I think a fundamental part of online friendships that people ‘outside’ fail to understand is how comforting it is to have friends right there in your pocket who will keep you company in good times and bad, listen to your rants, let you vent, be supportive whilst offering outsider perspective…

  • Need to be alone but need support too? Pocket friends.
  • Something awful just happened and there’s nobody around for you to tell? Pocket friends.
  • Need to let your feelings out but don’t want people to see you ugly-cry? Pocket friends.

Keep being amazing, pocket friends. You couldn’t possibly imagine how important you are.

i am constantly growing as a person and i’m very thankful for it.. i just.. love myself? in the most sincere way. i am aware of my flaws, and i accept them, but i don’t encourage them. i allow myself to make mistakes, and forgive myself for them, but push myself to learn from them and use the experience to become better. i am understanding of my limits, but i also make myself take chances sometimes, because i also know i’m capable of more than i’d like to think i am.. and sometimes, the only way to grow is to make yourself… i don’t have it all figured it out, and i still have a long way to go, in my own personal journey, but i’ll be there with myself every step of the way. and that’s a very nice thought.

Can we talk about this scene for a minute? Because I tear up literally every damn time I watch it. 

After losing his son, Iroh fought tirelessly to save his nephew from Ozai’s brainwashing, no matter how hard Zuko tried to push him away. But even after years of sticking by him through every dead end and reckless gambit, Zuko still goes back to his awful father. Once again, Iroh couldn’t save his son and it just kills him

Then the kid shows up with team Avatar, because it turns out some of those proverbs got through to him after all.

But the part that really gets me is Zuko’s perspective.

Sitting outside that tent, he’s so damn scared. He’s so convinced Iroh hates him, he won’t even go in without a pep talk from Katara. Everyone else can see that Iroh will be proud of what his nephew has done since they last met, but Zuko can’t. When Zuko goes in to see the family he disappointed, he’s braced for yelling and fire and rage because that’s what he’s been raised to expect when he screws up. Pissing off his father got him disgraced, burned, tossed in the street, told he didn’t deserve to be alive, and shot at with lightening. A lifetime of experience says he should be scared. He doesn’t expect to be forgiven, he just wants Iroh to know he’s sorry. 

And then Iroh’s not even madNOT EVEN MAD. Mercy and compassion are so alien to Zuko that immediate forgiveness wasn’t even a remote possibility. He’s so utterly confused, but at the same time, so, so relieved. He hasn’t lost his only family. The only person who stayed by him all those years in exile. The only father who loved him.

They both thought they’d lost the only family they had left. Instead, they find themselves closer than they’ve ever been. And I tear up every damn time.

We are told so many things about ourselves throughout our life. Some we pay far too much attention to – and others nowhere near enough. There are the things we tell ourselves late at night when the darkness outside creeps into our minds; or the thoughts we whisper to ourselves standing in front of bathroom mirrors with tears running down our cheeks. These are false truths we need to let go of as we cannot see ourselves objectively from the outside perspective others do.
The things we should pay the most attention to – the greatest truths about ourselves – are held within the things our loved ones write to us. The words they penned in letters, cards and poems; on the backs of photographs; in the covers of books; on post-it notes; the household whiteboard; or in random text messages… Those are the quiet truths that are the most heartfelt… Things that were too delicate to say in person, or things that they knew we would probably dismiss as mere politeness if they did. So they wrote them down for us so we could read them again and again until the message sinks in… that we matter. That we are beautiful and special; remembered and thought of; loved and cherished.
These are the things we should be rereading until they become the truths of ourselves we start believing.

too young - sabrina carpenter

I’m probably too old to be writing about this song, given that people I know my age are getting married on purpose, but if I think back far enough I can remember what it was like to be young and sure I was in love, so let’s go back in time for a bit.

When I was 13, 14, 15, I had a best friend. I quite genuinely thought she would be my best friend for the rest of my life, despite our long distance friendship. I also definitely thought I was in love with her, which was a lot of awakenings at the time but definitely not the point. The point is that I was 15 and in love, and defiant that I wasn’t too young for that.

