Seeing Harry’s relaxed joy recording this album makes me so mad at 1DHQ and Simon that they had these boys wake up in the middle of the night, after performing, to record their songs in some hotel room behind a mattress. They sucked all of the fun out of it and I hope all of the boys get to make music how they want to moving forward.
Hey Emma 💛 Do you have any advice for procrastination? I also have a hard time concentrating, what do you do (or think I could do) that would help with that?
Hi! I’ve had a few questions like this recently so I’m just going to answer this one and hopefully anyone who asked a similar question will see it! But on with the answer. I think there is a few different reasons why we procrastinate so I’m going to note those down and give a few tips for each. You can obviously apply any ideas that you like regardless of what section I’ve put them under!
1. You’ve got poor work/productivity habits. Generally you leave things until the last minute since you “work better under pressure”. (This is so me, omg.) You probably think you’ll do something after you’ve finished something else, and then never do. You get distracted whenever you’re trying to study and will sit waiting to feel motivated but it never comes. For this I’d suggest:
create a productive work environment - choose a space where you will actually work without distractions, organise your study space, have everything you need in easy reach. Surround yourself with things you find motivating such as quotes!
write it out - write down a few manageable tasks that you need to do. Writing the actions they require will help you see what you should be doing to complete something, instead of just the overall task. One by one you’ll see yourself getting things done!
focus on 20-30 minute periods - generally we lose focus after a while so taking regular breaks can help give you chance to relax and refocus. Apps like Forest allow you to set a timer and will give you off your phone at the same time. Obviously if you’re being productive, don’t suddenly cut that off because it is “time for a break”.
use apps/browser extensions to cut out distractions - ones like RescueTime or StayFocusd will block you from checking certain sites.
find an accountability partner - pick someone who you can rely on to check on your regularly and see how your tasks are coming along. You can send them your to-do list and then every few hours you can update them with your progress. You won’t want to let them down.
use the two-minute rule - if something takes less than two minutes, do it. Don’t make an excuse, just do it. Tasks that are longer you can either delegate or defer. Here is a simple visualisation of what I mean.
record your progress - doing a simple “don’t break the chain” in your planner is a great way to see how productive you’re being and therefore get you more motivated to keep it up!
2. You’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Everything seems to be mounting up and nothing seems doable. You don’t know where or how to start. For this I’d suggest:
find some help - if you’re feeling like this, it is likely you need some help in some form or another. See if a family member, friend, classmate or teacher (or Google) can help or give you a starting point.
tell yourself that getting started is the first step - you don’t need to finish a task in a matter of minutes. Start doing something small. Maybe organise what you need, highlight the important bits of your assessment, or draft an essay plan. The secret to getting ahead is getting started!
divide and conquer - figure out what is the overall task that you need to do and split it into manageable parts. For instance with an essay the aim is to write it! Divide it into planning out what you want to write, any references you need, summarising a final draft and then writing each paragraph. By dividing bigger tasks into actionable parts you can reduce the obstacles and get through each part in a more timely manner.
reward yourself - create a reward system to celebrate completing a selection of tasks. By rewarding your progress you’ll build an incentive to work and reinforce productivity (great for your self-discipline!).
learn to forgive yourself - if you have an off day, that is okay! You can’t expect to see a huge change in a short amount of time. Remember to come back to it later and try again.
don’t over schedule - if you’re feeling pressure from the amount of work and then the added pressure of trying to stick to a time limit, you’re just going to go crazy. Set yourself flexible times to get something done instead of being heavily structured. Give yourself time for a break and the ability to change tasks.
stick with one task - it can be so tempting to multitask but try not to. Try to keep focus on the what you’re doing until it is done. If you struggle with that, you could write down anything useful that you randomly think about for another task, use a break-time to think about that other task or alternate between subjects/tasks every few hours.
3. You’re a perfectionist. You either don’t want to start something out of fear you won’t get it right or you can stuck on stuck on the small details. There is a pressure to achieve “perfection”. For this I’d suggest:
focus on getting started, instead of finishing - it is easy to get overwhelmed thinking about what something is supposed to be like finished if you’re a perfectionist. Take things one step at a time.
remember that your perfectionist tendencies aren’t actually improving your work or productivity but hindering you - you’re continually setting yourself unrealistic objects and (like me) probably feel let down by yourself if you don’t reach them. Be realistic and focus on getting it done!
accept mistakes - you’ve written something wrong, don’t panic! Cross it out with a single line and move on. Things happen and you have to accept it. You can’t rip up the page every time you do something wrong, even if it is so tempting.
put things in perspective - is what you’re beating yourself up about right now going to mean anything in a week, a month, a year? Be honest if it isn’t, is it really worth putting unnecessary pressure on yourself.
praise yourself through the process - try not to criticise yourself but recognise your progress.
