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The idea of women as innately “nurturing” is a problem.

Women are expected to be “nurturing” and expend vast amounts of energy on being emotionally supportive toward men, while men are expected to ignore others’ emotional needs, fail to adress their own, and depend on women to do the emotional work in a relationship.

Emotional work includes things like: listening to someone talk about his day and being emotionally supportive when he talks about his problems, encouraging him to go to the doctor when necessary, being the primary resolver of conflicts in the relationship, both between the two of them and with people outside the family unit, etc., etc.

When girls are very small we are taught to be quiet, to listen well, to be supportive, to put others’ needs first. This training continues into adulthood, while at the same time boys are expected to be loud, careless with each others’ feelings and not to process their own in a healthy way. Through adolesence and adulthood these pressures increase.

Girls and women who aren’t as adept at or invested in emotional work as expected by their gender role are treated as cold, heartless, and self-absorbed, while men who perform the bare minimum of emotional work are considered very sensitive and men who perform the amount of emotional work expected of women are considered emasculated.

This social pressure is enforced through media also. Stories featuring both men and women frequently stress the importance of women doing emotional work while portraying men as being incapable of or uninterested in doing emotional work. When media does portray men doing emotional work, it’s often played for laughs, as the man is now emasculated, and therefore a target of derision.

This leaves women to see to our own emotional needs as well as to those of the men in our lives, praising women for being “nurturing” as though it’s an innate characteristic requiring no effort, and not expecting men to do it because “it doesn’t come naturally”.

Being “nurturing” is work, and it’s about time we shared the load.

Here it is… the final masterpost!

The one-hour series finale of The Legend of Korra will premiere on Friday, December 19th @ ***00:00 MIDNIGHT EST*** (i.e. just after 11:59pm on Thursday night) at

Aka: 9pm PST Thursday / convert this to any other time zone here.

To watch the episodes outside the Unites States, install this Chrome extension, and set it up like so:

The episodes will also be live-streamed by fans at the same time (midnight EST) at

At approximately 3am EST (midnight PST) the episodes will become available for purchase from the following digital retailers:

The same day (Friday, December 19th), the finale will have its on-air TV premiere on Nicktoons with the following schedule:

  • 9:00pm EST - 4x10 Operation Beifong
  • 9:30pm EST - 4x11 Kuvira’s Gambit
  • 10:00pm EST - 4x12 Day of the Colossus
  • 10:30pm EST - 4x13 The Last Stand

We’ll update this post with any new livestreams in time for the finale. And remember, the Legend ends on December 19th.

Time by Tony
Via Flickr:
Ticking away the moments that make up a dull day Fritter and waste the hours in an off-hand way Kicking around on a piece of ground in your home town Waiting for someone or something to show you the way Tired of lying in the sunshine staying home to watch the rain You are young and life is long and there is time to kill today And then one day you find ten years have got behind you No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun And you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it’s sinking Racing around to come up behind you again The sun is the same in a relative way, but you’re older Shorter of breath and one day closer to death Pink Floyd - Time - 1973 2015 05 27 141234 London 1HDR