If I’m too young / to fall in love / why do you keep running through my brain?

Sabrina sings the beginning of this song from an outsider’s perspective, things people have said to her. Everyone tells me I gotta go slow / and it’s gonna hurt sometimes / no matter what you do. When you’re young, everyone sets you up for heartbreak. Whatever it is, if you’re young, it won’t last. It can’t last. It’s not real.

I don’t want to say that’s true but it kind of is. I haven’t spoken to my old best friend since I was 18 and she up and decided we weren’t friends anymore. That isn’t fair to her, but this isn’t her platform, it’s mine, so for the sake of the narrative I wasn’t too young to know I was in love with her and she up and left.

So it’s gonna hurt sometimes.

I know better now than I did when I was a teenager, but I was in love then inasmuch as I knew how to be. It was real. If I’m too young / to know anything / why do I know that I’m just not the same? That’s real, inasmuch as anything can be real when you’re 15. I’ve got to fall to fly.

Sabrina’s not misguided or young, but what she’s experiencing is a specific kind of real that’s only real for a short period of time. It’s only real when you’re young, in those liminal teenage years where everything is too real and you feel it all more than anyone else.

I think the main thing that Pisces struggle with is their tendency to select the most damaged partners, romantically. Oftentimes, they may romanticize or idealize a very broken individual and they could alter their perception of that person by viewing them in a poetic way; they are attracted to poetic tragedies. There is something about people who are lost in life that Pisces finds endlessly intriguing and beautiful, Pisces wants to be the one to guide those people along the way and to act as their guardian angel or their wise savior. Pisces have so much compassion in their hearts that they genuinely may not even see anything particularly wrong about damaged people. Pisces sees the potential in everyone and all they want to do is help and to show that they care. But this is exactly the kind of behavior that allows others to take advantage of Pisces’ kindness and gentleness. And Pisces don’t feel angry if they are mistreated; they just think that each person deserves chances and they understand how difficult it is to be broken inside. From an outsider’s perspective, though, we are easily able to recognize the delusions of Pisces, and their Neptunian energy is definitely apparent. I hope that, with the astrological knowledge that Pisces is aware of, they will begin to realize this pattern and maybe start thinking twice about the people they associate with, especially when it comes to romance. If a Pisces is aromantic, then they will exhibit this tendency with their friends. They will often choose to be acquainted with people who use them/manipulate them, but Pisces will see it as a call for help, and therefore they don’t know that it’s a problem. It’s a very difficult task for Pisces to not be so naive, but I hope that they will start becoming more skeptical.

This may also apply to you if you have a Pisces Venus, a Pisces Moon, Pisces in the 7th House, or a 12th House stellium (although it’s not only limited to these).

I’m not ace myself, so I’m coming at the whole acephobia thing from an outsider’s perspective, and as such, it’s not my place to speak to the experience of those on the receiving end of it.

However, as a bisexual dude, I can observe that many of the arguments that are employed to establish that ace folks have no place in the queer community are strikingly similar - indeed, at times practically word-for-word identical - to the arguments that were for many years (and in some circles still are) employed to establish that bisexual folks have no place in the queer community.

It’s enough to make a guy suspicious on general principle, you know?

