lesbian tag because it was being flooded with nudes and porn ads.

We should be allowed to use our own labels on social media!! 

I’m so tired of Tumblr alienating people into two groups

It’s either you’re an SJW or an anti sjw. Either a PoC or white. Either a feminist or not.

You can never have your own independent thoughts or just be independant individual on yourself, you have to be in a group with the same exact opinions and way of thinking. And once you’re in good luck getting out bitches cuz the chances are you’re going to stay there until you die.

And people will judge you forever on based on what group you side with. It’s almost like its mandatory to have a labels slapped onto your profile.

So few people are daring to even accept people for what side that they choose. And im not even talking about just Sjws and feminists, it’s antifeminists and antisjws too. Theyre all a bunch of pathetic people who want to jump into discourse in hopes of winning a pointless argument.

Then the rumours and accusations come in. Get ready to be stereotyped and swarmed with anon hate. Because all Sjws are a whole bunch of nonbinary, teenage liberals that can’t comprehend society or reality so they have to complain and attack everyone with opposing views. And all anti feminists are people who don’t want equality are a bunch of misnogist men or blind women who want only social inequality.


In conclusion, Tumblr is going to start segregation again by splitting people into two fucking groups. And then dividing those, and on and on until everyone is their own group. Tumblrinas don’t give two shit about your personality or opinions, youre not you’re own person, you’re whatever labels you wear.

Nonbinaries who tried to come out, only to be told they are in some way wrong or broken, faking it or attention seekers, are strong and amazing. The world still has to change to accept us, and that’s okay. The world is constantly changing and evolving. We’re just a little ahead of the rest.

There is nothing wrong with you. You are absolutely fantastic just the way you are. You are not just another “special snowflake”; you are individual and amazing and so, so strong. I believe in you. I support you.

anonymous asked:

Tyler Brown actually liked Dan Wootten's tweet linking to that horrifically condescending op-ed. Imagine your own label head thinking so little of you. Unacceptable. I really hope Louis leaves Syco.

Jackass.

Being A Magical Practitioner:
1. Question everything you are told and read.
2. Hell even question this post. Only YOU can decide what is right and what works for you.
3. What may work for someone else may not work for you. What may work for you may not work for someone else.
4. Your practices are YOUR practices.

Support:
1. Ancestral veneration is so important.
2. Communicate with your ancestors daily.
3. They will help and guide you on your journey more than you will ever know.
4. You have several guardian angels and guardian spirits built into your existence, get to know them.
5. There is magic within you. Embrace your own power.
6. Mind your own magic. You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. You don’t have to explain your practices to anyone else. Do you. 

Tools:
1. White candles are fantastic for every single purpose.
2. You can print your own labels for glass candles and glue them on plain glass candles.  You will save money this way in the long run.
3. You don’t need every single tool to start off with.
4. Water is life. Water keeps the flow of your magic, filters and is a conduit to you and spirit. Keep clear glasses of water in your home. Change them often.
5. Your altar space doesn’t need to be fancy.
6. You do not need expensive herbs.
7. Mirrors and Magnets are the best tools closest to crystals to magnify and amplify your magic.
8. The bible is a book full of spells and divination.

Herbs:
1. You can get most of the herbs you need from your local super market and dollar store.
2. Salt: Protection or cursing. Various Powdered Peppers: Protection and Cursing. Cinnamon: Money and Lust work. Basil: Money and Luck. Bay Leaves: Protection and Granted Wishes. Rosemary: Protection. Chamomile: Peaceful Home Workings. Cloves: Protection, Love, Control and Bindings. Eucalyptus: Cleansing. Thyme: Purification, Healing.

Floor Washes:
1. Do Floor Washes in odd numbers. One series to remove the negativity and one series to bring in good energy.
2. Curse Killer Floor Wash: Hot Water, Ammonia, Lemon, Salt (optional)
Open Roads Floor Wash: Cold Water, Florida Water, Parsley, Mint Leaves, Coconut Water (Strained of pulp)

Various Cleansings:
1. Cigar or tobacco smoke is a great alternative to sage sticks.
2.  You can cleanse yourself with an egg and a glass of water.
3. You can cleanse yourself with lemons, limes and oranges.
4. When cleansing your home make sure to open your windows and doors.
5. Start from the back of the home towards the front and then to various rooms to confuse the negative energy.
6. A can of beer and salt will cleanse your aura.
7. When you cleanse yourself, make sure to replace what you removed with good energy.

Powders:
1. You do not need to purchase branded powders from metaphysical shops.
Money/luck powder:  Bank dirt, Shredded currency and corn starch.
Love/Passion powder: Rose petals, Cinnamon and corn starch.
Open Roads powder: Dirt from four corners of a crossroads and corn starch. Add three dimes to bottom of container.
Cursing Powder: Graveyard dirt from criminals grave, black pepper, red pepper, cayenne pepper.
Protection Powder: Church Dirt, Psalm 91 passage from bible, Psalm 23 from the bible grinded into a powder.

Oils:
1. Do not buy oils from the botanicas and metaphysical shops. Most are made with mineral oil, a synthetic fragrance and colorant. If you want that, Get yourself some baby oil, food coloring and scented fragrance oil of your choosing. I wouldn’t recommend it though.
2. Get yourself some Olive oil, Sunflower oil, Grapeseed oil and Vegetable oil at the supermarket along with some Vitamin E oil for preservative. You can make your own charged oils with herbs and a few glass bottles.
3. My favorite simple oils:
Lust Oil: Sunflower oil base, Vitamin E,  Cinnamon stick, red rose petals, and Vanilla Bean
Money Oil: Grapeseed oil base, Vitamin E, Cinnamon stick, nutmeg, basil and thyme.
Protection Oil: Olive Oil base, Vitamin E, Rosemary, Basil, Eucalyptus
Life Force Oil: For when you need extra power in your magic. Olive oil base, 3 drops of blood.
Blessing Oil: Olive Oil, Vitamin E and Psalm 91 torn from the bible.

Deities:
1. You do not have to have a deity in your practice.
2. You can practice secular magic. Secular magic is a practice that does not refer to, venerate and otherwise “work with” any deities (or, in some cases, any supernatural beings at all). This is perfectly okay.
3. If working with deity, never promise what you can’t provide.
4. Feed your spirits and deities. This can be with food, alcohol, energy, light, darkness, anything.
5. Know the spirits and deities you are working with.
6. Listen to your intuitive pulls when it concerns your deity.
7. No one can tell you the right or wrong way to worship and work with your deity BUT you should learn their mythos and their base wants, needs and what offends them.

Misc Magic Info:
1. Your magic will not punish you because you can’t practice every single day. We are human, and sometimes life gets the best of us. It is okay.
2. Magic should never ever replace mental and physical health diagnosis and services from healthcare professionals.
3. “Black magic” is a racist term used to demonize the practices of people of color that are seen as “barbaric” or “uncivilized” to Europeans. Therefore “White magic” is considered good and “black magic” is considered bad. Energy is energy. Do not allow anyone to dictate your practice. That racist term is bullshit. Our melanin is magic. Our cultures and our roots are power.
4. You can purchase a Tarot deck from Amazon. You don’t need it gifted to you.
5. ALWAYS have a fire extinguisher in your home.
6. NEVER leave candles unattended in your home.
7. Coffee grounds speed up work.
8. Meditate. Leave the fuckery of the day at the end of the day. You will thank yourself in the long run.
9. Keep info to yourself. Not everyone needs to know what you are doing or all your secrets.
10. Do not bring your shoes into your home.