4. You’re wanting to do something else. You find whatever you’re doing boring. You want it to be over with but don’t want to get started. The ultimate catch 22, right? For this I’d suggest:
remember that putting it off isn’t going to make it go away - if you leave it too long you’ll end up getting more stressed about it. Best to get it over with.
plan from the get-go - once you know something is coming up (e.g. a test, an assessment, etc) make notes on it! That could be questions, annotations, potential topics, citations, etc. By making the effort to spend time reading through, you’ll save your future self some stress. Especially if it’s a topic you have forgotten. That way your notes act as a reminder so you can get started.
set a finish time with a reward - tell yourself that if you finish something by ..am/pm and then you can do something else. Use your self-discipline to not go back on this. Set a realistic time and try to get it complete before. If you can think that you’re doing something fun once it is completed, you’ll be more motivated to get it done.
make a structure - for note-taking, it can be overwhelming looking at a textbook and thinking what you’re going to write out. Make a note-taking layout/colour code that works for you and that subject. Mine is here - it just give me an idea of how I’d lay everything instead of going in with no action plan.
try to make it fun - this could be using YouTube to learn or starting a study group. Use different methods for memorising information such as flashcards, mindmaps or study guides (like question/answer).
make the effort to refocus - if you’re finding something boring and you’re unfocused, walk away for 5 minutes, get a drink and come back. If you’re really struggling, change topics for a while. Find a point where you can finish and start doing something else that is productive.
listen to some music - generally music without lyrics are best for focusing. Spotify has a great playlist for studying called ‘focus’. However I find my regular music good for getting me a little more motivated and awake. I also like writing essays to music because I weirdly sort of type in the same rhythm. Funny study hack I’ve found that works for me haha!
I hope that is useful! I must have copied and pasted my whole answer like 5 times just incase my tab reloaded and I lost everything, luckily not! You should also check out this post for smaller motivation tips and tricks! xx
(This title makes me feel like a CinemaSins video)
We’re not saying it’s fake, we’re not saying NCT things won’t happen there, we’re just listing observations that we have made about the schedule that are making us suspicious:
1) The entire thing is in English - this could be because it’s from “MNet America” or because the multiple countries require a universal language, but MNet schedules are almost always in Hangul.
2) EXO’s song is listed as The Power - it’s not called that, it’s official title is only Power.
3) Wanna One is said to perform Open Up - this isn’t on their album. In fact, Admin Beth is a huge Wannable and she can’t remember a time when they ever performed this song as an eleven membered group? The only songs from P101 that they remade together were Never and Pick Me.
4) They use the name Kim Jong-In - MNet don’t care about real names, for the sake of a performance they would use Kai. If they did use his real name, they would not hyphenate it and instead would just say Jongin.
5) Sunmi is performing Full Moon - she hasn’t promoted this song?
6) KARD are performing two songs, whilst GOT7 are performing one - it’s rare for a rookie group such as KARD to be a) performing alongside senior groups like NCT and GOT7 and b) get more songs than those senior groups. KARD are not that popular in Korea to justify this stage.
7) GDragon and Taeyang are performing - seriously, when was the last time they performed at MAMA? When was the last time YG liked MAMA??
8) The leaks are supposedly from CJ&M - they have links to MNet, but surely a MAMA schedule would come direct from MNet.
9) IOI are supposed to be reuniting - okay, MNet would do this and it’s been rumoured, but it’s also unlikely and their reunion is supposed to be in five years, not now.
10) ‘NCT Asia’ are supposed to be performing Lucifer and Mr. Simple - first of all, NCT’s go-to cover songs have always been Lucifer and Sorry Sorry, not Mr. Simple. Second of all, you don’t perform covers at MAMA. You perform songs from that year, or songs that are being released soon. If anything, NCT Asia would be performing their debut song.
