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Listen up, allistics.

After what happened yesterday, I’ve decided to teach you the single most important thing you will ever learn about dealing with autistic people, especially under stress:

A meltdown is a defensive response, not an aggression.

Meltdowns happen because we are in pain - either the direct sensory pain of too much light or too loud noise or terrible textures or what have you, or the emotional pain of just being overwhelmed by so much input we can’t handle it, of being told were horrible burdens who can’t love, etc.

Meltdowns are born of pain.

In particular, they’re what happens when we can’t escape that pain. Y’all know about the fight-or-flight response? Well… that’s what a meltdown is. And all of those stories of autistic people destroying things or hurting themselves or lashing out at people? That’s what happens when “flight” is no longer an option. That only leaves “fight.”

We’re trying to defend ourselves from things that are hurting us, and you won’t let us. You stand between us and an escape from pain. That’s what makes us lash out, as surely as if you cornered an animal and poked it with a stick.

So how do you prevent this from happening? Simple. Find out what’s causing us pain, and give us an escape from it. Too much noise? Give us earplugs or a quiet place. Too-bright lights? Maybe we need sunglasses or a darkroom. Draining social expectations? Let us be alone for a bit.

Just let us escape the pain. That’s all we need.

(The implication of this, of course, is that people who think autistic people are inclined to violence? Are people who hurt us and keep us in pain. They’re abusers. This is something that has held up literally every time I’ve heard someone talk about how terrible and violent we are, and then describe their interactions with us. Every. Single. Time.)

INFJ Shut Down Mode
  • (as experienced by this INFJ - if you disagree feel free to let me know! : ) )
  • Ni: THE FUTURE IS SCARY, WHAT AM I DOING WITH MY LIFE, HOW DO I GET TO WHERE I WANT TO GO, THE END GOAL IS SO FAR AWAY AND I HAVE SO LITTLE TIME TO GET THERE
  • Fe: I NEED TO TALK OUT MY FEELINGS OR I WILL FEEL FOREVER ALONE IN THIS WORLD
  • Ti: *curls up in corner* i can't logic my way through any of this what is happening
  • Se: *stares unseeing into the abyss* *whispers that everything is too loud and too bright*
Some more problems with being schizophrenic

- not being able to express emotions so people just think you’re a hearltess bitch when in reality you are feeling emotions very intensely inside

- feeling like you’re slowly rotting

- believing that your flesh is slowly decaying while everyone else’s is not

- what is it like to not have delusions??? How do you think logically??? Is that a thing?

- your brain working so fast while writing that you leave letters out of words

- knowing drug use will worsen your symptoms, but believing they will help you

- thinking you are like no other human on earth and are exempt from all rules everyone else must abide by

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IT CONTINUES

Yeah, It’s been too long since the last update. Well I tried to take my time with this & got all these pages done weeks after. But hey, at least we finally arrived on the island, right? …Right? :D

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