outside of comfort zone

The signs as I know them

Aries: a fiercely protective lover, continuing an argument when you know you’re wrong, passionate loyalty, pushing past your comfort zone, fights that turn into sex, standing outside in the rain and screaming. Freedom. impulsive behavior. Loud and intense. Home.

Taurus: comfort food. Staying in bed on a rainy day. Smart but stubborn. Quiet calculations. Staying up all night talking. Outer space. Lazy days.

Gemini: books and coffee. Friendship tattoos. Smart and resilient. Beautiful. Making friends wherever you go. Two types; either wildly successful and organized like Pinterest in real life or a chaotic mess. Prone to addiction. Living art.

Cancer: musically inclined. Long walks downtown. Deep intellectual talks that leave you feeling calm but exhausted. Ambition. Second chances.

Leo: Staying up too late and drinking too much. Laughing until you can’t breathe. Doing your makeup drunk. Irresponsible decisions that make for good stories. Platonic kissing. Being held when you’re sad. Loyal friendships. Loud and exciting. Not talking for months and picking up where you left off.

Virgo: White furniture. Homemade Halloween costumes and holiday crafts. Careful and calculated. Cleaning for fun. Alphabetized book cases. Never saying ‘I told you so’ even when you’re always right. Motherly. Nurturing.

Libra: memes. Vibrant and super friendly. Always smiling. Eager to please and doesn’t like to disappoint. Goal oriented, and unstoppable once they have an idea. Surprise parties. Pretending you aren’t in love when you are.

Scorpio: staying up all night watching horror movies. Secretive and endearing. Will hold a grudge forever. Cemetery dates. Rough sex. The sound of a thunderstorm outside of your window. Feeling warm in a cold room. Extreme emotional intelligence.

Sagittarius: wanderlust. Forgetting to text back for days at a time. Always somewhere far away; unreachable. Feeing alone in a crowded room. Getting stoned and cuddling in bed all day. Japanese art. Staying out past curfew. Singing like nobody’s around. Inconsistent and deeply conflicted. Anime. Saying we’d still be friends.

Capricorn: Pretending to not like people but being really lonely. Cold. Immaculate attention to detail. Ambitious and unyielding. I haven’t met that many Capricorns.

Aquarius: Talking about alchemy and aliens all night. Doing drugs because I felt sad and you’re a good friend. Listening to me cry about a boy you told me was bad for me. Feels a lot more than they pretend to. Fireball whiskey. Marijuana.

Pisces: Knowing things before you’re told. Crystals. Tarot cards. Your life is a wreck but you always know what to say to help others. Die hard loyalty. Organized mess. Daydreaming all day. Boxed wine. Drunken yoga. A warm hug and a feeling of security. Selfless love.


I’ve mentioned to you all before how I badly needed to start learning how to cook!! Well, in this premiere installment of Awkward Adventures, I not only go on a quest to learn how to cook, I also decide to test my skills in a Cooking Competition!! This was definitely a venture outside my comfort zone!!

the nerdy guide to fitness

It’s definitely going to suck at first, but you will accidentally have fun, I promise. Okay folks, this whole sedentary lifestyle thing isn’t working anymore. It’s definitely going to suck at first, but you will accidentally have fun, I promise. Get moving! 

  • Exercise is anything that elevates your heart rate or takes your body outside of its normal comfort zone- you don’t have to go to a gym to do either one
  • Don’t use exercise as an excuse to eat junk! Bad food decisions don’t cancel out. 
  • Yoga/stretching is the easiest way to get your blood flowing with minimal effort
  • Running or biking is a close second 
  • Consistency is way more important than cramming in 3 miles in one day
  • if you’re doing cardio, follow up with a cool down stretch or light jog. Take care of yourself!!
  • Exercise after your school/workday is over (instead of taking a nap). You’ll have more energy to tackle homework, and you’ll get a better night’s sleep. 
  • Make a playlist filled with super bright and obnoxious songs. Works every time.
  • If you use the Pomodoro method to study, try to fit yoga/stretching into the breaks. 
  • If “regular” exersize isn’t your thing:
  • Take 5-10 minutes to dance enthusiastically in your room, that’s so much better than nothing. 
  • Get creative with your friends. Instead of meeting for coffee, go on a hike, frisbee in the park, etc. 
  • Small things like taking the stairs instead of the elevator do add up. 
  • If you drive, park a little farther away.
  • Keep track of your steps. My phone’s health app has a pedometer but they’re really cheap on amazon- please don’t splurge on a Fitbit. 

xoxo, Niya



the 1975

the lumineers

21 pilots

lana del rey

these are the most boring musicians alive and if you seriously think a single one of em has any artistic integrity you need to force yourself to listen to laurie anderson until you stop describing any music outside your infinitesimally small comfort zone of whiny angsty pretentious corporate pop as “weird”

“tumblr made me feel bad for being a man :’(” listen, no one’s holding you here, you’re free to log off at any time and enter the rest of the world where mediocre men are praised for anything and everything they do

like honestly it reeks of “tumblr is making me aware of the crap men do and demanding that i take responsibility and work on my misogyny & that makes me uncomfortable :/”

and instead of, ykno, working on yourself so you can look at those posts and go “that’s true, men do that and i do my best to unlearn this behaviour, call it out in others and otherwise support women” you hit up random women to console you because owning up to anything is outside of your male comfort zone

Things you should know when starting university

1. Don’t worry about making new friends. There will be so many people and opportunities!!

2. There’s nothing wrong with feeling anxious and afraid. Everyone is new and will be feeling scared like you!

3. Don’t try to change yourself or act as if you’re someone different. You’re fine the way you are – so just be genuine and real.