Debuting a new unit would probably include a new member, and there are not many rookies left at the moment who have been announced. If SM announce new rookies between now and MAMA, it’s likely a new unit is happening.
We’re not saying this leak is false, we’re just saying the reasons why it might be.
11) There are so many popular groups missing - yes, MAMA is over multiple days this year but Seventeen, Nu’Est, GFriend and even BTS seem like huge omissions on this schedule?
12) There’s only three girl groups - specifically, Twice, Red Velvet and Black Pink. There would at least be GFriend and multiple others. It’s suspicious to us that these three mentioned are also the popular groups that newer stans tend to know.
13) There’s not enough collaboration or special stages - there were so many last year, it’s a big part of the show. There are NONE here.
14) Black Pink are supposed to be performing Whistle - this is a song from last year, they wouldn’t perform it again at this MAMA.
I’m so hONORED TO BE WORKING ALONGSIDE MIN THIS YEAR GUYS YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND. We wanted to spin in a little angst and young!Royai for this collaboration after we thought, ‘Why can’t fire be a catalyst?’ And thus this magnificent piece of art (and this fic) was born!!!
Every love story needs a catalyst of some sort - Ian Somerhalder
Riza wasn’t sure what to make of her father’s newest apprentice. Since his arrival he had kept to himself, for the most part, working diligently on whatever tasks her father gave him. She had thought it a good thing – it kept him out of her hair.
His other protégés had focused less on the work her father had given them and instead tried to build relationships with them. While she understood to some degree where they were coming from, they failed to realize that they were essentially there to learn alchemy. He, on the other hand, did try to make small talk to lessen the awkward silences that would sometimes stretch between the three of them when they were together, though it was not to the embarrassing degree that the others did.
So she found it unusual when he sat down next to her while she was sprawled out on the floor in front of the fireplace. She stopped herself from looking utterly surprised, waiting a few moments before she looked up from her book to shoot him a questioning look.
Imagine Shiro drying Lance’s curly hair with a towel as they get ready in the morning. He scratches Lance’s head softly and Lance hums at the loving touches. When Lance’s hair is dry, Shiro runs his hands through the curls that Lance hates but Shiro loves and he presses a kiss to the top of Lance’s head. Lance decides that maybe it would be okay if he let his hair go natural for the day just to make Shiro happy. The rest of the day Shiro is found to be twirling and tugging gently on Lance’s curls because he thinks they’re so cute and Lance pretends to be annoyed but he secretly loves it. When they are getting ready for bed, Shiro tells Lance that his natural hair is beautiful, but Lance is stubborn and denies it. Before he falls asleep, Lance secretly decides to wear his hair natural more often.
University classes are a monster you can’t prepare for until you’re in them. I have been through every up and down with schoolwork possible in the past year, so here are some tips that can hopefully help you avoid those downs:
Choosing and Registering for Your Classes
Make sure to thoroughly check both your major requirements and your gen ed requirements. Normally, you’ll have an advisor to help you make sure you’re on track, but Vandy doesn’t assign first-year engineering students one until after registration when school starts, and I didn’t have an advisor for this year’s registration either due to my major change, so I’ve spent hours and hours doing this on my own. There’s often recommended courses and example schedules in the course catalog that tell you what classes you should be taking at this point in time. Pay attention to that and you should be fine. For example, you have to have taken a first-level writing class to qualify for junior standing here. Those are the little things you have to look out for. To keep track of it all, I have a spreadsheet I use for planning my sophomore - senior years that lists all the requirements I need to meet in terms of hours and courses in order to graduate on time. I plug in possible courses and see which requirement they would fulfill and when. You can check it out here to see what I mean, it’s very helpful.
Find at least one fun elective to take if at all possible. It gets very tiring when all you have on your schedule are really difficult classes that you don’t enjoy. Try to find at least one class that you’re genuinely interested in to help get you excited for the day. Each of my last semesters, my schedule consisted of a calculus class, a lab science, a comp sci class, and Italian. Italian was the only fun one that I enjoyed going to. It really helps you out. You’re not just in college to get your degree, you’re there to discover what you really want to do, so feel free to explore your catalog and take something completely out of character just because you want to. Bonus if it fills some kind of requirement (Italian filled my Foreign Language Proficiency and one of my International Cultures reqs.).