  • So they are writing a human zoo, which in any context is uncomfortable because of historical contexts. But I guess, theoretically, with smart writing they could go somewhere with it.
  • They fill this human zoo with poc, not to mention the fact that there is a distinct lack of human poc within the show’s preview in the first place. Okay! Extra uncomfortable! We’ve officially entered territory where the only respectable way to frame this is in a very serious and analytical setting; definitely not a children’s show
  • So this zoo is portrayed as a utopia towards the captives from an outside perspective. Not something that sets off more alarm bells than before, because that is always how those things go and it can be used to highlight how actually fucked up the whole thing is. 
  • What does, however, is that it is a utopia towards the captives and the captives are aligned to that. We’ve officially entered total bullshit. It frames the whole thing like the captors are doing the captives a favor, being nice to them, giving them everything they could ever want and need, and that the captives are happy with that. Bad! Very bad! You’ve officially fucked it up, not only does it make no sense but it fails to identify the entire operation as a breach of basic rights. It frames it in such a way as to say- “it’s okay to deny personal freedom (along with many things) as long as we give them the basics to survival!”. This isn’t a concept that humanity in our modern age has put behind us, at all, and to present this indeed racist on a whole lotta levels.
  • So to expand, the humans being aligned to the entire operation is fucked up not only because it fails to show the core reason why this whole thing is fucked up, but the portrayal of the humans being totally complacent as well as infantile with a smidge of over-sexualization is extra creepy and bad.
  • So the humans are shown to have no curiosity, no internal nor external conflict, and actually no empathy or maturity as well. Not only is this unrealistic in terms of writing, but it goes further to frame the whole thing as if removing the humans would be wrong. Do they seriously expect me to believe that no human has ever questioned, or got randomly hurt (except for one plot-convenient guy I guess?), or tried to make/do something (even like, art or something… the cushiest human ever cannot survive on total inactivity) like… ok. And it goes further when they cannot understand greg’s wishes over their own, they have no concept of self-soothing, when presented with curiosity reject it, and worst of all gives them no-self soothing and makes them need to be comforted like babies by gems, it all reeks of total infantilization that further goes to frame the situation as if it would be bad to remove them and give them freedom (i s2g if the writers come back to this later and make steven go through a moral quandary of “is it right to free them when they seem to want to stay?” they are catching these fucking hands) and as if slavery is okay, at all, in any situation, ever. Horrible
  • And I don’t have a lot to say on this one other than their weird sexualization of all the humans as well as the fetishization of “island culture” reinforces those same ideas. As well as having very uncomfortable undertones that they are both infantilized and sexualized, sexualized poc, sexualized captors, and the fact that steven is thrown in the mix and also that the elderly, other children, and generally average or unattractive people are totally gone from the situation?

And to go even further:

  • That joke about the Korean people who look like steven just with stereotypical “asian” faces? I’m really not all about that. I’m actually kind of shocked about that.
  • The overall unneccesary fetishization of e asain cultures by the show and the show’s writers
  • Becca sweetie it was a nice little easter egg to show yourself animating the show…. but you aren’t korean? I don’t get this at all.
  • the whole situation is totally glued together with how much they want us to sympathize with bd. We have literally no reason to, she has only ever done bad things, is a dictator, is mourning a dictator and slave owners, owns slaves herself, has no individual empathy… Yet, she cries and cries, gets a song sung to her, has a sad puppy dog face, is pretty, presented as if she has any moral ambiguity, we are supposed to feel sympathy for her, which is fucking astounding. And it worked! A fuck ton of fans have latched onto her, sympathize with her, and use that as a pathway to justify literal slavery! That’s the power of media, and that’s fucking terrifying.
  • I’m really fucking tired of all of the shit this show pulls while claiming to be the most progressive thing ever. I’m really done with it, and the worst part is, the fact that none of this was ever resolved means that it will only get worse.

I remember when YOI was still airing and as we got further and further into the series and victuuri was getting more flirty and touchy, there was a joke going around about how the show seemed to top itself in terms of gay each episode. So after the kiss, we were all pumped to see where episode 8 would go, and just how far and where they would take it onscreen. And then the episode actually aired and…it disappointed people?

I mean, the episode was narrated by Yuri and we mostly saw victuuri from an outside perspective. There wasn’t a lot of touching, there wasn’t a kiss, and no onscreen cuddling like we got used to seeing. I saw that just after the episode came out, people were a little sullen that the series didn’t “top” itself again. I didn’t really comment at the time because I couldn’t find the vocabulary to adequately explain why I loved so many moments in the episode, but I think I’ve found it.

I love episode 8 because it was intimate. I’m talking about Victor and Yuuri specifically here, of course. There was a tangible emotional shift. They were more in sync than ever before:

Yuuri was more openly expressive:

And Yuuri’s eros was the best it’s ever been!