4. It’s normal to feel lonely and to miss the life you had. It’s part of taking risks, and being brave, and moving on.

5. You’ll wonder if you’ll fit, or find a place in this new world. But that will start to change, and soon this new place will feel good.

6. Don’t only socialise, and go to everything you can. Make some space for being alone, and time for quiet solitude.

7. At the same time, make sure you force yourself to move outside your comfort zone, and try new things with others, and see what you enjoy.

let my boys be happy

Fill-a-Page February

It is a truth universally acknowledged that any artist who aspires to improve should be drawing every day. 

Being told to draw more, draw daily, draw while you eat, sleep, breathe, is probably the single most common piece of advice given in response to the question “how do I get better?” - I know I’ve certainly told people to do this.

But I have a confession to make.

I am a hypocrite and I don’t draw every day. Not even close. 

I always seem to have a ready excuse for why I didn’t set aside 10, 20, 30 minutes a day to draw: I’m too tired, I got home late, I didn’t have any drawing materials on me, I was too busy. And yet I still grumble when my art feels like it’s stagnating. I feel disatisfied and frustrated with my lack of progress or the inconsistency of my style or with my inability to draw something in the moment (looking at you, anatomy, clothing folds, perspective). So I want to do something about it.

Every day for the month of February, I will fill a page in a sketchbook, much like I did with this page of scribbles. New day, new page. I don’t have a specific “improvement” goal in mind nor any particular subjects, but I want to get myself into the habit of drawing more freely and regularly, without the pressure of producing a finished piece of art. 

I’ve already persuaded a few people to do this with me because I know I’ll need the support and motivation, but please feel free to join me in giving the challenge a go if you fancy it!

You will need:

  • a sketchbook or pad (I’ve chosen A5 because the size isn’t too intimidating)
  • a pencil
  • an eraser (although I plan to use this sparingly)

The reason I’m doing this challenge traditionally is to get away from all the distracting bells and whistles that come with a digital art program and focus on the act of drawing itself. I also want to get over my fear of ruining a sketchbook with mediocre art. This is me giving myself permission to be bad at art for a while, because it really is the only way I’m going to get better.

The challenge commences February 1st - wish me luck!

anonymous asked:

As you're nearly 30 now, what would you have told your 20 year old self if you had the chance? Do you have any advice or tips for people currently in their early 20's, possibly in college and worried about the future? Any advice to help build self-esteem and to achieve what they want? Thank you.

Combined with the following ask:

  • Do you have any tips for how to improve self-esteem and confidence? I think I may be an xNTJ but years of bullying, betrayal, depression, and bereavement have left me feeling pretty low and worthless.

A few thoughts below.

To my 20 year old self

  • You can be right and still lose the argument. How you communicate to someone and how you deliver the message is just as important as the contents of the message itself. If you disregard the nuances of other human beings and come off as a total asshole, they’ll completely shut down and reject your input no matter how great it is.
  • Don’t fight battles with no rewards. If people can’t stop you, they’ll try to distract you so you’ll trip over your own feet and sabotage yourself. Don’t let them.
  • Older people may be less intelligent than you, but they have more experience– listen and learn. Even idiots can teach you what not to do.
  • Shut up. Most situations don’t require your input, your action, your reaction, or your intervention. Often times it’s like throwing gas on a fire to put it out. If you’re patient and wait, the answers tend to reveal themselves or the problem will solve itself.
  • Always do your laundry, there’s nothing worse than running out of clean underwear.

On building self-esteem and confidence

  • Stop explaining yourself to people who have already made up their minds about you. It’s a waste of time so tend to the relationships with the people who genuinely care for your well-being.
  • Finish. Quitting is a pathological disorder that can spread to other areas of your life. If you quit at one thing, the odds are you have low resilience and you will give up at other endeavors in your life. No matter what– finish. Get to the end. No matter how imperfect you think the outcome will be, finish. You’ll either have a sense of accomplishment from having completed something, lessons learned from the failure, or both. 
  • Small victories build confidence. If you can’t do the small things correctly, you won’t be able to tackle the big things. If you can’t wake up in the morning and jog a mile consistently then you’re not going to be able to climb Mount Everest. Patience is key and biting off more than you can chew will often end in failure and demoralization. Practice makes perfect, and progress takes time. 
  • Pain is weakness leaving the body. Build your tolerance by trying new things outside of your comfort zone, push yourself when you feel like you want to quit, and confront the things you fear the most. Similar to lifting weights, the only way your body can grow stronger is by steadily increasing the weights until you can bear heavier burdens. The more you do this, the easier it becomes.
  • Be a thermostat, not a thermometer. That is, be consistent in your values, personality, and habits– don’t let your emotions and behavior mold to your environment because you’ll always be in a state of flux. It makes you vulnerable to other people dictating your moods.
  • Follow your heart but take your brain with you. Do the things you love but in a logical and planned way. Don’t question your goal if it’s what you truly want to do, but scrutinize your method because that’s what will determine success or failure.