Have multiple versions of your schedule based on which classes you may or may not get into. I don’t know about your school, but at Vanderbilt, class registration is literally like the Hunger Games. You’re assigned an enrollment date based on your year (seniors get to go first, then juniors, etc.) and at 8 am on that day, you refresh the website and either enroll in your classes or get placed on the wait list for it. If you’re a freshman, you’re basically screwed because you go last, and so you could have planned out your perfect schedule only to find they’ve all filled up the day before your enrollment period starts. To avoid having to scramble, have multiple versions of your schedule, with back ups and substitutions for every class. This way, you won’t be surprised when you go to enroll and all but one of your classes are filled, then you have to search for other classes, but at that point, all that’s left are scraps that don’t fit your requirements. Plan plan plan and practice clicking the enroll button on all your classes as fast as you can for when the clock strikes 8.
You have freedom over your schedule now; take advantage of that! No more 8-3 Monday through Friday; you can take classes whenever you want. I prefer to have all my classes on MWF in a block of a few hours and only one or no class on TR. Of course, sometimes you’re going to have to take classes at less optimal times, but do try to accommodate yourself and take classes at times you know will be good for you. Lots of people prefer to start early and finish early, while I like to start no earlier than 11, even if I don’t finish until 5. The best part of college is you can do what you want.
Don’t take 8 ams. I’m repeating this cause it’s important. I swear, you’ll regret it. In high school, I woke up every morning early as hell to catch my bus at 6:30, but in college, it was nearly impossible for me to get up for my 11 am only three times a week. Don’t ever take an 8 am by choice. And if you have no choice, good luck lol.
Don’t be afraid to drop a class. If you’re doing terribly in a class or you absolutely can’t stand it, drop the class. There’s a very little chance that if you’re failing during the first half of the semester, you’ll be able to change your grade dramatically in the second half. Maybe you decided to be an overzealous freshman and signed up for the maximum number of hours possible and now you’re drowning. Drop a class! Sometimes, a course is going to do more harm to you than good, so it’s best to get rid of it than have an F or a W on your transcript.
Use RateMyProfessor! I totally forgot about this when I originally posted this and it’s already got almost 1,000 notes but hopefully people see this. RateMyProfessor is so fucking useful. It’s IMPERATIVE that you check this website before you enroll in classes. Someone at Vandy actually made a Chrome extension for our enrollment website that automatically shows a professor’s ranking while you’re looking for classes. Obviously, take it with a grain of salt, and make sure the reviews actually make valid points about the workload and class and isn’t just someone bitter about failing. I took calc with a professor who taught at my high school just cause she taught at my high school even though her reviews said she was insanely difficult and the class was near impossible to pass. Guess what? They were right and I failed as did a big chunk of everyone else in her class. You don’t have to let RMP dictate your schedule, but definitely check it out, and if everyone says the professor is awful, don’t fucking take them.
Attending Your Classes
Establish a connection with your professor early. I recommended introducing yourself on the first day of class just so they know your name and face in another post. It’d be even better to attend an office hour or review session or something. Just make sure they know you. It’ll be easier to communicate when you need something later in the semester if it isn’t their first time seeing you.
Actually use this connection with your professors. In my experience, they can be pretty understanding and when you’re in a bad place, they’ll likely help you out. If something is preventing you from doing your best in class, go to them for help (I didn’t go to many office hours but I wish I did! Who better to explain to you something you don’t understand than the person who grades you on it?) or explain to them your situation. I had professors let me take tests late and redo assignments due to my mental health after I explained to them I wasn’t just a terrible student; if it wasn’t for this, I would’ve failed all of their classes. Maybe at the end of the semester they’ll drop one of your wonky grades or bump you up that extra half point you need. Your professors are a resource, and it’s up to you to use it.
Take notes however you want. I used my laptop in some, paper in others, and even my iPad and a stylus for calculus. In all of your classes will be a mixture of different techniques and no one cares what you do. Whatever works best for you and helps you get down the most information is what you should do. Also, you don’t have to write down everything. If your professor uses slides and posts them for you to download, you don’t really have to write down anything at all unless they add extra points, so that’s really convenient.
You don’t have to sit in the front. As long as you can see and hear, which you’ll likely be able to due to large projection screens and microphones, it literally doesn’t matter where you sit. In my experience, the professors call on people from every part of the lecture hall, so everyone gets an equal chance at participation. It’s up to yourself to make sure you can pay attention, not your seat.