Also, we got some little moments that I couldn’t help but enjoy, some that were a bit, well, provocative:

But also a fantastic moment of emotional development on both sides:

Victor and Yuuri allow themselves to separate! It’s so important in their relationship that they stay individuals; their success can’t become dependent on the other. (insert blatant mirrors that are mickey and sara here)

The episode felt different, Victor and Yuuri’s relationship felt more comfortable, and I found it so satisfying to see them that way after all they had gone through to get there.

(also, i loved the look into yuri’s life. that boy’s motivations, especially at the time, could be confusing)

This is Crazy

TitleThis is Crazy
Author:  PorcupineGirl
Rating: Teen and Up Audiences
Warnings: None Apply
Completed:  Yes
Word count: 4882
Summary: Andrew knows, okay? He’s in the NHL now, he has to be even more careful than he was in the juniors. That’s why he hasn’t let his stray attraction to fellow rookie Jack Zimmermann progress any further than just that - a little stray attraction. But when he meets Jack’s friend from college, Bitty, he manages to go from zero to full-blown crush in just a few minutes. Is there any way he could have a chance with the guy?

Most memorable line: Later that night, lying in his bed, he decided that it was probably a bad idea to proposition your team’s captain for a three-way with his boyfriend.

maybe it would know better if we stitched it eyes

Summary: When you and your best friend have been attached to the hip practically since birth, you’re not going to let some scrap of cloth separate you. In which Oikawa redefines the meaning of a hatstall, and Headmistress McGonagall probably isn’t paid enough. Hogwarts AU!

Credit to @agapantoblu for the premise of Oikawa fighting the Sorting Hat forever to be in the same house as Iwaizumi (taken from this post). It’s just such a great idea that immediately sparked my dead writer brain.

Pairing: Iwaoi (You can take it either as queerplatonic or romantic)
Word Count: 1470
Rating: G or K or basically as hair-raising as a stuffed teddy bear

They stopped calling it a hatstall twenty minutes ago.

It was unprecedented, to say the least. The Sorting Hat’s record for the longest time to sort a student was seven minutes and 23 seconds - something that Professor Flitwick felt the need to say repeatedly as his gaze flickered between his watch and the boy on the stool, back and forth as though he was afraid he might miss something.

Headmistress McGonagall failed to see exactly what he could miss. Certainly, just past the five minute mark, the hall could hardly contain the frenetic waves of anticipation, everyone excited at the sheer privilege of seeing a hatstall. Even McGonagall - with an impressive sixty years at Hogwarts under her belt - had only seen enough hatstalls to count on one hand.

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Title: Brothers
Author: TDKeh16
Rating: Mature
Warnings: None Apply
Completed: Yes
Word count: 2955
Summary: Jack is worried about something Shitty says in a text – or rather, doesn’t say. Shitty helped Jack through so many bad days in the past, now it’s Jack’s chance to return the favour.

Most memorable line: “I’m gonna snuggle the fuck out of your boyfriend tonight, Bits.”

also i mean correct me if i’m wrong but it seems to me that if you think from your outsider’s perspective that there’s some big all-encompassing norm among gay men that all masculine men must only date feminine men and vice versa, either a) you just don’t know what you’re talking about or b) you’re not really talking about “masculinity” and “femininity” at all, you’re talking about sexual roles and this is just a new “progressive” way for you to pry into and moralize about gay men’s sex lives

I Wouldn’t Be Surprised...

If Taylor and Tom are seen back together in a few months. The articles will say they started seeing each other after this article, that she saw how much he missed her and reached out to him. That it was his vulnerability that lead them back together. And the articles would be supportive and sympathetic. 

I would guess after Kong promo, so after March. Maybe a Met Gala joint appearance together in May. A year since they met…..

This article only further confirmed my beliefs that they are secretly together, but not ready to go public. Hey a girl can dream, right?

And if I’m wrong, so be it. I accept I don’t know anything! But from an outsiders perspective, this is what I see. Thoughts?