On college

  • Evidence is more powerful than theory. In college and in the real world, you must be able to prove your abilities with evidence because just being “smart” isn’t enough. That evidence is superior performance, high grades, high test scores, and strong internships. You can’t stroll into a job interview and debate the interviewer, declare victory, and secure the position. Come with proof.  
  • Do well no matter what. Even if you’re unsure about your major, never let your performance slide because GPAs are cumulative. If you only do well in the subjects you love, it will reveal to employers that you have selective motivation. This is a problem because in the real world you won’t enjoy everything assigned to you even at a job you love and employers need to have confidence you can still succeed.
  • Who you know is as important as what you know. Connections matter in the real world, don’t overlook building relationships with people who will be your peers, your friends, future colleagues, and potential future bosses for the rest of your life and professional career.
  • Don’t fuck around. If you’re paying thousands of dollars in tuition and going into debt, make sure you pick a career that can sustain you after you graduate. No matter how much you love fine arts, if you go $100,000 into debt at 6.5% interest, your life will be extremely difficult. Find a balance between what you love and what can support you.
  • Have a job offer before you graduate. When you’re a student, you have the luxury of being an intern and trying new things without companies having to navigate complicated labor laws. Once you graduate, you’re just another unemployed person. Take advantage of the time you have as a student to seize those opportunities so the transition post-graduation is seamless.
Why Change is a Good Thing

1. It stops life becoming predictable and boring

2. It offers us new challenges and opportunities

3. It forces us to move outside our comfort zone

4. It makes us more flexible and adaptable

5. It helps is to appreciate the things we truly value

6. It helps us to grow, and to have a fuller life.


08.25.95. Yet another year has passed since I last wrote birthday wishes for Dowoon. Oh how time flies ;-; Dowoon: the person who has shown an endless amount of growth and development, continuously works harder every day to be the best that he can be, always strives to accomplish more outside his comfort zone, and inspires everyone to seek beyond infinity to achieve their highest dreams. The awkward turtle who is always growing and yet remains true to himself, the sunshine drumming into all our hearts; you are the downbeat to my offbeat. May all your wishes come true today, and may this be the best day you’ve had so far. Thank you for being born. Happy birthday, Yoon Dowoon! ♡ ♡ ♡

anonymous asked:

What did you think of the lion switch. I personally hated it as it doesn't connect to what we knew of the Lions and how they chose their paladins in season 1. and Lauren said she thinks the blue lions choose the most insecure person of the group (hated that as well). Do you think they Retconned the Lions. Because?

I don’t think that’s what’s happening at all.

I think that with the Lion Switching, it’s making a conscious decision to characterize the Lions as people who understand the situation is dangerous and are willing to work outside of their comfort zone to accommodate it.

Red working with Lance doesn’t mean that Lance being Blue Paladin and Keith being Red Paladin was a lie. What it means is that Red took a look at Keith and where he was going and knew that the best thing for him, to protect him- because Red always wants to protect Keith- was to make sure Lance stuck close to him.

Because Blue and Red knew, and agreed, that Lance would have a better time wielding the wild, high-speed Red than Allura, for whom any Lion would be a harsh adjustment from the stately juggernaut of the Castle.

Because I think what this is cementing is the Lions love their paladins, all of them, and really, really want to help, and this doesn’t always look like unconditional support. Sometimes, it looks like gently, but insistently, pushing them away.

I’d also say that, as someone who’s seen the interview you’re talking about, Blue didn’t choose “The most insecure person”. Blue is the archetypal nurturer. So her relationship with her paladin is partially to nurture them, but she also looks to someone who nurtures others.

Think about how quickly Lance is inclined to protect other people. Think about how when Keith was clearly sinking into a very dark, upset frame of mind, everybody else turns and looks at Lance, who, not realizing anybody else is prompting him, steps up to comfort Keith.

Blue is a nurturer and her true paladin is also a nurturer. But she’s not opposed, in the slightest, to taking others who are vulnerable under her wings. Think about how Allura connects with Blue at a low, fearful point, and Blue’s actions soothe those fears.

The thing is, the Lions have made it clear who their true, beloved paladins are. Nothing will change that. Black came for Shiro.

However, with the practical reality of their situation, they need to be able to adapt and work outside of that. If Black had chosen to just sit there like a stone and not respond to anyone, period, ever, if Blue and Red hadn’t conspired to seat Lance and Allura, they would not have held out. They wouldn’t have had Voltron when they needed it.

Saying “No, you’re not Shiro, I don’t want to talk to you” is a level of pettiness and selfishness Black knows none of them can afford. It would have gotten the team killed. It’s a testament far more to how much she does love Shiro that Black’s response in his absence is to do what she can to protect Shiro’s team.