Do your best to attend every single class meeting. It’s inevitable that you’re going to miss class at some point; you will get sick, you won’t have finished an assignment, you’ll need a mental health day, something will happen. Missing class can too easily become a habit if you do it often, so try to never do it. Don’t force yourself to go if you can’t handle it, obviously your health always comes first, but I mean don’t skip cause you want to sleep in or cause you just don’t feel like going. If you do have to miss class and 1) you have a good reason for it (i.e. sickness) and 2) it’s a class small enough that your professor will notice you’re not there, email them and let them know why, just so they’re aware you’re not just skipping to skip.
Try to make friends in your classes. A little study group would be even better. It’ll be really useful to have someone who can help you with a homework question you don’t understand or send you their notes when you miss a class. It can also be great to study with other people, depending on how you study best. I’ve had friends in all my classes so far and it’s been a great help, even if we just complained about the test we just failed then went to get pizza.
Tackling the Coursework
Make a REALISTIC study schedule. The key word here is realistic. During winter break I made a study schedule that started with me waking up at 8 am every morning to go work out and ended with me going to sleep promptly at 11 or midnight after spending literally the entire day studying with breaks only for meals. No breaks on weekends, no room to socialize, and I thought this would be perfectly fine for me to follow. Of course, I didn’t last a week because that was fucking ridiculous. You don’t need to schedule every hour of your day; college doesn’t work like that. Just do something simple, an hour for a class or maybe less depending on how hard it is and if you have a test coming up. Trust your instincts. There’s no need to go overboard, and you don’t need to spend six hours a day working, just dedicate a time to studying and stick with that.
Explore study techniques until you find one that works for you. Everyone doesn’t study the same, so if you do what everyone else is doing you might not get the results you want. Even if you had a great system in high school, it might not be fitting for college, so check out a bunch of different methods and see how you do with them. Once you find the best way you study, you’ll be unstoppable when exam time comes.
Start your assignments early, as soon as you can after they’re assigned. There’s nothing worse than having a bunch of assignments/tests/papers due on the same day and you haven’t finished any of them. Trust me, it is so much less stressful to complete an assignment as soon as you can after it’s been assigned so you don’t have to worry about it anymore. Putting things off has much more severe consequences than it did in high school and you will regret procrastinating. If you have a weekly assignment due every Friday, try to complete them by Wednesday every week. At the very least, start an assignment the day you get it even if you can’t finish it that day. It’s a lot easier to do something after you’ve already begun working on it, and that one thing you do is progress.
The name of the college game is prioritization. If college teaches you anything, it’s how to prioritize your duties. You need to create a hierarchy of importance for your classes and types of assignments. For me, calculus assignments were always done first because that was the most difficult class and the one I absolutely needed to pass, and Italian was always done last cause it was my easiest class and I could complete even our biggest assignments in one day. You’re going to have a very large amount of work and sometimes you have to sacrifice finishing a small homework assignment to finish a huge paper or study for an exam. I liked to complete my hardest/longest assignments right when I got back from class to get them over with and leave my easier ones for later. Prioritizing is essential if you want to succeed in university, so learn how to do it immediately!
Remember that uni is really difficult and your grades don’t define you. Something I learned the hard way is that sometimes you can try really really hard, do the best you can, and still fail. That’s just life. Sometimes you have to do something a million times before you get it right, or before you discover that it just isn’t right for you at all. I worked harder than I ever had this past year, and what I got in return was two failed classes, two D’s, academic probation, and a 2.3 GPA. Actually, my current GPA isn’t even a 2.3, it’s a 2.295, which is probably blasphemy to the studyblr community, but this shit happens. It happens to all of us and it sucks. It can be really shitty to feel like your effort wasn’t reflected in your result. What you need to do is adjust your expectations and keep working hard. After you hit your stride, your grades could be great in no time. Or you could discover that math or science or english just isn’t for you. Maybe you’ll discover university as a whole isn’t right for you, and that’s okay! Bad grades, whether you define that as a B or an F, don’t mean you’re a bad student or a bad person. You do what you can, and then let go of what you can’t control. The sooner you grasp this idea, and the sooner you learn to be gentle with yourself, the easier a time you’ll have.
So I feel like I forgot a lot of things but also this is pretty long so I’m going to end the post here. If you have any further questions or topics for a post you’d like to see, my inbox is always open. I don’t know which post is coming next, but I’ll keep you posted. Thanks for reading and I hope this helped you out!
Sometimes… Poly is watching your partner get their needs that match yours met with someone else.
Sometimes poly is having to accept less, instead of all.
Sometimes poly is, I hate this, but you don’t need my permission to do it anyway.
Sometimes poly is burning. Sitting in your room, your house, alone, burning with all the emotions and there is no one to put you out except yourself. And sometimes, you’re not enough of a firefighter.
Sometimes poly is boring.
Sometimes poly is Netflix and chilling, by yourself, your own hand down your pajama pants.
Sometimes poly is rage. Fierce, hot, molten gold down your gullet, choking you, burning you, cooking you to a not-quick enough death.
Sometimes it’s this is not enough, but this is better than nothing.
Sometimes it’s pain, bright, white hot, cutting into the very core of you. Splintering you into a thousand, million pieces.
Sometimes it’s I don’t know how I survive this.
Sometimes poly is… Acceptance of not so great, because there is no other option.
Sometimes poly is a snide laugh, a kick in the gut, a slap in the face.
Sometimes poly is heartbreak.
Sometimes poly is, I will never feel “safe” again.
Sometimes it’s just… Overthinking. Overanalyzing. Overdoing. Over scheduling. Overtalking. Over… Everything.
Sometimes poly is… Can’t I just go back?
But what poly really is?
Poly is I can’t. I can’t go back. Because going back would mean so much sacrifice. So much giving up of people that I cannot fathom how much I love them. So much beautiful, wonderful, awful exploration of self that I would never get again. I can’t say, I don’t want my lovers and friends and amazing people who blur ALL of my lines and boundaries with their amazing selves. I can’t say, for the sake of some general level of “comfort” that I know is false, I will give up everyone. Their intimacy, their vulnerability, their nakedness. What they look like laughing, and coming, and crying. Versions of them I don’t get to see within the confines of monogamy as I knew it. I have sacrificed so very much to be here, uncomfortable, today.
I feel I’m awake now, with all the discomfort that comes with awakening. But I can’t go back to sleep. It’s shitty, sometimes, being awake. The sun is too bright, the sounds too harsh. It’s easy when I’m head down, dreaming. But it’s not real, you know? It’s an illusion, a construct. It works for some, but I’ve taken the red pill. I’ve seen my life for how it is, my thinking for how it is. I can’t unsee it. Maybe one day how I outwardly perform myself will change, but for now, I can’t go back. I am what I am, doing what I’m doing the ways that I do it. Sometimes it hurts. Fuck yeah it hurts. Don’t ever believe anyone who tells you anything remotely differently. And you know what?
Through this, we grow.
We become something else. We become better, stronger. We know ourselves more. We know more words to use to advocate for ourselves, and that is fucking amazing. Without this pain, without this trial by fire and molten metal, we might not know what we’re capable of. And knowing what we’re capable of is an awesome, incredible thing. That is what makes you, you. That is what inspires you to fucking amazing things. Even if the journey is horrible to get there.
One of my
least favorite things in the Prisoner of Azkaban film is the handling of the
Scabbers-Crookshanks narrative, and more specifically how in the movies it’s a
far more one-sided fight completely in favor of Hermione. In the movie we get
one scene of Ron warning Hermione to keep her cat away from Scabbers—a Scabbers
who is apparently not ill or who Ron isn’t bothering to medicate like in the
books, and a Scabbers that Ron can apparently almost forget to bring to
Hogwarts necessitating his mother to run after the train to give the rat to
Scabbers suddenly being missing, Ron accusing Crookshanks with no evidence and
Hermione defending her cat. The two are angry, but there is no real emotion, no
actual hurt behind the words. Crookshanks could have accidentally spilled Ron’s
inkwell and he would sound just as angry.
minutes later, they are in Hagrid’s Hut where their friend miraculously
produces the rat—not without chiding Ron “you should take better care of your
pets” which automatically frames the situation as Ron’s fault to the audience. To drive the point further home
Hermione, rather than simply be relieved and happy for her friend that his pet
was not actually eaten, immediately starts in with “I think you owe someone an
apology”. Ron purposefully acts obtuse, and further removes himself from the
audience’s sympathy by replying “Next time I see Crookshanks, I’ll let him
know” allowing Hermione a self-righteous “I meant me!” as if this is the greatest affront of her life.
And none of
this is how it is in the book. At all.
Crookshanks makes multiple attempts on Scabbers’ life throughout the novel in
front of the Trio. This is partly because Hermione continues to allow her cat
near Scabbers despite Ron repeatedly telling
her not to. Because he cares
about Scabbers. Despite him being a hand-me-down and a bit dull, Scabbers is
his pet and Ron cares about him. He gets him—likely expensive—tonic when
Scabbers begins losing weight and fur, he takes to carrying him around to keep
him safer from Crookshanks. Scabbers is his pet and we are shown that Ron would
be very upset if he were to lose him.
the stage for when he does, when
Pettigrew as Scabbers fakes his death and frames Crookshanks. Keeping in mind
Ron’s feelings about Scabbers this whole previous year, his resulting actions
make perfect sense. He is incredibly upset with Hermione and confronts her,
only for her to deny her cat had any involvement.
maybe it seems like he’s being mean to Hermione by shutting her out—something
that Harry also does during the Firebolt fight that is conveniently left out of
the movie—but look at it from Ron’s point of view. Hermione’s pet was
attempting to kill his pet all year. He repeatedly requested she keep her pet
away from his, and Hermione largely did not respect that boundary. When
confronted with pretty damning evidence considering the circumstances, Hermione
still refused to admit any possible blame and defended her cat who almost
certainly—again, considering the circumstances—ate his rat. And just a note,
Harry is equally convinced Crookshanks did it, even if he’s not as emotionally
charged in his conviction. Why shouldn’t
Ron be angry with her? Why shouldn’t he want her to admit her cat’s fault? His
friend refused to listen to him all year and is now seemingly disregarding his
feelings because she’s too proud to admit she’s wrong.
the thing. Once Hermione comes to Harry and Ron with the news about Buckbeak
losing his trial—something far more important—they make amends. In fact it is
Ron who does the most. Just to refresh everyone’s memory:
do this,” said Harry. “They can’t. Buckbeak isn’t dangerous.”
dad frightened the Committee into it,” said Hermione, wiping her eyes. “You
know what he’s like. They’re a bunch of doddery old fools, and they were
scared. There’ll be an appeal, though, there always is. Only I can’t see any
hope…Nothing will have changed.”
will,” said Ron fiercely. “You won’t have to do all the work alone this time,
Hermione. I’ll help.”
flung her arms around Ron’s neck and broke down completely. Ron, looking quite
terrified, patted her very awkwardly on the top of the head. Finally, Hermione
really, really sorry about Scabbers…,” she sobbed.
old,” said Ron, looking thoroughly relieved that she had let go of him. “And he
was a bit useless. You never know, Mum and Dad might get me an owl now.”
(Prizoner of Azkaban, pages 291-292, Scholastic Hardback Edition)
says anything in this scene, and it is mostly Ron who extends the olive branch.
This makes sense as the matter primarily concerns him and Hermione, but I just
want to make it clear that Ron is not pressured into forgiving her, he is not grudging
about it. In fact, he is already offering her his help before she even
apologizes, and once she does he immediately tries to downplay his hurt
feelings over Scabbers’ loss—mostly out of a fourteen year-old’s discomfort
with crying and hugging from girls they may or may not have a developing crush
on. He doesn’t gloat over the apology or being right, and he instantly drops
chapter fifteen out of a twenty-two chapter book. Hermione and Ron are not
feuding up until nearly the end of third year, as depicted in the movie.
Hermione does in fact apologize about Scabbers while Ron is not an ass about
it, and the narrative leaves them off on mostly even ground. The rest of the
book consists of Ron working on the appeal for Hermione as she prepares for all
her exams, worrying over her impossible schedule, her health, and so on. They
barely even bicker that entire duration.
Ron is a
great friend to Hermione. The movies just didn’t want to show that.
The hardest part about giving someone else your heart, is that it then belongs to them. Even if things end, they will forever own a piece of you. A piece of the most important part of you, no less. It’s a piece of yourself that you can never get back, not really, not fully.
Six months. One hundred eighty two days. Four thousand three hundred sixty eight hours. That was how long it had been since you felt whole.